istikahara?? advise needed

[samiyah1983]

Salams again bro AND sis

I have done istikahara for the guy who is asking for my hand in marriage and i saw a vision that some one said to me choose the 1 thats most in deen... now am confused does that mean i should go ahead with it or not i tried doing it again and again but i still feel confused and unsure i think in reality am not attracted to the guy but then i again i dnt want to regret any decision becaz he has everything i cnt find a fault with him but then again i dnt want to say yes plz help ur sister in islam

[Zesty]

Wa-alaikum salaam

Is the brother practising? :confused:

[myself]

Salams again bro AND sis

I have done istikahara for the guy who is asking for my hand in marriage and i saw a vision that some one said to me choose the 1 thats most in deen... now am confused does that mean i should go ahead with it or not i tried doing it again and again but i still feel confused and unsure i think in reality am not attracted to the guy but then i again i dnt want to regret any decision becaz he has everything i cnt find a fault with him but then again i dnt want to say yes plz help ur sister in islam
Deen is obivously the best choice. I would also advise that there should be some form of attraction between both husband and wife.

[zaki]

Choosing one who is on their deen is more better than choosing someone who has wealth or beauty, because they can both go, Emaan can stay and you can help each other learn Islam more.

Maybe find out more about this brother, is he on the deen, is he practicing?

[GuCcI]

practising + even the tiniest bit of attraction = go for it


if one of those r missing then dont go for it :scratch:

[UniQue_BeDouin]

asalamu3laikum..if your istikhara has come out kinda postive eeer then he is good for you..obviously allah wont choose if he isnt good for you ie din,attraction, etc..maybe if u get to know him more u will find attraction..
but then again this is just advise maybe u should contact your local mufti or something..and maybe u should get your istikhara interpreted..and another thing istikhara doesnt just come in a dream..maybe u not being attracted to him is a sign of him not being good for u...and i can speak from experience :P barak allah feeki

[stephenoskie]

Deen is obivously the best choice. I would also advise that there should be some form of attraction between both husband and wife.

I agree with this comment and deen is very important as well