In limbo

[Confused03]

I pray this reaches you in the best of health and imaan inshallah.
I am seeking words of advice as I am troubled by conflicting thoughts in my head.
I am in university and alhumdullilah life is good and i have been blessed with much. I have only been practiscing for a year or so alhumdullilah, may Allah guide us all inshallah.But, sometimes it feels as though I am too extreme? I mean this in the sense that, when you read guidelines, or basically what the Quran and Sunnah says, particularly about free-mixing and simply engaging in social acitivities that arnt necesarrily bad, but i could be putting to better use my time e.g going cinemas, out with friends etc etc. When you read the teaching of our Prophet (saw) its all so simple, in black and white. But id ont know whether its as a result of todays society, or what but i dont know exactly what i should follow. I knw this sounds silly and others shouldnt influence your actions. But if everyone around you thinks it is perfectly normal to engage in personal conversation with a non-mahrem, when i think it is something which should be completely refrained from unless necessary, you start becoming a social outcast, extremist even?
Others have the notion of 'youre only young once', so therefore grab every fun opportunity while you can basically...but what about the afterlife, thats more important!?
Im trying hard to practise Islam as it has been put forward by Allah and our Prophet (saw), but its not that simple in todays society.
Because of this i feel weaker in my imaan and just all round deprssed, and i need to sort this out. I have tried kping to praying strictly on time and duas, but some advice on how to deal with this would be nice inshallah..
I need help!

[dhakiyya]

We have a private new Muslims forum so you can talk to other new Muslims about coping with becoming Muslim alhamdulillah. You need inshaAllah to register properly on the forum, then post in helpdesk asking for access to new Muslims, or send a pm to one of the mods (any of us with green names like mine :up: )

All reverts go through this sort of stuff.... some of us have been Muslim for a long time and dealt with all of this stuff so inshaAllah we can help you (yes I am a revert mashaAllah)

[Tosh]

I don't think this is a revert, 'I started practising a year ago.'

Try to find the good Muslim friends who enjoy following Allah's commands and dislike disobeying Allah's commands, or at least the best of those around you, and stick closely with them.

The Prophet (saw) said “The likeness of a righteous friend and an evil friend is the likeness of a (musk) perfume seller and a blacksmith. As for the perfume seller, he may either bestow something on you, or you may purchase something from him, or you may benefit from his sweet smell. And as for the blacksmith, he may either burn your clothes, or you may be exposed to his awful smell.” (Muslim and Bukhari)

With good companions, their goodness will rub off on you, and with bad companions, their badness will rub off on you. This isn't necessarily an innate quality in a person, but if a person generally encourages you to bad things and says something like, "It really isn't that important", "Let's go to the cinema" or "Music isn't that bad" then they have issues, and when we have just changed our ways we don't need this to drag us back to that which is bad for us.

In terms of social interactions, there is a Halal way, in time you will find the way that you are most comfortable with. If most of one's interactions and conversations are haraam, and then we suddenly to stop that, it is difficult. But when we build up halaal interactions and start having good conversations, Alhamdulillah, we find more confidence and contentment in the Deen and find that it is our new friends who help maintain our Imaan and strength.

May Allah guide us all and keep us steadfast on His Deen. May Allah give us good companions and make us good companions to others. Ameen.