really scared...

[really scared]

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Salaam everyone,

Ive been really scared since 25th December, i'm so worried that ive commited Shirk :'( I was really ill on the day and I'm a revert, and had dinner with my family :'( im really scared that its over, though im still praying to Allah...I'm worried thats its over for me :'(

[dhakiyya]

there's nothign wrong with having dinner with your family. All western reverts have the same problem.... keeping the family ties and avoiding haram activities, whilst they're nagging at you to come over for Christmas day.

Shirk is a sin that involves intent - if it was your intent to have dinner with your family and keep family ties then you haven't committed shirk. Even if it had been your intent to celebrate Christmas with your family - I'm not sure if thats technically shirk but anyway its still not right. (i'm sure someone else inshaAllah will clarify) - you know your intent, if your intent was for wrongdoing inshaAllah repent (see below)

The best advice to reverts for Christmas though, if visiting the family is something you can't get out of, is to try to visit on boxing day maybe - make an excuse for Christmas day if you don't think your family can cope with "Christmas is against my religion" (if you have the type of job where some people will have to work on Christmas day - its a really good idea to volunteer, then you have a perfect excuse inshaAllah :up: (oh sorry but I *had* to work, all my colleagues being Christian, I couldn't make *them* work on Christmas day plus I'm getting double overtime rates...(etc)) But any excuse will do inshaAllah. One year me and my husband went on holiday abroad for the whole two weeks of Christmas mashaAllah (to a Muslim country :up: and we didn't even notice when it was Christmas day lol)

In any case......... its NEVER "over for" anyone..... Allah keeps the door to sincere repentance ALWAYS open. No matter what you have done.... provided the repentance is *sincere*and you are trying your best to stop doing whatever sin it is that you did.

Maybe you read the thing that shirk is the only sin that Allah won't forgive....... thats talking about sins that are NOT repented for! because Allah on judgement day can forgive any sin He wills for any reason He wills... this is not limited to sins that have been repented for, in fact there are many things that get sins wiped away. However, Allah said in the Qur'an that He isn't going to forgive shirk (talking about unrepented sins) So if you ever think you did commit shirk then repent sinderely inshaAllah!

On judgement day there are two types of people - sinners and repentant sinners. Its way way way better to be a repentant sinner inshaAllah.

[muhammed_1428]

If it makes you feel any better, my mum made some halal turkey that day, dunno why, maybe its just cheaper... Sure tasted nice though :D

[dhakiyya]

halal Christmas turkey :rotfl: - sorry bro not laughing at you - laughing at the concept of shops getting in stocks of halal turkeys for Christmas time :D

nothing wrong with eating turkey. So long as the intent is no more than to enjoy eating turkey mashaAllah :up:

[muhammed_1428]

lol, indeed!

But yeh turkey is well nice... Chicken is better though IMO :D

[Pro_Candy]

Committed shirk by having dinner with your family? Is there more to it, or is that all?

[anashady]

Huge importance is placed on Marriage, as it is said - a Faithfull and complete marriage is 50% of your deen. What percentage of the remainder do you think respecting your family is?

I know I am talking in simple terms and Islam is a lot more involved - but the best way to look at what you think is a difficult situation - is to simplify your thoughts. No matter what your family background is you must respect them with everything that you are. As for committing Shirk? Brother you must keep yourself well informed regarding your deen and then you won't punish yourself with these thoughts.

This is my 2pence and I wish all the blessing of Allah upon you - your question can only come from someone who's heart is in the right place :)

[Tosh]

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Salaam everyone,

Ive been really scared since 25th December, i'm so worried that ive commited Shirk :'( I was really ill on the day and I'm a revert, and had dinner with my family :'( im really scared that its over, though im still praying to Allah...I'm worried thats its over for me :'(

Shirk - "ascribing partners with Allah," from what you said, I don't think your actions falls into this major sin.

If you mean something else, then please explain. A sincere repentance is the best step, this means: 1) feeling regret, 2) asking Allah for forgiveness (repentance) 3) and sincerely intend never to do it again.

It sounds like you already done 1 and 3, perhaps it is 2 that hasn't been done, but maybe you have.

May Allah give us the concern that you have for your Deen, MashaAllah. Ameen.