Why Me?!

[WHY ME?!]

what do you do when you are blamed for everything at home? your brother does something wrong, but the blame ends up one you. the same goes with your sister, she does something wrong but i always get the blame. if we both do something wrong, i always get in trouble. i feel as though i am always picked on. i really do not know why! my parents just do it to me. i love my parents, but when things like these happens i get really upset and depressed and cant work. :( im starting to hate myself and thats not good. i try really hard at home, but it never works! what am i to do?

please help me with your advice and make duaa for me:'(

[Tranquillity]

Families are really hard work, I know.
I dunno what to suggest really. I always throw a strop- that works with my parents but it's not the most mature advice... maybe just try to keep things in perspective since you won't have to live with them forever insh'Allah!

[Deeds]

:salams

Are you the oldest child in the family?

[WHY ME?!]

funnily enough i am not the oldest child! things were better today. they become better but when anything that my sister or brothers do wrong, i get the blame and told off. thats whats making me really upset. my parents are really nice and caring but when they do this i just hate it and dont know what to do. i become silent and dont talk to anyone unless my parents ask a question.

[Aynpackr]

I completely ignore what my parents have to say to me. My father saying "I love you" to me is the same to me as when he calls me stupid. It makes absolutely no difference to me.

One way out of your problem is to devalue the criticisms your parents may level at you. Ignore them outright. Once you stop giving value to those criticisms, the more you'll be at peace.

Consider them inconsequential.

[*Love*]

but when anything that my sister or brothers do wrong, i get the blame and told off...i just hate it and dont know what to do. i become silent and dont talk to anyone unless my parents ask a question.
Hello
Wy don't you ask your parents, ''Hello, Why am I to blame, it isn't my fault? Ta Da''
Have you tried that?
All the best

[Eemaan]

Hello
Wy don't you ask your parents, ''Hello, Why am I to blame, it isn't my fault? Ta Da''
Have you tried that?
All the best

:eek3:

[~Imaan~]

salam

dont let it get to u, just be patient inshaAllah...

i know exactly what u mean becoz my parents tend to put all the responsibility on me...and with responsibility comes the blame when things go wrong...:o and im not the oldest either....

but its probably becoz they see you as the most sensible one who can hack it...inshaAllah just take it patiently becoz they are your parents...dont think they are being unfair on you becoz inshaAllah it is not their intention...

just see it this way, your parents are probably stressed about so many things and yelling at someone would probably make them feel a lot better....so let them yell at you....its not much if u think about it, compared to what they have done for u.....or rather what our parents havent done for us.

i never used to understand when i was younger.. but Alhumdulillah i do now...maybe you might begin to understand inshaAllah...

just remember, patience is the key..

[WHY ME?!]

Jazak Allah Khairan for all that have replied.
Have taken in the things you said, and am working on it now. Its true that my parents have done alot, and have been through a lot, and thats why I feel very bad at times. The thing I tell myself is keep patient, inshallah things will get better! And now, I try and ignore it as they might be taking their anger out on me. They do put alot of repsonsibility on me.but inshallah my reward shall be rewards

[why-NOT-me]

My father saying "I love you" to me is the same to me as when he calls me stupid. It makes absolutely no difference to me.You're lucky your father even talks to you. I personally can count, with my fingers, the times (and words) my dad's ever spoken to me.

As for the thread start, why not you? It's an honest question, what makes you so special. We all have our problems, I bet even your brother and sister have theirs. To each of us our own problems can seem insurmountable. As for me, my mum hates me and my father doesn't speak with me. My advice, for whats it worth, take the kindness and love from your parents, and leave all the negativity aside. When it comes in from one ear, let it go out the other, and do not dwell on it.

Ma'aSalaama