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Medievalist
12-12-07, 11:50 AM
:salams
When should people start buying stuff for their expectant money-drainage system, known as kids?
What are the essentials?
Im thinking:
cot
buggy
changing mat thing
bath-tub
those are the major items and thats it innit?
Which shops? Brands? are recommended? Which do quality stuff at good prices. Dont want designer this-n-that just strong sturdy stuff that'll last a couple of kids/years.
There's a store in Meadowhall - MamasandPapas - is that good? What about Argos? BHS? :S
Whens ideal time to buy? Im thinking what with xmas sales and that should get some stuff on the cheap then innit. Even if I get stuff on sale - it should have manufacturers guarantee innit - like car seat, buggy and dat?
Should I wait for th first week scan - what if its twins or summat and I buy loads of stuff for singletons?
ladies - this is yr chance to shine :up: help a bro out, please?
.: Anna :.
12-12-07, 11:58 AM
Bro u dont need to buy it before the first scan, because you still have like 6 more months to go and definately if u find it is twins then u have to go and return ur stuff and get double everything, its inconvenient. And if you wanna buy ne gender specific items wait til the 2nd scan. Even if u dnt get anything til then, its still only half way thru u have plenty of time insha allah.
It depends how much room do you have in your house? Personally i cant buy anything much yet because we need to move first so we actually have somewhere to put it all :S
Getting in the sale is a better idea, yes they still have to give u the guarentee and everyting.
Mamas and Papas their pushchairs, prams etc are supposed to be good.
Zee has a link which she posted before which gives reviews and recommendations of all the brands, what is the best product, best value etc.. insha allah she can post it in here. It might be mumsnet but I am not sure.
how is ur wife doing btw? insha allah hope everything is fine n she not been too sick :)
Medievalist
12-12-07, 12:03 PM
Alhamdulillah everyone is well. She doesnt get sick - kinda strange but :D bit moody but thats a general feminine trait :outta:
I dnt understand the point of waiting till after 1st scan? If we gonna buy then, might aswell buy in the sales innit.
M&P seem damn expensive man. And whats the difference between a buggy and a pushchair? can you take a baby out in a pushchair or is that for toddlers? is it not warm enough? its confoozing man.
oh :jkk: for the reply.
Umm 'Umarah
12-12-07, 12:11 PM
You won't need a cot until after, you need a moses basket, and you need two.. one for upstairs, one for downstairs..otherwise you'll have to keep carrying the basket up and down the stairs.
Mamas and Papas is really good however, the prams that are in store now, well, the base and the wheels looks a bit like wheelchair- not nice, you'll know what i mean when you see it.
You def need a rock-a-tot(car seat) but they usually come with a pram.
My sis baught everything months ago, because she is due soon, and she knew everything would be expensive around christmas time, if you see something at a good price buy it.
[quote=Medievalist;2298795]:salams
wa alaikum aslaam
When should people start buying stuff for their expectant money-drainage system, known as kids?
depends what u want to buy, by the big stuff like a month or 2 b4 the birth is due but u said xmas sales so yeh buy the big stuff at time of sales i its a good price., dont forget to also get her maternity bag ready which she will take to the hospital we she goes, that i think you should have ready from about 7 months onwards just in case!
What are the essentials?
Im thinking:
cot
buggy
changing mat thing
bath-tub
those are the major items and thats it innit?
if she is going to breastfeed then she will need a breastpump as well (sorry for the detail but u asked!) so get that too
of course basic clothing , like vests , babygrows etc
also get a bottle steriliser incase she bottle feeds sometimes and the bottles of course (which she can use for breastfeeding too)
Which shops? Brands? are recommended? Which do quality stuff at good prices. Dont want designer this-n-that just strong sturdy stuff that'll last a couple of kids/years.
plllleeaaasee do not get a really big buggy, especailly those 3-wheeler ones, they are very unnecessary and it is difficult to move around on the streets and buses with them, big names defo aint mean quality and comfort. get a basic buggy (u can get ones that come with a car seat) that fits from newborns inshallah
There's a store in Meadowhall - MamasandPapas - is that good? What about Argos? BHS? :S
argos is good, any products u buy from them, they are guaranteed upto one year no matter which company they are made buy (but some ar not so check) not sure about BHS or the other one dont really shop there
Whens ideal time to buy? Im thinking what with xmas sales and that should get some stuff on the cheap then innit. Even if I get stuff on sale - it should have manufacturers guarantee innit - like car seat, buggy and dat?
yes they should have manufacturers gurarantees, as i said, wait to buy the big stuff towards th last couple of months but as u said, xmas sales is an ideal time to buy so go for the big stuff at the time of sales
Should I wait for th first week scan - what if its twins or summat and I buy loads of stuff for singletons?
aww mashallah , u can buy little vests and babygrows and stuff and things she will need in hospital but other than that, chill for the moment
ladies - this is yr chance to shine :up: help a bro out, please?
errrm, ok...
.: Anna :.
12-12-07, 12:13 PM
mostly nowadays i think u can get the 3 in 1, its like a pram, pushchair and car seat... because when the baby is newly born it has to be lying down not sitting at an angle like you see in the toddler pushchairs, so these ones convert which means u only have to get one instead of everything seperately. they do it like that in mothercare aswell and alot of places.
waiting til after the 1st scan i think people say because by that time, you are just finished/finishing the 1st trimester and risk of miscarriage becomes a lot lower after that point, and plus the scan will confirm whether everything is okay with the baby, and like you said whether it is just one or more. I dont see much point buying everything before that time it will just be sitting around getting in the way? BUT if u find a really good deal on something then in that case it becomes worth it. If you have a big house and its not gonna be getting under your feet, then you might aswell go get it all sorted after the scan insha allah but stil thats pretty early.
Anyway shouldnt ur wifes scan be coming up very soon? i had mine and i thought she was due around the same time?
Well if you do go shopping soon for everything, and u find a good sale or some good offers, can you let us know please insha allah so that ur sisters here can get benefit of that aswell? :D
Medievalist
12-12-07, 12:15 PM
UU AND MG - :jkk:
Im on a shoe-string budget. Whats the difference in buying at 7 months and buying at 2- specially if you can get stuff on da cheap now?
anyhoo - sounds like loads.
ANNA:
should be hearing any day now for an appointment. our midwife's a bit rushed - apparently she's handling 80 pregnant women (poor lady) and most are in our little enclave, she goes that our areas ALWAYS buzy, :rotfl: pakis - and xmas rush and that at hospital means might be a slight delay. I let u knw innit but Im thinking just get atleast some stuff at xmas whilst I got a couple of ton. Im thinking if I buy all at the end then I aint gonna have the money and gonna have to use my credit card which Id prefer not to use. better to buy a bit at a time rather than all in one go innit.
Masha'allah bro!!!
got any brothers and sisters who have had babies already? You could use their stuff? :coolbro:
Chained_Water
12-12-07, 12:16 PM
:salams bro,
Mama's and Papas is EXPENSIVE, it's one of those places you'd shop for your child'cuz you're all :inlove: but if you went and showed your mum the price tags she'd probably have a heart attack and not be impressed with your bargain hunting skills at all. :p ..I met this sis who got 600-800£ [cant remember which] pushchair there, I was like :eek: ..her first child so she got overexcited and bought TONNES of expensive clothes too :smack:
For pushchair/buggy, I'd say get one that has the removable car seat, so you you can use it as a car seat and a pushchair :up: ..and that way the baby faces the mum usually too, which is better when they're so small?
Cot, yep and this is something that can last you through all your ten kids inshaallah.. ooh sis Umm Umarah is bang on about the moses basket, get one of them first.. or maybe have cot and one moses basket, cot upstairs and moses basket downstairs?
Bathtub.. yep, I've heard womeon sing praises of the ones that come with a little seat for babies bottom to get parked on, makes it easier to wash them, 'cuz you don't need to hold them, or need two people to do it then.
Changing mat.. yep.. also blankets, gloves, hat, socky type things? few babygrows, but other than that no clothes 'cuz you'll get bombarded with those inshaallah.. plus you can do that after if need be.
Maybe you'd want baby monitor? So wife can hear baby crying if she somewhere else [like making your dinner :p ] ..not that you'd need it asap, but if you thinking of sales shopping may as well buy then.
Take your mum shopping with you, they are good with stuff like this!
UU AND MG - :jkk:
Im on a shoe-string budget. Whats the difference in buying at 7 months and buying at 2- specially if you can get stuff on da cheap now?
anyhoo - sounds like loads.
read my post again, normally the last stages becos u have to end up storing the stuff and allsorts but if u got the space etc go for it. But in your case, cos of the xmas sales i say go for it, get the big stuff , also some people feel if they get the big stuff to early they are "counting their chickens before they are hatched" so they feel more comfy getting it at later stages.
:salams bro,
Mama's and Papas is EXPENSIVE, it's one of those places you'd shop for your child'cuz you're all :inlove: but if you went and showed your mum the price tags she'd probably have a heart attack and not be impressed with your bargain hunting skills at all. :p ..I met this sis who got 600-800£ [cant remember which] pushchair there, I was like :eek: ..her first child so she got overexcited and bought TONNES of expensive clothes too :smack:
For pushchair/buggy, I'd say get one that has the removable car seat, so you you can use it as a car seat and a pushchair :up: ..and that way the baby faces the mum usually too, which is better when they're so small?
Cot, yep and this is something that can last you through all your ten kids inshaallah..
Bathtub.. yep, I've heard womeon sing praises of the ones that come with a little seat for babies bottom to get parked on, makes it easier to wash them, 'cuz you don't need to hold them, or need two people to do it then.
Changing mat.. yep.. also blankets, gloves, hat, socky type things? few babygrows, but other than that no clothes 'cuz you'll get bombarded with those inshaallah.. plus you can do that after if need be.
Maybe you'd want baby monitor? So wife can hear baby crying if she somewhere else [like making your dinner :p ] ..not that you'd need it asap, but if you thinking of sales shopping may as well buy then.
Take your mum shopping with you, they are good with stuff like this!
wa laiakum aslaam,
yes baby monitor, gotta have one of those, forgot about that, your wife and you can move around the house more easily , cos u wilkl laways be able to hear the baby cry inshallah
Medievalist
12-12-07, 12:23 PM
Masha'allah bro!!!
got any brothers and sisters who have had babies already? You could use their stuff? :coolbro:
I aint having my son defecating on other peoples mats :rotfl:
:salams bro,
Mama's and Papas is EXPENSIVE, it's one of those places you'd shop for your child'cuz you're all :inlove: but if you went and showed your mum the price tags she'd probably have a heart attack and not be impressed with your bargain hunting skills at all. :p ..I met this sis who got 600-800£ [cant remember which] pushchair there, I was like :eek: ..her first child so she got overexcited and bought TONNES of expensive clothes too :smack:
For pushchair/buggy, I'd say get one that has the removable car seat, so you you can use it as a car seat and a pushchair :up: ..and that way the baby faces the mum usually too, which is better when they're so small?
Cot, yep and this is something that can last you through all your ten kids inshaallah..
