What do you think of woman proposing to a man?

[Mosaab Ibn Omer]

Assalam Alaikom,

It's of course halal for a woman to propose to marriage i mean Our mother Khadija may Allah please with her proposed to prophet Muhammed peace be upon him but do you think it's possible nowadays?! I want to know your opinions
Jazakom Allah Khair:)

[Muhammad2]

I think it's fine, but then again, I'm a Westerner.

Who are you planning to propose to? :p

[eritrean_galxx]

Assalam Alaikom,

It's of course halal for a woman to propose to marriage i mean Our mother Khadija may Allah please with her proposed to prophet Muhammed peace be upon him but do you think it's possible nowadays?! I want to know your opinions
Jazakom Allah Khair:)

well from frm ma point of view i du fink dat it iz ok du propose coz dat person dat u propose 2 iz mayb lukin 4 a women 2 marry but still not fund a da right 1 subhanallah mayb wen u du propose to him he mite b da right guy u wnted 2 marry...........u never kno ,but still i fink u shuld hav ur brother at present while doing it ....

[elji]

well from frm ma point of view i du fink dat it iz ok du propose coz dat person dat u propose 2 iz mayb lukin 4 a women 2 marry but still not fund a da right 1 subhanallah mayb wen u du propose to him he mite b da right guy u wnted 2 marry...........u never kno ,but still i fink u shuld hav ur brother at present while doing it ....

english plz?

[WahYaLookin'At?]

AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh,

I really don't see anything wrong with it, go for it, ask your wali first! Loq.

[Honey87]

I suppose there's no problem with it. Just the approach you decide to take in doing so.

[eritrean_galxx]

english plz?

listen plz 2go on abt ma english aint got tym 4 ppl goin abt it yer....

[eritrean_galxx]

Assalam Alaikom,

It's of course halal for a woman to propose to marriage i mean Our mother Khadija may Allah please with her proposed to prophet Muhammed peace be upon him but do you think it's possible nowadays?! I want to know your opinions
Jazakom Allah Khair:)


I woz actually finkin of 2 propose 2 a brother but i mentioned it 2ma friend she sed how he might not lukin n he might reject u but i did nt tak no notice coz shes nt practicin musilmah so i did not tak it 2 heart....but i am still havin second thoughts of 2 propose 2 da brother..........

[HiBiScUs]

Umm...i dont think it a problem, as long as you go through reasonable channels...not lyk walking up to him and saying 'will u marry me' coz that wld just scare him off!! dont worry bout rejection, just think 2 urself dat he prob didnt deserve u :D

[Pro_Candy]

listen plz 2go on abt ma english aint got tym 4 ppl goin abt it yer....

You had time to learn to type lyk dis all the time, you have time to type in English. Honestly, it's annoying to try and read something like that.

As for woman proposing to a man, I don't see any reason why not! There's nothing stopping her, Islamically, as long as she goes about it the right way :)

[Kal-El]

listen plz 2go on abt ma english aint got tym 4 ppl goin abt it yer....

People will find it hard to read your posts, and might misunderstand so it's in your best interest to write properly.

Assalam Alaikom,

It's of course halal for a woman to propose to marriage i mean Our mother Khadija may Allah please with her proposed to prophet Muhammed peace be upon him but do you think it's possible nowadays?! I want to know your opinions
Jazakom Allah Khair:)

There is nothing wrong with it, but there is alot wrong with the mentality women have inherited that is improper, or 'wrong', for them to consider proposing. Personally I find it very appealing - but that's just the romantic in me speaking.

[sunrise]

i don't know man... of course it's halal and acceptable and encouraged inshAllah

but i dunno seems there is more chnace of her saying yes, than him.. lol men are stubborn and picky picky picky

[beamz]

Personally i just would'nt.

[Kal-El]

i don't know man... of course it's halal and acceptable and encouraged inshAllah

but i dunno seems there is more chnace of her saying yes, than him.. lol men are stubborn and picky picky picky

That's not true. Women are more picky and stubborn.

[Fais]

That's not true. Women are more picky and stubborn.


:rotfl: ..

Watch kal stand his ground and fight ... that women are picky and stubborn

[elji]

listen plz 2go on abt ma english aint got tym 4 ppl goin abt it yer....

huh? i rest my case!

[Joha]

There is nothing wrong with it, but there is alot wrong with the mentality women have inherited that is improper, or 'wrong', for them to consider proposing. Personally I find it very appealing - but that's just the romantic in me speaking.

I admit, there is something wrong with women, but nothing they haven't inherited from their fathers.

:scratch: Haven't you been ardently arguing that romance doesn't 'exist'?

