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muslimuk
01-11-07, 09:15 AM
salam.. im sure alot of brothers would agree
women are very complicated and difficult to understand
they get moody for no reason, nag alot. complain.
obsessed with the words "i love u" jus cos a guy does not say it dont mean he dnt love her
he can show his love through actions like. helping her out, doing chores babysitting, making his own breaky and ironing his own clothes.
and so un reasonable. trying to reason with them is like no go area
and they allwasy right.
:zzz::coolbro:
PiElle2
01-11-07, 09:32 AM
i realised men dun like problems whereas women love to talk about problems...
i always tot i'm half a man.... :(
-Shamil-
01-11-07, 10:10 AM
salam.. im sure alot of brothers would agree
women are very complicated and difficult to understand
they get moody for no reason, nag alot. complain.
obsessed with the words "i love u" jus cos a guy does not say it dont mean he dnt love her
he can show his love through actions like. helping her out, doing chores babysitting, making his own breaky and ironing his own clothes.
and so un reasonable. trying to reason with them is like no go area
and they allwasy right.
:zzz::coolbro:
just close the kitchen door while she's talking - u wont hear her then :up:
.: Anna :.
01-11-07, 01:52 PM
salam.. im sure alot of brothers would agree
women are very complicated and difficult to understand
they get moody for no reason, nag alot. complain.
obsessed with the words "i love u" jus cos a guy does not say it dont mean he dnt love her
he can show his love through actions like. helping her out, doing chores babysitting, making his own breaky and ironing his own clothes.
and so un reasonable. trying to reason with them is like no go area
and they allwasy right.
:zzz::coolbro:
well if you love her, and she wants to hear it... then just say it whats the big deal? it will make ur life easier :smack:
men :rolleyes:
muslimuk
01-11-07, 01:53 PM
well if you love her, and she wants to hear it... then just say it whats the big deal? it will make ur life easier :smack:
men :rolleyes:
but its just 3 words.. and y the moods and y r they allwasy right
$HugoBoss$
01-11-07, 01:54 PM
well if you love her, and she wants to hear it... then just say it whats the big deal? it will make ur life easier :smack:
men :rolleyes:
Whats with the :rolleyes:, take this :torture:
me just jk, me don't want infraction, tank u
IbnAbdulHakim
01-11-07, 01:55 PM
the best of women are patient/reasonable and im sure would appreciate you helping with chores and would make tou yea at the end, with carnation milk and lotsa suger !!!
yes i might be talking about my sisters :|
the wise muslim keeps patient n also ... sometimes... keeps the mouth shut :|
I love your grammar seriously. :up:
muslimuk
01-11-07, 01:56 PM
I love your grammar seriously. :up:
whos :confused:
whos :confused:
Yours :up:
but its just 3 words.. and y the moods and y r they allwasy right :wswrwb:
lool & ur not the first man to complain
It is reported that a man once came to 'Umar, the second Caliph, with the intention of bringing to his notice certain complaints he had against his wife. When he reached the door of Umar's house, he heard the Caliph's wife railing against him....
Hearing this, he went back as he thought that the Caliph himself was in the same predicament and could, therefore, be hardly expected to set matters right for him. "Umar, coming out of his house, saw the person going back. So he called him out and inquired as to the purpose which had brought him to his house. He said that he had come to him with some complaints against his wife, but turned back on finding that the Caliph himself was subject to the same treatment from his wife...
`Umar said to him that he patiently bore the excesses of his wife because she had certain rights over him. "Is is not true that she cooks my food, washes my clothes and suckles my children, thus reliving me of the necessity of employing a cook, a washerman and a nurse although she is not in the slighted degree responsible for this?
Not only that, I enjoy peace of mind on account of her and I am protected from committing the sin of adultery. In view of these advantages, I put up with her excesses. You should also do the same." ."
from Marriage in Islam: A Manual, by Abdul-Rauf check it out :up:
muslimuk
01-11-07, 01:58 PM
Yours :up:
why is it bad?
why is it bad?
Just spelling mistakes, i guess you dont read what you type lol.
salam.. im sure alot of brothers would agree
women are very complicated and difficult to understand
they get moody for no reason, nag alot. complain.
obsessed with the words "i love u" jus cos a guy does not say it dont mean he dnt love her
he can show his love through actions like. helping her out, doing chores babysitting, making his own breaky and ironing his own clothes.
and so un reasonable. trying to reason with them is like no go area
and they allwasy right.