Bathtub.. yep, I've heard womeon sing praises of the ones that come with a little seat for babies bottom to get parked on, makes it easier to wash them, 'cuz you don't need to hold them, or need two people to do it then.
Changing mat.. yep.. also blankets, gloves, hat, socky type things? few babygrows, but other than that no clothes 'cuz you'll get bombarded with those inshaallah.. plus you can do that after if need be.
Maybe you'd want baby monitor? So wife can hear baby crying if she somewhere else [like making your dinner :p ] ..not that you'd need it asap, but if you thinking of sales shopping may as well buy then.
Take your mum shopping with you, they are good with stuff like this!
Yeh - I thought it was expensive. I dont mind forking out on the essential stuff that should last for a good time - like u mentioned cot and buggy and that. So those good quality things can be a bit pricey but I dont want all that rubbishy designer shoes and designer hats and stuff **roll eyes**
Who said Im having 10 kids? Are you purposefully wishing to demean me?
:jkk: for the bathtub tip
deffo taking my mom with me shopping - she knows abt dese tings and Im kinda the buy the first thing that seems nice kinda chap. :coolbro:
Medievalist
12-12-07, 12:25 PM
read my post again, normally the last stages becos u have to end up storing the stuff and allsorts but if u got the space etc go for it. But in your case, cos of the xmas sales i say go for it, get the big stuff , also some people feel if they get the big stuff to early they are "counting their chickens before they are hatched" so they feel more comfy getting it at later stages.
I know what you mean. Even I want to buy later, dont wanna jinx anything but gotta be practical in these things innit. If its ideal to buy now den might aswell innit.
and about space
sisters we got bare space. alhamdulillah at my house in sheffld 3 empty rooms, and my dads extended the house in bham aswell so we got a 5 bedroom house now BRAPP.
I aint having my son defecating on other peoples mats :rotfl:
why not? :D
:wswrwb: i personally waited till after 6 months of pregnancy to buy everything ( reason being in case audu billah a woman doesnt carry to full term) best investment i would reccomend, is a fully adjustable buggy, buy one that can adjust to lay the newborn flat for the first few months, because no newborn should be propped up and made to "sit up" in one of those buggies that dont support its body properly, then u can adjust it to a buggy for toddler and can be used up to 3 years old by which time they should be walking alone insha Allah.
( make sure mom had all she needs of "womens products" for right after the birth and for when shes feeding baby, pads, sea salt for the bath, calendula cream is soothing and gaurds for feeding so mom doesnt get sores, a bottle for giving baby boiled water, cos babies get thirsty for water too and can get dehyrated)
same with the cot dont waste ur money buying a moses basket, then a cot, and then a bed for a toddler, get an all in one cot that turns into a proper low bed as they get older so they grow into it insha Allah. cos in the space of three years they`ll be in a regular bed.
changing mat isnt at all necessary u just pop the baby on a clean towel or blanket on the floor and change its nappy, and bath tub .. well my sons had a plastic storage box, costs u 2 quid, instead of 22 quid for a "baby bath" plus bonus is u can use it till theyre about 1 1/2 years old..and extra bonus they can use it for their toys when they get too big for it.
clothing maybe just get the basics when they are small, just an assortment of cotton baby grows and long sleeved vests underneath, few jumpers to keep them warm if its a winter or spring baby, one of those all in one padded suits with a hood for outdoors is handy , cos they grow so fast its just a complete waste of money to buy tiny trousers and dresses for a baby under 6 months old they wont even be wearing them for more than a few weeks before theyre grown out of them.
"adams" is good for cheap quality clothes alhamdulillah, always having sales too insha Allah, mothercare are well expensive and try to sell u all sorts u really dont need at all. i dont know of any other shops in the uk sisters there can advise u about anymore insha Allah.
Medievalist
12-12-07, 12:26 PM
why not? :D
he can do it on his own brand new one.
Asiyah:
some TOP advice :up: :jkk:
Im thinking of that converter thing u on about - that can be used from birth to about 3 years. That seems best.
But Moses Baskets look nice. I think my kids gonna be spoilt rotten - first grandkid and that innit, first sons, sons, kid aswell innit. I remember when my youngest bro was born and they all cood over him in his cradle. My moms gonna be so happy **wipes tear** Its ma hayfever and dat :coolbro:
Umm 'Umarah
12-12-07, 12:29 PM
If anyone knows anyone who is having a baby girl you HAVE to buy this gorgeous burgundy dress M&P have got in, it's too gorgeous to leave behind..
he can do it on his own brand new one.
good stuff! :up:
if i get children one day insha'allah, they will be brought up as proper militants. :d lol
I know what you mean. Even I want to buy later, dont wanna jinx anything but gotta be practical in these things innit. If its ideal to buy now den might aswell innit.
and about space
sisters we got bare space. alhamdulillah at my house in sheffld 3 empty rooms, and my dads extended the house in bham aswell so we got a 5 bedroom house now BRAPP.
mashallah , yeh do it then.
I went shopping with my sis for her baby stuff, i love it and everything is cute and yes u dont want one of each of everything!
Medievalist
12-12-07, 12:32 PM
If anyone knows anyone who is having a baby girl you HAVE to buy this gorgeous burgundy dress M&P have got in, it's too gorgeous to leave behind..
In the meantime - crazee lady - you can dress it up on yr fish. :outta:
:rotfl: this thread is ssoo cute mashaAllah! Hope your wife is doing well inshaAllah.
Heres a good link, check out some of the stuff.
http://www.kiddicare.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/TopCategoriesDisplay?storeId=10001&langId=-1&catalogId=10751&msg=
I think buying during the sales is an excellent idea- babies are damn expensive and so the more stuff you can get in the sales- the better for you guys i say.
The most obvious things youre going to need include:
Moses basket (usually used for newborns instead of a cot- you wont really need a cot till abit later but again, if youre gona get it in the sales you might aswell).
Pram/pushchair
Bathtub
Bottles/sterilising stuff if your wife intends to bottle feed (she might need them for later on anyway).
The usual baby clothes (babygrows, bibs)- although dont over do it cos they grow sooo quickly and besides i dont think clothes are too expensive
Car seat (you can usually get this with the pushchair)
Monitors (ya know, so you can hear your baby crying)
Cute cuddly toys :inlove: :outta:
Cant think of anything else you'd need immediately- things liek a high chair wont be needed till the baby is a little older inshaAllah,
Medievalist
12-12-07, 12:33 PM
good stuff! :up:
if i get children one day insha'allah, they will be brought up as proper militants. :d lol
:asta: child abuse is illegal bro. We dont want you beating up our lil nefews and nieces. :torture:
:rotfl:
You know there's a pic on the Azzam Tamimi book "Hamas" where a woman holds this really cute kid and hes got ruddy cheeks and green Hamas bandana on. Looks ruff.
Zesty:
:jkk: for the link and the list. and whats so cute abt the thread. no sentimentalnessity please.
Chained_Water
12-12-07, 12:35 PM
Yeh - I thought it was expensive. I dont mind forking out on the essential stuff that should last for a good time - like u mentioned cot and buggy and that. So those good quality things can be a bit pricey but I dont want all that rubbishy designer shoes and designer hats and stuff **roll eyes**
Who said Im having 10 kids? Are you purposefully wishing to demean me?
:jkk: for the bathtub tip
deffo taking my mom with me shopping - she knows abt dese tings and Im kinda the buy the first thing that seems nice kinda chap. :coolbro:
:eek: Noooooooooooooo astaghfirullah course I'm not.. what's wrong with having lotsa kids? by ten I just meant lots, that'd it'd last thru lotsa kids :D ..and dude I come from a big family, big families are good, so it is not demeaning at all :torture: ..it's nice if you got lotsa siblings :D
If you got your mum shopping with you, no worries, if something is outrageously expensive mums will keep you in line :up: ..and whatever you've forgotten she will remind you inshaallah :)
Medievalist
12-12-07, 12:36 PM
:eek: Noooooooooooooo astaghfirullah course I'm not.. what's wrong with having lotsa kids? by ten I just meant lots, that'd it'd last thru lotsa kids :D ..and dude I come from a big family, big families are good, so it is not demeaning at all :torture: ..it's nice if you got lotsa siblings :D
If you got your mum shopping with you, no worries, if something is outrageously expensive mums will keep you in line :up: ..and whatever you've forgotten she will remind you inshaallah :)
You seem to have misunderstood me, sistAA.
10 kids? what am I gonna do for the remaining years of my marriage - just sit and twiddle my thumbs?
We going for a lashkar :D
Whats lashkar? :confused:
Im not being sentimental :rolleyes: just saying, its a cute thread.
Medievalist
12-12-07, 12:39 PM
Whats lashkar? :confused:
Im not being sentimental :rolleyes: just saying, its a cute thread.
I suppose you could say battalion/brigade/ small army/expeditionary force
I suppose you could say battalion/brigade/ small army/expeditionary force
yeh.. this is you we're talking about- should have figured :p
Chained_Water
12-12-07, 12:42 PM
You seem to have misunderstood me, sistAA.
10 kids? what am I gonna do for the remaining years of my marriage - just sit and twiddle my thumbs?
We going for a lashkar :D
:rubeyes:
:rotfl:
Oh my gosh.. and here I thought wow Med only wants a small family, what was I thinking should've known that didn't make any sense :p
Well may Allah(swt) bless you with lots of healthy and pious children and make from your progeny flagbearers of this deen, scholars and awliya and mujahideen :D
Medievalist
12-12-07, 12:43 PM
ameen thumma ameen.
Umm 'Umarah
12-12-07, 12:44 PM
In the meantime - crazee lady - you can dress it up on yr fish. :outta:
:rotfl:
In bradford saw these teeny weeny kussa for babies...you should have seen 'em they were sooo cute.
my sis is due soon, Insha'Allah can't wait :hidban: she has everything except the baby now...and we're all getting impatient.
.: Anna :.
12-12-07, 01:02 PM
:rotfl:
In bradford saw these teeny weeny kussa for babies...you should have seen 'em they were sooo cute.
:rubeyes: that is gonna damage their feet....
Well may Allah(swt) bless you with lots of healthy and pious children and make from your progeny flagbearers of this deen, scholars and awliya and mujahideen :D
aameen
dhakiyya
12-12-07, 01:14 PM
see what you can get on the good quality second hand market. A lot of baby stuff doesn't get used very long and a lot of non Muslim parents don't want more than one or two kids. So you can get top quality second hand if you look in the right places, e.g. ebay.
NEVER buy second hand car seats though, in case they have been in an accident and sustained internal damage, which would not be visible but which would compromise the safety of your child.
If you live in the SE England and you want a moses basket for £30 (top quality one, just two months of use + some bedding, reversable cover with boy or girl colours) I can ask my parents if they still have it. Even if I have another baby (:D inshaAllah :D) its not going to be shipped to Saudi, so unless my brother's girlfriend suddenly becomes pregnant it'll still be on sale, unless they already sold it lol. Pls pm if you're interested. (that goes for all you preggie sisters too inshaAllah :up: )
Also, if you go to small independent baby good retailers, its much easier to negotiate deals especially on big purchases. Also they may have some things in earlier/less popular designs that they are selling more cheaply to begin with.
