Knowing sex of baby?

[Medievalist]

:salams
aint really a parenting thread but its connected methinks.

Nowadays at abt the 20 weeks scan they can tell you the sex of babby? Anyone been in this situation - what did you decide to do?

I wanna know but I dont wanna know aswell cos I want it to be a raaat surprise when he/she is born. But she wants to know. If she knows then I'll work out from her behaviour afterwards what it is (or she could be acting to put me off and then I'll assume its the wrong gender). Or if she does know then somedays I'll like insist she tell me and if she wont tell I'll be angry, and if she does tell then I'll be angry aswell :scratch: cos she ruins the surprise.

Either way its a no-win situation for her. I dont wanna know but I wish she didnt wanna know either then it'd be easier innit, but I feel bad forbidding her to find out but if I let her find out then I'll end up finding out.


arghhhh

what d;ya reckon? In one way I really wanna know cos I wanna know innit, but then I dont. understand?

[THE PATH 2]

:confused::inlove:

women can sense differences in pregnancy with different sexes:rubeyes:

the girls seemed ..easier

[urban_rose]

:salams
aint really a parenting thread but its connected methinks.

Nowadays at abt the 20 weeks scan they can tell you the sex of babby? Anyone been in this situation - what did you decide to do?

I wanna know but I dont wanna know aswell cos I want it to be a raaat surprise when he/she is born. But she wants to know. If she knows then I'll work out from her behaviour afterwards what it is (or she could be acting to put me off and then I'll assume its the wrong gender). Or if she does know then somedays I'll like insist she tell me and if she wont tell I'll be angry, and if she does tell then I'll be angry aswell :scratch: cos she ruins the surprise.

Either way its a no-win situation for my her. I dont wanna know but I wish she didnt wanna know either then it'd be easire innit, but I feel bad forbidding her to find out but if I let her find out then I'll end up finding out.


arghhhh

what d;ya reckon? In one way I really wanna know cos I wanna know innit, but then I dont. understand?

wa alaikum salaam

:scratch: id say go with your wife's decision :up:

[Medievalist]

:confused::inlove:

women can sense differences in pregnancy with different sexes:rubeyes:

the girls seemed ..easier

ppl have loads of funnay theories. If the wife jumps about a lot and dances then its a girl, if the husband looks at girls a lot then its a girl in his house aswell. etc etc.

dont know abt all that. just bloody confused man. did you find out yr kids before birth?

wa alaikum salaam

:scratch: id say go with your wife's decision :up:

thank you. when u had yrs did you find out?

[urban_rose]

thank you. when u had yrs did you find out?

ermm, im not even married, akhi :smack: i was just giving my opinion :o

[Medievalist]

ermm, im not even married, akhi :smack: i was just giving my opinion :o

:jkk: sorry. you seem wise.

[GuCcI]

uhhh its more fun if its a surprise. its exciting and i think thats why she wants to know but if its a girl u want to know so u can buy all the pink stuff!!! hmmm.... oh well just stink to sage green and yellow. let her find out and make a pact not to tell you but it would be so much more fun if u both could be surprised together. spwecial moment :love:

[THE PATH 2]

ppl have loads of funnay theories. If the wife jumps about a lot and dances then its a girl, if the husband looks at girls a lot then its a girl in his house aswell. etc etc.

dont know abt all that. just bloody confused man. did you find out yr kids before birth?



thank you. when u had yrs did you find out?

the hormonal differences are noticeabe by the missus


did i find out?..
i noticed they dont tell asians
must think were all hindus:rolleyes:

[Medievalist]

uhhh its more fun if its a surprise. its exciting and i think thats why she wants to know but if its a girl u want to know so u can buy all the pink stuff!!! hmmm.... oh well just stink to sage green and yellow. let her find out and make a pact not to tell you but it would be so much more fun if u both could be surprised together. spwecial moment :love:

She wants to know cos she wants a boy desperately. Exactl should be a joint decision innit, but when both parties have opposite preferences kinda hard. She'll say no she doesnt wanna know for me but I want her to say no for herself. women **roll eyes**

Anyway if she found out then her behaviour would explain everything. Smiles and laughter and excessive joking around - son. guaranteed.

[Medievalist]

the hormonal differences are noticeabe by the missus


did i find out?..
i noticed they dont tell asians
must think were all hindus:rolleyes:

first pregnancy so nowt to compare with really innit. she's sure its a boy though cos apparently everyone in her house has sons first (her mom and sisters all had boys first)

[Abu 'Abdullaah]

We didn't find out 'til the day. Makes it a little bit more special in my opinion.

[GuCcI]

She wants to know cos she wants a boy desperately. Exactl should be a joint decision innit, but when both parties have opposite preferences kinda hard. She'll say no she doesnt wanna know for me but I want her to say no for herself. women **roll eyes**

Anyway if she found out then her behaviour would explain everything. Smiles and laughter and excessive joking around - son. guaranteed.


awwww choo chweeet :p oh well. u can make the next one a surprise then :) inshallah

[Medievalist]

We didn't find out 'til the day. Makes it a little bit more special in my opinion.

seen. thats what I think aswell. and hospital staff themselves were talking as though we gonna keep it a surprise. other thing is there is room for slight error innit, imagine how confusing for a kid if momma calling him by a gyals name :rubeyes: or vica versa

[THE PATH 2]

first pregnancy

MASHAALLAH..MASHAALLAH:hidban:

MAY mother and baby be in good health and may child..twins ,triplets:D be pious

AND may you bring up a big box of mithai oop to dewsbury:)..this summer

[Medievalist]

awwww choo chweeet :p oh well. u can make the next one a surprise then :) inshallah

lol - I dont mind what second kid is, just the first one has to be a boy inshaALLAH. :rubeyes:

[Medievalist]

MASHAALLAH..MASHAALLAH:hidban:

MAY mother and baby be in good health and may child..twins ,triplets:D be pious

AND may you bring up a big box of mithai oop to dewsbury:)..this summer


lol - only a single babby. alhamdulillah.

my cousin sista getting married in dbury in july. bring it then inshaALLAH :p


btw i wasnt in sheff on weekend so cudnt link ya.

