What to do in this situation?

[Caliph_Ahmad1]

Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullah Wabarakatu Akhis and Uktis,

I have a situation that I need some advice on. I'm talking to this sister for marriage. Everything was going great, so we decided to meet in person. That went great also, alhamdulillah. So later on into the relationship, we started talking or should I say she started talking about politics. See me, I'm a apolitical type of person. I hate politics and I hate politicians even more and I let her know that. Now, after telling her that she said that she has some concerns that I'm not involved in the political process and she needs some time to think about whether she wants to marry me. Take into account that we live in a kafir society. So now I'm thinking is she really the type of sister that I want to marry now after this incident. My question is: Should I reconsider marrying her since she is basing her decision on whether or nor I'm involved in politics?

[Le Croyant]

Is she not happy that u don't take part in American politics or that u r not concerned abt the political situation of the Ummah.

[Zesty]

What exactly is she not happy about? A direct involvement in politics? A complete disinterest in politics? (I dont like politics much either but we're all always involved to some level whatever that may be). Is she quite active or something?

[Abu Mu'adh]

Ask her if she's HT affiliated.

on another note, why do people tend to call potential suitors sisters? Isn't that a bit ajeeb..

[smile_2008]

well i dont know what to say its all about love but be careful its more painful
if some one break heart after marriage so should be careful when select a partner i dont believe in womens thay turn into evils sometimes not all but some dont take too serious sisters but i think womens have no head :hidban::rubeyes:but personally i would not mind if women intrest in politics but might loose my head listening her politics:torture::torture:

[Zesty]

well i dont know what to say its all about love but be careful its more painful
if some one break heart after marriage so should be careful when select a partner i dont believe in womens thay turn into evils sometimes not all but some dont take too serious sisters but i think womens have no head :hidban::rubeyes:but personally i would not mind if women intrest in politics but might loose my head listening her politics:torture::torture:

:rubeyes: Fullstops? Capital letters?

[Caliph_Ahmad1]

I'm care a lot about the political sisuation of the Ummah. I just don't care about the politics of the USA.

[Zesty]

I'm care a lot about the political sisuation of the Ummah. I just don't care about the politics of the USA.

So tell her that. Have you told her this? Is she like really politically active or something? :confused: I understand that your views have to be somewhat compatible with you spouse inshaAllah as it means youre less likely to be in conflict or have arguements relating to those certain issues- but even then, most couples who have differing views can still get on. Depends on the extent to which she feels (or you may feel) it will impact your relationship and life. Quite an interesting thing to base a decision on.

She seems quite passionate about politics which is why maybe your apathetic behaviour towards it is of concern to her :)

[Bubblegoose]

Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullah Wabarakatu Akhis and Uktis,

I have a situation that I need some advice on. I'm talking to this sister for marriage. Everything was going great, so we decided to meet in person. That went great also, alhamdulillah. So later on into the relationship, we started talking or should I say she started talking about politics. See me, I'm a apolitical type of person. I hate politics and I hate politicians even more and I let her know that. Now, after telling her that she said that she has some concerns that I'm not involved in the political process and she needs some time to think about whether she wants to marry me. Take into account that we live in a kafir society. So now I'm thinking is she really the type of sister that I want to marry now after this incident. My question is: Should I reconsider marrying her since she is basing her decision on whether or nor I'm involved in politics?

Drop her, she sounds like a salty bint, probably a closet C Dolores Tucker.

You should look elseswhere Allah has something better in store for you.

[1 Level]

if ever there was a sacrifice to be made surely tis the easiest good luck brother they can be a handfull at the best of times as im told by all my married brothers lol

[bint]

She does'nt seem..mmm..
at the end of the day have you even done istikhara???forget what she thinks first perform istikhara then go forward and see what you can do..with the lady that is.

[sajid]

Is your married life going to be based around politics?

Seriously i doubt any guy would wanna marry someone who like to talk about politics all day long!!!!