As for clothes, they grow so quickly mashaAllah, don't buy loads of really pretty little tiny clothes. Best to just buy a basic set of vests and baby gros, and you'll find inshaAllah that people will buy you pretty clothes as gifts anyway. Also stock up on larger sizes in basics, so your baby inshaAllah isn't going to be stuck for clothes after a growth spurt lol. Sometimes they literally seem to shoot up overnight, especially in the early months.
Chained_Water
12-12-07, 01:14 PM
As a general tip, don't put shoes on babies, it stunts proper growth and development. You should only put something on them like for example if you're taking them out and it's only for little while. Even once they're crawling around, don't necessarily get them shoes. Once they're walking get them some but go to Clarks or somewhere and have them properly fitted for you and get suitable ones i.e. the right type of sole. When you get babies shoes, they'll give you cool little info pack type thing as well and take a photo for you [aww :p ].
It's tempting to get shoes cuz of how cute they are, which is fine, but just don't put them on for too long or too often, defo not daily.
The mini baby trainers are cute and I'm sure kusse would look adorable.. if it's Eid or a wedding it'd be :inlove:
Abu Mus'ab
12-12-07, 02:37 PM
You seem to have misunderstood me, sistAA.
10 kids? what am I gonna do for the remaining years of my marriage - just sit and twiddle my thumbs?
We going for a lashkar :D
Have you decided on names yet? :rubeyes:
Arsalan
12-12-07, 02:40 PM
I start shopping for my baby about 3 months before she was born, and made a list of all the requirements, quantities, and estimated monthly costs. I started budgeting a bit earlier then that and saving extra for any other potential costs. But also take into account any potenital presents that you maky get from friends, and family too - sometimes they are quite generous.
I got the cot from Ikea, and the baby bath and the bed covers from there. The Blankets from mothercare .. they have the best blankets - for a new baby, and good ones for the winder, and primemark for things like sleevless vests and night sleeping suits, and BHS for day better looking garmants and day suits. O got the sweaters from Adams and mothercare - the quality is better - they can be a bit pricey - but look out for the sales and you can get some decent bargains if you start looking early.
Also the pushchair and baby cot carrier that comes with it. Youll need it for the car. Thats by far the most expensive one-off thing initially. Mammas and Pappas outlets are the most famous and popular for things like that - apart from mothercare. I wouldnt shop from Argos for baby stuff, you want to see and feel what your buying.
I remember being obsessed with steam purifcation system for the baby bottles, but we didnt need that until about 7 months later... oh and thermometer specially for babies. Its important to monitor their temperature regularly , because that can be a sign of some sort of problem.
There are so many things to buy.
may Allah make it easy for you.
ummbilal
12-12-07, 02:42 PM
:salams
When should people start buying stuff for their expectant money-drainage system, known as kids?
What are the essentials?
Im thinking:
cot
buggy
changing mat thing
bath-tub
those are the major items and thats it innit?
Which shops? Brands? are recommended? Which do quality stuff at good prices. Dont want designer this-n-that just strong sturdy stuff that'll last a couple of kids/years.
There's a store in Meadowhall - MamasandPapas - is that good? What about Argos? BHS? :S
Whens ideal time to buy? Im thinking what with xmas sales and that should get some stuff on the cheap then innit. Even if I get stuff on sale - it should have manufacturers guarantee innit - like car seat, buggy and dat?
Should I wait for th first week scan - what if its twins or summat and I buy loads of stuff for singletons?
ladies - this is yr chance to shine :up: help a bro out, please?
buy things like clothes blankets from day one, and big stuff in the last 2 months inshaallah,
a baby needs a moses basket and clothes and blankets, everything else can wait until after the birth if you want.
please avoid this monstrosity at all costs
yes, ask loved ones,i.e bros and sisters and cousiins that your close to, that if they want to buy u guys stuff, to ask u wat u need first cos then u get stuff u NEED and can save money that way.
Bare in mind, u can only say the above to people ur close and comfy with otherwise they will think "who they think they are ,demanding gifts!"
*grin*
My sis does that to all of us, she just tell us, what she wants and then we shoes between us what were gonna get her
parwaaz
12-12-07, 02:49 PM
Mubarak brother, hope everything goes well for you and the family.
my work colleague was expecting her first baby.a week after the due date we were still waiting for some news. on around the 9/10 day we heard she gave still birth to a boy.It was heart-breaking for us and must have been devastating for her.She started shopping well before the time, but wot must she be now thinking of those baby items?Dont have the heart and the courage to ask her.
For reasons like this I personally would not be comfortable shopping for big things like cots, buggies etc so long before delievery.
I love children and love shopping for baby items(especially girls!, the clothes are soooooo cute), but who knows what Allah has planned for us.What would you do ,if something like as described above happens, with the items then.would you not be more sad when seeing that stuff that it was to be used by your baby who could not even arrive to this world.
Can ppl not research, look around but only buy most the stuff once you know all is Ok?if you have family to help out off course yu can tell them the item you have seen and they can go and buy it for you whilst you are busy running the rounds at the hospital!!!!!
Arsalan
12-12-07, 02:53 PM
Mubarak brother, hope everything goes well for you and the family.
my work colleague was expecting her first baby.a week after the due date we were still waiting for some news. on around the 9/10 day we heard she gave still birth to a boy.It was heart-breaking for us and must have been devastating for her.She started shopping well before the time, but wot must she be now thinking of those baby items?Dont have the heart and the courage to ask her.
For reasons like this I personally would not be comfortable shopping for big things like cots, buggies etc so long before delievery.
I love children and love shopping for baby items(especially girls!, the clothes are soooooo cute), but who knows what Allah has planned for us.What would you do ,if something like as described above happens, with the items then.would you not be more sad when seeing that stuff that it was to be used by your baby who could not even arrive to this world.
Can ppl not research, look around but only buy most the stuff once you know all is Ok?if you have family to help out off course yu can tell them the item you have seen and they can go and buy it for you whilst you are busy running the rounds at the hospital!!!!!
You know i thought about that too. But then i thought, its better to be positive and have hope, and put your Trust in Allah swt. So when your putting your trust in Allah, you have to do the actions which match it. I.e. be positive, do what you must , plan ahead. And InshAllah Allah will provide you with your baby.
.: Anna :.
12-12-07, 02:57 PM
Mubarak brother, hope everything goes well for you and the family.
my work colleague was expecting her first baby.a week after the due date we were still waiting for some news. on around the 9/10 day we heard she gave still birth to a boy.It was heart-breaking for us and must have been devastating for her.She started shopping well before the time, but wot must she be now thinking of those baby items?Dont have the heart and the courage to ask her.
For reasons like this I personally would not be comfortable shopping for big things like cots, buggies etc so long before delievery.
I love children and love shopping for baby items(especially girls!, the clothes are soooooo cute), but who knows what Allah has planned for us.What would you do ,if something like as described above happens, with the items then.would you not be more sad when seeing that stuff that it was to be used by your baby who could not even arrive to this world.
Can ppl not research, look around but only buy most the stuff once you know all is Ok?if you have family to help out off course yu can tell them the item you have seen and they can go and buy it for you whilst you are busy running the rounds at the hospital!!!!!
but buying it all only after the baby has been born will be a bit stressful as u will feel disorganised and all in a rush...
if something like that happens it is really sad :(:(:(, but when u want to get everything sorted and ready, there comes a point where u have to just go and buy it (like atleast a couple of months b4?). all we can do is make dua for baby's health and that everything will be okay, but if not that is qadrullah there is no way ne1 cd hav prevented it.
all the babies who are expected in our families, may Allah allow them to be born in full health and remain strong & healthy thruout their lives, & pious muslims aameen
one word: ebay :D
people sell baby clothes in bundles... good quality too... can work out to be about £1-£2 per iten of clothing... branded stuff like next, gap, monsoon, adams etc
husband and I have just bought a cot with chest of drawers and wardrobe from Argos...flat pack and we thought might not be sturdy enough but mashaAllah teh cotbed turned out be wonderful amshaAllah..the chest of drawers is huge, bigger than ours :D and teh wardrobe is probably something that we can do without right now...Allah knows best..:D the three items were £300...sounds alot but seeing how good the cot bed is now that we have put it together i probably would have paid that much alone for it.
also with regards to people buying you gifts, i dont know how it works in your family but we have been asked about what we want and what we need...we have been given a baby monitor and some baby clothes already alhamdulilah...even if you buy one and get given another one, keep your receipt and maybe you can return the one you bought and buy something else instead inshaAllah.
Zee and Dhakkiyah always mashaAllah give good advice about what to buy and where to get it from and their advice usually correlates to what is typically in many baby magazines and baby books...i relied on their advice and that of many baby magazines and baby books to give me a better understanding of my likkle munchkin when she comes inshaAllah.
sometimes the baby magazines are really useful as they give lots of good advice adn up to date info ...sometimes they do a whole spread of assessment on one item like buggys and give you the best and the not so good ones and also price checks.
Zaina in Jena
12-12-07, 05:16 PM
all the babies who are expected in our families, may Allah allow them to be born in full health and remain strong & healthy thruout their lives, & pious muslims aameen
Ameen!
Arsalan
12-12-07, 06:12 PM
Isit possible to buy baby bunk beds, so you can pile on the babies on top of one another?
ze leetle elper
12-12-07, 06:30 PM
C&P from Sisters Forum (edited for sisterly reasons :D )
Here are some of my tips which you may find useful. You know having a baby does something to your brain, because its very difficult to now remember those first few days/ months and give advice lol!
Before the birth – You:
Clothes: From about 8 months onwards, there will come a time when you wake up and have grown huge overnight! Try not to spend too much money on maternity wear since once you have had the baby it is useless. Instead it’s better to get stretchy jogging bottoms etc since you are more likely to wear them after the birth. (You will still look about 5 months pregnant after having the baby, so take loose going home clothes with you in your hospital bag!)
Shoes: Invest in flip-flops or some kind of loose open shoe. So keep an eye on your feet (which is very difficult to do so when you have a huge bump in the way :D )
Pillows: Have loads of pillows for when you sleep. As you get bigger there will be more pressure on your back/ spine and you will need pillows when sleeping to be able to do so comfortably. Oh and you may as well tell the husband now that there will not be any room for him in the bed so he may as well sleep on the sofa. ;)
Raspberry Leaf Tea: You can buy this from any good Health shop. It is meant to quicken the contractions during labour and strengthen the muscles which are used during birth. 2 cups a day is ok, however do not exceed 3 cups a day. Do not start drinking it before 37 weeks, as it can also bring on labour. Oh and it tastes horrid. :)
Hospital bag: My list for my hospital bag was an A4 sheet full of ‘essentials’ I was told I would need by magazines/ books etc which proved useless. You really do not need a lot. Essentials will include:
You
Clothes for labour (nightie/ old shirt)
Clothes if you are kept in the hospital overnight (pyjamas etc)
Bedslippers or socks
Going home clothes
Underwear
Maternity pads or heavy flow sanitary towels
Toiletries (shampoo, soap, comb and a towel)
Baby
Vests
Babygro
Hat
Mittens
Shawl/ Blanket
Nappies
Wipes or cotton wool (cotton wool and water is best to use when cleaning baby since it will help prevent nappy rash)
If you are taking the baby home by car, you will need to have a car seat installed. Some hospitals won’t discharge the baby unless they know you have a safe car seat installed for the baby.