[GuCcI]

lol - I dont mind what second kid is, just the first one has to be a boy inshaALLAH. :rubeyes:

well the he or she inside is already determined to be a he or she so theres nothing u can do just pray he or she is healthy inshallah grows up to be pious and make mommy and daddy proud cuz in the end thats wat matters most

[Medievalist]

well the he or she inside is already determined to be a he or she so theres nothing u can do just pray he or she is healthy inshallah grows up to be pious and make mommy and daddy proud cuz in the end thats wat matters most

obviously. thats the most important thing, health and imaan. innit. but from a practicality level its easier to have a son first and then as many daughters as ALLAH pleases cos a son can take his mum/sisters shopping whereas if its just daughters then rests on me ALL the time innit.:coolbro:

[Zesty]

I would want to know only cos im sad and already have names for my babies inshaAllah and so would want to start referring to my "bump" with a name BUT i have always said id rather wait and be surprised :inlove:

[dhakiyya]

seen. thats what I think aswell. and hospital staff themselves were talking as though we gonna keep it a surprise. other thing is there is room for slight error innit, imagine how confusing for a kid if momma calling him by a gyals name :rubeyes: or vica versa

they get it wrong quite often...... my cousin had no name for several days because the sonographer was *sooo sure* she was a boy..... they had blue clothes n everything...... then she was a girl mashaAllah. In the end they named her after the midwife :up:

I also heard of a couple in the same situation... they had blue clothes all ingraved with a little boy's name........ n it was a girl :rubeyes:

Plus I don't think its healthy for her to be sooooooo desperate for a boy.... sounds kind of jahil... are her family putting pressure on her for not having a boy first time or something? (you've already got a little girl or am I mixing you up with someone else :scratch: ) Its kind of natural to want the opposite gender when you've had one... but I'd advise you have a chat with your wife about what if its a girl. Cause it won't be healthy for a little girl if she's met with disappointment :crying: or for any child whose parent wanted the other gender.

There was one family on house of tiny tearaways where the behavour problems in their son was due to the mother having had a late miscarriage of a baby girl (knew the gender in advance) and then was so sure in her second pregnancy that she was having another girl (kind of subconsiously wanted a replacement for the first baby girl) - then she had a boy and was very disappointed like "where's my baby girl" and didn't bond with him because of this, the little boy was very unhappy and misbehaved a lot and mum couldn't cope. Then after Dr Tanya got her to overcome her grief for her first little baby girl, she was able to bond with her little boy mashaAllah.

Anyway I'm sure in your wife's case its not as drastic as that but I still think she needs to make sure she isn't going to be disappointed with a little girl inshaAllah.

[Medievalist]

lol. nah you're confusing me with someone else. aint got any kids yet. I didnt realise that they made mistakes that often - thought it was like 90% accurate. If its not even that accurate then there's no point innit, better to treat babby as neatral rather than fill his.her head with wrong gender things innit.

Nah - no1s putting pressure on her too much. Sometimes I say to her that she'll give our house its first grandson but also say that doesnt matter if its a girl or a boy. She just herself doesnt like girls so much - she says they dont grow up well in UK and we'll always be worrying abt em. But it aint anything drastic or owt. :)

[GuCcI]

obviously. thats the most important thing, health and imaan. innit. but from a practicality level its easier to have a son first and then as many daughters as ALLAH pleases cos a son can take his mum/sisters shopping whereas if its just daughters then rests on me ALL the time innit.:coolbro:

THATS wat ur worried about?! dont wanna take ur wife shopping??? :rotfl:

[dhakiyya]

thats good. Anyway the minute inshaAllah she sees the baby she'll fall in love with him or her inshaAllah and forget any gender preferences.

From my own experience I didn't have a preference, but sooooo many people told me all kind of random stuff meant I was having a boy... old wives tales lol... but I was 75% sure I was having a boy..... even imagined what he'd look like..... then when I say my baby girl, I was all :inlove: my beautiful baby girl :inlove: and forgot about any imaginary boy baby that never existed lol.

[Zesty]

lol. nah you're confusing me with someone else. aint got any kids yet. I didnt realise that they made mistakes that often - thought it was like 90% accurate. If its not even that accurate then there's no point innit, better to treat babby as neatral rather than fill his.her head with wrong gender things innit.

Nah - no1s putting pressure on her too much. Sometimes I say to her that she'll give our house its first grandson but also say that doesnt matter if its a girl or a boy. She just herself doesnt like girls so much - she says they dont grow up well in UK and we'll always be worrying abt em. But it aint anything drastic or owt. :)

:rotfl: :rolleyes: puhlease! gimme a break-ive never heard such rubbish in mu life. Aaahh well, im not going to start an arguement on your nice thread- your views/your wives are your own. The onus of instilling Deen, values and principles in a child are on the parents. Whether that be in England, Pakistan, or Timbucktoo and whether its a girl or boy means [edit] all.

InshaAllah Allah (swt) bless you with pious, happy and healthy children. Ameen.

[Medievalist]

THATS wat ur worried about?! dont wanna take ur wife shopping??? :rotfl:

the husband has to look to the future. If a man has daughters and wife and no mature sons - all he pressure is on him. He has to take em every where - its easier when you have sons as older kids cos they protect your wife and daughters if you aint around innit :up:

:rotfl: :rolleyes: puhlease! gimme a break-ive never heard such rubbish in mu life. Aaahh well, im not going to start an arguement on your nice thread- your views/your wives are your own. The onus of instilling Deen, values and principles in a child are on the parents. Whether that be in England, Pakistan, or Timbucktoo and whether its a girl or boy means [edit] all.

InshaAllah Allah (swt) bless you with pious, happy and healthy children. Ameen.

you rubbish my wifes concerns and then say you aint gonna start an argument. cant have yr cake and eat it. whatever my wifes concerns are in regards daughters are valid for her and valid for the UK. regardless of others fantasies. and it also depends on a persons perception.

[Zesty]

Apologies if you were offended. In my opinion its rubbish but obviously if your wife and you believe such a thing and have reasons then that is up to you and is your business. I just think its a rather uncalled for generalisation about Uk born muslimahs.

Worry about daughters is a universal phenomena, its not exclusive to England and the West and neither will it ever be the case.
Like i said- i dont wish to argue. I am sincerely sorry if you felt i was purposely trying to cause hurt.

[ze leetle elper]

Our beloved Prophet (peace and blessing be upon him) had 4 daughters, whom he loved like no father could ever love a child. Period.

[Abu 'Abdullaah]

Period.Doesn't quite have the same impact when it's written down...

[curious_man]

am going to have baby soon - well my wife is going to have my baby soon.

I already have a son. but where first time I really wanted a son and got one alhumdulillah. now am ok either way. I have a cute niece and when I see her I want a daughter and when I see one of my fav nephews I want a boy lol...

[seven]

people should not get their hopes up too high for wanting a certain gender... otherwise the day the child is born, which should be one of the happiest days of your life, may end up in disappointment if the baby wasn't the gender you hoped for.

