Bored

[-Espérer-]

Married peeple or people in relationships, do you ever feel like you're bored of your relationship? That everyday is the same story, everyday is a repeat of the day before? Doesn't the boredom kill you? I would get really bored of seeing the same person day in day out. At some point I would even feel like Ive become used to his presence but forgotten the love.

Don't you want something new? Something different? Another adventure?

And why do men suddenly become unattractive after marriage? :(

[Omar Mukhtar]

Married peeple or people in relationships, do you ever feel like you're bored of your relationship? That everyday is the same story, everyday is a repeat of the day before? Doesn't the boredom kill you? I would get really bored of seeing the same person day in day out. At some point I would even feel like Ive become used to his presence but forgotten the love.

Don't you want something new? Something different? Another adventure?

tell ya husband to get 2nd wife than you can chill wid her, and if you get bored with her than 3rd 4th wife, you won't be bored than.

[GuCcI]

And why do men suddenly become unattractive after marriage? :(

to prevent that my fiance starting to work out now :o :outta:


i tihnk if theres love u dont get bored in the relationship? ive been talking to my fiance for 4 years.... umm and we still talk and my freinds are still like, wat do u have to talk about :rubeyes: arent u bored yet :rubeyes:
and im like well i never run out of things to say :p

i think to keep the spice couples should go out every once in awhile take the weekend away somewhere or just go out to the park or something. being at home doing house things can get boring

[-Espérer-]

Omar Mukhtar, :rolleyes: I don't think thats really an appropriate answer. I'm looking for real answers.

In addition to my first post in this thread, how do you make marriage more interesting?

[-Espérer-]

to prevent that my fiance starting to work out now :o :outta:


i tihnk if theres love u dont get bored in the relationship? ive been talking to my fiance for 4 years.... umm and we still talk and my freinds are still like, wat do u have to talk about :rubeyes: arent u bored yet :rubeyes:
and im like well i never run out of things to say :p

i think to keep the spice couples should go out every once in awhile take the weekend away somewhere or just go out to the park or something. being at home doing house things can get boring

Weekends out for the rest of your life? I don't know, I'm sure at some point people feel like theres nothing new, theres nothing to it. Especially after you decide you don't want more kids?

[GuCcI]

Weekends out for the rest of your life? I don't know, I'm sure at some point people feel like theres nothing new, theres nothing to it. Especially after you decide you don't want more kids?

well no, one weekend go to a park another weekend go to another city to visit freinds, another weekend lounge at home in pjs, another weekend cook a meal together and make it romantic :o, another weekend go visit family, another weekend hang out with own freinds, another weekend go shopping, have lunch out, the list goes on and on....

edit - to answer the rest of ur question :p lol... after having kids u'll be happy to just stay at home and rest!!! thats my mom :p

[Zesty]

:rubeyes: bit of a scary thought if youre going to get bored of your spouse! I dont get it though espy... dya want like 24/7 excitement or something? :p are you some kind of adrenaline junkie? cos the reality of it is- he will have to go work at some point, you will have things to do, kids may come along which means your have them as a priority etc- what its most likely going to be like is trying to fit in everything you and your hubby want to do in whatever spare time you might have outside your responsibilities! loolll :p

I dont think it would get boring... i think its comfortable but you should always try and keep the marriage alive by spending quality time with each other and trying out new things. Go new places, take a trip down memory lane or something, do the simple things and take pleasure in those simple things.

[-Espérer-]

Zesty YES i am an adrenaline junkie. If my life gets boring I get depressed. I hate seeing one face too many times. I get scared that at some point or another Im going to get really bored of my husband.

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams

Zesty YES i am an adrenaline junkie. If my life gets boring I get depressed. I hate seeing one face too many times. I get scared that at some point or another Im going to get really bored of my husband.


i would have this fear too sis, when i was younger don't worry when you grow older you'll realise the benefits of marriage and it outweighs any cons or doubts one may have :love:

:wswrwb:

[Zesty]

Zesty YES i am an adrenaline junkie. If my life gets boring I get depressed. I hate seeing one face too many times. I get scared that at some point or another Im going to get really bored of my husband.