Essentials:
Feeding: If you are planning to breastfeed, you don’t need anything really, apart from determination and adrenaline to keep you going through the first 2 weeks since they are the hardest.
You will get very sore breasts so the best thing to use was Avent Nipple cream which really worked magic. It’s made from coconut oil so you don’t need to remove it before feeding the baby. It also doubles up for use on nappy rash etc so it really is worth buying!
Once your milk comes in (between 3-5 days) the best method I found was feeding about 30 minutes each side until baby gets a big bigger and will empty a complete side at one feed. It’s important to make sure the baby is on one side long enough to get the hind milk.
You can also purchase a breast pump, which is very handy if you are going out or need to leave the baby with someone else. However it’s recommended you don’t use a pump for at least 2-3 weeks, so you can establish your milk supply first. Avent Isis manual pump is not too pricey and works efficiently.
Once you do start using the pump (if you do) you will also need a sterilizer. Avent Steam Sterilizer which sterilizes in about 8 minutes
Changing: Standard plastic changing mats but they do the job. You will need to keep a towel on the mat when changing as baby’s get excited when they feel the air on their bottom! :love:
I found it handy to use terry towels since they are the right size and can be washed over and over without losing the softness.
If you are planning to use disposables, you will get loads of vouchers in the baby literature you receive/ Mum-to-be pack from Bounty so try not to buy too many no.1 nappies since your baby may outgrow them very quickly!
However http://www.mumsnet.com (http://www.mumsnet.com/) (another gem!) is a brilliant website which reviews all the items a mum needs for her child and have reviewed Tesco’s own brand nappy as the best nappy to buy for your child so again several avenues you can pursue.
http://www.mumsnet.com/rev/dnap/ (http://www.mumsnet.com/rev/dnap/)
Sleeping: Cot or Moses basket? The choice is yours really. A Moses basket is handy to keep next to your bed and move around the house for when baby is sleeping, however do keep in mind that your baby will outgrow it in about 3 months so you will need to invest in a cot then. Any cot will do, but always ensure you have a new mattress.
Clothes:
Try not to spend too much on clothes. They may look pretty, but your baby will appreciate and feel more comfortable being kept in a vest and babygro all day long!
You will need babygros (get 0-3 months not newborn size, since they outgrow them quickly) and your baby may sometimes get through 3 or 4 a day! So invest in a 7 pack or something.
You will also need:
Vests (short/ long sleeved)
Mittens
Hat
Booties
Socks
Once you know the baby’s gender, you can get some trousers and tops which are very handy to have – keeps baby warm and means he/she doesn’t have to wear a babygro all the time!
Mothercare do a newborn baby pack which includes the essentials above for about £12?
You will be very likely to get clothes as presents, so try to stick to the essentials or you’ll end up with loads of clothes your baby never wears!
Other handy stuff:
Muslin sheets: These are brilliant. You can use them to wrap the baby in, use as a burp cloth, place under the baby, headgear for shaping baby's head (ask if you wanna know more lol :D ) for anything really! I have these ones: http://www.mothercare.com/invt/lv4020&bklist (http://www.mothercare.com/invt/lv4020&bklist)=
Bibs: You won’t really need these at first (if you are breastfeeding) but for bottle feeding they are a must. A better investment is flannels which can be used for wiping baby’s mouth/ face and also for use when bathing baby.
http://www.mothercare.com/invt/ly1569&bklist (http://www.mothercare.com/invt/ly1569&bklist)
Bath: Any standard bath tub will do (some people even use the kitchen sink!) Something which I found useful for the first month or so, was a bath support http://www.mothercare.com/invt/lw3526&bklist (http://www.mothercare.com/invt/lw3526&bklist)
This was really handy since I was a bit frightened to hold the baby in the water since she was so fragile and small! You don’t need any special bath toys/ shampoos etc. Just water is fine. A bath sponge is also a must for wiping down baby.
You will also need baby towels with hoods, however I think they will only be useful until your baby is about 3 months old since my daughter outgrew hers quickly!
A good investment is a thermometer. We bought this one from Philips: http://www.mothercare.com/invt/ls3601&bklist (http://www.mothercare.com/invt/ls3601&bklist)
This is brilliant since you can use it for testing the bath water temperature, room temperature and also doubles up as a toy for when the baby is a bit bigger!
It’s not necessary to bath the baby everyday, you can just top ‘n’ tail with water and cotton wool.
Shawl/ Blanket: You will definitely need shawls/ blankets for wrapping your baby in when out and about in the car/ pram etc.
Toys:
Don’t buy any toys. Your newborn won’t play/ interact with them until they are about 2 months old. They will have greater preference for your voice and different faces and facial expressions.
Although one toy which I would recommended, is the ‘Whoozit’ by Manhattan Toys. It is meant to stimulate the newborns sight with the black/ white/ red colouring and later on when the child is older, they can explore the toy with its different colours, textures and noises. Most of the toys in the Manhattan range are made to stimulate the different senses
Your newborn:
If you have never seen a newborn baby before (like myself!) don’t get worried about all the dry peeling skin – its normal! For about a month or two, your baby will have lots of dry skin peeling away, especially on their wrists, ankles and chest. The best thing you can do is massage your baby every day (or 2/3 times a day) with a small amount of olive oil. Massaging the dry skin will help lift it away as well as keeping the skin soft and supple. Always massage after bathing baby since the skin will get dry.
You:
You will still look about 5 or 6 months pregnant so ensure you have comfortable clothing to go home in. You’ll find you will probably live in your pyjamas for the first few weeks since you will have no time to do anything! Make sure there is lots of easy to cook food stored at home, and give the house a good proper clean before the baby arrives because you won’t find time to vacuum for a long time! And like everyone will tell you: Sleep when the baby sleeps! It’s important even if you don’t feel tired, because when you sleep your milk supply will build up quicker!
Costs?! You’re probably wondering how much this is all going to cost you! Make sure you apply for a SureStart Maternity Grant – they give you £500 for every baby. You can get the pink form from your local JobCentre.
Also after the baby is born, some hospitals have a registering facility so you can register your baby birth. You will need the birth certificate to apply for Child Benefit and Tax Credit which you are entitled to.
Recommended:
Sign up to EVERYTHING. Tesco’s Mother and Toddler Club, Boot’s Parenting Club and Pampers.com and you get loads of freebies, vouchers off for you and your baby and lots of information on a month-by-month basis! Sign up to Mothercare’s baby club, and in your 8th month or so, they will send you a 10% off voucher you can use this to buy your cot/ pram/ bulky items and 10% off works out to be quite a big saving!
A book we were given as a gift is ‘Baby Secrets’ by Jo Tantum and Barbara Want. (http://www.babysecrets.co.uk/) It is a brilliant book and has lots of information like how to get your baby into a routine, tips and tricks, essentials, what to look out for etc written in a simple straightforward form. It is worthwhile investing in.
Useful websites:
http://www.mumsnet.com (http://www.mumsnet.com/) – brilliant for reviews on items, what is the best to get and the prices
http://www.kiddicare.com (http://www.kiddicare.com/) – all items you can find in your standard store, however much cheaper
http://www.pampers.com/ (http://www.pampers.com/)
http://www.huggies.com (http://www.huggies.com/)
http://www.bounty.com/ (http://www.bounty.com/) -- Sign up for your free Bounty pack. You’ll get one before birth, when the baby is born and afterwards too. They have loads of information, vouchers, freebies etc.
http://www.ebay.co.uk (http://www.ebay.co.uk/)
http://www.amazon.co.uk (http://www.amazon.co.uk/)
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dhakiyya
12-12-07, 06:34 PM
Mubarak brother, hope everything goes well for you and the family.
my work colleague was expecting her first baby.a week after the due date we were still waiting for some news. on around the 9/10 day we heard she gave still birth to a boy.It was heart-breaking for us and must have been devastating for her.She started shopping well before the time, but wot must she be now thinking of those baby items?Dont have the heart and the courage to ask her.
For reasons like this I personally would not be comfortable shopping for big things like cots, buggies etc so long before delievery.
I love children and love shopping for baby items(especially girls!, the clothes are soooooo cute), but who knows what Allah has planned for us.What would you do ,if something like as described above happens, with the items then.would you not be more sad when seeing that stuff that it was to be used by your baby who could not even arrive to this world.
Can ppl not research, look around but only buy most the stuff once you know all is Ok?if you have family to help out off course yu can tell them the item you have seen and they can go and buy it for you whilst you are busy running the rounds at the hospital!!!!!
I know a couple that did this... he rushed round and bought everything whilst she was in hospital. It can be done inshaAllah, but if baby is born on saturday evening and there is no sunday shopping.... might be a bit difficult inshaAllah.
As for babies dying :crying: - may Allah protect all your babies and make them healthy and grow to happy healthy pious and righteous Muslims - Ameen - it is the will of Allah. Stillbirth is rare, neonatal death is rare, miscarriage after 14 weeks is rare. Cot death is also rare - but all these things happen. With cot death you would still have bought the things and then have to cope with them still being there :crying:
I used to work in a call centre in a large retailer that included baby goods. We were told during training that if someone phones to return baby goods because of a miscarriage, stillbirth or death of a newborn baby, that we should allow them to return the goods, regardless whether still packaged, for a full refund no further questions. I would imagine that most retailers would have a similar policy inshaAllah.
So inshaAllah I think there is not a problem with buying things before the baby arrives inshaAllah. I think if the worst happened someone else in the family - not the parents - could do the returning of the goods maybe, or store them for the future inshaAllah, if thats what the parents want. (though some parents may not be comfortable with the second baby having the things intended for a baby that died)
Anyway change the topic now inshaAllah this is too :crying: for me. :crying:
ummbilal
12-12-07, 08:22 PM
Regarding still birth,
Subhannallah this is very very sad for the parents, Allah gives life and Allah takes back what is His to give.
My mother inlaw went through it with her first child, she had a fully decorated nursery at home and no baby, she told me, those baby things gave her great comfort, to remind her, that her baby had been real and Allhumdulilah she went on to have another 2 healthy children so the baby goods got lots of use.
I recommend never NOT buying for fear of still birth, we are slaves of Allah, who has power over everything, if we lived like this we'd never start college funds for our children or make any plans for the future.
Brother regarding baby stuff, people will give u lists as long as your arm..go find someone from "back home"(or any non western country) and ask them what babys had there, chances are its somewhere warm to sleep, clothes n blankets and lots of love.
all the other stuff..
monitors,fancy prams,baby baths,robes, big toys, chairs that rock and swing baby to sleep!.etc.. is luxury items dont feel u have to buy them but get them if you'd like them, parents are put under too much pressure these days, children are only as expensive as u make them.
ps sister Zee raspberry leaf tea taste fruity? did u buy the one from holland and barretts? I add honey and drink it iced its nice?
maybe its just me lol!
If anyone knows anyone who is having a baby girl you HAVE to buy this gorgeous burgundy dress M&P have got in, it's too gorgeous to leave behind..
I think i know the one ur on about - does it have a gorjus matching burgundy shrug and lovely tights and matching shoes.
Cost summat in the region of £70 altogther????
My neice wore it on my sisters wedding last year - its still on at the same price :rubeyes: but its sooooo cute mashallah :inlove:
Meddo -dont buy a tomy baby monitor - theyre not v reliable. BT do a cool digital one for around £60
Medievalist
13-12-07, 10:03 AM
Dhakkiya: :jkk: some really helpful info there. and nice 1 about price-ranges et al. I didnt think about buying stuff second-hand. I aint sure. Its first grandchild and all dat - we aint gonna want any second hand gear. ALL nice and fresh methinks.
CW - :jkk: for the advice.
Have you decided on names yet? :rubeyes:
dunno gender yet bro.
Arsalan: :jkk: for teh advice bro.
please avoid this monstrosity at all costs
Whats wrong with the 3-weel buggy? they look ok. and abt telliing ppl wat to get. Same with us - if they close we tell em you get this and you get that but if they distant then make do with the 5r and cheesy mubarakan:D
Medievalist
13-12-07, 10:09 AM
all the babies who are expected in our families, may Allah allow them to be born in full health and remain strong & healthy thruout their lives, & pious muslims aameen
ameen.
and its true. I mean you could have a baby born healthy and then a few months down the line ALLAH Ta'ala takes back what is His. Does that mean we sit and keep baby wrapped in an old towel? I think not.
Isit possible to buy baby bunk beds, so you can pile on the babies on top of one another?
:rotfl: I like yr style bro :up:
Brother regarding baby stuff, people will give u lists as long as your arm..go find someone from "back home"(or any non western country) and ask them what babys had there, chances are its somewhere warm to sleep, clothes n blankets and lots of love.
all the other stuff..
monitors,fancy prams,baby baths,robes, big toys, chairs that rock and swing baby to sleep!.etc.. is luxury items dont feel u have to buy them but get them if you'd like them, parents are put under too much pressure these days, children are only as expensive as u make them.
sistAA - gud post. I get yr point and I aint gonna buy loads of stuff, Im a tight fisted get :D Just the essentials inshaALLAH.
Abu Mus'ab
13-12-07, 01:31 PM
dunno gender yet bro.
And? :rubeyes: You'd better think up names before the time cos i don't want you naming them bablu etc :nono:
watever u buy make sure u buy ON SALE and if u find that u dont need it later make sure u buy from stores that have good return/exchange policies lke 3 months or something because baby stuff is EXPENSIVE. i dont know about the UK but at the store i work at wen i worked in the children's department a stroller cost just as much as a crib :eek: each going up to like $400!!!
for crib, get one that converts into a toddler bed theyre only like $50 more than a regular crib here so its a good 'investment'. the regular nonconvertible cribs are a waste.
baby stuff is so expensive :(
Congrats Medi!
I'd say dont start buying anything yet until perhaps 6-7months down the line in terms of clothes, blankets, bottles etc
You can buy the other stuff though like a cot, pram now if you want.
Baby clothes shopping is such fun! Especially if its a girl :D So many cute frocks. Baby boys clothes are so boring :rolleyes:
Medievalist
14-12-07, 11:10 AM
And? :rubeyes: You'd better think up names before the time cos i don't want you naming them bablu etc :nono:
Bablu, Pinky, Binky, Dolly, Sweety, Chinky.
:rotfl:
I've got a few names floating around ma head. Aint decided on the boys format yet, if they having my first name as surname, or my dads name as surname, or my clan name.
Congrats Medi!
I'd say dont start buying anything yet until perhaps 6-7months down the line in terms of clothes, blankets, bottles etc
You can buy the other stuff though like a cot, pram now if you want.
Baby clothes shopping is such fun! Especially if its a girl :D So many cute frocks. Baby boys clothes are so boring :rolleyes:
shukriya, shukriya.
:jkk: for da advice.
Girls clothes? Black blanket and thats it :up: start em early in purdah :rotfl:
Mrs goes you'll be putting her into purdah at 3 months.
Medievalist
17-12-07, 01:01 PM
CW: is it better to buy from Alum Rock Rd/Stratford Rd etc or Town?
Im in sheffield but my dad goes they got a sale on some shop in Rock rd - Im guessing Aftabs but aint sure yet - what d'ya reckon? For deffo our high streets are cheaper than town innit. But are the goods - good?
Chained_Water
17-12-07, 01:07 PM
CW: is it better to buy from Alum Rock Rd/Stratford Rd etc or Town?
Im in sheffield but my dad goes they got a sale on some shop in Rock rd - Im guessing Aftabs but aint sure yet - what d'ya reckon? For deffo our high streets are cheaper than town innit. But are the goods - good?
My mam would probably say our ends just like your folks are :p
..but I would say town, mainly because the range of stuff, the quality and the warranties, you know that with stuff from apne shops you are gonna get grief if you have problems later, but with standard High Street shops you can take it back etc, get it replaced and wotnot without much problem.
Are you not gonna come down and do the shopping here yourself? Perhaps you could check out both?
if the baby is a boy, don't forget the miniture imama. if the baby is a girl, don't forget the miniture hijaab. :up:
Medievalist
17-12-07, 01:09 PM
CW: nah Im coming back. Who the heck wants to do eid in yorkshire :vomit: - no disrespect to all ya upnorth freshies but Birmingham DA best :inlove:
Im gonna look myself - but was just asking for yer opinion. Y9ou seem a wise woman (thats a euphemism for summat but Im sure you can work that out yrself :outta: )
I get what you saying abt warranties and stuff but aren't normal shops tied by those aswell? one year guarantee and stuff?
Medievalist
17-12-07, 01:10 PM
if the baby is a boy, don't forget the miniture imama. if the baby is a girl, don't forget the miniture hijaab. :up:
nah not an imaamah till he is hafiz inshaALLAH. That'll be his gift ;)
and scarf - lol. I said somewhere before my mrs goes I'll be having my daughters in purdah at 3 months :rotfl:
nah not an imaamah till he is hafiz inshaALLAH. That'll be his gift ;)
and scarf - lol. I said somewhere before my mrs goes I'll be having my daughters in purdah at 3 months :rotfl:
insha'allah!
CW: nah Im coming back. Who the heck wants to do eid in yorkshire :vomit: - no disrespect to all ya upnorth freshies but Birmingham DA best :inlove:
Im gonna look myself - but was just asking for yer opinion. Y9ou seem a wise woman (thats a euphemism for summat but Im sure you can work that out yrself :outta: )
I get what you saying abt warranties and stuff but aren't normal shops tied by those aswell? one year guarantee and stuff?
No,private shops are not tied in to customer service policies as much as big stores are, i would advise not to get any big items from apne shops, some of our people lack alot of customer service skills unfortunately.
Medievalist
18-12-07, 11:49 AM
:jkk: for advice MG.
You are better off sticking to large chain stores (like Mama's and Papa's, Mothercare, Gap KIDS etc) only because if their things are wonky then you are protected by warranty. Private smaller shops tend to get a bit narky about these things.
Medievalist
26-12-07, 11:05 PM
Gonna have to put the idea of buying in the sales a knock on the head, stores what I went to never had sales on :torture:
apparently people don't need to be enticed to buy baby goods cos they dont have an option - bloody capitalist scrooges :torture:
although rock rd has some sales apparently :D :outta:
Gonna have to put the idea of buying in the sales a knock on the head, stores what I went to never had sales on :torture:
apparently people don't need to be enticed to buy baby goods cos they dont have an option - bloody capitalist scrooges :torture:
although rock rd has some sales apparently :D :outta:
u checked argos? they had mamas and papas buggy half price:rubeyes:
ummbilal
27-12-07, 05:44 PM
u checked argos? they had mamas and papas buggy half price:rubeyes:
but its pink....
but its pink....
the one i saw was maroon? lemme see if i can find it:
http://www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/0982726/Trail/C%24cip%3D1500009551.Baby%2Band%2Bnursery%3EC%24ci p%3D1500010806.Clearance%2Bbaby%2Band%2Bnursery.ht m
errm ok its pink :D
ok i found this one which has a £50 discount on it but im not sure if u can turn the baby to face u, it doesnt looklike from the description, maybe ring the argos hotline and ask them? if it doesnt then dont buy it, if it DOES then that is a good price ur getting on that IMO:
http://www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/3590249/Trail/C%24cip%3D1500009551.Baby%2Band%2Bnursery%3EC%24ci p%3D1500009566.Pushchairs.htm
ooh another one, it has multi position as well (but its blue!)
http://www.argos.co.uk/static/Product/partNumber/3590050/Trail/C%24cip%3D1500009551.Baby%2Band%2Bnursery%3EC%24ci p%3D1500009566.Pushchairs.htm
£40 discount :up:
ummbilal
27-12-07, 06:44 PM
ohh jk sis i like the last one!
ohh jk sis i like the last one!
yeh that was my fave as well ;)
i like the beige one above it as well
Medievalist
27-12-07, 07:11 PM
MG - :jkk: for that. I let my mum know, appreciate it.
Unique Muslimah
27-12-07, 07:24 PM
:rubeyes:
Pushchairs are so expensive..Who would have known..
If you're on a shoestring budget then consider getting second hand 'big' items in good working order such as the car seat etc. You'd save a lot of money if you bought some good washable/reusable nappies- there's already a thread about that on here. Unless you're a poser who's really big on name brands, I'd suggest getting childrenswear from Primark or Tesco (and I've heard Asda aren't too bad either)- they come at a good price and are of decent quality.
If you're on a shoestring budget then consider getting second hand 'big' items in good working order such as the car seat etc. You'd save a lot of money if you bought some good washable/reusable nappies- there's already a thread about that on here. Unless you're a poser who's really big on name brands, I'd suggest getting childrenswear from Primark or Tesco (and I've heard Asda aren't too bad either)- they come at a good price and are of decent quality.
i wouldnt advise buying used or second hand car seats.
Should I wait for th first week scan - what if its twins or summat and I buy loads of stuff for singletons?
lol..that's funny :p
I think it's a little early to be buying baby stuff. Wait till during the end of the pregnancy. You could also wait and see if it's a baby girl or a baby boy - that way you could buy pink prams and clothes for the little girl....OR blue for the baby boy. :p
ummbilal
27-12-07, 08:35 PM
remember sometimes the scan is wrong and the sex is told to the parents wrong, so bessst to keep stuff neutral..or blue..!!!!!!!!!
(we have 3 boys and another on the way inshaallah, most stuff we have is blue lol!)
.: Anna :.
