I hate arguing and people think im a weak person?

[Mosaab Ibn Omer]

Assalam Alaikom:o …
I hate arguing, I mean when im talking to someone and im trying to explain my point and the person in front of me is arguing or disagreeing with me I just turn away even though am sure that im right, some people think that weakness:(!!! What do you think about that?:lailah:

[Hafsah]

wa'alaykum assalaam

i think it depends on what is being discussed

if its something that is important to you, you don't necessarily have to get into a heated debate/argument, but its important to get your point across, at the end of the day you're not going to get everybody to agree with your point of view, but if somethings important to you, then its worth fighting for

if its something trivial...like what colour someones jumper is..you say brown and the other person says navy blue...no point arguing eh :p

[elji]

Assalam Alaikom:o …
I hate arguing, I mean when im talking to someone and im trying to explain my point and the person in front of me is arguing or disagreeing with me I just turn away even though am sure that im right, some people think that weakness:(!!! What do you think about that?:lailah:


I think it is a weakness.

[GuCcI]

Assalam Alaikom:o …
I hate arguing, I mean when im talking to someone and im trying to explain my point and the person in front of me is arguing or disagreeing with me I just turn away even though am sure that im right, some people think that weakness:(!!! What do you think about that?:lailah:


it doesnt have to be a weakness, some ppl just dont like to argue but u can still put ur points forth without "arguing" to show ur right just get your points across, dont need to start attacking the person like i do
:p

[Nasibah]

wa'alaykum assalaam

i think it depends on what is being discussed

if its something that is important to you, you don't necessarily have to get into a heated debate/argument, but its important to get your point across, at the end of the day you're not going to get everybody to agree with your point of view, but if somethings important to you, then its worth fighting for

if its something trivial...like what colour someones jumper is..you say brown and the other person says navy blue...no point arguing eh :p

Well said ukhti, I totally agree with you. I would also like to add that unfortunately nowadays some may abuse this aspect of "walking away". Some may interpret it as a weakness and then therefore trangress their limits with you. I think its important to be assertive and direct without being rude or aggressive. I think boundaries should be set in order to avoid petty arugments or those who are prone to create such arguments.

[muslimma]

Assalam Alaikom:o …
I hate arguing, I mean when im talking to someone and im trying to explain my point and the person in front of me is arguing or disagreeing with me I just turn away even though am sure that im right, some people think that weakness:(!!! What do you think about that?:lailah:

well if you just turn away then i am not surprised that people may think that you have been defeated in a conversation...what you should do instaed of just turning away is say soemthing like well i dont agree so lets just agree to disagree and walk off. that way you have ended the conversation appropriately and it doesnt look like that you have been clamped bor. :up:

[afsalim]

Assalam Alaikom:o …
I hate arguing, I mean when im talking to someone and im trying to explain my point and the person in front of me is arguing or disagreeing with me I just turn away even though am sure that im right, some people think that weakness:(!!! What do you think about that?:lailah:

Walaikumussalam. No. It is not a weakness. It just shows that you are a non-confrontational type of person. You simply do not enjoy arguing.

[Medievalist]

I dont think its weakness. If its a deeni issue and you've put forward your points and they dont accept then leave it at that. Sometimes people who aren't praciticing for some reason go on an ego trip when "debating" with sufiji or molvyji. People often come out with the dumbest and most twisted examples of logic known to man when arguing for the sake of it with a knowledgable person - in these instances I say use your wisdom,say a word of peace and let them massage their egos that they got one over on you.

With me used to happen loads, still does a bit. People ask a question, I give the answer, then they have their own answer already and just asked the question to pick a debate or make a mockery on me. In these instance I now just give sarcastic replies and agree with what they say. Shouldnt snatch toys away from the immature. **roll eyes**

[umm_yusuf]

Like the other posters mentioned, it is not a sign of weakness. Obviously if its a deen issue then state the haqq and if the person accepts it, Alhamdulillah, if not then Allah did not choose for them to be guided on that and your obligations is just to convey the message.

Also the Rassul :saw: said he promised a place in Jannah for a person who does not argue even though he knows he is right

This goes to show the strength in walking away from an arguement. May Allah guide us all to that which is most beneficial.

[hkrespect]

speak the haqq and walk away...