:rubeyes: my god espy.. youre in trouble girl :p
How do you mean though? I mean... does taking one day out of the week to bum around and do absolutely nothing depress you? or are we talking more long term.. ive done nothing, been no where for 3 weeks now and its getting to me? :hidban: looolll
Soooo do you get bored of your parents and family and friends? :o or do you just purposely try not to see too much of them so that you dont get sick of them!? (sorry- bit of an absurd concept for me, cos im definitely the kind of person who needs space and can even go without seeing people for days but generally its not something i desire)!

[-Espérer-]

hmmm zesty :p i wont answer ur questions out here in public sorry :p

but two evenings in a row not doing anything is point of depression for me :p i need to be working or be out or something.

islamicgirl im sure i'll grow out of this too.. :)

[Zesty]

hmmm zesty :p i wont answer ur questions out here in public sorry :p

but two evenings in a row not doing anything is point of depression for me :p i need to be working or be out or something.

islamicgirl im sure i'll grow out of this too.. :)

:rotfl: aaahhh youre so sweet mashaAllah! I think i have my answers :p
eeehh are you serious!? i can go a whole week just chilling at home and finding things (or not) to do :p

[GuCcI]

:rotfl: aaahhh youre so sweet mashaAllah! I think i have my answers :p
eeehh are you serious!? i can go a whole week just chilling at home and finding things (or not) to do :p

:wacko:

[Zesty]

:wacko:

You thinks thats mad?!? for real? looooll.. i used to think the same- i used to be out all the time,doing things, meeting friends (skint on top of it) and always thought i wanted to be out and away but since being back home since last august- i quite like it :D

[-Espérer-]

:rotfl: aaahhh youre so sweet mashaAllah! I think i have my answers :p
eeehh are you serious!? i can go a whole week just chilling at home and finding things (or not) to do :p
a week of doing nothing is a suicide note for me.

no im serious love i get bored really easily. how do maried people do it? how do they stick together through everything?

[Kubs]

I've heard of that phrase so many times - 'my marriage is boring' :smack: Others mirror what we don't like about ourselves...if you are bored with him, you are probably bored with yourself. :outta:

Have a 'date' once a week - do something exciting that you normally wouldn't do. Go to the Museum, park......go to Spain and walk on the beach :eek3: LOL just use your imagination. Plus it does not have to be expensive or fancy, just something that is relaxing and enjoyable.

Also, you don't marry your husband, expecting him to keep you entertained 24/7. Work on how much you give to the marriage, instead of feeling entitled to getting more out of it. Marriage takes a lot of work....it's not going to be fun and jolly all the time. Sometimes it can get boring, but you can also look at it from a different angle - just the fact that you're WITH him makes it homey, familiar, comforting, and safe. If you love him, you'd appreciate him for everything little thing he does.

[Saudi Prince]

Married peeple or people in relationships, do you ever feel like you're bored of your relationship? That everyday is the same story, everyday is a repeat of the day before? Doesn't the boredom kill you? I would get really bored of seeing the same person day in day out. At some point I would even feel like Ive become used to his presence but forgotten the love.

Don't you want something new? Something different? Another adventure?

And why do men suddenly become unattractive after marriage? :(

You need to leave the 'don't-exist' world you're thinking of and come back to the REAL world, the world I'm living in and so are many of the members. :)

Do you have a mum and dad?
Do you have brothers and sisters?
Do you live with them comfortably?! If yes, then your life with your prospective hubby is almost not going to be any different? No difference at all? Yes, there will be no much of a difference! How about love? Love is not going to exist in your new life unless it already exists in your life now with your parents, brothers and sister! My advice to you is to forget about Hollywood world and notions as they do not exist and start thinking realistically. Never think you're going to live in heaven once you've got married and I don't mean you'll live in Hell God forbids :) but it will be just a normal life!! Tell me if I'm wrong once you had the experience. :)

[Zesty]

KUBSY! :eek3: for someone who denies any mushiness- youre one heck of an insightful gyal when it comes to marriage! :p :hidban: looolll

Espy- one week of doing nothing and youre suicidal? lol oh man! Thats so unhealthy. Dont you do things to entertain yourself at home? Like read, or bake, or cook, or watch dvd's or paint or whatever...

