Confused Muslim

[mos45763]

Why would God put young children through the very traumatic physiological trauma of being sexually abused and assaulted? Not just on one occasion but 3 times, all being male and the 2 claiming to being "Muslim"? Why then would this child have to grow up with no sense of direction in life? Mother focused on my sisters and boys have a work-a-holic father that is stingy and only provided just enough even though he makes good money? Never there unless it was convenient for him? Why then must this child choose to do drugs and alcohol from the age of 13 till 21 and parents not notice the signs? Then the children must go through a bitter divorce where mom just wants money and the girls? Why must then the child realize that his mother never was a Muslima (eating Pork and wearing a cross). Then wondering why he can't function in society and feels that nobody understands his pain that has never been shared to anyone. Can some1 tell me

[Cashew]

This young man has had a very difficult life and of course feels a great deal of pain and sorrow about his past.

I think it's important for this young man to remember that it was not God, but other people, who did these awful things.

I think it's also very important for this young man to remember that it is not other people who control our destiny, but Almighty God.

It would be very unfortunate were this young man to allow these people who've hurt him decide how he will live his life.

He does not have to give them that power.

The sexual abuse he experienced was no doubt terrible. But the fact remains that he did not allow these experiences to destroy him.

Many people who experience such abuse end their lives either slowly or quickly.

But he has survived.

With faith in God's great mercy, and the proper help from people who are trained to talk with men and women who've been sexually abused, he can do much better than simply survive.

This young man has great strength, but doesn't yet seem to know it.

He should try very hard to find a Muslim psychologist, psychotherapist, or psychiatrist who works specifically with people who've been sexually abused.

He should try equally hard to find a imam familiar with this kind of difficulty and seek his counsel for Muslim ways that he might go about repairing his soul and his relationship with God.

This young man has every reason to believe that he can overcome his past, that he will someday see beyond his sorrow, and will someday live a life in full knowledge of God's mercy and love.

[afsalim]

It is because some people feel that drugs and alcohol is the only way out. But it isn't. Narcotics only gives a person a temporary escape from reality, nothing else. The only way to solve your problems is seek solace in Allah SWT, stand your ground and face your problems.

[Medievalist]

:shock:

Thats a heck of a porridge bro. In the end we have to trust in ALLAH Ta'alas wisdom. He knows better than us why whatever happens, happens. Trust in him.

And you're right - relying on humans is a waste of time. No-one alive today is perfect and can fulfill our needs as we need. In the beginninhg there was only ALLAH and in the end there will only be ALLAH.

[*Love*]

Hello
I'm really sorry to hear this =(
How can I help you or that person? I don't know if you are talking about yourself or on behalf of someone else, but now I will talk to you as it is easier and I am not sure who you are talking about.
Did you try The Child line?
http://www.childline.org.uk/
Did you try to talk with a Councelor regularily, it is better if it is the same counselor.
Do you have some one who listens to you, who you go to, to express your feelings, to talk with, some one who you trust?
I think you need some one to be with you and to talk to =(
You don't have to suffer in silence, you don't have to go through this by yourself, You can consider me your friend, Talk with me whenever you want, I will try as much as I can to help you, you also can PM me.
I Wish you all the best
yours
Love

[RaNdOm]

:salams

:crying: :crying: Allah swt understands his pain, He understands him better than he understands himself...

"Verily, He is the All-Knower of what is in the chests." [67:13]

We created the human, and we know what he whispers to himself. We are closer to him than his jugular vein. [50:16]

Allah swt is all we ever need... just read about His names and attributes http://www.jannah.org/articles/names.html He's every one of them... we just gotta keep that trust inshaAllah

as long as we have ur faith we have everything... listen to this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OE-aIfExBh8&feature=user :inlove:

and i agree with cashew this guy has amazing strength that he might not have realised yet tabarakAllah...

the suffering he's felt to far inshaAllah in the hereafter will be turned into something SO amazing that even he'll be left shocked
it was narrated that Jaabir said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “On the Day of Resurrection, when people who had suffered affliction are given their reward, those who were healthy will wish their skins had been cut to pieces with scissors when they were in the world.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2402. See al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, no. 2206.

just imagine that... wishing ur skin had been cut to pieces with scissors just cos u see how people that suffered are rewarded...wow :rubeyes:but that's our true home... anything that happens to us in this life is just something that'll help determine our end...

hmmm maybe this might help also inshaAllah

http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ref=13610&ln=eng

[*Love*]

Hi mos45763
How are you doing today?
please get back to my post.
Wish to hear from you soon.
Yours
Love