Me troubles

[stephenoskie]

Assalaamu Alikum Brothers and sisters

Just wanted to get this off my chest you see and I just want some advice.

If you want my honest truth, I dont really be nice to my mom and there is no excuse for it, Im just a nasty disrespectful person i dont try but some times I cant control my tongue and it gets me down and I treat people like crap.

But how can I make it up to her like I have been helpin her around the house cleaning and making her drinks, Im eager to get a job as the first wage I want to present it to her with pride and just say thank you really.

We dont deal with emotions and the other day I told her that I loved her and that she should remember that, but some times she shouts at me and Im like what ever what ever, I dont mean it.

Just growing up my sisters did it and my brothers did it and im trying to stop but how, please help me. Because she is my ma and I dont want to be this way with her she has been there for me and every thing.

Please dont judge me I know I did wrong I just want to put it right :(

Tek Cre

Walikum Assalaam

Amira X

[hanaa_al_muminah]

salam sis

Masha'allah, first I would like to congratul8 you for being honest wiv yourself and realising that what u r doing is wrong! :up:
But I do feel so sad 4u that ur relationship wiv ur mum is in such a state, but dont worry sis, have hope in Allah(swt)

Second of all, I would advice you to repent to Allah(swt) sincerely n truly wiv feeling really regretful!!!Make lots of dua asking Allah to make ur relationship wiv ur mum strong n close and better as Allah is able to do all things!

Thirdly, I would advice you to ask for your mum's forgiveness, coz if shes angry wiv u, then it may well be that Allah is aswelll, Allahu alam.

You don't seem to have bros n sis whom you can look up to (coz normally the younger kids copy the older kids as in ur case),,, but alhamdillah, Allah has let you see what u r doin is wrong and now u feel like you want to put it right!
This is a good sign..:up:

so keep on helping out in the house, mum's love it when they get help from their daughters,speak kindly and never raise ur voice,

is she shouts at u and u get angry say authobillahi minal shaytan and say astagfirullah ...that always works especially after a long day n then u cum home n u have to clean, cook etc etc...n remember Allah(swt) is watching u !!!!

Also, the way u treat ur mum is the way that ur kids will treat u!
Also, the mercy of Allah is shown through your mother!!! Also, when u die n enter the grave n munkar n nakeer come to question u, if u obeyed ur parents, they will not be able to appoach you from the side of ur feet!!!

also, a mother's status in islam is VERY HIGH, paradise lies underneath her feet!!!!! That's how close it is and rasol(saw) told us that the mother has more right over us than anyone else!

so ukhti, i would sincerely ask u to read more about a mother's rights and why we need to treat them wiv upmost respect .....n always make dua to Allah(swt) coz that NEVER FAILS...

Insha'allah ur relationship wiv ur mum gets better, i really hope!!!!!

IF U WAN ANYMORE ADVICE, JUS PM ME!!!:):):)

[stephenoskie]

:jkk: you see we dont say sorry we just froget and it never gets mentioned but I will help inshallah, Ima look around for some Islamic Counselling how ever I know it wont be free and I cant afford the prices, phone lines help but I need counselling but thats another topic thanks D

[hanaa_al_muminah]

:jkk: you see we dont say sorry we just froget and it never gets mentioned but I will help inshallah, Ima look around for some Islamic Counselling how ever I know it wont be free and I cant afford the prices, phone lines help but I need counselling but thats another topic thanks D

yeh most families run like this n its so sad,coz u always say sorry wen u walk into a lesson/lecture l8 at school but yet sayin sorry to our families r so hard, maib its bcoz we mean it so much, sorry is the hardest word to say wen u truly mean it!!!1

insha'allah u will get the courage to do it!

remember Allah, n he will remember u!!!!!!!! Never forget that ukti!!:inlove:

[stephenoskie]

Yeah but sher dont deal with emotions that well you see, but maybe I couild try inshallah

[hanaa_al_muminah]

Yeah but sher dont deal with emotions that well you see, but maybe I couild try inshallah

exactly!!!!

shes your mother sis, you can get so many gr8 rewards by being good to her,,

Insha'allah I will maeke dua 4 u!!!