I dunno :) i guess its something to do with being married in itself- being in love, wanting to do it. Wanting to give as much as you want to receive. Like Kubs said- its hard work and not always about what you can get out of it but what you can also give. Its such a rewarding and satisfying feeling. Hopefully if youre lucky enough, like some of us are- then you find a best friend in your spouse ;)

[Saudi Prince]

KUBSY! @eek3@ for someone who denies any mushiness- youre one heck of an insightful gyal when it comes to marriage! :p :hidban: looolll

Espy- one week of doing nothing and youre suicidal? lol oh man! Thats so unhealthy. Dont you do things to entertain yourself at home? Like read, or bake, or cook, or watch dvd's or paint or whatever...

I dunno :) i guess its something to do with being married in itself- being in love, wanting to do it. Wanting to give as much as you want to receive. Like Kubs said- its hard work and not always about what you can get out of it but what you can also give. Its such a rewarding and satisfying feeling. Hopefully if youre lucky enough, like some of us are- then you find a best friend in your spouse ;)


Zesty, what's love for you? Make it clear and simple please.

[Kubs]

KUBSY! @eek3@ for someone who denies any mushiness- youre one heck of an insightful gyal when it comes to marriage! :p :hidban: looolll

lol....I'm just really perceptive when it comes to these things. Doesn't mean I'd take my own advice on board

:outta:

[Saudi Prince]

lol....I'm just really perceptive when it comes to these things. Doesn't mean I'd take my own advice on board

:outta:

I find this very true. ;)

[MMS]

I've heard of that phrase so many times - 'my marriage is boring' :smack: Others mirror what we don't like about ourselves...if you are bored with him, you are probably bored with yourself. :outta:

Have a 'date' once a week - do something exciting that you normally wouldn't do. Go to the Museum, park......go to Spain and walk on the beach :eek3: LOL just use your imagination. Plus it does not have to be expensive or fancy, just something that is relaxing and enjoyable.

Also, you don't marry your husband, expecting him to keep you entertained 24/7. Work on how much you give to the marriage, instead of feeling entitled to getting more out of it. Marriage takes a lot of work....it's not going to be fun and jolly all the time. Sometimes it can get boring, but you can also look at it from a different angle - just the fact that you're WITH him makes it homey, familiar, comforting, and safe. If you love him, you'd appreciate him for everything little thing he does.

daymnn gyals got it all planned out :rubeyes::rubeyes::rubeyes:

:outta:

[Kubs]

I find this very true. ;)

And you know...how? :eek3:

[Kubs]

daymnn gyals got it all planned out :rubeyes::rubeyes::rubeyes:

:outta:

I wish I never posted that now :smack:

[GuCcI]

I wish I never posted that now :smack:

just remember why u posted it eh.. to help poor little esperer :(

[Saudi Prince]

to prevent that my fiance starting to work out now :o :outta:


i tihnk if theres love u dont get bored in the relationship? ive been talking to my fiance for 4 years.... umm and we still talk and my freinds are still like, wat do u have to talk about :rubeyes: arent u bored yet :rubeyes:
and im like well i never run out of things to say :p

i think to keep the spice couples should go out every once in awhile take the weekend away somewhere or just go out to the park or something. being at home doing house things can get boring

Ask yourself if this is allowed? Or even better...ask Abu Hurairah.

[Zesty]

daymnn gyals got it all planned out :rubeyes::rubeyes::rubeyes:

:outta:

:rotfl: too right she has.