27-12-07, 08:44 PM
i wouldnt advise buying used or second hand car seats.
yeh that is the one thing they say never get a used one its not safe to do that, it must be new
*bump*
so have u bought anything yet bro? :d
Medievalist
12-01-08, 11:35 PM
*bump*
so have u bought anything yet bro? :d
no. I did look on the net at the sale items and tried to convince my mum to go shopping but my mum goes that wait a few months so in the end didnt buy owt. but :jkk: to all the brothers and ladies for all the links and advice. it was really useful.
no. I did look on the net at the sale items and tried to convince my mum to go shopping but my mum goes that wait a few months so in the end didnt buy owt. but :jkk: to all the brothers and ladies for all the links and advice. it was really useful.
ok but u gotta post a pic of the buggy u get once u got it of course (if its a 3-wheeler, u get this :spunch:)
yes im a saddo i know but i love baby stuff :inlove:
Medievalist
12-01-08, 11:37 PM
ok but u gotta post a pic of the buggy u get once u got it of course.
yes im a saddo i know but i love baby stuff :inlove:
I'll try. Im an ignoramus abt uploading photos and stuff.
sister safa
16-01-08, 01:14 AM
you dont need to shop till atleast the 2nd scan,thats how i did it.
Go for an maclaren xt stroller, suitable from birth. i swear it good cos i got one,fits in car boot and comfy, not expensive
check it out.
i only got everything when we had 3 months to go... personally i think get everything by/before 8 months. earlier is always better because it gives time to sort stuff out n also theres too much anticipation n xcitement the closer the date gets.
dhakiyya
16-01-08, 12:57 PM
i wouldnt advise buying used or second hand car seats.
thats right, you should never get them second hand, cause if they ahve been in an accident it can damage them internally and it won't protect your child.
you can reuse them for your next baby or if your best friend or something is handing it down to you, cause then you'd know it hadn't been in an accident
Medievalist
16-01-08, 02:27 PM
Sisters :jkk:
The best car seats are the ones you put in reverse ways so the toddler or baby is facing backwards. This is because a young baby or toddler cannot withstand the whiplash if there is an impact from the front and their necks are too soft. Even in a minor accident your child, if not strapped in backwards (so the force supports their spine by pushing into the seat), they will die from neck and spinal injury. Toddlers especially are top heavy and their heads are heavier proportionately.
If strapped in backwards and you are hit from the back the force is typically not great enough to break their neck like it is if you are hit from the front.
dhakiyya
16-01-08, 05:13 PM
The best car seats are the ones you put in reverse ways so the toddler or baby is facing backwards. This is because a young baby or toddler cannot withstand the whiplash if there is an impact from the front and their necks are too soft. Even in a minor accident your child, if not strapped in backwards (so the force supports their spine by pushing into the seat), they will die from neck and spinal injury. Toddlers especially are top heavy and their heads are heavier proportionately.
If strapped in backwards and you are hit from the back the force is typically not great enough to break their neck like it is if you are hit from the front.
what age/weight should a child be facing forwards? the manufacturers say nine months provided they weigh over 9 kilos, but they also say they can be rear facing until they weight 13 kilos. So whats best? My daughter is almost 18 months but barely weighs 9 kilos (lil mini thing mashaAllah, 0.2 centile :love: ) - she's still in a rear facing car seat. (my husband was a tiny little toddler too mashaAllah, he's 5'11" now mashaAllah so I have no worries about my baby being so small mashaAllah, just wanna make sure she's in the right car seat inshaAllah)
.: Anna :.
16-01-08, 06:07 PM
about car seats...
someone mentioned specific ones and specific cars go, but not all are compatible :confused:
the ones which convert from the buggies, are they compatible to most cars? i am totally clueless abt this :s we dont even have a car anyway, but like to take baby in my mum or dads car, bro in laws car or whoevers car we need to be able to put it into any? and is it easy to take them in and out of dif cars or not so easy :S
dhakiyya
16-01-08, 06:16 PM
a small car seat like the ones you get with buggies will fit into nearly any car that has a three point seatbelt. However, small cars like nissan micras might pose a problem. Ruqayya's car seat (the first one that went with the buggy) only fitted into the front of my nissan micra (when rear facing, it fitted in the back in the lying down position) - alhamdulillah my car didn't have a passenger air bag - so the car seat would not fit in a nissan micra with a passenger air bag - too big to fit in the back and its extremely dangerous to have a rear facing seat in the front if there's an air bag because if the air bag inflates it pushes the car seat violently against the seat, which is obviously extremely dangerous for the baby!
List all the cars baby's likely to be travelling in inshaAllah, then take the smallest to the shop and have the car seat fitted in the car to check it fits before buying it inshaAllah. Also check that all the cars have proper three point seatbelts (not the lap seatbelts) and also check if they have passenger air bags - if in doubt only have baby in the back inshaAllah.
.: Anna :.
16-01-08, 06:24 PM
okay, jazakallah khayr for that :up:
will have to find out what everyone's car make and type is cos i have no idea, i just know the colour :smack:
ummbilal
16-01-08, 06:32 PM
aarrrgghh we have soo much left to buy still, inshaallah we'll get it done.
Cristiana
16-01-08, 06:49 PM
aarrrgghh we have soo much left to buy still, inshaallah we'll get it done.
Me too. I got almost nothing (just a few clothes and my parents still have to ship over the travel system).
But I want to wait until we find a new house to buy most stuff insha'Allah... this is IF the baby decides to collaborate:D
QUESTION: in my family it is common to let the babies sleep in the pram (=the one where the baby lies down, I always get confused) for the first 6 months or so, before you can use a cot/bed.
Now, is there a specific reason to buy a moses basket for this purpose? or better, is there a reason why I shouldn't let my baby sleep in the pram? (they have the same shape...)
.: Anna :.
16-01-08, 06:52 PM
ohh sis u are moving house? insha allah i hope u find a really nice one and not too much delay getting it.
dhakiyya
16-01-08, 07:14 PM
Me too. I got almost nothing (just a few clothes and my parents still have to ship over the travel system).
But I want to wait until we find a new house to buy most stuff insha'Allah... this is IF the baby decides to collaborate:D
QUESTION: in my family it is common to let the babies sleep in the pram (=the one where the baby lies down, I always get confused) for the first 6 months or so, before you can use a cot/bed.
Now, is there a specific reason to buy a moses basket for this purpose? or better, is there a reason why I shouldn't let my baby sleep in the pram? (they have the same shape...)
check when you buy the pram if its suitable for the baby to sleep in. Some of them are not suitable. Old fashoined prams are suitable, modern prams are not always cause they don't have high enough sides and baby has to be strapped in. I think you can still buy old fashoined big prams but I think they're like £1000 :eek: would be cheaper to get a moses basket inshaAllah!
Cristiana
16-01-08, 08:19 PM
Actually I might end up buying one so I don't have to move the pram up/down stairs...
...today we went viewing the first properties and they were absolutely filthy matchboxes... EEEEEEEEEEEWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!! :(
Insha'Allah we'll have better luck soon:up:
Anna did you move yet?
Cristiana
16-01-08, 08:27 PM
This is the travel system my parents are getting me (but probably in navy) the website comes in English as well! I'm impressed! :D
http://www.brevi.eu/public/page.jsp?sez=322&pag=711
.: Anna :.
16-01-08, 08:49 PM
Actually I might end up buying one so I don't have to move the pram up/down stairs...
...today we went viewing the first properties and they were absolutely filthy matchboxes... EEEEEEEEEEEWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!! :(
Insha'Allah we'll have better luck soon:up:
Anna did you move yet?
noo we didnt. flats go soo quickly, as soon as u ask to view they are like sorry taken, even if they only advertised the same day :( subhanallah... bit frustrating. insha allah we will soon
may Allah provide u, me and both our hubbies and babies each with a nice clean and spacious and good place (and not tooo expensive) aameen!
btw on topic of flats.. am looking for ground floor cos hard to get buggy up stairs by self (well u can get blocks with lifts in them but like eww people puke and wee in them and stuff it really stinks, from previous exp in council block neway, would rather avoid :rubeyes:), so anyway alot of the houses in london, even tho they are ground floor u got to go up steps to front door.. cos they have a basement so ground floor gotta be raised to giv basement some sunlight.. depends on house how many steps they put. ideal not to have those, but sometimes they are the nicer flats cos like victorian conversion etc which cn b spacious and nice... what i am wondering roughly how many steps would be okay with buggy, or shud i just forget it? does ne1 live in those houses and u find it okay? i dno if it will be dangerous if its rainy or something?
ummbilal
16-01-08, 09:12 PM
Me too. I got almost nothing (just a few clothes and my parents still have to ship over the travel system).
But I want to wait until we find a new house to buy most stuff insha'Allah... this is IF the baby decides to collaborate:D
QUESTION: in my family it is common to let the babies sleep in the pram (=the one where the baby lies down, I always get confused) for the first 6 months or so, before you can use a cot/bed.
Now, is there a specific reason to buy a moses basket for this purpose? or better, is there a reason why I shouldn't let my baby sleep in the pram? (they have the same shape...)
sister i am imagining u mean the bit of the pram that comes off and looks like a moses basket?
if so, no problem why not, but remember babies can roll from 3-4 months and can roll out:rubeyes: !
my babies tend to sleep in my bed:outta: one is 4 and sleeping there now:smack: i think next baby can sleep in the cot from day one inshaallah, then hubby will be :coolbro: lol!!
ummbilal
16-01-08, 09:14 PM
noo we didnt. flats go soo quickly, as soon as u ask to view they are like sorry taken, even if they only advertised the same day :( subhanallah... bit frustrating. insha allah we will soon
may Allah provide u, me and both our hubbies and babies each with a nice clean and spacious and good place (and not tooo expensive) aameen!
btw on topic of flats.. am looking for ground floor cos hard to get buggy up stairs by self (well u can get blocks with lifts in them but like eww people puke and wee in them and stuff it really stinks, from previous exp in council block neway, would rather avoid :rubeyes:), so anyway alot of the houses in london, even tho they are ground floor u got to go up steps to front door.. cos they have a basement so ground floor gotta be raised to giv basement some sunlight.. depends on house how many steps they put. ideal not to have those, but sometimes they are the nicer flats cos like victorian conversion etc which cn b spacious and nice... what i am wondering roughly how many steps would be okay with buggy, or shud i just forget it? does ne1 live in those houses and u find it okay? i dno if it will be dangerous if its rainy or something?
firstly amin to your dua sister,
secondly a few steps even 7-10 will be fine inshaallah for space and nice flat, inshaallah you'll fine something cool and chaep soon!:)
ummbilal
16-01-08, 09:15 PM
This is the travel system my parents are getting me (but probably in navy) the website comes in English as well! I'm impressed! :D
http://www.brevi.eu/public/page.jsp?sez=322&pag=711
allhumdulilah sis that looks amazing, baby will luve it lol!:inlove::inlove::inlove:
.: Anna :.
16-01-08, 09:21 PM
firstly amin to your dua sister,
secondly a few steps even 7-10 will be fine inshaallah for space and nice flat, inshaallah you'll fine something cool and chaep soon!:)
oh okay, so its easy enuf to go up and down that by myself with buggy even in rain etc, it wont b dangerous? mayb i jst worry too much :o
neway if its okay thats cool bc its hard enuf finding a place even without having so many specifications :rubeyes:
Cristiana
16-01-08, 10:17 PM
oh okay, so its easy enuf to go up and down that by myself with buggy even in rain etc, it wont b dangerous? mayb i jst worry too much :o
neway if its okay thats cool bc its hard enuf finding a place even without having so many specifications :rubeyes:
That's what I think as well, as long as it is less than 2 floors of stairs I can compromise insha'Allah :up:
And AMEEN to your du'a! May Allah let all pregnant sisters fulfil their nesting instincts soon :inlove:
.: Anna :.
