What should I do about an annoying person on my jamaats?

[Wolfn]

Assalaam Alikum.

I'm in something of a dilemma now. I try to go on every month's jamaat that my Mosque does. However, the guy who organizes them and supervises them is very extreme and annoying. He's a 50ish convert to Islam from Trinidad, so he has a heavy accent. However, he seems too extreme for me. When we were driving through a city last month, he was saying "Everything is evil. Don't look at anything. Keep your gaze down at all times" and kept muttering "subhanallah" the entire time. When we were in discussion, he said "we had an iman who had a girl reciet shahada in front of the congregation. That iman makes me want to vomit". My friend actually got into an argument with him because my friend said that he has a friend studying Aero-Science (NASA stuff), and the Trinidad convert said that she should be made to go back to Bangladesh (spelled correctly?) because it's better for her not to study at all instead of not having a husband.

He frequently interupts basically anyone. When we have halaquas, someone or myself will try to say something, and he interupts and starts saying his opinion or view before any of us are even finished.


Anyways, I have great respect for him because he's very knowledgeable and has a level of iman that I want, but he frequently gets of my nerves and doesn't make my jamaats as meaningful as they should be.



What should I do?

[Neurostyler]

Assalaam Alikum.

I'm in something of a dilemma now. I try to go on every month's jamaat that my Mosque does. However, the guy who organizes them and supervises them is very extreme and annoying. He's a 50ish convert to Islam from Trinidad, so he has a heavy accent. However, he seems too extreme for me. When we were driving through a city last month, he was saying "Everything is evil. Don't look at anything. Keep your gaze down at all times" and kept muttering "subhanallah" the entire time. When we were in discussion, he said "we had an iman who had a girl reciet shahada in front of the congregation. That iman makes me want to vomit". My friend actually got into an argument with him because my friend said that he has a friend studying Aero-Science (NASA stuff), and the Trinidad convert said that she should be made to go back to Bangladesh (spelled correctly?) because it's better for her not to study at all instead of not having a husband.

He frequently interupts basically anyone. When we have halaquas, someone or myself will try to say something, and he interupts and starts saying his opinion or view before any of us are even finished.


Anyways, I have great respect for him because he's very knowledgeable and has a level of iman that I want, but he frequently gets of my nerves and doesn't make my jamaats as meaningful as they should be.



What should I do?

Is his name Abu Mubarak?

[Wolfn]

Is his name Abu Mubarak?


Umm.....no. :rubeyes:

[ImaanSeeker]

Don't ponder upon his traits that annoy you. Try to benefit from his good points.

Everyone puts in their best effort according to their capabilities and their understanding of Islam. We should respect that.

[Dain Bramaged]

Is his name Abu Mubarak?

lol :torture:

[MG]

bro wen people newly come to islam or newly start practising it, i find most (that i have come across anyway) to be very cautious about every action they do becos they are just starting to learn the deen and put that into practicality, it goes after a while as u learn more and more.

This also happened to my friend's husband,he became really seriously looking and would always be telling his bros of all the time, to the point everyone would go quiet when he steps in the room but he is fine now,its just u trying to do everything correct all at once becos your still learning all the etiquettes of islam etc.

like another poster said,ignore his faults and concentrate on his good traits inshallah

[Mace]

Anyways, I have great respect for him because he's very knowledgeable and has a level of iman that I want

Well, if you respect his knowledge, and you want to achieve the level of iman he as achieved, then it seems to me you should ignore his faults and learn what you can from him.

I know I've had some interesting characters for teachers. But I've learned a lot from them.

[Ibn Sina]

Give him time .... or just ignore him ....

[Baybars]

The one thing about jamaat brother is that you'll meet all sorts, all types, from everywhere. Most of the time you'll meet people that you'll totally love, but now and again you'll come across people who really irk you. The experience seems a lot more pungent in jamaat, because under the conditions of being in jamaat, you're basically forced to endure the person's presence for the duration of your trip. It's actually quite a positive thing, because when a person sticks it out and maintains patience, it really helps condition ones nafs/desires, which is one of the ultimate goals of jamaat.

I know it bothers you, I used to feel irate at some people myself, and sometimes felt as though they were responsible for my bad feelings towards them, and I used to think, why should I have to deal with feeling this way. Think of it as a test from Allah, and don't lose patience. Patience is the key.

[muhammed_1428]

Talk to him and put up with it - these are his opinions and you have yours. Don't be afraid to express your opinions truthfully in front of him, or to challenge his opinions - because he will definitely have no problem challenging anyone opinions by the sound of things... So you shouldn't have to stay quiet if you feel 'afraid' of what he might say to you in retaliation.

You'll definitely learn from this guy, and Insha'allah, he will definitely learn from you.

[afsalim]

Assalaam Alikum.

I'm in something of a dilemma now. I try to go on every month's jamaat that my Mosque does. However, the guy who organizes them and supervises them is very extreme and annoying. He's a 50ish convert to Islam from Trinidad, so he has a heavy accent. However, he seems too extreme for me. When we were driving through a city last month, he was saying "Everything is evil. Don't look at anything. Keep your gaze down at all times" and kept muttering "subhanallah" the entire time. When we were in discussion, he said "we had an iman who had a girl reciet shahada in front of the congregation. That iman makes me want to vomit". My friend actually got into an argument with him because my friend said that he has a friend studying Aero-Science (NASA stuff), and the Trinidad convert said that she should be made to go back to Bangladesh (spelled correctly?) because it's better for her not to study at all instead of not having a husband.

He frequently interupts basically anyone. When we have halaquas, someone or myself will try to say something, and he interupts and starts saying his opinion or view before any of us are even finished.


Anyways, I have great respect for him because he's very knowledgeable and has a level of iman that I want, but he frequently gets of my nerves and doesn't make my jamaats as meaningful as they should be.



What should I do?

He seems to be not only annoying, but also arrogant and extremely chauvinistic. If I were you, I wouldn't hang out with him.

[THE PATH 2]

if you stick with it for over 20 years one day youll get to be that annoying person:D

joking

relax and make sabr ..discipline comes slowly and will benefit you as an adult

people dont get along with people they work with..but they stick with it

why? for themselves:up: