Marriage Proposal Dilema

[Proprosal]

Salam Alaikum,
She's salafi, Im inclined towards sufism. I really like her because of her character traits, sisters like her are an extremely rare catch but I do not know if it will work considering our differences. Both of us are moderate in our approach, she isnt a super salafi and Im not the type of sufi who does hadras etc although I do like scholars such as ibn arabi.
Judging by the type of stuff she talks about she seems quite inclined towards spirituality which is what I am into. What should I do????

[.: Anna :.]

istikhara?

[Urr]

What should I do????

talk to her about it innit.

[Proposal]

Thanks for the input. Well, I am going to do istikhara tonight InshAllah.

What would you salafi sisters do if you had a sufi inclined brother propose to you ? If you found him quite good looking and agreed with him in quite alot of things and shared alot of common values but you both differed in this one area. What would you sisters do ??

[ZBSSQT]

repost without the takfeerI only made clear the viewpoint of some scholars with regards to Ibn Arabi and his ideas. I didn't personally make takfir on him, rather (some) scholars have. The scholars are in an ideal position to make takfir. You cannot censure the knowledge from the scholars.

Going back on topic, the gist of what I said was for you to ensure that you both share the same Aqeedah, otherwise you might find yourself in a bit of a bother later on in life. For example Ahlus Sunnah Wal Jamaa'/Salaafya do not look favourably at Ibn Arabi and his ilk. There is plentiful material by Salaafi Scholars like Abu Ameena Bilal Philips against people like Ibn Arabi, Harun Yahya etc. etc.

Saying that, there’s always an exception to every rule. By all means you could get married to her and have a wonderful marriage.

I apologise if I have caused offence, I have only tried to be honest.

Your brother in Islam.

[Islamiyyah]

Thanks for the input. Well, I am going to do istikhara tonight InshAllah.

What would you salafi sisters do if you had a sufi inclined brother propose to you ? If you found him quite good looking and agreed with him in quite alot of things and shared alot of common values but you both differed in this one area. What would you sisters do ??

I am salafi, and I would never marry a sufi brother no matter what he had or how he looked. Absolutly not, absolutly not, absolutly not.

[Cashew]

Salam Alaikum,
She's salafi, Im inclined towards sufism. I really like her because of her character traits, sisters like her are an extremely rare catch but I do not know if it will work considering our differences. Both of us are moderate in our approach, she isnt a super salafi and Im not the type of sufi who does hadras etc although I do like scholars such as ibn arabi.
Judging by the type of stuff she talks about she seems quite inclined towards spirituality which is what I am into. What should I do????

I'm not Muslim, so please consider my opinions accordingly...

Are the two of you looking to get married or to go into the business of running a madrassah together?

If you two are looking only to get married, then you ought look no further than Qu'ran and Sunnah, particularly those parts concerning the Prophet (pbuh) and His marriages.

One of the most striking things about Islam is its emphasis on happy, fulfilling, and passionate marriage.

The Prophet (pbuh) and His wives were crazy about each other, were true partners, couldn't never do enough for each other.

To my non-Muslim's eye, Islam emphasizes the love, passion, trust, affection, and supreme loyalty between husband and wife. In a partnership like that, two people can accomplish anything, no matter how challenging or tough.

Since I'm not Muslim, I haven't noticed a lot in Qu'ran and Sunnah about potential mates getting bogged down in the tiny details of sects, of Islamic theology, of which scholar said what.

Since I'm not a Muslim, it seems to me that what the Prophet (pbuh) sought most in a wife was faith, character, and intelligence.

Like Anna said, do istikhara and pay careful attention to the response.

Sometimes God's will takes us to places we could never have arrived at on our own.

[dhakiyya]

Cashew, come on, take your shahada.... you know you want to inshaAllah.

[Unique Muslimah]

Cashew, come on, take your shahada.... you know you want to inshaAllah.

You telling me:smack:

[ummbilal]

You telling me:smack:

lol!! cashew will do whatever feels right u lot should know putting pressure on a reson doesnt help only Allah guides hearts.


re marriage, bro make istikara, Allah knows whats best for u not us lot.