[neelu]

seen. thats what I think aswell. and hospital staff themselves were talking as though we gonna keep it a surprise. other thing is there is room for slight error innit, imagine how confusing for a kid if momma calling him by a gyals name :rubeyes: or vica versa

A woman I know was told during her scan that she'd have a girl (bear in mind at that time the woman had about 7 daughters and no sons) and to her surprise, she gave birth to a boy! She said she was so shocked that in the early days after he was born, she kept opening his nappy to double check :rotfl: So scans can occassionally get it wrong too. My gut feeling is to keep it a surprise inshallah.

[sunrise]

it's a deciosn u both have 2 make... dont deny her the chance2.... try and maybe convince her2 wait... but if not dont make it a bad experience for her, the woman has renough on her plate with morning sickness every day... having bad pains from contractions, having to go toilet every 5 mins and puking from bad smells, cravings for weird things, most lilely gaining a few pounds

and what does she have 2 look forward2... pain in labour maybe up to 50 hours labour, extremem birth pain... ufff atleast u can have somer mercy n stop being so selfish :p

[MG]

please stop saying u want it to be a boy and it "has to be a boy" , look how many children around us are born dead, handicapped,brain damaged? do u think there parents care if its a boy or girl? they would give anything to have a healthy child.

I know one sister had a girl (1st baby) her husband rang his father in law to tell him and the father in law went onto say "could have given us some good news son" :rolleyes:


Please drop these jaahil attitudes of it being a boy and what great things he will do for family , inshallah that will happen whether its a boy or a girl.

bro med, u should be working on helping ur wife drop this infatuation of wanting it to be a boy but u seem to have to have instead jumped on the bandwagon with her.

Concentrate on making dua that your baby is born healthy inshallah.

May allah swt grant u a pious, healthy and righteous child ameen.

[beamz]

As long as the baby is healthy i don't mind, even if they are all girls. My cousin has 5 girls and she's heard that hes thinking of getting married because he wants a boy, problem is she has really long, painful births, last baby girl she had her husband did'nt go out for aweek because he was really upset.

[sunrise]

please stop saying u want it to be a boy and it "has to be a boy" , look how many children around us are born dead, handicapped,brain damaged? do u think there parents care if its a boy or girl? they would give anything to have a healthy child.

I know one sister had a girl (1st baby) her husband rang his father in law to tell him and the father in law went onto say "could have given us some good news son" :rolleyes:


Please drop these jaahil attitudes of it being a boy and what great things he will do for family , inshallah that will happen whether its a boy or a girl.

bro med, u should be working on helping ur wife drop this infatuation of wanting it to be a boy but u seem to have to have instead jumped on the bandwagon with her.

Concentrate on making dua that your baby is born healthy inshallah.

May allah swt grant u a pious, healthy and righteous child ameen.


u know what's funnnnny... it's actually the male gene that determines the gender of the baby

eat that with ur 'good news of a boy' rubbish

healthy happy baby = best baby

not boy or girl :smack:

[Noor_Usman]

Asalamalikum.

I wouldn't want to know the gender and I wouldn't want to know the "chances" of it being handicapped in anyway.

Discussed this with my best friend when she had her daughter and she was the opposite...she wanted to know everything so she could prepair :rolleyes: All I want is my baby to make it full term and be healthy enough :) If I got told "statistically there is a 30% chance that your baby will have downs sydrome" then I'd spend the next 6 months trying to convince myself I'm strong enough to deal with that....and the baby may be fine....or it may have been fine and my worrying caused it to be born weak :nervous:

[sunrise]

Asalamalikum.

I wouldn't want to know the gender and I wouldn't want to know the "chances" of it being handicapped in anyway.

Discussed this with my best friend when she had her daughter and she was the opposite...she wanted to know everything so she could prepair :rolleyes: All I want is my baby to make it full term and be healthy enough :) If I got told "statistically there is a 30% chance that your baby will have downs sydrome" then I'd spend the next 6 months trying to convince myself I'm strong enough to deal with that....and the baby may be fine....or it may have been fine and my worrying caused it to be born weak :nervous:

isnt tht only if ur like 30 or above? )female)

[Ebony]

Some people want to know so they can start planning names, and getting clothes and paint the room etc

Hard in your situation Medi :p But why not make a "deal" whereby you dont find out the sex of the baby until in the final trimester? That way the "surprise" factor will have been there and she'll get to find out beforehand if its a boy or a girl.

Everyone happy! :D

[Noor_Usman]

isnt tht only if ur like 30 or above? )female)

No, where I am they take your bloods just before your 3 months scan as routine regardless of age to "test for problems" however in actual fact they can only give you statistics/probability :rolleyes:

[Cristiana]

At the beginning my husband didn't want to find out so I said I'd also wait until delivery... but I changed my mind.

At the 20 weeks scan we had agreed I'd ask him to leave the room to know the verdict and I wouldn't tell anyone in Britain (to avoid spoiling the surprise for him).

But at the end of the day he was too curious and he was like: "mmmmm... nevermond, you can say it... I'll stay too...:D".

He said the image was so clear he could spot the baby's thingy anyway:up:

Another thing akhi: In my case it wasn't only curiosity... it is our first child and we need to buy baby clothes and everything, and I really didn't like most of the unisex stuff (and there is very little choice...). I wanted to know who I was shopping for so I could be more prepared and I wouldn't have to send my husband alone once the baby is born.

And at the beginning of the pregnancy it is just a "lump"...then you start feeling it and it becomes a person in your heart...and I really wanted to know "who I was loving", if you know what I mean...

[neelu]

isnt tht only if ur like 30 or above? )female)

Not necessarily. Women in their early twenties can have kids with DS too but statistically the risk is greater in older women, particularly the over 40s.

[Cristiana]

Why daughters worry parents more than sons??? (=sexist ---> girls are not weaker/more inclined to sin)

ARE WE KIDDING PEOPLE??????

[Noor_Usman]

TBH my perfect family in my mind is 3 kids....2 boys - 1 girl :rolleyes: I just like boys more :outta: (yea yea I know they're a handful :inlove: ) Don't care what order they come in...and hey if I have all girls then I guess it aint the end of the world lol!

[sunrise]

this thread is going to make me cry wallahi... the sexism is KILLING ME...

u know what ppl a sign of qiyama is that there will be more females than men and we are not exactly getting any further from it

so deal with it, if ur wife gets 10 girls and no boys alhamdulilah! what about the hadith that says if a father takes care of 2/3 daugthers(different narrations) and brings them up well he will enter jannah

boys boys boys bleerrrrhhhhhh... who cares, healthy baby healthy baby inshAllah!