Conclusion: Even Kal-El, that seasoned adversary of love likes to be flattered...:rolleyes:

[Kal-El]

Very few people know what it actually is, for the rest, they're shrouded in an illusion so you could argue that it actually doesn't exist for the majority

[*Al-Qadr*]

It could be a good thing, but then again the man might get big headed :rolleyes:

[Joha]

It could be a good thing, but then again the man might get big headed :rolleyes:

as opposed to the girls, for whom this is a congenital disease they're familiar with since birth :p

[Kubs]

I think women fear 'rejection' - if he says 'no' she begins to question WHY he refused her. Her confidence level will go waay down :rolleyes:

[~Unity~]

I think women fear 'rejection' - if he says 'no' she begins to question WHY he refused her. Her confidence level will go waay down :rolleyes:

:there: habibty, I know it is tough. But there are plenty more fish in the sea.

[Nasibah]

:masha: if its done accordingly then there is nothing wrong with it. However, for me, I don't think I can. I much rather that he does the proposing. I think men are emotionally equipped for those sort of things. But one never knows, after certain period, I might be forced to find the courage somehow.

[Kal-El]

I don't see what the fuss is about personally..just say "will you marry me". It's 4 words, just 4 words. Stop acting like a girl!

:p

[~Unity~]

I don't see what the fuss is about personally..just say "will you marry me". It's 4 words, just 4 words. Stop acting like a girl!

:p


'No' is one word. But oooh so painful :(

[Kubs]

:there: habibty, I know it is tough. But there are plenty more fish in the sea.

:rotfl:

Why on earth would I propose to a man? I know it's old fashioned thinking..... but I like it the other way round.

You however......:rolleyes:

[beamz]

I think women fear 'rejection' - if he says 'no' she begins to question WHY he refused her. Her confidence level will go waay down :rolleyes:

I could'nt face rejection :o

[$HugoBoss$]

My cousin proposed to me, she felt real bad when i said no, she didn't talk to me for 3 straight months at parties and family gatherings. She's very pretty with a great personality but i don't do the cousin business.

I think if you like someone than it doesn't matter who proposes to who, just go for it and hope for the best.

[Rosalie-Beauty]

I think its ok if a woman proposes to a man, I mean it must be painstaking for some woman to wait around for her man to propose. But I think the reason men mostly propose (in most cultures) is 'cause woman are generally shyer and tend to take (and fear) rejection harder.

[in_exile]

:rotfl: ..

do you think she will propose
Watch kal stand his ground and fight ... that women are picky and stubborn

shes not gonna propose to you just give it up now..... ur ustaji will not be impressed *torture*

[eritrean_galxx]

huh? i rest my case!

ayt can u stop goin on abt it

[Saudi Prince]

We live in time of technology, all you need to do nowadays is to send a code: WYMM. ;) :D :rofl1:


This is just a joke not a fatwa as I do not know if a woman can propose to a man and all those who gave fatwa without knowledge should stop it.

[Joha]

We live in time of technology, all you need to do nowadays is to send a code: WYMM. ;) :D :rofl1:


Or more concisely

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[Metroid]

A woman unexpectedly proposed me before when the idea of getting married was not into my agenda. I told her about my financial hardship i was going into and.
I was expecting her to say: "don't worry, it is you I want, not was you have in your pocket. Allah will help you :insha: even if we marry and stuff like that :there: "
This is not what happened, she immediately lost interest:rubeyes:

In general, men are more comfortable doing the proposing and yet very scared of being rejected:nervous:

[hanaa_al_muminah]

ayt can u stop goin on abt it

sis..you've only been on ummah for like 2 days n u already arguing.....chill man...:inlove::inlove:...........


i tink its ok to propose to a brother aslong as she does it in a halal manner, in other words, gets her wali to speak to him etc etc or speak to his siste etc...but i personally wouldn't.....

[Stylish-Girly]

its okay as Khadija (RA) did, and she did right Alhamdulillah but i'd feel very shy and uncomfortable to do so

[AbuMubarak]

its totally within islam for a woman to propose to a man

in a proper manner, of course

no bikini pics

[LastFriday]

I Fink it's fine ... :up::up:

[Hayaat]

Most of us women don't have the courage to do that, we rather wait for someone to come propose to us even if it takes years. Plus, nowadays if a woman actually proposes to a man she is looked as a desperate women.

[afsalim]

Assalam Alaikom,

It's of course halal for a woman to propose to marriage i mean Our mother Khadija may Allah please with her proposed to prophet Muhammed peace be upon him but do you think it's possible nowadays?! I want to know your opinions
Jazakom Allah Khair:)

Please read this thread: http://ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=151656

Now ask yourself ukhti why wouldn't it be halal for a woman to propose marriage to a man?

[afsalim]

its totally within islam for a woman to propose to a man

in a proper manner, of course

no bikini pics

Absolutely brother. Khadija (Ra) proposed marriage to our beloved Prophet (PBUH) after all.

