Do muslims celebrate 1 year B'day's ?

[Arsalan]

Religiously speaking and from a "general" angle.

What would you, or what have you done?

I know people hire halls out, invite lots of people, and have a dinner party with cake.

Can we do something with lots of blessings.

I was thinking along the lines of

1. Sadqua,

2. Slaughter a lamb. - Via donation or get one from some muslim business in the uk

3. just a family party between the few of us.

[Arsalan]

I take we do then!! :) Okay big cake , lots of party bags, and party frocks then!

[ze leetle elper]

Arsalan in a party frock? That has to be a Kodak moment! :D

Get a cake, all kids love cake :D Loads of small gifts (ie party bags) for kids always goes down well and keeps them entertained for a short while from the manic they are causing to the house lol :p

Balloons have to be the cheapest and easiest thing to have for kids to play with: for all ages :D

[Mina-91]

BDAI'S not allowed.. its the moment u shuld be sad its getin closer ..

[The Deen]

Bismillah

Al-jawab billahi at-taufeeq (the answer with Allah's guidance)


Concerning the celebration of birthdays, anniversaries etc.

To make this clearer we would like to say that Islam approves only two feasts there is no third feast. The evidence is the Hadith reported by Imam Abu Dawood from Anas (RA) that The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) came to Madinah while, people there had two days they played in. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) asked, 'what are these two days?' They said, 'these are two days we used to play in, in our Jahiliyyah'. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said, 'Allah has replaced them with two better days: Eid al-Adha and Eid al-Fitr' .

If the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) had known any other Eid surely, he would have informed his companions.

In addition, celebrating such occasions is nothing but an imitation of Kuffars, while a Muslim has to be distinguished from them in all aspects. Imitating Kuffars and trying to look like them is Haram.

Rasullulah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wa salam) has said, "Whosoever impersonates a nation (other than Islam) will be (resurrected) from them on the day of judgment". (Sunan Abu Dawud)

It may even sometimes drive them out from Islam, if there is any sign of love and affection for Kuffar in their heart.

Allah Ta'ala says,

"O you who believe! Take not My enemies and your enemies (i.e. disbelievers and polytheists, etc.) as friends, showing affection towards them, while they have disbelieved in what has come to you of the truth (i.e. Islamic Monotheism, this Quran, and Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam), and have driven out the Messenger (Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) and yourselves (from your homeland) because you believe in Allah your Lord! If you have come forth to strive in My Cause and to seek My Good Pleasure, (then take not these disbelievers and polytheists, etc., as your friends). You show friendship to them in secret, while I am All-Aware of what you conceal and what you reveal. And whosoever of you (Muslims) does that, then indeed he has gone (far) astray, (away) from the Straight Path." (60:1)

If celebrating one's own birthday, anniversaries etc, is not permissible for a Muslim then how would it be permitted to attend the birthday or anniversary party etc, of a Kafir or a Muslim?

However, if one does participate in a birthday or an anniversary party etc, will be comitting a sin of not obeying Allah Ta'ala and His Messenger (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam).


We must as Muslims enjoin good and forbid the evil:

Allah Ta'ala says,

"You are the best nation brought forth for the people of the world: you enjoin
right and you forbid wrong, and you believe in Allah." (Qur'an 3/110).

Also Allah Ta'ala says,

"Believing men and believing women are the protecting friends of each other:
they enjoin right and they forbid wrong." (Qur`an 9/71).

Enjoining good & forbidding the evil should be done to the extent of a Muslim individual ability.

"Whoever of you sees wrong being committed, let him change it with his hand
(i.e. by force). If he is unable to do that, then with his tongue, and if he is unable to do that, then with his heart." (Muslim)


We pray to Allah to guide us to the right path, make us steadfast on the right path.


And Only Allah Ta'ala Knows Best.



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Moulana Qamruz Zaman
London, UK.


