Trust nobody and everybody???

[RaNdOm]

:salams

i'm confused... should we trust everybody or should we hardly trust people...?

cos basically like whenever there's someone i find myself distrusting, i end up feelin like crap cos im like i must be sucha crap muslim like thinking so bad of them that i can't even trust them... but then like it'd be a bit dumb to trust everyone right? but then i dno... i feel bad when i don't trust people...

:(

:torture:

[Chained_Water]

:wswrwb:

Well it's not like we'd trust everybody with everything is it sis.. we trust people on different levels with different things.. you don't need to trust every Muslim with your deepest darkest secrets.. but we should think that we can trust them with our property, our honour and so on, unless they prove otherwise. ..and no that doesn't mean I want the pin for your debit card :p

Someone obviously couldn't be trusted with my shoes at the masjid last week though :(

[Kasim2k7]

This is hard. Sometimes i feel like that too. I dont trust anybody and i keep it to myself. I trust to an extent because if you trust somebody so much, when they cheat or betray you, then you feel bad. My family has gone through that

[MMS]

Someone obviously couldn't be trusted with my shoes at the masjid last week though :(

:rotfl: this was my worst nightmare as a kid, i always had nightmares my new trainers got stolen from masjid, what did you end up wearing back home :p

[sunrise]

:rotfl: this was my worst nightmare as a kid, i always had nightmares my new trainers got stolen from masjid, what did you end up wearing back home :p


my bro learnt this the hard way

2 years ago he wore his new air maxs and in the MASJID in Morocco his trainers were knicked... poor boy... he had 2 wait 2 hrs 4 my uncle to pick him up:(

[Chained_Water]

:rotfl: this was my worst nightmare as a kid, i always had nightmares my new trainers got stolen from masjid, what did you end up wearing back home :p
It was raining and I wore nowt.. legged it to hubbys car barefoot.. I can tell you I was NOT impressed, I would've probably been feeling angry the rest of night but I was telling hubby on phone to bring car around 'cuz someones taken me shoes and this nice sis I know heard me and said inna lillah wa inna ilaihi rajeoon and smiled.. and so I thought yeh, it dunt matter :D ..nothing's ours it just passes through our hands [or feet in this case] ..quite humbling being barefoot

[Omar Mukhtar]

don't trust noone.

[RoadWarrior]

dyu know what, it just depends on your life experience with others, and for me I learnt that don't trust anyone...and I had to learn the hard way :(

Because unfortunately not everyone is as hardworking or understands things like 'privacy' as well as you might for others.

Also, sometimes you might be mis-trusting of someone but they turn out to be quite good, but it doesnt matter, you shouldnt feel crap, because you should think 'better safe than sorry'

eg is at uni, we had a group assignment and there was a guy in my group I was mistrusting of from what I'd seen of him on the course. so I mentioned to the group that for every meeting we should sign a sheet and say what we did. I had initially assumed this guy was gonna miss the meetings or not contribue, so thats what I made the sheet, so when it comes to assessment I could give it to lecturer and the WHOLE group wouldnt get marked down cuz of the guy.

BUT to my surprise, he's actually a good group worker!! and the sheet thing was nonsense...but I thought, better safe than sorry. Cuz if he did mess around I would have got him bad :cool:

[your sister]

hmmmm. Your heart will say that :love:

[Kasim2k7]

Talking about shoes i was in dubai on my own and i went in this masjid but i had to take care of my good boots so i carried them in but the guy in the masjid told me to put it outside lol i felt terrible leaving them outside. I argued with him and tried to explain in arabic that if i lose them shoes ill have to walk barefoot on the roads of dubai lol

[Kubs]

LOL....can you not be in between?

It's smart to be cautious. When it comes to little things..... I have a tendency to be so honest with everyone...I blurt out things without thinking of the consequences :smack:

However when it comes to crucial CRUCIAL things......I keep schtum. I always think people are going to talk....that they have alterior motives :scratch: I don't trust people UNTIL they've earned it.

[Omar Mukhtar]

even after gaining your trust, people can still break that trust.

[R3FL3CT]

Trust those who put their trust in you i.e. you have a close enough relationship with that person to trust them and be trusted back. Don't go trusting every Tom, Sicko and Harry, you'll just end up getting hurt. Be cautious :insha: especially with people you don't know, e.g. over the internet. You're not a bad Muslima for being cautious.