[shaquille20]

I dont see that as a problem at all... in fact, I am still unmarried as a result of waiting for the right girl to propose to me...

[Tranquillity]

Look, sometimes if you wait around for a man you'll be waiting a LONG TIME, maybe forever. I mean, they're very nice, bless em and all that but they can be darn useless sometimes and maybe need a push? I can't imagine that a man would be anything other than flattered if a woman proposed to him even if he does act very much like a deer caught in the headlights and scarpers.. yes, I am talking from experience. But hey, I'm the one who still has the dignity of knowing that I had the guts in the first place and that actually I wouldn't want such a spineless husband anyway... And no doubt he's kicking himself to this very day!!! :D

[AbuMubarak]

Absolutely brother. Khadija (Ra) proposed marriage to our beloved Prophet (PBUH) after all.

that was before islam akhi

but there are other instances within islam to use

[seven]

hafsah [ra] (daughter of umar [ra]) also proposed to the prophet :saw: through her father.

[Zesty]

Look, sometimes if you wait around for a man you'll be waiting a LONG TIME, maybe forever. I mean, they're very nice, bless em and all that but they can be darn useless sometimes and maybe need a push? I can't imagine that a man would be anything other than flattered if a woman proposed to him even if he does act very much like a deer caught in the headlights and scarpers.. yes, I am talking from experience. But hey, I'm the one who still has the dignity of knowing that I had the guts in the first place and that actually I wouldn't want such a spineless husband anyway... And no doubt he's kicking himself to this very day!!! :D

:rotfl: excellent post! Completely agree with you too :p

[Lone Wolf]

Assalam Alaikom,

It's of course halal for a woman to propose to marriage i mean Our mother Khadija may Allah please with her proposed to prophet Muhammed peace be upon him but do you think it's possible nowadays?! I want to know your opinions
Jazakom Allah Khair:)

Khadija proposed to the Prophet before the arrival of Islam and so you cant use that. For eg, the Prophet kept a dog before Islam and the way in which Zaid was adopted was different to the way it was changed to after Islam.

Do you have any post-Islamic authority to say it's ok for woman to propose?

[abdulhakeem]

Women proposing marriage to men (http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=113097)

Is it permissible for a Muslim woman to ask a Muslim man to marry her? (http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=44482)

Ruling n a woman letting a m an know that she wants to marry him (http://www.islam-qa.com/index.php?ref=22897&ln=eng)

[dhakiyya]

Khadija proposed to the Prophet before the arrival of Islam and so you cant use that. For eg, the Prophet kept a dog before Islam and the way in which Zaid was adopted was different to the way it was changed to after Islam.

Do you have any post-Islamic authority to say it's ok for woman to propose?

was there at any point any revelation to tell Muhammad :saw: that Khadijah (ra) shouldn't have proposed to him? No.

There was revelation about not keeping dogs in the house, it is halal to keep a dog, just should be kept in a kennel outdoors, and there should be a reason, e.g. hunting dog, guard dog, not kept in the house.

All worldy things in Islam (i.e. things for every day life, not to do with worship) the rule is that its halal unless proven haram. There are hadeeths to prove that keeping dogs in the house is haram, but there is no evidence from Qur'an or Sunnah to say that its haram or even disliked for a woman to propose. With the proper manners of course, as Abu M and others have said.

[Tranquillity]

Khadija proposed to the Prophet before the arrival of Islam and so you cant use that. For eg, the Prophet kept a dog before Islam and the way in which Zaid was adopted was different to the way it was changed to after Islam.

Do you have any post-Islamic authority to say it's ok for woman to propose?

The reason that more women don't propose to men is because in society in general it is not seen as the 'done' thing. Also in some cultures (ahem- Pakistani etc) for a woman to make the first move is seen as her lacking in modesty. HOWEVER the example of Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her) serves to show us that proposing to a man does not lower a woman's dignity. The fact that this was before the Revelation does not affect this since what we are talking about is the correct code of conduct for a woman and Khadija was of true gold standard in this even before becoming a Muslim.
BUT obviously we can't overlook the fact that she was proposing to a man known for his moral decency and also that she sent somebody to speak to him. So the character of the man is a consideration and also that we don't forget our hayaa in such circumstances.

[AbuMubarak]

Women proposing marriage to men (http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=113097)

Is it permissible for a Muslim woman to ask a Muslim man to marry her? (http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=44482)

Ruling n a woman letting a m an know that she wants to marry him (http://www.islam-qa.com/index.php?ref=22897&ln=eng)

thanks akhi

its good we refer to previous discussions, to avoid repeating the same old thing

[Lone Wolf]

I wasnt saying women shouldnt propose to men!!

[bint]

she has guts mashaAllah :D