16-01-08, 10:18 PM
Aameen :love:
have u guys seen the baby asda link just posted by someone, lots of cheap baby equipment!
.: Anna :.
17-01-08, 06:21 AM
ooh cool. we dnt have an asda near us i think, do they only have it in zone 3+? :S anyway insha allah ill go from my mums or grannys place.. i gotta pick up bounty thingy from there cos if u get it from thereu get £5 voucher and from boots u dont
Medievalist
14-02-08, 11:15 AM
Update:
bath set: being gifted by my oldest sis-in-law
rocking cradle: being gifted by my second oldest sis-in-law
cot: being gifted by my oldest aunty
moses basket: apparently my 2 younger bros.
thats a big relief. alhamdulillah.
Bought a pack of 7 baby bodysuits from adams yesterday. oooohhhh my first baby shopping. :D
Alhamdulillah its taken a good bit of tension off knowing that big things are being bought by my relatives. Im gonna wait till I buy a car before buying the travel system, car seat etc. So that'll be in about 2 months time inshaALLAH.
I think we should start getting clothes and the accessory things now innit? changing mat, clothes, bibs etc.
Went to Mamas&Papas yesterday. 300 quid for a 3in1 travel system :eek: - I went once on my own to get a catalogue of theirs and the lady at counter goes gimme a pound, this time went in with mrs and they go have a catalogue for free. bloody cheapskates.
Can someone explain. I bought a pack of 7 bodysuits. I opened it and the think like just covers the torso - limbs are uncovered. Now does baby wear that directly on skin? And then ontop they wear bodysuit, and then some more clothes aswell?
I dont understand?
THE PATH 2
14-02-08, 11:35 AM
USE ISLAMIC RELIEF/ FAMILIES RELIEF CHARITY SHOPS
i did for first 2 ..boy and girl
then 3rd got hand me downs from 1st girl
happy days of struggle ..alhamdulillah
Medievalist
14-02-08, 11:37 AM
USE ISLAMIC RELIEF/ FAMILIES RELIEF CHARITY SHOPS
i did for first 2 ..boy and girl
then 3rd got hand me downs from 1st girl
happy days of struggle ..alhamdulillah
:jkk:
for da suggestion bro but dont think its gonna happen. First grandson of our house, infact first greatgrandson aswell - u knw what pakis are like. they aint gonna put anything but new on him. inshaALLAH. :coolbro:
THE PATH 2
14-02-08, 11:59 AM
:jkk:
for da suggestion bro but dont think its gonna happen. First grandson of our house, infact first greatgrandson aswell - u knw what pakis are like. they aint gonna put anything but new on him. inshaALLAH. :coolbro:
its all good..sub ki naseeb alag alag:)
Update:
bath set: being gifted by my oldest sis-in-law
rocking cradle: being gifted by my second oldest sis-in-law
cot: being gifted by my oldest aunty
moses basket: apparently my 2 younger bros.
thats a big relief. alhamdulillah.
Bought a pack of 7 baby bodysuits from adams yesterday. oooohhhh my first baby shopping. :D
Alhamdulillah its taken a good bit of tension off knowing that big things are being bought by my relatives. Im gonna wait till I buy a car before buying the travel system, car seat etc. So that'll be in about 2 months time inshaALLAH.
I think we should start getting clothes and the accessory things now innit? changing mat, clothes, bibs etc.
Went to Mamas&Papas yesterday. 300 quid for a 3in1 travel system :eek: - I went once on my own to get a catalogue of theirs and the lady at counter goes gimme a pound, this time went in with mrs and they go have a catalogue for free. bloody cheapskates.
Can someone explain. I bought a pack of 7 bodysuits. I opened it and the think like just covers the torso - limbs are uncovered. Now does baby wear that directly on skin? And then ontop they wear bodysuit, and then some more clothes aswell?
I dont understand?
aslaamalaikum
bro sounds like u bought vests, if the arms and legs are bare and only the torso is covered:rubeyes:
i think this is what u bought right? this they wear UNDERNEATH the jumpsuit in the second link!
http://www.bloomingmarvellous.co.uk/product.aspx?CategoryID=b-bodies&ProductID=25063&language=en-GB
when your were really trying to buy something like this?
http://adams.co.uk/shop/product/products_id/6363.html
scribble
14-02-08, 07:39 PM
aslaamalaikum
bro sounds like u bought vests, if the arms and legs are bare and only the torso is covered:rubeyes:
i think this is what u bought right? this they wear UNDERNEATH the jumpsuit in the second link!
http://www.bloomingmarvellous.co.uk/product.aspx?CategoryID=b-bodies&ProductID=25063&language=en-GB
when your were really trying to buy something like this?
http://adams.co.uk/shop/product/products_id/6363.html
Oh. my. word... Those clothes are so cute...
I can't bare the cuteness.
Mashallah!
And congratulations brother.
I love babies... Big cute chubby ones, ones I could just eat! :inlove:
Abu Mus'ab
14-02-08, 07:55 PM
Can someone explain. I bought a pack of 7 bodysuits. I opened it and the think like just covers the torso - limbs are uncovered. Now does baby wear that directly on skin? And then ontop they wear bodysuit, and then some more clothes aswell?
bro sounds like u bought vests,
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
imported_MMS
14-02-08, 07:58 PM
if your looking for cheap baby clothing try ethel austin, their stuff is cheapppp and qualitywise its quite good aswell
you can find your nearest store on their website
ethelaustin.co.uk (http://www.ethelaustin.co.uk/eawebsite.nsf/StoreLocatorByPostcodeAndKeyword?OpenForm)
Medievalist
15-02-08, 11:06 AM
its all good..sub ki naseeb alag alag:)
alhamdulillah
aslaamalaikum
bro sounds like u bought vests, if the arms and legs are bare and only the torso is covered:rubeyes:
i think this is what u bought right? this they wear UNDERNEATH the jumpsuit in the second link!
http://www.bloomingmarvellous.co.uk/product.aspx?CategoryID=b-bodies&ProductID=25063&language=en-GB
when your were really trying to buy something like this?
http://adams.co.uk/shop/product/products_id/6363.html
:wswrwb:
not vests. They called bodysuits. I just assumed it would cover whole body, not just torso. But yeh. the stuff in second link is what I thought I was buying.
Chained_Water
15-02-08, 11:12 AM
They're a type of underclothing bro.. need to wear other stuff on top of it.. you got this (http://www.mamasandpapas.co.uk/product-s0003476/type-s/)right? What you need now are some of these (http://www.mamasandpapas.co.uk/product-s0003479/type-s/).
Oh I just repeated MG's post :smack:
*feels useless and leaves thread :p *
Medievalist
15-02-08, 11:16 AM
CW: so they wear two layers at home. and then u put on snowsuit thing when u take em outside?
Chained_Water
15-02-08, 11:30 AM
CW: so they wear two layers at home. and then u put on snowsuit thing when u take em outside?
Yep, get one of them cute teddy bear ones, so baby looks like wrapped up teddy bear, so cute :inlove: ..Also get some gloves.. you don't want them scratching their own eyes out, they can tend to scratch their faces sometimes.
The bodysuits are like "vests" - they need clothing ontop of it :p And then thicker babygrows when you take them out because they can get cold which makes their wee cute nose go all red :inlove: but is a bad thing :nono:
:p
dhakiyya
15-02-08, 08:02 PM
CW: so they wear two layers at home. and then u put on snowsuit thing when u take em outside?
As a general rule, they should be wearing one more layer than you are (unless you are macho northerners who wear just a t-shirt when its snowing, then they need a few more layers than you)
blankets etc count as layers.
Medievalist
17-02-08, 03:10 PM
sisters: :jkk:
my sis-in-laws were explaining to me yesterday. but really all that stuff my mum'll teach her innit. :D
UmmAayman
20-02-08, 11:02 AM
sisters: :jkk:
my sis-in-laws were explaining to me yesterday. but really all that stuff my mum'll teach her innit. :D
i just sat here and read this whole thread can you beleive it. you have really made me laugh.
brother this will all full into place when inshaAllah your lil bundle of joy comes. don't panic. but i wish my husband was intrested in all this stuff he just throws his bank card at me and tells me to go wild. :D
don't buy to much 0-3 months stuff you don't know how big baby will be when they are born inshaAllah. my 1st son was 10lb :rubeyes: yup thats right 10lb
so he wore 0-3 for about 5 weeks only. BIG WASTE OF MONEY
focus a bit more on helping your wive out during her pregnancy and enjoying time with eachother inshaAllah, when the baby comes you won't have this time that you do now. and make lots and lots and lots of dua for the labout that everything runs smoothly inshaAllah.
i know a lot of brothers don't want think about this but make dua a male doctor doesnt have to come in at anytime
ummbilal
20-02-08, 04:10 PM
or just stand n guard the door, from male staff.
al-ghazalli
21-02-08, 04:13 AM
how about the nursery..did any parents go crazy over the nursery room? my wife did lol
Medievalist
21-02-08, 11:21 AM
Umm Ayman: Im quite unusual in that respect. I love kids innit. so cute. Whenever I go to my sis-in-laws there kids think Im a climbing frame **roll eyes** - always atleast two of em perched on me somewhere :D
:jkk: for your advice, appreciated.
Btw can you specifiy that you want ladies on delivery team or summat? Im asking the Birmingham sisters in particular and the rest of you in general?
al-ghazzali: dunno abt others but we aint having a nursery. I only got my own room after I got married :rotfl: - we just gonna have baby in same room as ours innit.
UmmAayman
21-02-08, 11:46 AM
Umm Ayman: Im quite unusual in that respect. I love kids innit. so cute. Whenever I go to my sis-in-laws there kids think Im a climbing frame **roll eyes** - always atleast two of em perched on me somewhere :D
:jkk: for your advice, appreciated.
Btw can you specifiy that you want ladies on delivery team or summat? Im asking the Birmingham sisters in particular and the rest of you in general?
al-ghazzali: dunno abt others but we aint having a nursery. I only got my own room after I got married :rotfl: - we just gonna have baby in same room as ours innit.
yes you can ask for women but incase of emergency a male doctor may have to intervene.
.: Anna :.