:zzz::coolbro:
if its just three small words wats the problem with saying it?
i understand the words can get old after awhile... but then try it in a new language, she'll be impressed!
muslimuk
01-11-07, 01:59 PM
if its just three small words wats the problem with saying it?
i understand the words can get old after awhile... but then try it in a new language, she'll be impressed!
funny how all the women here are picking out one aspect of my post the " i love you " bit.. typical
funny how all the women here are picking out one aspect of my post the " i love you " bit.. typical
No dont just say it, make sure you say it when your comfortable, not just because it makes her happy. Its not just 3 words they mean something but should only be expressed when you yourself feel comfortable.
You'll get better replies in the brother section. Personally I am forbidden to speak about women in general on the public section for safety reasons.
muslimuk
01-11-07, 02:02 PM
You'll get better replies in the brother section. Personally I am forbidden to speak about women in general on the public section for safety reasons.
give me access man :D
funny how all the women here are picking out one aspect of my post the " i love you " bit.. typical
lol :p
ok fine
actually i dont even care if my husband says it or not.
anyway, to pick out another thing from ur post:
women are only complicated to u men because ur not wise enough to pay attention and understand. walnuts should help inshallah :up:
.: Anna :.
01-11-07, 02:03 PM
:wswrwb:
lool & ur not the first man to complain
It is reported that a man once came to 'Umar, the second Caliph, with the intention of bringing to his notice certain complaints he had against his wife. When he reached the door of Umar's house, he heard the Caliph's wife railing against him....
Hearing this, he went back as he thought that the Caliph himself was in the same predicament and could, therefore, be hardly expected to set matters right for him. "Umar, coming out of his house, saw the person going back. So he called him out and inquired as to the purpose which had brought him to his house. He said that he had come to him with some complaints against his wife, but turned back on finding that the Caliph himself was subject to the same treatment from his wife...
`Umar said to him that he patiently bore the excesses of his wife because she had certain rights over him. "Is is not true that she cooks my food, washes my clothes and suckles my children, thus reliving me of the necessity of employing a cook, a washerman and a nurse although she is not in the slighted degree responsible for this?
Not only that, I enjoy peace of mind on account of her and I am protected from committing the sin of adultery. In view of these advantages, I put up with her excesses. You should also do the same." ."
from Marriage in Islam: A Manual, by Abdul-Rauf check it out :up:
Jazaak Allah Khayr sis for that reminder to the bros :up:
Seriously i dont even get the complaint... she wants you to say I love you - how is that a crime? If this all u have to complain about, then ur wife must be great because its not even something worth complaining...
so do shukr & dnt b ungrateful :D
lol :p
ok fine
actually i dont even care if my husband says it or not.
anyway, to pick out another thing from ur post:
women are only complicated to u men because ur not wise enough to pay attention and understand. walnuts should help inshallah :up:
Agreed 100% lol!
muslimuk
01-11-07, 02:04 PM
:wswrwb:
lool & ur not the first man to complain
It is reported that a man once came to 'Umar, the second Caliph, with the intention of bringing to his notice certain complaints he had against his wife. When he reached the door of Umar's house, he heard the Caliph's wife railing against him....
Hearing this, he went back as he thought that the Caliph himself was in the same predicament and could, therefore, be hardly expected to set matters right for him. "Umar, coming out of his house, saw the person going back. So he called him out and inquired as to the purpose which had brought him to his house. He said that he had come to him with some complaints against his wife, but turned back on finding that the Caliph himself was subject to the same treatment from his wife...
`Umar said to him that he patiently bore the excesses of his wife because she had certain rights over him. "Is is not true that she cooks my food, washes my clothes and suckles my children, thus reliving me of the necessity of employing a cook, a washerman and a nurse although she is not in the slighted degree responsible for this?
Not only that, I enjoy peace of mind on account of her and I am protected from committing the sin of adultery. In view of these advantages, I put up with her excesses. You should also do the same." ."
from Marriage in Islam: A Manual, by Abdul-Rauf check it out :up:
:up: good avice.. never thought of it that way..
Some women are complicated- just as some men are. Being complicated is not specific to one gender.
abubakarbristol
01-11-07, 04:40 PM
salam.. im sure alot of brothers would agree
women are very complicated and difficult to understand
they get moody for no reason, nag alot. complain.
obsessed with the words "i love u" jus cos a guy does not say it dont mean he dnt love her
he can show his love through actions like. helping her out, doing chores babysitting, making his own breaky and ironing his own clothes.
and so un reasonable. trying to reason with them is like no go area
and they allwasy right.