[Ibn Sina]

don't trust anyone except yourself

[R3FL3CT]

don't trust anyone except yourself

That will make for a very sad life. We all need somebody to confide in > and that means trusting them also

[Almunther]

49:12 O you who believe, you shall avoid much suspicion, for some suspicion is sinful. And do not spy on one another, nor shall you backbite. Would any of you enjoy eating the flesh of his dead brother? You certainly would hate this. You shall observe God. God is Redeemer, Merciful.

[bint]

I think past experiences taught me not to trust a single person. And I don't. It works wonders. At least you don't feel hurt when someone breaks your trust.

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

:crying: you guys are all so negative :crying:

Is the nomad life so appealing?

:wswrwb:

[Khuram_2k?]

ive had my footwear taken from mosque twice :( had to go home wearing chappal

[Phoenix CG]

why tell a random (don't mean you) person things that would require trust?
What I'm basically saying is, have they done something to gain your trust, so you can put your trust in them? If not, it's good to keep quiet and just observe.

oh and just for your information, most people are *********** *** (u get the idea) it's for your own good :)

[GuCcI]

dont trust most.

[Umm_Hanzalah]

I think it's for your own safety :)

[bint]

:start:

:salams

:crying: you guys are all so negative :crying:

Is the nomad life so appealing?

:wswrwb:
If you look at it in the positive manner then it's not negative :p
And it is true, you feel much more safe.

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

If you look at it in the positive manner then it's not negative :p
And it is true, you feel much more safe.

:sub: i don't know :(

i admit i'm one of those people that do trust a lot, i mean a lot lot but then i also get trusted a lot so it works both ways but sometimes you do get a dead-end, i find that extremely sad :crying:

People don't want to grow up trusting just themselves, it's human nature to love but we don't want to be hurt either yet to gain something you have to lose something.

People break trust all the time, i don't think you can fully trust someone once they broke your trust despite one's resolve to but then people break it unintentionally but we still treat it as if it's a case of broken trust hence why we shouldn't give our hearts fully to that person anymore.

Each case of trust varies, you can't compare infidelity to a case of two teenage freinds who broke up cuz one revealed the other's secret, :sub: it's only when you mature with age that you start realising why trust is so so important in Islam between individuals.
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[Rosalie-Beauty]

It seems I have this problem too. I trust very few people if any. I think its a security thing, we are too afraid of being betrayed from past experiences. But, I like being independant and dont want to have to worry at night if someone is going to betray me. It just the easier route to not trust anyone.

But the easier route is usually the lest fulfilling one. So what are we to do?

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams



But the easier route is usually the lest fulfilling one. So what are we to do?


:love: :love: Trust in ALLAH :Swt: :love: :love:

:wswrwb:

[Rosalie-Beauty]

:start:

:salams




:love: :love: Trust in ALLAH :Swt: :love: :love:

:wswrwb:


Yes of course I trust in Allah, because I am absolutly sure that Allah wont betray me. To even think a though such as that is utterly abbhorent.

But people. Oh, people, they are mischevios and cunning and sly and some take joy in betrayal. How can we possibly sort through them all?

[PiElle2]

time will tell who are the people you can trust... :)

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams



But people. Oh, people, they are mischevios and cunning and sly and some take joy in betrayal. How can we possibly sort through them all?


we don't have the answers :(

We learn as life goes along but we don't have the answers.
i was discussing this with someone a lil while back- if someone breaks your trust then they haven't appreciated who you are in essence.

This whole topic makes me sad, i know too many broken hearted people because of this issue- people don't know how to trust, they learn, they trust, someone break it, they become broken hearted and don't have that Faith anymore to trust, there comes a point where you either build it back to what it was or let it go.

Many people let go and it's the easiest but sometimes it's the best option because to stay on would damage you internally, yet if you could gain someone's trust 100% you are a Blessed person beacuse your character is so nice that the beauty of it has shined out and others have caught it to light their life and theirs shines yours.

Yet that means you have to be careful who your trust, we're supposed to stay away from foolish people and rightfully so because we could give them the oppurtunity to hurt us too. One has to use their intelligence as well this doesn't mean that one won't get hurt it just means one's cautious and places their trust in Allah :Swt: and He :Swt: might test us through this.

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[Rosalie-Beauty]

Jazakallah IG for the explanation.

Nothing is for sure in life, that's the only thing I'm sure of.

-A beautiful mind

Of course though, I am sure of my religion, so I can hold onto that.