21-02-08, 12:23 PM
yeh brother i think its quite common that alot of people write that in the birth plan they dnt want males to come in, or any unnecessary ppl to be coming in even female etc.. (i mean like medican students and things) only for emergency then male doctot may have to? if there is no female one who has the knowledge in that case :s but write it on the birth plan...
al ghazali i am doing a nursery room insha allah :D bt havent started getting the stuff yet.. urs must be pretty big for the all three cots and three times amount of stuff!
r u keeping urs in there from the start? we hav a seperate room for baby its right next door to ours. i dnt think a full size cot gna fit into our room near the best, bc of the layout.. so even if have him in a moses basket in the room at start im gna have to move him 2 the other room when he gets too much for basket. so i dno to just start him in his own room or not :scratch:
i went nuts on the nursery and still go nuts on his room now that he is a lil bwoy :inlove:
Medievalist
21-02-08, 02:06 PM
ladies: :jkk: for your advice.
al-ghazalli
21-02-08, 05:08 PM
al ghazali i am doing a nursery room insha allah bt havent started getting the stuff yet.. urs must be pretty big for the all three cots and three times amount of stuff!
lol sister your going to love doing the nursery..your husband will enjoy it also as long as u don't nag haha :P...wifey wanted everything perfect..it toook way too long..we painted the room and made it into a spring theme but the hard work paid off..it looks gr8.
r u keeping urs in there from the start? we hav a seperate room for baby its right next door to ours. i dnt think a full size cot gna fit into our room near the best, bc of the layout.. so even if have him in a moses basket in the room at start im gna have to move him 2 the other room when he gets too much for basket. so i dno to just start him in his own room or not
We plan on keeping the kids in the room next to ours since all of their stuff wouldn't fit into our bedroom...but I think it would be easier for you if you keep him in your room for now no? this way if he cries or needs anything your right in the room and more convenient for u also lol...
zahra_unknown
21-02-08, 05:41 PM
Personally i wouldn't let my bwaby away from my sight even when i'm :zzz:
She/He needs to be within an arms length :inlove: :D
.: Anna :.
21-02-08, 07:09 PM
lol sister your going to love doing the nursery..your husband will enjoy it also as long as u don't nag haha :P...wifey wanted everything perfect..it toook way too long..we painted the room and made it into a spring theme but the hard work paid off..it looks gr8.
We plan on keeping the kids in the room next to ours since all of their stuff wouldn't fit into our bedroom...but I think it would be easier for you if you keep him in your room for now no? this way if he cries or needs anything your right in the room and more convenient for u also lol...
my mum just bought me a cot and changing table 2day :D i didnt kno they were gna get me that so now i jst hav 2 wait for them 2 bring it down insha allah :D
yeah it is more convenient for that, but the only thing is that its not gna fit next to the bed, so wd hav 2 keep him in the other side of the room anyway :scratch: hmm will see
btw do u know if urs are boys or girls, or like how many boy and girl or u didnt find out?
lol sister your going to love doing the nursery..your husband will enjoy it also as long as u don't nag haha :P...wifey wanted everything perfect..it toook way too long..we painted the room and made it into a spring theme but the hard work paid off..it looks gr8.
We plan on keeping the kids in the room next to ours since all of their stuff wouldn't fit into our bedroom...but I think it would be easier for you if you keep him in your room for now no? this way if he cries or needs anything your right in the room and more convenient for u also lol...
u got triplets :rubeyes:
al-ghazalli
21-02-08, 08:00 PM
By April inshallah :D
By April inshallah :D
omg!!!!!
subhanallah i looovvvveeeee twins and triplets , they is my obsession :D
omg omg omg!!!
are they all boys?
are they all girls?
two boys and one girl?
or two girls and one boy?
al-ghazalli
21-02-08, 08:08 PM
we have no idea what the sex of the babies are...we left it as a surprise...but its killing us now lol and we want to find out what we have...but we promised each other we've wouldn't cave in so we got to wait it out.
But yeah i'm super excited...we were trying for one but Allah had other plans lol so I can't and inshallah we'll have 3 healthy babies.
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oops sorry Anna completely missed your post but yeah we keepin it a surprise..do u know if your having a girl or a boy?
we have no idea what the sex of the babies are...we left it as a surprise...but its killing us now lol and we want to find out what we have...but we promised each other we've wouldn't cave in so we got to wait it out.
But yeah i'm super excited...we were trying for one but Allah had other plans lol so I can't and inshallah we'll have 3 healthy babies.
Edit
oops sorry Anna completely missed your post but yeah we keepin it a surprise..do u know if your having a girl or a boy?
awww ameen,
may allah swt give her a safe delivery and both of u healthy babies ameen
we must have pictures inshallah.
Look at these gorjus babies:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2-beZrmIEpw&feature=related
al-ghazalli
21-02-08, 08:30 PM
Ameen to the dua's...
dhakiyya
21-02-08, 09:41 PM
We plan on keeping the kids in the room next to ours since all of their stuff wouldn't fit into our bedroom...but I think it would be easier for you if you keep him in your room for now no? this way if he cries or needs anything your right in the room and more convenient for u also lol...
In the early days inshaAllah you can put three babies in a normal cot, just put the three of them sideways inshaAllah. This is one way around the problem of space. They can only be like this for as long as they can actually fit into a cot sideways of course, but its no different with one baby in a moses basket. Twins and triplets in the early days are sometimes comforted by the presence of their siblings. They did share a womb for nine months so its hardly surprising.
Another good reason to have them in the same room as you to start with: one baby is hard enough work as it is! Seriously, you don't want to be constantly going to another room when you've got three of them inshaAllah.
A good book is baby secrets - I forgot the author's name but zee knows the book too, in fact she sent me a copy mashaAllah. The book is mostly about how to get your baby or babies to settle down into a sleep pattern naturally as soon as they are ready. Most babies develop a sense of day and night and start to sleep longer at around three months old, but you need to get the conditions right for them to start to take their long sleep at night rather than during the day! The book has lots of excellent advice, but some of the breastfeeding advice needs to be modified. If inshaAllah your wife is going to try to exclusively breastfeed them inshaAllah I'll give you some alternative advice to pass on regarding breastfeeding when using the methods in this book.
Ameen to the duas
.: Anna :.
21-02-08, 09:51 PM
we have no idea what the sex of the babies are...we left it as a surprise...but its killing us now lol and we want to find out what we have...but we promised each other we've wouldn't cave in so we got to wait it out.
But yeah i'm super excited...we were trying for one but Allah had other plans lol so I can't and inshallah we'll have 3 healthy babies.
Edit
oops sorry Anna completely missed your post but yeah we keepin it a surprise..do u know if your having a girl or a boy?
mine is most likely a boy
hmmm i am really curious to know how urs will be, like if they are all the same or a mix of boys and girls. do u know if they are identical? u can get identical triplets right?
UmmAayman
21-02-08, 10:18 PM
Wow mashaAllah triplets....:rubeyes:? may Allah make things easy for you inshaAllah and you little ones amin
mashaAllah anna you excpecting too mashaAllah.
i have a lil boy and am pregnant (with a little girl inshallah) alhumdulilah.:up:
my pregnancy aint going to well though have a lot of complecations so your duas are very much needed inshaAllah.
.: Anna :.
21-02-08, 10:20 PM
may allah make ur pregnancy easier for u sis and remove ne complications aameen
how far are u?
UmmAayman
21-02-08, 10:34 PM
may allah make ur pregnancy easier for u sis and remove ne complications aameen
how far are u?
im 6 months alhumdulilah and you?
subanaAllah Allah is the one in control of this i leave it in his hands. the doctors also told me that they thought the baby had died at 8 weeks as i was very ill in hospital they didn't see how she would have survived, but Allah had other plans and the baby was still alive but now i have come across some more complications. Baby is well kicking and stuff aluhumdulilah but i can go into labour at any time due to a damaged placenta. im a high risk pregnancy anyway as i have diebets too.
dhakiyya
21-02-08, 10:46 PM
mine is most likely a boy
hmmm i am really curious to know how urs will be, like if they are all the same or a mix of boys and girls. do u know if they are identical? u can get identical triplets right?
yeah but its extremely extremely rare (I can't remember what the odds are) You can even get identical quads. Though usually triplets are the result of more than one egg - e.g. all three from different eggs or two identical and one not, quads sometimes its two sets of identical "twins", or one set of identical "twins" and two each from a separate egg. Same with quins. I don't know if there have ever been cases of naturally occurring sextuplets or not. Multiple births these days are usually the result of fertility treatments (making women a bit too fertile mashaAllah!) and they are non identical as they either result in too many eggs being produced at ovulation (fertility drugs do this) or they implant more than one embryo in procedures like IVF because it increases the chance of success as if one embryo doesn't implant the other(s) might inshaAllah - however at least quins have occurred naturally that I know of. Usually with naturally occuring multiple births some of the babies are identical. But the odds of them all being identical are much smaller. If you think about it, two identical and one non identical triplets is the same events as having non identical twins (two eggs released at ovulation) and identical twins (one fertilised egg producing two babies) - both happening to the same mother in the same pregnancy.
.: Anna :.
21-02-08, 10:52 PM
yeh i dno if any sextuplets are natural.. those walton one are ivf i know that. but maybe, cos there are other sets around but the others are mixed boys and girls not just all of one init.
i saw on tv one thing with quads, they looked identical i am nt sure. was soo cute!!
umm ayman i am like 5 and a bit months? so we are due around the same time masha allah. quite a few ppl here are due in that time, cos i think 2 brothers there wives are also due around the same month. will be alot of new babies around this spring and summer insha allah :inlove:
insha allah sis everything will be okay for u, make alot of dua and insha allah she will be born healthy and well, and not tooo early :love:
dhakiyya
22-02-08, 12:20 AM
yeh i dno if any sextuplets are natural.. those walton one are ivf i know that. but maybe, cos there are other sets around but the others are mixed boys and girls not just all of one init.
i saw on tv one thing with quads, they looked identical i am nt sure. was soo cute!!
the waltons are all non identical. I was born in the same hospital as they were :hidband: mashaAllah. I have heard of identical quads before. Identical ones have to be natural as far as I know because fertility treatments don't cause it (although you could have two identical twins occurring naturally in a pregnancy that resulted from fertility treatment)
ummbilal
22-02-08, 12:47 AM
im 6 months alhumdulilah and you?
subanaAllah Allah is the one in control of this i leave it in his hands. the doctors also told me that they thought the baby had died at 8 weeks as i was very ill in hospital they didn't see how she would have survived, but Allah had other plans and the baby was still alive but now i have come across some more complications. Baby is well kicking and stuff aluhumdulilah but i can go into labour at any time due to a damaged placenta. im a high risk pregnancy anyway as i have diebets too.
inshaallah your pregnancy will continue sister and your baby will be healthy and well and you will have strength.
al-ghazalli
22-02-08, 03:29 AM
In the early days inshaAllah you can put three babies in a normal cot, just put the three of them sideways inshaAllah. This is one way around the problem of space. They can only be like this for as long as they can actually fit into a cot sideways of course, but its no different with one baby in a moses basket. Twins and triplets in the early days are sometimes comforted by the presence of their siblings. They did share a womb for nine months so its hardly surprising.
Another good reason to have them in the same room as you to start with: one baby is hard enough work as it is! Seriously, you don't want to be constantly going to another room when you've got three of them inshaAllah.
Jazkallah that sounds like gr8 advise i'll let wifey know..plus she really wanted them to sleep in our room for atleast the first few days. The book you mentioned sounds good...I think my wife already bought a couple of them also.
my mother and mother in-law make so much fun of us since I guess in their day they said everything came naturally..they never had books..or classes on pregnancy..they find it amusing lol Allah Bless Them.
hmmm i am really curious to know how urs will be, like if they are all the same or a mix of boys and girls. do u know if they are identical? u can get identical triplets right?
lol your curious eh....