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I was once in love with a beautiful women. Our relationship lasted a number of years. However she was not written for me. Last I heard she married someone else. But even after so long, I still think of her every day. I can't get the memories we shared out of my head. If I was to be honest even now my eyes are filled with tears, and my vision a blur.
I wish things were different, I wish we was still together. I wish I was happy again like I used to be with her. I wish she was my wife, and I her husband. I wish she was here with me right now, instead I feel so frustrated, so alone and oh so empty & depressed all the time. She knew me well, more than anyone else could ever know me.
I can’t forget her.
peace2u
15-12-07, 09:44 AM
I'm sorry to hear that, but sometimes, you just have to let go. What is not meant for will never be for you It is no use in crying over spilled milk. Just try your best to move on and learn from your past.
Peace
Supernova Nebula
15-12-07, 10:38 AM
Why it didnt work out?
Arsalan
15-12-07, 11:42 AM
Brother do you mean woman or women.
MrOnline
15-12-07, 01:33 PM
I can’t forget her.
Neither can you forget Allah, so strengthen your imaan by praying your daily namaaz. Go to jamaat, get a job, keep yourself active, so you don't have to think too much about her. Eventually, you'll have forgotten her and find a nice wife, inshallah. ;)
Habibiya3iny
15-12-07, 02:29 PM
maybe you should try to meet new people
I'm really sorry to read that:(
And I know how it feels
I wish if I can help
But I believe once you will try to look for another one. another love, then you will forget about her eventually , hard though :(
Oh That's realy sad, although you used few words, it touched me deeply =(
u dont have to really forget her. u can try to move on and find someone else. we have to accept that certain things dont work out for a reason. although it doesnt seem like something good can come out of this now, maybe theres something bigger and better written for u in the future, u just have to be open to it.
Why it didnt work out?Both our families were not supportive at all. With all the pressure adding up over the years eventually everything just crumbled away. We were in a quagmire, not married to each other but yet desperately trying to. We had reached a time and place were the relationship had to process into a marriage, otherwise it would not be able to survive. There’s only so long two people can try and get married, before they themselves become a great Fitan to each other. Once that starts to happen... well it’s all over.
Brother do you mean woman or women.'Woman', there was only ever one woman brother.
maybe you should try to meet new peopleI was young and very naive, I didn't realise what I was doing was wrong. But now I know, I cannot start actively seeking for such a haram relationship. Also for reasons I do not know of I’m very shy around sisters nowadays, so unlike how I used to be.
Neither can you forget Allah, so strengthen your imaan by praying your daily namaaz. Go to jamaat, get a job, keep yourself active, so you don't have to think too much about her. Eventually, you'll have forgotten her and find a nice wife, inshallah.Escaping from myself hasn't helped at all. For the past year or so I've been trying really hard in keeping myself very busy. But eventually everything catches up to me, and I don’t know what to do.
I'm sorry to hear that, but sometimes, you just have to let go. What is not meant for will never be for you It is no use in crying over spilled milk. Just try your best to move on and learn from your past.I am trying to move on, but every now and then it really gets to me. In the main I just have a passing thought of her, and I know that the brother she married is better for her, so I just make dua' for her and forget about it. Whereas other times it really does get me down.
-Espérer-
15-12-07, 05:40 PM
I know it sounds cliched but really, time will heal things. Keep yourself busy and spend time with people that will be there for you will be there for you till the end, your family, your best friends, etc.. In time things will get better. :)
:salams
hmmmm u know dont u think that the hurt that ur feeling now could be an expiation for the unlawful feelings u had then? like if u werent married to her then all that wasn't right... and maybe cos u had that good feelin u havta balance it out with this :( feeling now...
u know its only after we taste the bitterness of this world that we begin to truly seek the sweetness we can attain in the hereafter...
hmmmm i dont know what else to say, except that our greatest love should be for Allah swt... and i know u feel hurt right now, but maybe if u can concentrate ur whooooooooole self to love Allah swt u'll see that He'll make a way out for u inshaAllah...