Thats not an excuse

[LastFriday]

well i dont know what to say its all about love but be careful its more painful
if some one break heart after marriage so should be careful when select a partner i dont believe in womens thay turn into evils sometimes not all but some dont take too serious sisters but i think womens have no head :hidban::rubeyes:but personally i would not mind if women intrest in politics but might loose my head listening her politics:torture::torture:

LOL, what? Hard to understand what you wrote, but are you saying women "womens have no head" ? o.O

Ya, umm...if she doesn't want to marry you because your not into politics...that is some garbage. Seriously. I mean I suppose talk to her and try to get more details. You don't want your marriage revolving around one thing, especially Politics...>.> Good Luck. Do Istikhara :up:

[PiElle2]

Silly... what's the point of starting a relationship with a fight...? So she thinks marriage is about politics, that it is the priority in a marriage...? Sort her out, bro... LOL

[Cashew]

Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullah Wabarakatu Akhis and Uktis,

I have a situation that I need some advice on. I'm talking to this sister for marriage. Everything was going great, so we decided to meet in person. That went great also, alhamdulillah. So later on into the relationship, we started talking or should I say she started talking about politics. See me, I'm a apolitical type of person. I hate politics and I hate politicians even more and I let her know that. Now, after telling her that she said that she has some concerns that I'm not involved in the political process and she needs some time to think about whether she wants to marry me. Take into account that we live in a kafir society. So now I'm thinking is she really the type of sister that I want to marry now after this incident. My question is: Should I reconsider marrying her since she is basing her decision on whether or nor I'm involved in politics?

Women are odd little ducks.

I seriously doubt that she's hesitating because of the political issue.

And, no, there's absolutely positively no way that you can squeeze out of her what the real reason is.

In this sort of situation, what a woman says often requires at least two or three levels of interpretation.

As a fat old man, my gut tells me that when she raised the political issue with you, she was expecting some kind of passionate exchange of ideas, a little heat from your side to show that you're really interested in her.

When you responded with, "I'm basically an apolitical person," she saw it as your failure to take up her challenge and spar with her intellectually. Many women find playful intellectual sparring to be terribly romantic.

And there are many men who like to see the flash in a woman's eyes when she's caught up in passionate debate.

My guess is that she suspects that you're really not all that interested in her.

[LastFriday]

Women are odd little ducks.

I seriously doubt that she's hesitating because of the political issue.

And, no, there's absolutely positively no way that you can squeeze out of her what the real reason is.

In this sort of situation, what a woman says often requires at least two or three levels of interpretation.

As a fat old man, my gut tells me that when she raised the political issue with you, she was expecting some kind of passionate exchange of ideas, a little heat from your side to show that you're really interested in her.

When you responded with, "I'm basically an apolitical person," she saw it as your failure to take up her challenge and spar with her intellectually. Many women find playful intellectual sparring to be terribly romantic.

And there are many men who like to see the flash in a woman's eyes when she's caught up in passionate debate.

My guess is that she suspects that you're really not all that interested in her.

WoW! Never looked at it that way, well said :up:

[PiElle2]

WoW! Never looked at it that way, well said :up:


I agree. It's like you need to live with someone who is agreeable with you from the start.

[Mace]

A lot of young people, when they get into politics, get very passionate about it. I was the same way. And you look around and wonder, what's wrong with everyone else? Why don't they care what's happening?

But it may not be that she wants you to be interested in politics per se, it's that she wants you to be passionate about what she's passionate about. That's natural to an extent.

It's nice to have something you can both really care about together, and that may be what she's expressing.

If you're really interested in her, maybe there is some other interest that you two can share?

[.: hayat :.]

Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullah Wabarakatu Akhis and Uktis,

I have a situation that I need some advice on. I'm talking to this sister for marriage. Everything was going great, so we decided to meet in person. That went great also, alhamdulillah. So later on into the relationship, we started talking or should I say she started talking about politics. See me, I'm a apolitical type of person. I hate politics and I hate politicians even more and I let her know that. Now, after telling her that she said that she has some concerns that I'm not involved in the political process and she needs some time to think about whether she wants to marry me. Take into account that we live in a kafir society. So now I'm thinking is she really the type of sister that I want to marry now after this incident. My question is: Should I reconsider marrying her since she is basing her decision on whether or nor I'm involved in politics?
i think it is a stupid situation,i do not know wht is so concerned this sister abt politics and ur dislike of it...me also i am never concerned abt politics,even when we must vote a new president i do not go to vote cuse of the situation of politics in non muslim country...if politics is so corrupted then why to lose time with it...if this girl wanna marry u then she would/should not find stupid reason 4 thinking too much....marriage,love is not based on politics:coolbro:

[Riceball]

Should I reconsider marrying her since she is basing her decision on whether or nor I'm involved in politics?

The sea is full of fish brother :up:

[GuCcI]

My question is: Should I reconsider marrying her since she is basing her decision on whether or nor I'm involved in politics?


dont be silly, shes lying to you, theres another reason but looking for excuses to get out.

she might never tell you even if you ask her just turn it around giving HER the ultimatum, and if she makes a big deal out of your apoliticness well then why would u want to be with someone who makes mountains out of molehills anyway. u have your answer then and just walk away :up: