How can I overcome this weakness?

[junaid368]

:salamsI dont live in a non muslim country. Every since middle school, i'v been mocked, lauged at, made fun of, becuase of my race and religion. My problem is, I don't know how to respond to such things? How to respond to racial or religious stearotypes? or insults? I'm currently in high school. At first i didnt take it that seriously. But than in increased. So i tried just not to care anymore, which didnt seem to work. and now it seems to just tear me apart. I'm 15 and already tired of life. I dont wann be a part of it nomore...:crying2:

[Pippin1376]

Are there any other Muslims in your school you can talk to?

I went to public school and some people will mock you and insult you. That's life, and that's highschool. Either try hard to ignore it, or make a joke about their comment and walk away. Just remember highschool isn't forever, and look at it as a learning experience.

If you are tired about life I suggest you take some time every day and devote it only for Allah. Whether it's just meditating, reading the Quran, etc... try to build your relationship with Allah and inshallah you'll feel better.

[junaid368]

yea there are a few, but i wouldnt really call them "muslims"

[Saudi Prince]

I dont live in a non muslim country

Does this mean you live in a Muslim country?

[Liberationfront]

salaam bro the best and only way is to make dua n ask for help ,try being strong it must be hard for you but b proud your a muslim hold your head high and dont let words hurts ,challenge your stress in to learning new things and being a good muslim,lifes a test its not easy:o

[Pippin1376]

Okay that's fine then. Perhaps you can find other people to hang out with or if you like being alone that would work too. But try to spend some time thinking about Allah by yourself, in your room or outside and inshallah things will get better.

[Nasibah]

Please don't let these weak individuals to get to you. :insha: surround yourself with solid friends and stand up for yourself. Remember; like dogs, bullies smell fear. Be strong.

I understand that its difficult but be positive. Make dua and speak to someone about this-like a teacher you trust, or your parents.

I think you should also start ( if you don't already ) attending islamic circles and seminars, that way you'll make loads of friends with brothers-

Keep us updated.

[junaid368]

Does this mean you live in a Muslim country?

sorry i meant i dont live in a muslim country

[junaid368]

Assalaam alikum,
1 thing to say: There are some really nasty kids out there! At your age you shouldn't be having these problems. Believe it or not, this can probably still affect you later on in life. As teenage years are like the most crucial years that make a person as they grow into a young adult. You should be able to walk proud, not have to put up with this. I suggest speaking to your parents about this, see what they say. Then maybe you all can either speak to the principal of the school, or maybe change schools. I hope the principal can do something about this as its going to keep hapenning if not to you to other kids. Keep us posted.

well it doesnt happen to a few other muslim kids at my school, it because they chose to become like them, and think they "fit in", but i'd rather be a muslim than call myself a muslim and not act on it

[Nasibah]

well it doesnt happen to a few other muslim kids at my school, it because they chose to become like them, and think they "fit in", but i'd rather be a muslim than call myself a muslim and not act on it

:masha: continue to be strong and take comfort from the hadith of the prophet (sallahi alaihi wa sallam ) when he said:

How wonderful is the case of a believer; there is good for him in everything and this applies only to a believer. If prosperity attends him, he expresses gratitude to Allah and that is good for him; and if adversity befalls him, he endures it patiently and that is better for him.

[beamz]

Have you tried telling someone, a teacher maybe?

[junaid368]

:masha: continue to be strong and take comfort from the hadith of the prophet (sallahi alaihi wa sallam ) when he said:

How wonderful is the case of a believer; there is good for him in everything and this applies only to a believer. If prosperity attends him, he expresses gratitude to Allah and that is good for him; and if adversity befalls him, he endures it patiently and that is better for him.


thankyou for the hadith, i feel much better now:)

[Nasibah]

thankyou for the hadith, i feel much better now:)

Then give me a rep..just kidding. :masha: I'm glad that helped.

[beamz]

To be honest i know what your going through i went through the bullying in primary school but then i stood up to the bullies in secondary school i believed in myself.

[junaid368]

To be honest i know what your going through i went through the bullying in primary school but then i stood up to the bullies in secondary school i believed in myself.

glad to hear that, hopfully someday I will too

[beamz]

glad to hear that, hopfully someday I will too

InshAllah. Never give up, may Allah guide you.

[Saudi Prince]

Does this happn inside the class, sis?

[beamz]

Does this happn inside the class, sis?

Hes a brother :smack:

[Saudi Prince]

Hes a brother :smack:

Not a propblem, sis. :)

[Pippin1376]

glad to hear that, hopfully someday I will too
You will! Just have faith in Allah and you'll be fine. :) And remember high school isn't everything, you'll be done in a few years and then won't have to deal with those people anymore.