SP whats with your interrogations? Love for me is loving someone for the sake of Allah. Does that sit well with you? Cos if it doesnt... tough :)

[GAL-actic]

:rotfl: aaahhh youre so sweet mashaAllah! I think i have my answers :p
eeehh are you serious!? i can go a whole week just chilling at home and finding things (or not) to do :p

lol you can't beat me...I can spend weeks doing nothing and... still not bored!:D

[Kubs]

:rotfl: too right she has.

THAT'S IT...I'm boycotting the marriage thread. :outta: :(

[Saudi Prince]

SP whats with your interrogations? Love for me is loving someone for the sake of Allah. Does that sit well with you? Cos if it doesnt... tough :)

So, when you always talk about love you mean love for the sake of Allah ONLY! Therefore, you can marry any Muslim because I assume you love all Muslims for the sake of Allah.

I guess many people talk about love when they have no clue of what it means. If you know, Zesty, please enlighten us. If you don't know then just say it and it's fair enough.

[MMS]

THAT'S IT...I'm boycotting the marriage thread. :outta: :(

we're just kidding :o
what are we hopeless ones going to do without your expert marriage advice

maybe you should compile a marriage handbook for us :embar:

[Zesty]

So, when you always talk about love you mean love for the sake of Allah ONLY! Therefore, you can marry any Muslim because I assume you love all Muslims for the sake of Allah.

I guess many people talk about love when they have no clue of what it means. If you know, Zesty, please enlighten us. If you don't know then just say it and it's fair enough.

:zzz: What on earthh are you on about?! youre so pedantic- i think you argue for the hell of arguing but in reality you dont have a clue what youre on about :hidban:
Leave me and my definition of "love" alone- youre entitled to yours as i am mine :D

I could marry anyone yeh... but only my fiance wants to marry me :crying: :outta:

[Zesty]

we're just kidding :o
what are we hopeless ones going to do without your expert marriage advice

maybe you should compile a marriage handbook for us :embar:

:rotfl: yeh.... Im sure MMS will design the front cover for you :hidban:

[Kubs]

we're just kidding :o
what are we hopeless ones going to do without your expert marriage advice

maybe you should compile a marriage handbook for us :embar:

Since you girls are desperate to get married....maybe I will :up: :outta:

Your very own Agony Aunt :nuts:

[MMS]

:rotfl: yeh.... Im sure MMS will design the front cover for you :hidban:

yeh, im thinking i'll draw kubs and her hubby, walking hand in hand, through the white sands on an empty beach in SPAIN :inlove:

what do you think kubs :embar: is that how you imagined it?

:outta:

[Saudi Prince]

:zzz: What on earthh are you on about?! youre so pedantic- i think you argue for the hell of arguing but in reality you dont have a clue what youre on about :hidban:
Leave me and my definition of "love" alone- youre entitled to yours as i am mine :D

I could marry anyone yeh... but only my fiance wants to marry me :crying: :outta:

Note for the thread starter, when you hear many people talking about love then make sure that most of them have no clue of what they're talking about. So, do not assume that there is a heaven that you haven't found yet!

[Kubs]

yeh, im thinking i'll draw kubs and her hubby, walking hand in hand, through the white sands on an empty beach in SPAIN :inlove:

what do you think kubs :embar: is that how you imagined it?

:outta:

:eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:

[abood]

Married peeple or people in relationships, do you ever feel like you're bored of your relationship? That everyday is the same story, everyday is a repeat of the day before? Doesn't the boredom kill you? I would get really bored of seeing the same person day in day out. At some point I would even feel like Ive become used to his presence but forgotten the love.

Don't you want something new? Something different? Another adventure?

And why do men suddenly become unattractive after marriage? :(

assalam alaikum
don't talk about love much....talk about work and something else..but not every day love and future children...
if you feel more bore then do ibadah and seek ALLAhs protection from fitnah....
this bordness can take you to zinah.....
and if you are married then have children immediately...you will not feel bore..

and who are muslims and engaged ...avoid talking with your future spouse...remeber it is haram.....and read that book after marraieg...if you will not do that then after marraige you will bore to read that book again....

thats it....i just know that

wassalam

[dhakiyya]

Married peeple or people in relationships, do you ever feel like you're bored of your relationship? That everyday is the same story, everyday is a repeat of the day before? Doesn't the boredom kill you? I would get really bored of seeing the same person day in day out. At some point I would even feel like Ive become used to his presence but forgotten the love.

