Am I Weird???

[Adviceplz]

I've been working for this one company for awhile now and I've been hating it since I pretty much stepped into it. I've been there for two years hoping it would get better. Sadly I don't think my boss really likes me because when I ask if I can get more hours or a raise he says he isn't looking for anyone to fill the position that I want at the moment but when he is I'll be the first person he calls. Then a few weeks later I find out he hired someone else for the job I wanted. This has happened many times. As for money I know that everyone else is making more than me and I was told I'd get a raise in the first three months and it never happened. Lately though I've been thinking about quitting and subhanallah when I think about leaving my body feels light and it feels like this is the right thing to do. I'm meant to leave the job because it isn't healthy for me (spiritual sense of course).

Here is my problem. While I want to quit I don't have a back up plan. I've been applying to places (more than 20 resumes sent) and I haven't really heard back from anyone. I know in my heart Allah has something better for me than this job but if I quit now I'm afraid that it will take me a long time to find steady job.

I'm not married and I want to earn the money to help my parents take care of the house and the rest of my siblings. But if I stop working then while I'm happy I can't really help them out financially. If I stay I can but I will be miserable knowing I won't advance in the company and that I can't stand working there. Thinking about staying makes me feel depressed but knowing that I can't help my family does the same.

Any advice would be welcomed.

:jkk: in advance and sorry for the length.

[THE PATH 2]

if i may ask why are you responsible for youre siblings or parents

is the whole financial burden on you?why?

are you in india/pak

no doubt khidmah of parents is a great deed..:)

[attorney]

Salaam

If you really feel that leaving is the best thing to do then go for it - you don't need me to tell you to make sure you have a job waiting for you once you resign from your current position.

Don't be afrad to consult your manager PROFESSIONALLY - try make sure you don't go over his head, tell him how you feel regarding this and ask him why he has been giving these positions to other people when you told him you were interested in them AND he said he'd consult you once the job opens up.

Perhaps its to do with your performance? Haven't you had a performance review yet? When was your last one?

Best thing to do is not do your job half-assed - you still want a reference when you leave! Ensre your counduct is competely professional throughout your time there and when you leave, try get on as good terms with your manager as possible (not always about what you knwo but who you know!).

At the end - if you really can't get things to go your way, then resign if you feel thats the best thing to do.

All the best with it

http://www.i-resign.com/uk/letters/letters.asp

http://www.i-resign.com/uk/resigning/how-to-resign.asp

http://www.i-resign.com/uk/resigning/

[Pippin1376]

If you know in your heart that quitting would be the right choice, and that Allah will give you something better, then quit. You shouldn't have to be stuck doing something you don't like, when there might be something better. Inshallah Allah will provide for you, so put your faith in Him and everything will be smooth.

Don't worry about the resumes, when I took a year off from high school, I spent two months applying everywhere. I think I gave out 40+ resumes, in the end I got one job and my neighbour offered one for me too. Alhamdulillah both were sufficent, and once I got the two jobs, other places where I applied called me. It takes time, so be patient and know that Allah will never forsake you if you truly love Him.

May Allah ease your troubles, helps you find a better job, and grant you Jannah for helping your family.

[haque]

I don't think that you should leave your job without having a backup.

[Hafsah]

have a word with your boss....just tell him you feel your skills are not being developed in your current position..and if they are unable to promote you..you will have to leave...and if they're like 'sorry we don't have anything at the moment' then hand in your notice, they obviously dont appreciate you

are you currently financially stable? cos inshaAllaah you will eventually find a new job..even if it means being unemployed for a few months, with the motivation of not having a job..you will look further and apply more places, at the moment because you have a job you're probably not looking at all possibilities

if you arent 100% sure you wanna leave..do your istikhara...discuss your plans with your family...and inshaAllaah it'll all turn out well :)

[Zesty]

I agree with Hafsah, I dont think there is any point in wasting time in a job that leaves you unsettled and unsatisfied. Your mental wellbeing is very important and if the job makes you feel depressed or undervalued then its not benefitting you in any way. If youve given it your best shot and you know you work hard at what you do then dont worry cos the loss will be theirs.

Have a word with your manager and keep it is amicable and professional as possible and keep sending out those resumes. Infact maybe its a wise idea to stick with the job a little longer till something does come up or alternatively just quit now and inshaAllah have faith in Allah (swt) that He will provide something better for you. I know its hard when you have responsibilities towards parents but dont lose hope or enthusiasm.

Istikhara is a must! I'd say before anything do Istikhara and inshaAllah Allah (swt) will make the path easy for you. Ameen.

[Adviceplz]

:jkk: for the advice.


is the whole financial burden on you?why?
It's not on me but I want to help my parents. I'm living with them till I get married and I want to make sure that they always have money on them. They are fine but I just want to help them out.


Perhaps its to do with your performance? Haven't you had a performance review yet? When was your last one?

The thing is it's not about my performance. I have always been a good worker. If they need help or someone to work overtime I will volunteer. If they need someone to cover someone's shift I will volunteer. If they need someone to do something that I don't know how I will get trained and then volunteer. I've done my best and never not cared about my work. The only semi problem lately is that I made one mistake that is minor and now my boss seems angry with me. It hurts because others have done worse mistakes that screwed up other people and the boss never got angry at them. He always just said that it was okay. The mistake I made he got angry. This is the only time too out of the entire time I've worked there that I made a mistake.

I dunno. I just have to continue to believe that Allah has something better for me.

:jkk: again.

[alalmakt]

Salaam brother,

If you believe it is affecting you spiritually then you should quit. 2 years with no improvement is not a good sign. If Allah wills, you will be provided with better.