[Loobna]

I think I'd prefer to not find out if its a girl or boy - more exciting that way :) However I do understand why people want to find out, one reason could be that they want to prepare things which I suppose is valid.

When my mum was expecting my brother she found out if if she was having a girl or boy - I think one of the reasons she did was to sort of 'mentally prepare' because after all if you've got all girls and you want a boy and its gonna be a girl its maybe good to know so you dont feel like 'oh I wanted a boy now...' My mum found out and then asked my dad if he wanted to know - at first he didnt then I think curiousity got the better of him...he didnt believe it though lol. My mum also asked us (my sisters and I) if we wanted to know - as the eldest I got the final say :D and decided that we shouldnt know - my parents didnt do a good job of hiding it though lol...buying boys school shoes in the sale when we went shopping :rolleyes: As for the rest of being prepared and buying stuff - we only bought blue stuff after my bro was born ( coz my dad couldnt believe it was gonna be a boy)...actually we bought nearly all the baby stuff after my bro was born (it was so weird coz we'd never been in the boys section of the shops!)...and rang most ppl up to tell them we now had a brother when they didnt even know we were expecting a new arrival lol...was just the way things went :)

As long as the baby is healthy it doesnt matter whether its a girl or boy -all babies are cute and lovely :inlove: - and whether they be a boy-baby or girl-baby, they're gonna love their mummy and daddy just the same :) I would say that if you're going to find out or if you choose to not find out - make sure its a decision you come to one way round for both of you - would make it kind of nicer so you can share more in the preparations rather than one person knowing that they’re gonna want pink stuff/blue stuff and not being able to buy any really cute stuff they see as the other person will find out (baby clothes are sooo cute btw lol I kept a few of my brother's little clothes :o, tiny shirts and baby shoes :inlove:)
There are many people who cannot have any children so be grateful to Allah, whatever he gives you and remember even if you want to plan and say you'll have girls first and then boys or the other way round - Allah's planning is far better than anything we can come up with :)

[Noor_Usman]

Awww hun I'm sure it's just because "good girls like naughty boys" :up:
Like I said I do have an 'ideal picture' which is probably NEVER going to happen but as long as my kids are healthy inshallah then I don't care and I wont be getting sexing scan to go and get all pink or blue stuff :D

[Arsalan]

They dont tell Pakis the sex of the baby, well they didn't with me anyway. Prob coz i look like a villager.. :(

[MG]

He Who raisies three Sisters

It is narrated by Abu saeed al-Khudri ra that the messenger of Allah saw said, "If anyone has three daughters or three sisters and he takes kind care of them then (because of the kind treatment) he will surely enter paradise.

(Ahmed)


Explanation:

The previous ahadith disclosed that if anyone, male or female , has the responsibility of daughters over there shoulders and they discharge it well then the girls become the means of their salvation and admittance to paradise. This hadith mentions sisters too with daughters as responsible for admittance to paradise of their brother who looks after them. These ahadith quote the messenger allah saw as saying that it is not only the right of the girls to be given kind treatment but that allah swt will reward the benefactor parent or brother with entry into paradise and salvation from hell. In another hadith, he is reported to have assured that such a person will be near him and with him on the day of resurrection just as the fingers of the hands are close to one another.


It is Bad to Hope for Death of Daughters

Sayyidina Ibn Umar ra has said that a man who had (some) daughters wished for their death. So, Ibn Umar ra was (much) angered at him and asked him. "Is it that you feed them?"



Explanation:

Sayyidina Ibn Umar ra meant to tellhim that only Allah swt feeds all his creation. Parents must not imagine that they feed their children, for Allah swt alone feeds the parents and their children and everyone else. He is the Sustainer and nourisher of all the creatures. In fact, it is stated in a hadith, "You are fed because of the weak aming you." This means that one must not suppose that he feeds the infants, the handicapped and crippled, the old and infirm all of whom cannot earn a living, who are weak and helpless. He must not get it into his head that he is instrumental in getting them their sustenance. Rather, he must realise that he is fed because of those people who reside with him and if they did not reside in his house, he would not have received his own sustenance. He must not consider those helpless people a burden on himself but he must be grateful to them that because of them Allah swt feeds him too.



One Who Brings Up Daughters:

Ibn Abbas ra reports Allah's Rasul saw as saying," If any muslim has two daughters who have come of age and he treats them kindly so long as they live with him, Allah will guarantee him jannah (by virtue of his good behaviour to them).

Jabir-ibn Abdullah ra reports Allah's Rasul saw as saying," If anyone has three daughters and he gives shelter to them and gives them sufficient food and protects them, and treats them mercifully, he will definitely enter jannah. A man of some tribe asked, " if anyone has two daughters, O' Rasul of Allah?" He saw replied. " It also applies to two"

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad , Imam Bukhari)

[dhakiyya]

They dont tell Pakis the sex of the baby, well they didn't with me anyway. Prob coz i look like a villager.. :(

thats because certain people of a particular religion, some of whose adherants think that abortion is okay because they believe in re-encarnation so they're just sending their baby girls to a new incarnation so its okay for them to kill the girls to avoid the "shame" of not having a boy. And if they can't get the abortion here cause baby's too old they'll go to India to have it.

Because of this, many health authorities no longer tell Indian/pakistani/etc families what gender baby they're having.

[Arsalan]

thats because certain people of a particular religion, some of whose adherants think that abortion is okay because they believe in re-encarnation so they're just sending their baby girls to a new incarnation so its okay for them to kill the girls to avoid the "shame" of not having a boy. And if they can't get the abortion here cause baby's too old they'll go to India to have it.

Because of this, many health authorities no longer tell Indian/pakistani/etc families what gender baby they're having.

Yeh i know. They cant be persuaded otherwise -theyre pretty professional about it - in the ultrasound lab. But its a known fact that pakistanies do it too - which is very sad.

[Arsalan]

He Who raisies three Sisters

It is narrated by Abu saeed al-Khudri ra that the messenger of Allah saw said, "If anyone has three daughters or three sisters and he takes kind care of them then (because of the kind treatment) he will surely enter paradise.

(Ahmed)


Explanation:

The previous ahadith disclosed that if anyone, male or female , has the responsibility of daughters over there shoulders and they discharge it well then the girls become the means of their salvation and admittance to paradise. This hadith mentions sisters too with daughters as responsible for admittance to paradise of their brother who looks after them. These ahadith quote the messenger allah saw as saying that it is not only the right of the girls to be given kind treatment but that allah swt will reward the benefactor parent or brother with entry into paradise and salvation from hell. In another hadith, he is reported to have assured that such a person will be near him and with him on the day of resurrection just as the fingers of the hands are close to one another.