Don't you want something new? Something different? Another adventure?

And why do men suddenly become unattractive after marriage? :(

You both grow as people. Every day is a repeat of the previous day if you make it that way, whether you are married or single. You should do new things and have adventures together inshaAllah. make your days together fun and varied. There are so many different things you can do and places you can go together, and so many different and varied topics you can discuss. then inshaAllah when kids come along they make every day different for you lol.

[Zesty]

Note for the thread starter, when you hear many people talking about love then make sure that most of them have no clue of what they're talking about. So, do not assume that there is a heaven that you haven't found yet!

:smack: SP youre always sssoo serious and pessimistic about things :crying: why is that huh huh huh? cant you take a jokeeeee....
LOL who really knows what love is? I know that the love i have for my parents, my sister, my friends.. is all different to the love that i will have inshaAllah for my husband. Love is about respect, trust, loyalty, honesty, experiencing the good and bad with someone, sticking by then in times of difficulty, thanking Allah for the things He blesses you both with, sharing happy moments and capturing those moments to live a happy and blissful life together inshaAllah not only in this duniya but also the Akhirah.

To love for the sake of Allah so that your spouses strengths are appreicated and his shortcomings overlooked and worked on (and vice versa). To submit to his wishes because he is doing things according to Islam and wants to protect you and shield you, and to give and take and love each other in a way that will make Allah (swt) happy with you both so that He may instill love and rehmaa into your hearts.

I dont know what it is exactly.. but if thats what its going to be like and if thats what im feeling right now- then all i believe is that love is a truly beautiful thing,a bounty, a mercy and blessing from Allah (swt).

[GuCcI]

Ask yourself if this is allowed? Or even better...ask Abu Hurairah.

most probably isnt not gonna lie but the question to u is why r u trying to derail the thread with an offtopic question

[Zesty]

most probably isnt not gonna lie but the question to u is why r u trying to derail the thread with an offtopic question

I wouldnt worry about it- SP likes to get personal :rolleyes: Its his only way of apparently having a "constructive" debate.

[GuCcI]

I wouldnt worry about it- SP likes to get personal :rolleyes: Its his only way of apparently having a "constructive" debate.

thats for sure :p

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anywho... not a real word, i know :rolleyes:

u dont get tired of family, wen u get married hubby becomes your family, therefore, u wont get tired of hubby :up:

[.: Anna :.]

Kubs advice is very good masha allah

the bored thing, i think before u get married or find the person u want to marry, then u can feel like it would be boring to be stuck with one person all the time and they will get on ur nerves and get sick of each other, but then it doesnt have to be like that, if u really get on with each other u wont find that happening. if ur bored doing same things, its not about the person its the lack of variety in life, which is something u can change.
sometimes wdnt u also feel like u dnt want to go and start again with someone totally new, although that is not "boring" its not really appealing.. it feels comfy to hav someone who u know so well and they know u, and u have already got that relationship with them?

[miss-islamic]

That is why the key to a successful marriage is to spent as less time with your spouse as is possible. :outta: (Seriously, it is important to have (or make a) life outside of your marriage). :)

[~Warda~]

That is why the key to a successful marriage is to spent as less time with your spouse as is possible. :outta: (Seriously, it is important to have (or make a) life outside of your marriage). :)

Yeah, u can send ur hubby for 40 days jamaat every year :up: That way, there's reward in it!and if thats not enough then 4 months:p

[Ibn Sina]

ain't it supposed to be boring?

[LastFriday]

And why do men suddenly become unattractive after marriage? :(

:rotfl: ahaha are you kidding me?? I think its the other way around! When women are young they are trying to look fit and slim and stay beautiful to get a proposal and what not. After marriage and a few kids....don't think I should continue.. :rolleyes: Whereas men are always out in the field, doing the labor! Most.