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[ummbilal]

brother by all means give sadaah and feed the people with a lamb or two if its a boy but we muslims dont celebrate birthdays and there is shirk in blowing out candles on cakes and making wishes,

[al-ghazalli]

In our family when we were young we just invite our immediate family and eat dinner and have cake and hand out loot bags for the kids.

If your looking for a fiqhi wise answer then according to the madhab of Imam Malik, celebrating birthdays is nothing major and its not haram or makruh as long as one observes sharia in such gatherings.

Shaykh Bin Bayyah quotes Qadi Abu Bakr (Rahimullah) on the concept of bidah according to the Maliki Jurists.

“Only the bid’a that contradicts the Sunna is blameworthy.” (Ibn al-`Arabī, ‘Āridat al-Ahwadhī (10:147).

He said in his discussion of bid’ah:

Know - May Allāh grant you knowledge! - that innovated matters are two kinds ( al-muhdathātu darbān).

1.) An innovated matter that has no basis other than lust and arbitrary practice. Such is categorically invalid.

And

2.) An innovated matter understood to correspond to something [established].
Such is the Sunna of the Caliphs and that of the eminent Imāms. Innovated matters and innovations are not blameworthy merely for being called muhdath and bid’a nor because of their meaning! Allāh Most High has said, ( Never comes there unto them a new ( muhdath) reminder from their Lord ) [21:2] and ‘Umar said: “What a fine bid’ah this is!” Rather, only the bid’a that contradicts the Sunna is blameworthy and only the innovated matters that invite to misguidance are blameworthy.” (Ibn al-`Arabī, ‘Āridat al-Ahwadhī (10:146-147).

[Nazias]

I wouldn't because if you begin such things from a young age, it becomes the norm.

[GuCcI]

I wouldn't because if you begin such things from a young age, it becomes the norm.

exactly... my mom's freind's sister inlaw's daughters have a whole bunch of kids so theres like a birthday like almost every months and the kids just LOVE the ideas of birthdays because they get sooo many presents its just a great day for them and the parents make such a huuuge deal out of it too :rubeyes: like now its gotten to a point where cheap birthday presents arent allowed and my mom's freind is always looking for excuses not to attend anymore :p she just hangs out here :love:

[dhakiyya]

Please bear in mind that any major deviations from routine, too much noise, too many people, upset little kids. Some non Muslims have such big parties for toddlers I wonder who the party is in aid of... cause it doesn't look like the toddler is enjoying it much!

some guidelines for toddlers and familiy events:

- try to keep to the child's routine as much as possible with regards to meal and nap times

- not too many people, especially not a house full of other toddlers - best to keep it to family and just one or two other toddlers (e.g. siblings, cousins, other kids they play with regularly)

- not too much noise! Keep things calm and tasteful

- make sure there is some food there that your toddler really likes. There is no need for really sugary unhealthy food either - if your toddler loves fish fingers and yoghurt, thats party food enough for them. Kids love to eat what the adults are eating, so captialise on this as an opportunity to possibly introduce new foods.

[umm_musa]

as a revert to islam, i feel birthdays are part of my culture (not that i myself celebrate birthdays since being Muslim, but it's hard for my kids as my mum and dad, and hubbys family celebrate) anyway, since i deem it part of my culture is it still so bad, obviously minus the 'wishing' is a gift so bad and to say happy birthday? we celebrate births so....? i know some people will get a bit hot with my comment, but what do you think? i'm english, it's something english people do. Now i know someone will come up with xmas is part of being english, but thats blatently wrong and unislamic...it's just a thought i had one day, like i said i don't actually celebrate birthdays or encourage it, but wondered if it was so bad if i feel it is part of my culture?

[naila-k]

I agree with Umm Musa, I feel like birthdays are part of my culture. My in laws are always trying to push their culture on me, but i think my daughter should feel comfortable with both her cultures and not feel ashamed of mine or that her mothers culture is less important than her dads.

[Reema]

On my first bday, I fell asleep half way through blowing out the candle, not much of a birthday person I am. :p