It is Bad to Hope for Death of Daughters

Sayyidina Ibn Umar ra has said that a man who had (some) daughters wished for their death. So, Ibn Umar ra was (much) angered at him and asked him. "Is it that you feed them?"



Explanation:

Sayyidina Ibn Umar ra meant to tellhim that only Allah swt feeds all his creation. Parents must not imagine that they feed their children, for Allah swt alone feeds the parents and their children and everyone else. He is the Sustainer and nourisher of all the creatures. In fact, it is stated in a hadith, "You are fed because of the weak aming you." This means that one must not suppose that he feeds the infants, the handicapped and crippled, the old and infirm all of whom cannot earn a living, who are weak and helpless. He must not get it into his head that he is instrumental in getting them their sustenance. Rather, he must realise that he is fed because of those people who reside with him and if they did not reside in his house, he would not have received his own sustenance. He must not consider those helpless people a burden on himself but he must be grateful to them that because of them Allah swt feeds him too.



One Who Brings Up Daughters:

Ibn Abbas ra reports Allah's Rasul saw as saying," If any muslim has two daughters who have come of age and he treats them kindly so long as they live with him, Allah will guarantee him jannah (by virtue of his good behaviour to them).

Jabir-ibn Abdullah ra reports Allah's Rasul saw as saying," If anyone has three daughters and he gives shelter to them and gives them sufficient food and protects them, and treats them mercifully, he will definitely enter jannah. A man of some tribe asked, " if anyone has two daughters, O' Rasul of Allah?" He saw replied. " It also applies to two"

(Al-Adab Al-Mufrad , Imam Bukhari)





JazakAllah khair for this, everyons should read and print it out and remember it.

Gives me more motivation or happiness to have 2 daughters inshAllah at least. Save me from hell hopefully!!!

[dhakiyya]

Yeh i know. They cant be persuaded otherwise -theyre pretty professional about it - in the ultrasound lab. But its a known fact that pakistanies do it too - which is very sad.

Yes very sad indeed :( especially as being Muslims they should know better.

[Ebony]

Most P'stani's if they had a choice between a girl or a boy - would prefer a boy. He'd be seen as being responsible and a support for his father and mother.

Girls are nice and pretty - help mummy out with the housework. but in bigger stakes in terms of bringing income into the home they are considered quite the burden.

Sad but true. Pathetic attitudes really.

[Saudi Prince]

What's the point of knowing the gender of the baby?

[sunrise]

thats because certain people of a particular religion, some of whose adherants think that abortion is okay because they believe in re-encarnation so they're just sending their baby girls to a new incarnation so its okay for them to kill the girls to avoid the "shame" of not having a boy. And if they can't get the abortion here cause baby's too old they'll go to India to have it.

Because of this, many health authorities no longer tell Indian/pakistani/etc families what gender baby they're having.

wow they r that open about it?

[Ebony]

Yep I heard the same. If you are of SE Asian background they refuse to tell you.

Too right an' all for all those idiots who start planning abortions at finding out its a girl.

[dhakiyya]

What's the point of knowing the gender of the baby?

so you can buy all the right colour clothes in advance.

Though personally I preferred it to be a surprise, I had lots of white, green and yellow clothes bought for my daughter before she was born mashaAllah, then after she was born mashaAllah, people bought pink clothes for her mashaAllah. I only had to buy boring stuff like vests and babygros. She is the first child of her generation in my family so has two great grandmothers, two sets of grandparents and various aunties and uncles all wanting to buy her stuff mashaAllah

[ummbilal]

A woman I know was told during her scan that she'd have a girl (bear in mind at that time the woman had about 7 daughters and no sons) and to her surprise, she gave birth to a boy! She said she was so shocked that in the early days after he was born, she kept opening his nappy to double check :rotfl: So scans can occassionally get it wrong too. My gut feeling is to keep it a surprise inshallah.

Subhannallah!!!!!!!!!!!

well i've had 3 boys Allhumdulilah and never asked the sex of the baby in the scan, however i am pregnant again and this time we asked, and they said its another boy, Allhumdulilah, I know they can get it wrong and it happens often but if its a girl i'd be happy too!

I wouldnt recommend finding out for the first baby, i only asked out of curiosity as we have 3 boys and early on in the pregnancy, i dreamt that the baby told me he was a boy and what his name is.;)

[MG]

Subhannallah!!!!!!!!!!!

well i've had 3 boys Allhumdulilah and never asked the sex of the baby in the scan, however i am pregnant again and this time we asked, and they said its another boy, Allhumdulilah, I know they can get it wrong and it happens often but if its a girl i'd be happy too!

I wouldnt recommend finding out for the first baby, i only asked out of curiosity as we have 3 boys and early on in the pregnancy, i dreamt that the baby told me he was a boy and what his name is.;)


aww mashallah sis that is so cute (what did he say his name is?)

[ummbilal]

His name is Ibrahim and Allahu alam..now if i have a girl i think i will:shock::nerdsis: lol!!

[muslimma]

His name is Ibrahim and Allahu alam..now if i have a girl i think i will:shock::nerdsis: lol!!

LOL what do ya think of the name he's chosen ;);) :D

[neelu]

He Who raisies three Sisters
It is narrated by Abu saeed al-Khudri ra that the messenger of Allah saw said, "If anyone has three daughters or three sisters and he takes kind care of them then (because of the kind treatment) he will surely enter paradise.

(Ahmed)


If that's the case, then my brother's a lucky man (and my Dad come to think of it:)).

[ummbilal]

the baby didnt choose anything, subhannallah, everything comes from Allah, we'd already decided the name should be the name of a Prophet we hadnt decided one but Allhumdulilah, Ibrahim was one of the greatest men to ever live and Allahu alam.

[Dappodan1]

My First child :Khadija Fatima Aasia Maryam we didint know until she was born, my mother dreamt it would be a girl.

Second child : Zayn Al Abideen developed kidney problems in the womb associated with male boys so the condition gave the sex away prior to birth. My wife noticed a very different pregnancy to the first and always felt it was a boy even before being told

Third child (yet to be born Mid March Inshallah) Name already chosen Sommaya Khawla Naseebah, wife knew before the ultrasound that it was a girl by pregnancy.

[Cristiana]

the baby didnt choose anything, subhannallah, everything comes from Allah, we'd already decided the name should be the name of a Prophet we hadnt decided one but Allhumdulilah, Ibrahim was one of the greatest men to ever live and Allahu alam.