And for those who fear Allah, He (ever) prepares a way out,
And He provides for him from (sources) he never could imagine. And if any one puts his trust in Allah, sufficient is (Allah) for him. [Surah At-Talaq 65:2-3]
and sometimes dont u think that if we truly loved Allah swt like we would, even if we hurt we'd just be so :D cos we'd know whatever is happening to us is for the best...
“How wonderful is the affair of the believer, for all his affairs are good, and that is for no one except the believer. If something good happens to him, he gives thanks, and that is good for him, and if something bad happens to him, he bears it with patience and that is good for him.” (Narrated by Muslim, no. 2999)
“No calamity befalls on the earth or in yourselves but it is inscribed in the Book of Decrees (Al Lawh Al Mahfooz) before We bring it into existence. Verily, that is easy for Allaah” [al-Hadeed 57:22]
“Say: ‘Nothing shall ever happen to us except what Allaah has ordained for us. He is our Mawlaa (Lord, Helper and Protector).’ And in Allaah let the believers put their trust”[al-Tawbah 9:51]
“No calamity befalls, but by the Leave [i.e. Decision and Qadar (Divine Preordainments)] of Allaah, and whosoever believes in Allaah, He guides his heart [to the true Faith with certainty, i.e. what has befallen him was already written for him by Allaah from the Qadar (Divine Preordainments)]. And Allaah is the All-Knower of everything”[al-Taghaabun 64:11]
only Allah swt knows the true extent of the hurt you're feeling so who better to turn to and ask for His aid and just remember...
“Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in full, without reckoning” [al-Zumar 39:10]
“And their recompense shall be Paradise, and silken garments, because they were patient”[al-Insaan 76:12]
Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: ‘Truly, to Allaah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return’”[al-Baqarah 2:155-156]
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afsalim
17-12-07, 09:59 AM
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. The only thing you can do is move on. Eventually you will find the right one. Time heals all wounds.
Medievalist
17-12-07, 10:59 AM
Some good responses. Particularly Randoms. :up:
Bro you need to understand taht whatever your heart tells you, how pure you felt love for her, how it wasnt lust, how it wasnt dirty we need to be objective. When ALLAH Ta'ala has declared man and woman having love before marriage thats it - period.
We delude ourselves, become obsessed and pine and long for and lust after summat that wasn't ours in the first place.
Bro - she is someone else's wife. Make du'a for her and her husband. If you truly loved her then you'd wish her happiness over your own. You'd rather she be happily married with a man who cares for her and loves her and looks after her rather than her sitting there and being miserable over you. Make taht du'a. By ALLAH its a difficult du'a but make it anyway and ALLAH Ta'ala will inshaALLAH ease your pain.
Give it time aswell - probably a few years. You need people around you who remind you of ALLAH, make du'a that Oh ALLAH the way I loved her make me love you even more tahn that. If we can love a human with such zeal and passion and fervour - should we not love the Maker of that human even more?
Be patient, this is teh command of ALLAH.
Mullah_Din
17-12-07, 11:27 PM
I was once in love with a beautiful women. Our relationship lasted a number of years. However she was not written for me. Last I heard she married someone else. But even after so long, I still think of her every day. I can't get the memories we shared out of my head. If I was to be honest even now my eyes are filled with tears, and my vision a blur.
I wish things were different, I wish we was still together. I wish I was happy again like I used to be with her. I wish she was my wife, and I her husband. I wish she was here with me right now, instead I feel so frustrated, so alone and oh so empty & depressed all the time. She knew me well, more than anyone else could ever know me.
I can’t forget her.
Wassalaam,
I guess, it's hard for you, brother - but, you MUST try and move on, like she has. Your body has a right, too! Don't be depressed - its not worth it. She is married, and I hope, happily married - you will find someone else, Insha Allah; have great faith in Allah Taa'la!
May it become easy for you, dear brother!
Wassalaam,
May Allah ease your difficulties, and show you a way.
Aynpackr
12-01-08, 03:40 AM
Why don't you try to reach her to see if you guys could start things all over, and this time do it right?
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