Proudy123

[proudy123]

Hi all,
I am really upset in my life.The problem with me is I feel very proud of my achievements in life.I work in a school.For every single thing my principal consults me, not only my principal but also the rest of the teachers.Everybody loves me and thinks that I am the best.I am given the charge of any function held.I host and do all sorts of job.This has spoiled me.I feel so proud of myself that i realise it only after i come to my house.I feel I am the best nobody can compete with me not even my Lord.I walk with an air of proudness with my head held high.This feeling comes only when I'm in school.Not only i think all sorts of stupid things only when i am in school.I can't leave the job I need it for financial purpose so I thought I will step down I will take lower classes.What I feel is, with such a little success if i start behaving like this, will progress and success be a part of my life.I can't get over my proudy feeling.I told my family also-no use.What should I do?

[Eemaan]

I think its such a huge step youve taken in acknowledging your over infalted pride and how its consuming you. By our nature humans are egotistical and if they ego is massaged enough you can be so deluded and lost to what your real purpose in dunyah is.

1) Do you have enough time to pray at work? do you priortise salah at work? Because i really would start with this very fundemental factor. See if you spend long on your salah at work you wont be available at break and lunchtimes at the disposal of other people. and let people know that "im off to pray now, back after lunch" yeah it will make folk :eek3: because 'we thought he was one of us' but it reinforced you in public as having obligations to Allah first and foremost

2) La Hawla wa'la quwaata illah Billah. There is no mercy or might except for Allah. Let these words manifest on your tongue so they penetrate you heart and into your conciousness. It will change your mentality from believeing you are invinvible in the work place to understanding your mortality is very near.

3) Do you have Muslim students? or Muslim colleagues, have you spoken to them about it? oh and i really think you need to stop electing yourself to take on more responsibiltiy if it isn't detailed in your job description. Its a job. use it as a tool for dawah.

4) Read up on death. its imminent for all of us.

Hope you get through it. I dont think taking on lower classess will achieve much since the academic year has already started unless it means less works because theyre not exam classes.

anyhoot, May Allah guide you, mend you, pardon you and grant you sustenance. Ameen.

[Chained_Water]

Good advice from Eemee.. and also I'd say you sound like you are in a comfort zone, what if you changed jobs and really challenged yourself by going into a totally alien school setting.. it might give you a different perspective on your own capabilities and limitations.

[Stylish-Girly]

Bear this hadith in mind

On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: Allah (mighty and sublime be He) said: Pride is my cloak and greatness My robe, and he who competes with Me in respect of either of them I shall cast into Hell-fire.

It was related by Abu Dawud (also by Ibn Majah and Ahmad) with sound chains of authority. This Hadith also appears in Muslim in another version.

On the day of judgement, arrogant people will be brought in such a state that their faces will be like humans but their size will reduced to the size of ants. They will be dragged to the prison house of hell, which is called "Boolus" and means desperation. They will be burnt in a fire called "Naar ul Anyaar." They will be given the pus of the people of Hell to drink.

And read this, its ideal for your situation.. its easy to fall into the trap of Shaitaan and start to think you're sometin special

http://muslimsinvited.blogspot.com/2007/11/condemnation-of-arrogance.html