Ibrahim is a beautiful name masha'Allah! ...a few days ago my husband was like "hmmmm...:idea: I think we should call the next one Ibrahim or Hassan" and I was :eek:let us deal with #1 first shall we????:wacko:

Anyway, in my experience it is also Arabs that love having boys, especially the first born. When we found outwe were having a boy, everybody told me "wow your husband must be so happy!" and yes he was, but because we are having "A BABY"..:S

I think If I had all girls alhamdulillah I'd be very pleased, if I had only boys alhamdulillah but maybe I'd miss another woman in the house...:o

[ummbilal]

Ibrahim is a beautiful name masha'Allah! ...a few days ago my husband was like "hmmmm...:idea: I think we should call the next one Ibrahim or Hassan" and I was :eek:let us deal with #1 first shall we????:wacko:

Anyway, in my experience it is also Arabs that love having boys, especially the first born. When we found outwe were having a boy, everybody told me "wow your husband must be so happy!" and yes he was, but because we are having "A BABY"..:S

I think If I had all girls alhamdulillah I'd be very pleased, if I had only boys alhamdulillah but maybe I'd miss another woman in the house...:o

I miss someone to come with me to the sisters section in the masjid, they all go with daddy and even though i have my muslim sisters there i miss having my children with me!:(

The house is extreemly mascaline, my eldest is getting more like his father every day though he looks like me mashallah!

Many Muslim men love sons, nut Allhumdulilah my husband is happy with babies! they just all happen to be male lol!

[Saudi Prince]

so you can buy all the right colour clothes in advance.

Though personally I preferred it to be a surprise, I had lots of white, green and yellow clothes bought for my daughter before she was born mashaAllah, then after she was born mashaAllah, people bought pink clothes for her mashaAllah. I only had to buy boring stuff like vests and babygros. She is the first child of her generation in my family so has two great grandmothers, two sets of grandparents and various aunties and uncles all wanting to buy her stuff mashaAllah


But do you really think this is a good reason to know the gender? Can't the parents buy a unisex clothes for their baby? Come on!

[dhakiyya]

But do you really think this is a good reason to know the gender? Can't the parents buy a unisex clothes for their baby? Come on!

I had unisex clothes before she was born, and kept it as a surprise. I was just explaining the reason why some parents choose to find their gender. InshaAllah I'll leave your question for those parents to answer.

[Dappodan1]

I personally dont know why we said yes when asked about finding out, it was just a spur of teh moment thing. didnt know if it had any consequence to it. more importnatly we didnt have the downs syndrome tests etc as it wouldnt make a difference apart form worrying us before the birth.

[Cristiana]

But do you really think this is a good reason to know the gender? Can't the parents buy a unisex clothes for their baby? Come on!

Yes i think so. Simple curiosity is a good enough reason. It doesn't hurt to know does it?

I don't need that kind of surprise on the day, seeing the face of my baby for the very first time is gonna be enough as a surprise insha'Allah:inlove:

[Saudi Prince]

Yes i think so. Simple curiosity is a good enough reason. It doesn't hurt to know does it?

I don't need that kind of surprise on the day, seeing the face of my baby for the very first time is gonna be enough as a surprise insha'Allah:inlove:

Well, how about if you abort the child after knowing that it is a female? Isn't that a good reason to hide this information?

[ummbilal]

we would never abort a child inshaallah

[Dappodan1]

Well, how about if you abort the child after knowing that it is a female? Isn't that a good reason to hide this information?

I can see your point here HijazPrince the global level of female foetal infanticide is like the worlds worst holocaust there like over 100 million missing girls in the world due to aborted foetuses. you could have a point if the choice of knowing a babys sex was universally removed it can go someway to reducing this. but i fear that those who are determined to have a boy would still find out illegally

[mizfissy815]

I don't think I'd want to know...it should be a nice surprise(inshAllah). But something tells me, my curiosity might get the best of me...

[ummbilal]

well if the scanner can see i wonna know what she can see lol!

[MG]

If that's the case, then my brother's a lucky man (and my Dad come to think of it:)).



heres more :) :

He Who raises Two Daughters or One

Sayyidina Jabir bin Abdullah RA said that Messenger of Allah SAW said, “If anyone has there daughters whome he gives shelter and brings them up., showing mercy and compassion to them then paradise is WAJIB (obligatory) for him. (Meaning, he is bound to be admitted there.)” Someone said, “Messenger of Allah SAW! If someone has (only ) two daughters and he looked after them kindly, will he enjoy the same rank?” He SAW said, “To treat two daughters well will fetch him the same rank.”

Majma al-Zawaid


Explanantion

A female child is from the weaker sex and when she grows up she is sent away to hr husband’s house so her father does not benefit from her in any way. A male child is often dearer to parents who are generally neglectful to their daughter. There are such ignorant people too, who call their daughters rubbish of other people’s home, and in the Days of ignorance, the arabs were so cruel to their newborn females that they buried them alive. In contrast, the Prophet SAW exhorted the muslims very forcefully that they should raise their daughters and be assured of a great reward on their upbringing.






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and this one is for those parents who treat their daughters like they are something on the bottom of their shoe, once they are divorced or widow:


Excellence of Spending on One’s Divorced Daughter

Musa bin Ali reported from his father Ali bin Ribah that the Prophet SAW said to Suraqah bin Jushum, “Shall I not tell you what the largest Sadaqah is?” (Or, he SAW said, “shall I not reveal to you a form of the largest sadaqah?”) He said, “Messenger of Allah SAW, certainly reveal it to me.” He SAW said, “That your daughter should return to you (after she is divorced or widowed) and there is no one besides you to look after her(so that is the greatest sadaqah from you)”

Hakim, Ahmad


Sayyidina Miqdam bin Madikarib RA said that he heard the Messenger of Allah SAW say, “Whatever you feed you self is sadaqah. Whatever you feed your children is sadaqah, whatever you feed your wife is sadaqah and whatever you feed your servant is sadaqah.

Ahmad



Explanation

The return of a daughter to her parent’s home may be after she is divorced or her husband has died rendering her a widow or, there may be some other reason for her to return and live with her parents. To look after her and spend money on her in such circumstances would be the most meritorious form of sadaqah. The reason for this being an excellent sadaqah is very evident:there is (i) a sadaqah (ii)help to one in hardship, (iii)joining of ties of kinship, (iv) looking after one’s chilfren and (v) sympathy with the grief stricken.

The Prophet SAW has said that if anyone helps out a person who is in hardship seventy-three ranks of forgiveness are allotted to him. One of these seventy-three is enough to rectify all his affairs and seventy-two will be instrumental in his progress forward and elevation of his rank on the day of resurrection.