[beamz]

Not a propblem, sis. :)

problem, bro, just had to correct you hope you don't mind. ;)

[junaid368]

You will! Just have faith in Allah and you'll be fine. :) And remember high school isn't everything, you'll be done in a few years and then won't have to deal with those people anymore.


thanks:jkk:

[junaid368]

Does this happn inside the class, sis?

firstly i'm guy lol as beamz said, secondly, yea but it was an expectioanl case, the teacher had left and we had a subsitute, i guess i took it a bit too hard on me, i'm actully kind of used to it

never the less, i realize its a test from Allah, and i should have more patience, and be more grateful for what i have:)

[Saudi Prince]

firstly i'm guy lol as beamz said, secondly, yea but it was an expectioanl case, the teacher had left and we had a subsitute, i guess i took it a bit too hard on me, i'm actully kind of used to it

never the less, i realize its a test from Allah, and i should have more patience, and be more grateful for what i have:)

I think you need to speak to the teacher whenever an idiot mocks you.

[hanaa_al_muminah]

masha'allah gr8 advice from all brothers n sisters

i jus wan remind u brother of how our Prophet Mohammad (saw) reacted to the people of Ta'if after the way they had treated him by throwing so much stones at him that he bled so much that his shoes were stuck to his feet.. HOWEVER, he was patient and put his trust in Allah.
jus do the same brother n insha'allah u will b ok!!!:inlove:

[$HugoBoss$]

Move to Canada, we have muslim majority high schools.

[Rosalie-Beauty]

I guess I can relate to you. I too am fifteen (almost 16) and in high school. Except I live in a non-muslim country (the U.S.) I wear hijab too so that complicates life a bit more. At first it was hard but it you show people that you really dont care what the heck they think then they begin to realize that its them who has a problem, not you. If you see things as they are, the people who are mocking you are the ones who cant stand you so they take their anger on you. Resisting their insults can be hard, but after a while these same people will come to respect you. Believe me I am speaking from experience. They will learn to respect you for who you are and both sides will come out better. People (high school students actually) have come up to me and told me that they admire me for who I am. They seem to acknowledge that its hard being different, but it makes me real and an individual.
Something that also may help is to explain you religion to them. Becasue people fear what they dont understand. It really not as hard as you think. I once explained hijab to a friend and when she really grasped the concept she said that it made alot of sense and the logic to it was amazing.
Anyway Inshallah Allah (SWT) will make it easier for you.

Wasalam.

[afrasayab]

:salamsI dont live in a non muslim country. Every since middle school, i'v been mocked, lauged at, made fun of, becuase of my race and religion. My problem is, I don't know how to respond to such things? How to respond to racial or religious stearotypes? or insults? I'm currently in high school. At first i didnt take it that seriously. But than in increased. So i tried just not to care anymore, which didnt seem to work. and now it seems to just tear me apart. I'm 15 and already tired of life. I dont wann be a part of it nomore...:crying2:

You sound like a very nice kid at 15yr old. Be strong, don't get in trouble but remember to keep your head up and let no one walk over you. Talk to you teachers, if they don't listen goto the principle, or talk to someone you can trust. Talk to your parents... At 15 yr life is just starting, be positive, make good friends, and keep yourself active. Start workingout, learn kickboxing or something like that, I am not suggesting you to get into fight but this will give you more confidence. Take it easy on yourself...

[MNK]

Chapter 3
Patience and Perseverance
Allah, the Exalted, says:

"O you who believe! Endure and be more patient..". (3:200)

"And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Sabirun (the patient)". (2:155)

"Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in full, without reckoning.'' (39:10)

"And verily, whosoever shows patience and forgives, that would truly be from the things recommended by Allah.'' (42:43)

"Seek help in patience and As-Salat (the prayer). Truly, Allah is with As-Sabirun (the patient).'' (2:153)

"And surely, We shall try you till We test those who strive hard (for the Cause of Allah) and As-Sabirun (the patient)'' (47:31)

[junaid368]

You sound like a very nice kid at 15yr old. Be strong, don't get in trouble but remember to keep your head up and let no one walk over you. Talk to you teachers, if they don't listen goto the principle, or talk to someone you can trust. Talk to your parents... At 15 yr life is just starting, be positive, make good friends, and keep yourself active. Start workingout, learn kickboxing or something like that, I am not suggesting you to get into fight but this will give you more confidence. Take it easy on yourself...

thanks, i already workout lol:up:

[muslimma]

well it doesnt happen to a few other muslim kids at my school, it because they chose to become like them, and think they "fit in", but i'd rather be a muslim than call myself a muslim and not act on it

firstly i'm guy lol as beamz said, secondly, yea but it was an expectioanl case, the teacher had left and we had a subsitute, i guess i took it a bit too hard on me, i'm actully kind of used to it

never the less, i realize its a test from Allah, and i should have more patience, and be more grateful for what i have:)

mashallah bro you have very striong faith..

it must be hard for you and i dont wanna say i understand how it feels because i dont'.

however i will tell you that people that bully others tend to be more insecure about themselves and may also have been bullied themsleves.

enshallah it just shows how weak they are and with your strong emman dont let them get to you enshallah.

if you find the courage bro try to confront them and be strong but if you cant then be strong inside

you may find that if you confront them they will back off as they will only try and break those who dont defend themselves.

i am really happy though that you are not letting their sneers affect your deen and that you are not just gunna follow the HERD like the other brothers may have done in your school :D:D:D :up:

[GuCcI]

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wow seriously can u stop