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Aynpackr
03-01-08, 04:21 AM
I don't know what to say. I'll start out with saying I am quickly spinning into something I don't feel much control over. It is as if I'll crash and burn somewhere. Will anyone really read this long post? Most people won't, but I guess it is therapeutic for me to get my thoughts down.

I know I am being tested by Allaah, but I don't know how well I have been doing on the test, how far along I am, and what I might be missing. This has to the most depressing aspect: not knowing a single thing about how well or poorly I am doing on this test. At school, you study, and take the test...and you almost immediately get a grade. With Allaah's tests, they may go on for years (maybe for ever), and you apparently won't know how well or poorly you've done.

This is really killing me. Just as you would want someone to respond to you if you were speaking to him or her, I desperately want to ask Allaah "How am I doing now, and when could this test be over?" The difference is that I won't get real physical answer (an answer, for example, you may give me). Any answers I may get from Allaah will likely be cryptic, and will not be spoken. I may not even realize that I've already received an answer. When you're depressed, there's nothing more valuable than a spoken answer (which is something you'd get from a human).

The problem is that I am not looking for human answers. I am only looking for His answers, but I can't call a phone number (or email Him). For the past five years, I've cried, fallen on the floor, bathed in my tears, etc. Each and ever time, I've asked for an answer. Each and ever time, I received an answer. The only issue? It wasn't a spoken answer, and you can't imagine how critical a spoken (literal) answer.
I am looking for a pause button. Stop the world. Just allow me and Allaah to speak for a minute. No one has to know. I hate this world, which is physically and in other ways closed from the other side where Allaah is. Without spoken communication, I feel the distance is too great. Yet He is always listening.

I don't want to take any medications, because they can't possibly help me achieve what I want to achieve. I want to wake up one day with my problems, *poof*, gone.

I wonder if Musa (peace be upon him) would, if he were given a choice, allow me or someone else to speak to Allaah directly instead of him (someone take his place). I understand his objectives, but I think that one-on-one talk would mean more to me.

But Allaah is not a pie...you can ask Him for anything, and the fact that there are people out there who are worse off than you has no bearing on whether you get what you asked for. In other words, it's not like we're cutting up a pie, and we must limit our requests, or stand in line (first come first serve basis, or a most dire need served first). But there are thoughts in my mind that tell me, sometimes, to slow down on the requests, since there are other people in a worse situation. I don't know why I get these thoughts, because I know it doesn't work like this.

Sometimes, while talking to Allaah, I tell Him that I would do anything He wants just to have the test called off. I make these silly statements about how I would jump a thousand times, walk many miles, and do other things just for the test to end (I don't know why I say these things, because I know these things make no difference to Him. It is not as if He cares about a thousand jumps).

Worst of all? I still remember the day I asked Allaah explicitly to test me: the worst of my life. I regret it to this day. For your own good, do not ask Allaah to test you. Don't even think about it. I thought...the people Allaah loves the most have been the ones most seriously tested. It's true, but don't ask.

It's been five or six years now. I wonder how much time is left...

MUK
04-01-08, 12:08 AM
Assalamualaikum

Firstly, I completely understand what your going through. And Alhamdulillah I have found an answer and am working towards it. I know once I make myself explicitly clear many people will object here or It will start a cyber war but this answer is for you.

Allah Says in the Quran:-
"Verily in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest"[13:28]

The verse is self explanatory and there are lots and lots of verses as well as ahadeeth which imply the importance of Dhikr. We may deduce from this that extra prayers, reading Quran since they are also Dhikr can lead to this. These all are lingual forms of Dhikr, however:-

“And do thou (O Muhammed) remember your Lord within yourself humbly and with awe, below your breath, at morn and evening. And be not of those who are neglectful.” [7:205]

Does this imply lingual Dhikr? There are some scholars who are of the opinion that this implies Dhikr of the Heart which is different from lingual Dhikr. I'm sure I don't need to emphasise the importance of Dhikr anymore since it is very well known to be established in the Quran and Sunnah.

It is reported by Ummul-Mumineen (mother of the faithful) Hazrath A’yesha(RA) that the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) used to be in constant remembrance of Allah, every moment, all the time (Tirmidhi)

Is that possible for a human being who eats, sleeps and answers the call of nature and still be in constant remembrance of Allah? Which form of Dhikr can this be then?... Not only that this is also ordered upon us.

“When you have finished As-Salat , remember Allah standing, sitting down, and lying down on your sides, ” [4:103]

Do we really understand the importance of Dhikr today?

Hadhrat Abu Dardah quotes from the Prophet (SAW): “Should I not inform you of the most virtuous deed,far superior and rewarding ,which shall raise you highest in His esteem, is better than spending gold and silver in His cause and is also preferable to waging war against infidels and their extermination”? The companions replied that they would be honoured to know it. The Prophet said “Dhikr is by far the best deed” (Muslim)

If anyone withdraws himself from remembrance of (Allah) Most Gracious, We appoint for him an evil one, to be an intimate companion to him.[43:36]

I only quoted all that to emphasise the importance of this, and that such a thing does exit. And is this not what your looking for? Allah Says in the Quran:-

“Therefore remember me and I will remember you” [2:152]

The Prophet (SAW) said "Allah (SWT) says: 'I am to my servant as he expects of Me, I am with him when he remembers Me. If he remembers Me in his heart, I remember him in Myself, and if he remembers Me in an assembly, I mention him in an assembly better than his, and if he draws nearer to Me a hand's span, I draw nearer to him an arm's length, and if he comes to me walking I come to him running."[Bukhari & Muslim]

Subhallah!! Is this not a great reward? Allah SWT remembering us? Can anyone say they dont want this? This is what Sufis try to attain... I know when I say Sufi, alot of things come to mind, namely the common stereotypes of grave worshipping, singing, dancing etc etc but I can tell you non of that is Part of Sufism. The Sufi Aims for Peace.

If Dhikr doesn't lead you to peace or satisfy you then what will?
All Else I can say is Ask the people of Dhikr. Inshallah this helps in some way.

wasalam