In another hadith we are told that the mother of believers, Sayyidah Umm Salamah RA asked the Prophet SAW , “will I earn reward for spending on the children of my first husband Abu Salamah who are with me and who are my own children?” The Prophet SAW told her that she should spend on them for she would earn a reward for that.

The second hadith is narrated by Miqdam bin Madikarib. It again explains that sadaqah is not merely to give to the poor and needy. Rather, a man will receive reward of spending on himself, his wife and children and his servant . The Prophet SAW is quoted in another hadith as having said, “To give charity to a poor is merely sadaqah while to spend on relatives is not only sadaqah but also joining ties of kinship. The more close a relative the greater the reward on spending money on him in order to join bonds of kinship.

[Medievalist]

A woman I know was told during her scan that she'd have a girl (bear in mind at that time the woman had about 7 daughters and no sons) and to her surprise, she gave birth to a boy! She said she was so shocked that in the early days after he was born, she kept opening his nappy to double check :rotfl: So scans can occassionally get it wrong too. My gut feeling is to keep it a surprise inshallah.

:rotfl: lol. mashaALLAH.



bro med, u should be working on helping ur wife drop this infatuation of wanting it to be a boy but u seem to have to have instead jumped on the bandwagon with her.

Concentrate on making dua that your baby is born healthy inshallah.

May allah swt grant u a pious, healthy and righteous child ameen.

I've just said that for a practicality purpose its easier to have a son. Plus I've only got brothers, our house has always been male dominated - dunno what its like having a girl around. lol. and no I dont hate the idea of girls or anything - we just want a son first, my dads first grandson. first waris of our house and that :o but obviously if ALLAH Ta'ala decides a daughter then alhamdulillah aswell. its not like I think a daughters a curse or owt.

Some people want to know so they can start planning names, and getting clothes and paint the room etc

Hard in your situation Medi :p But why not make a "deal" whereby you dont find out the sex of the baby until in the final trimester? That way the "surprise" factor will have been there and she'll get to find out beforehand if its a boy or a girl.

Everyone happy! :D

would work in theory but if everything is ok then inshaALLAH after 20 wk scan there are no more scans. so thats the time to find out really.

At the beginning my husband didn't want to find out so I said I'd also wait until delivery... but I changed my mind.

At the 20 weeks scan we had agreed I'd ask him to leave the room to know the verdict and I wouldn't tell anyone in Britain (to avoid spoiling the surprise for him).

But at the end of the day he was too curious and he was like: "mmmmm... nevermond, you can say it... I'll stay too...:D".

He said the image was so clear he could spot the baby's thingy anyway:up:

Another thing akhi: In my case it wasn't only curiosity... it is our first child and we need to buy baby clothes and everything, and I really didn't like most of the unisex stuff (and there is very little choice...). I wanted to know who I was shopping for so I could be more prepared and I wouldn't have to send my husband alone once the baby is born.

And at the beginning of the pregnancy it is just a "lump"...then you start feeling it and it becomes a person in your heart...and I really wanted to know "who I was loving", if you know what I mean...

I get what you mean. Its like when we saw the scan I was like subhanALLAH subhanALLAH. cudnt believe it. looked so amazing and the little heart going duff duff, duff duff. :inlove: but yeh. it was gud.

[Medievalist]

For the record:

As a muslim and as an Ummatee of Madani Kareem :saw: I believe in Him and His words and there is no possibility of Him :saw: lying. And I have no problem with girls, just saying that I'd prefer a son first. After that ahlan wa sahlan.

[.: Anna :.]

Insha Allah we're gonna find out, I totally don't mind boy or girl but I just wanna know rather than waiting twice as long to know, unless I change my mind on the scan day or something, but I wanna find out to buy some stuff cos the clothes which can be for either boys or girls theres not so much choice in that these days, i think bc most people are finding out so they can make the clothes more for either one not both, and husband is telling me the specific boys or girls stuff looks better so try and wait and buy that stuff than the unisex ones i am looking at these days.
but i just really hope they dont tell the wrong one and we have all the opposite stuff prepared :S

[unique_zenab]

Baby girls are a blessing from Allah swt isnt it? i know all children are but i thought baby girls are more??

Islamicaly wouldnt u prefer ur 1st baby a blessing from Allah swt

i dnt mind what u get given that wat u are given , some camt have kids at all

[Medievalist]

Its a BOY!!! inshaALLAH

:hidban: :hidban: :hidban:

cracked a coconut. lol

They go they get 1 in 20 wrong, which is quite high, but Im thinking its easier to confused a boy for a girl than a girl for a boy.

Anyhoo - names :D:D

Im thinking either:

Muhammad Qasim Qureshi
or
Muhammad Qiyam Qureshi

[ummbilal]

lol!!

Mubaraks bro,

will lil man be known by his second name then?

we know a family of Qureshis all called muhammed but go by their middle names, whats up with that, is it to show love of Prophet saws?

[Al-Farooq]

Masha'Allah Med that's wonderful news!! :)

Mabrooks to your good self and your lady wife! :)

He shoots, he scores! :up:

Sorry. :o

[Raziel]

Its a BOY!!! inshaALLAH

:hidban: :hidban: :hidban:

cracked a coconut. lol

They go they get 1 in 20 wrong, which is quite high, but Im thinking its easier to confused a boy for a girl than a girl for a boy.

Anyhoo - names :D:D

Im thinking either:

Muhammad Qasim Qureshi
or
Muhammad Qiyam Qureshi

:sub: May Allah Ta'ala make him among the Best of Muslims and whom he is well pleased with ... :D

Mubaraks akhi ...:D

AMeen!

:jkk:

[Medievalist]

:D:D

I want to call him by the name - Muhammad. But my family dont do that - normally they call by the middle name.

Aint decided the name yet - was just saying what Im thinking. My mum likes Qasim and Qiyam amongst others. Both have attractive points. Qasim is name of the first son of Prophet :saw: and there was also a big Mawlana called Muhammad Qasim.

But then Qiyam is an unsual name. so we'll see.

[Medievalist]

Som1s suggested a perfect name.

Sher da puttar :rotfl:

[Abu 'Abdullaah]

Qasim is name of the first son of Prophet :saw:

As-salaamu 'Alaikum

First of all, congratulations on the good news, mashaa'Allaah. May Allaah make it easy for you and your wife and bless you with a pious and healthy child. Ameen.

With regards to using the name Qaasim, then you need to be careful about using the Prophet's kunya, Abul-Qaasim (sall-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam).

More details in this thread on Bearing a Kunyah (http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=156096).

