need advise

[samiyah1983]

salaam
i had previously posted an issue regard to my friend who had a baby who weighd 1lb, found out yesterday, the baby has passed away.
i need to go c this friend but what can i say to her and how can i console her....
also is it true where if ur child has passed away they lead u to jannat?
plz help....

[.: Anna :.]

inna lillaahi wa inna ilayhi raajioon :(

yes sis that is true:

In the Musnad of `Abd ibn Humayd from Mu`adh, the Prophet said, upon him peace: “No two Muslims lost three children except Allah will cause the two parents to enter Paradise through the favor of His mercy toward them.” They said, “What about two, Messenger of Allah?” He said, “Two also.” They said, “And one?” He said, “[Even] the miscarried child will certainly drag its mother [and father, see below] with its umbilical cord to Paradise!”

Abu Musa Al-Ash`ari (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said:
“When a slave’s child dies, Allah the Most High asks His angels, `Have you taken out the life of the child of My slave?” They reply in the affirmative. He then asks, `Have you taken the fruit of his heart?’ They reply in the affirmative. Thereupon he asks, `What has My slave said?’ They say: `He has praised You and said: Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji`un (We belong to Allah and to Him we shall be returned). Allah says: `Build a house for My slave in Jannah and name it as Bait-ul-Hamd (the House of Praise).”’
[At-Tirmidhi]





I feel so sad for your friend to hear this. I don't know what you can say to her, its a very difficult thing. Insha Allah go and be with her and something might come to you what you can say to her. Whatever anyone says it must be something so hard for her. I'm sure she will appreciate you just being there and offering support for her. Make alot of dua for her insha allah :(

[smile_2008]

ok wot i say is say to her thay u r very sad to hear that and may ALLAH give u sabr and pray for him and every body will leave this world one day
but its so sad

[smile_2008]

ok wot i say is say to her thay u r very sad to hear that and may ALLAH give u sabr and pray for him and every body will leave this world one day
but its so sad

[ummbilal]

inna lillaahi wa inna ilayhi raajioon

inshaallah remind her to have sabr and that she will meet her children soon inshaallah and it will seem like this life was but an afternoon or a morning.

[Emani]

Samiyah1983: I feel very uncomfortable in situations like this becasue I never know what I should say, but I always fall back on the advice given to me: It doesn't matter what you say, it really doesn't. In times like this, your friend will not remember the words that you said to her, she will only remember that you were with her, beside her. There is NOTHING good to say, there are no words that can express how we feel, nor words to help her in what she is goign through, but if you are there with her, and show your support just by BEING there, it is more than enough and it will mean so much to her that you are there. She will always remember you for being there for her.

[dhakiyya]

Just give her a hug. Let her talk, cry, whatever, if she wants to. Even if she doesn't say anything - maybe make her a cup of tea if you can't think what to say.

[samiyah1983]

jk for all the post saw her, had a gud chat with her, was really upset. i would hate to do tat again....