[GuCcI]

yaay congratulations :hidban:


if i was u i would go with the unusual/uncommon name :up:

[Loobna]

Congrats bro :) Both Qasim and Qiyam are nice names.

[urban_rose]

Congrats, akhi :D

buuut, if you're gonna name him Muhammad 'something' then call him by the full name inshAllah....thats the best :)

[Noor_Usman]

My nephew is called Qasim - right little trouble maker lol :up: Full of love though :inlove:

[Medievalist]

As-salaamu 'Alaikum

First of all, congratulations on the good news, mashaa'Allaah. May Allaah make it easy for you and your wife and bless you with a pious and healthy child. Ameen.

With regards to using the name Qaasim, then you need to be careful about using the Prophet's kunya, Abul-Qaasim (sall-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam).

More details in this thread on Bearing a Kunyah (http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=156096).


:wswrwb:

:jkk: and ameen

yaay congratulations :hidban:


if i was u i would go with the unusual/uncommon name :up:

:jkk:

thanks for da suggestion.
Congrats bro :) Both Qasim and Qiyam are nice names.

:jkk:

now it may be Muhammad Ibraheem instead. lol

[Medievalist]

Congrats, akhi :D

buuut, if you're gonna name him Muhammad 'something' then call him by the full name inshAllah....thats the best :)

:jkk:

but that name comes out TOO long then. Who's gonna be screaming Muhammad Qasim 24/7

My nephew is called Qasim - right little trouble maker lol :up: Full of love though :inlove:

mashaALLAH

[Ebony]

Congrats Medi! Time to buy all those toy guns and what not :p

[dhakiyya]

MashaAllah brother :up: Ameen to all the duas.

[Medievalist]

Congrats Medi! Time to buy all those toy guns and what not :p

**sprinkles sufi dust on babby**
**roll eyes**

MashaAllah brother :up: Ameen to all the duas.

safe :up:

[thurber]

I honestly didn't want to know.

So the surprise was revealed on the day of arrival. :inlove:

Boy or girl, they are a gift to be treasured.

[Zesty]

Mubarak Ho Medi :) lol I can sense how over the mood you are at it beign a boy :p
Muhammed Ibrahim is an absolutely beautiful name :o
Thye name Qasim is also really lovely. May Allah (swt) grant you a pious, happy and healthy child and many more inshaAllah Ameen!

[perfectpearl]

Mabrook med!!! :up:

[ImaanSeeker]

Congrats Med. I like the name. Ameen to the duas.

[sapphire_blue]

:D:D

I want to call him by the name - Muhammad. But my family dont do that - normally they call by the middle name.
.


If that's what you want then you should always refer to him as Muhammad. From your example others too will call him by his first name, InshaAllah. If they don't then gently correct them . . . :up:

[.: Anna :.]

lol!!

Mubaraks bro,

will lil man be known by his second name then?

we know a family of Qureshis all called muhammed but go by their middle names, whats up with that, is it to show love of Prophet saws?

they do that alot in sri lanka aswell, many ppl have muhammad on the front of their names n go by the middle.

mabrook bro med, alhamdulillah that u got what u were hoping for.

mine is boy aswell most likely, according to the scan... but she didnt say 1 in 20, i think she was less sure than with most scans :confused: (bc view wasnt that clear) so allahu alam, but probly boy :D

[dhakiyya]

If that's what you want then you should always refer to him as Muhammad. From your example others too will call him by his first name, InshaAllah. If they don't then gently correct them . . . :up:


Or you could call him Muhammad Muhammad then people have to call him Muhammad whether they want to call him by his first name or his middle name :D

[Medievalist]

Mubarak Ho Medi :) lol I can sense how over the mood you are at it beign a boy :p
Muhammed Ibrahim is an absolutely beautiful name :o
Thye name Qasim is also really lovely. May Allah (swt) grant you a pious, happy and healthy child and many more inshaAllah Ameen!

MY SON inshaALLAH.

alhamdulillah, ALLAH's given me a lot.

and ameen.

Mabrook med!!! :up:

Congrats Med. I like the name. Ameen to the duas.

:jkk: khay mubarak. btw aint decided on the name, just ideas floating around atm.

If that's what you want then you should always refer to him as Muhammad. From your example others too will call him by his first name, InshaAllah. If they don't then gently correct them . . . :up:

I get ya but in our family its not unusual for a person to be known by more than one name. My bro-in-law is called by both his names by different people, my sis-in-law has 3 names that she's known by etc.

[Medievalist]

they do that alot in sri lanka aswell, many ppl have muhammad on the front of their names n go by the middle.

mabrook bro med, alhamdulillah that u got what u were hoping for.

mine is boy aswell most likely, according to the scan... but she didnt say 1 in 20, i think she was less sure than with most scans :confused: (bc view wasnt that clear) so allahu alam, but probly boy :D

mashaALLAH congratulations aswell. :up:

She was pretty sure she goes with ours that its a boy :confused: .

May ALLAH Ta'ala make our children pious and righteous and better than us - ameen

Or you could call him Muhammad Muhammad then people have to call him Muhammad whether they want to call him by his first name or his middle name :D


:rotfl: :rotfl: great idea dhakiyyah - when you do it then I'll follow suit. :wacko:

jokezz

[Abu 'Abdullaah]

I actually knew a Somali guy called Mohammed Mohammed.

[.: Anna :.]

mashaALLAH congratulations aswell. :up:

She was pretty sure she goes with ours that its a boy :confused: .

May ALLAH Ta'ala make our children pious and righteous and better than us - ameen




:rotfl: :rotfl: great idea dhakiyyah - when you do it then I'll follow suit. :wacko:

jokezz

aameen

yeh i think some scan are more sure than others, depends how baby is positioned n things. n also i think mine was not clear cos i didnt drink enuf water, but i dno if that is a true reason

[Medievalist]

Alhamdulillah felt baby quicken last night. :D:D

She's been feeling for weeks now, but I never felt it innit. Feels amazing, right little tapdancer - lol

[umm_musa]

with both mine we found out, it was so funny, hubby really wanted a boy so they can wrestle together! hubbys also a doctor masha'Allah so him and the sonographer were chatting in med terms and the snographer goes, 'theres the tibia, fibula, the femur-' 'FEMALE!?' 'no femur', 'oh!' i was laughin! bless him we got some scan pics and even the evidence that it was indeed a boy *giggle*
with number 2 we also found out, ad alhamdulillah 2 healthy kids, boy and a girl, so next time i wil wait for a surprise insha'Allah,
And congrats to all new parents and parents to be...
and just to chip in a name suggestion (even though you probably have decided)
i like rayyan, and danyaal and benyameen