:zzz::coolbro:
Salam Brother
It is good to see that you are beginning to understand that you cannot understand !
Just a little advice from a Grandfather:
"I love you" is only three words and not very hard to pronounce, if you mean it say it, no-one has ever been hurt by telling someone that they love them.
Of course you should show it by actions but a little wisper now and again makes it so much better.
My Wife informs me that Women are not unreasonable but are always right.
My Uncle said to my Aunt "I realise that you are right all the time but this time you are a little bit less right than usual." A very wise man!
If you realise that you have lost the battle before you starts than you are half-way to becoming a decent husband.
Yesterday I was sitting at the computer just before I was going to work with the tv on, she walked into the room, turned both off and told me to stop wasting money. This is from a Woman who spent £85 on an outfit that her cousin had chosen for her (and she didn't need, want or like) so as not to upset her cousin. Of course needless to say she was right.
Salam Brother
... no-one has ever been hurt by telling someone that they love them.
actually u'd be surprised
miss-islamic
01-11-07, 06:08 PM
Men are always complaining about women complaining. :rolleyes:
-Shamil-
01-11-07, 06:26 PM
Men are always complaining about women complaining. :rolleyes:
if women stopped complaining, then men wouldnt have to complain about women complainng :rolleyes:
Women only comlain when men dont listen in the 1st place.
muslimah85
01-11-07, 06:36 PM
if men had common sense the world would be a far more easier place, and if they wern't so darn stubborn!!! :torture: :torture: :torture: :torture:
*DISCLAIMER*
I am in a very anti men mood today ! Sorry
$HugoBoss$
01-11-07, 06:56 PM
Women complain because they got nothing else to do :D
Women complain because they got nothing else to do :D
women complain bcuz of statemenst likes this Bossssssss!!!!! :torture:
Rosalie-Beauty
01-11-07, 07:21 PM
salam.. im sure alot of brothers would agree
women are very complicated and difficult to understand
they get moody for no reason, nag alot. complain.
obsessed with the words "i love u" jus cos a guy does not say it dont mean he dnt love her
he can show his love through actions like. helping her out, doing chores babysitting, making his own breaky and ironing his own clothes.
and so un reasonable. trying to reason with them is like no go area
and they allwasy right.
:zzz::coolbro:
Allah made us complicated..we cant help it. And to adress the moodiness; we get this thing called PMS once a month. "I love you" is an overused phrase, if its used too much it loses its meaning. Anyway, what did you expect us woman to be? Empty submissive wraiths?:scratch::scratch::scratch::
Some women are complicated- just as some men are. Being complicated is not specific to one gender.
people generally tend to make themselves complicated ... creating unnecessary problems and issues, when a simple solution will do ...
if you mean the Human being itself, then we are Extremely Complex creatures anatomically ...
it shows the magnificence of the Creation of Allah Subhanahu Wata'ala ...
:sub:
:jkk: sis...
PiElle2
02-11-07, 05:16 AM
women are complicated? men are hard to please.... that's why sometimes they need more than 1... :torture:
muslimma
02-11-07, 08:07 AM
it's a two way system right...you both have to follow the rules you set, if she says that she a wants you to say that you love her, then she should also say it to you....
"J'ADORE TU!" :love:
precious_pearl
02-11-07, 08:32 AM
who says that women are complicated?
infact women make things complicated when brought to them.
:coolbro:
precious_pearl
Phoenix CG
02-11-07, 08:45 AM
women annoy me now
who says that women are complicated?
infact women make things complicated when brought to them.
:coolbro:
precious_pearl
:scratch:
PiElle2
02-11-07, 08:51 AM
women annoy me now
i tot phoenix is a female icon...? :scratch:
ibn suleman
02-11-07, 08:51 AM
why is it always the others fault?
why is it always the others fault?
loool innit what happened to "as garments for one another" supposed to help each other through and compliment one another, and strengthen each others weaknesses but it seems it turns into a gender war :rolleyes:
i blame the mysogonists and the feminists :outta:
Phoenix CG
02-11-07, 08:55 AM
i tot phoenix is a female icon...? :scratch:
Phoenix aka Fushicho is a legend, a firebird
ibn suleman
02-11-07, 08:56 AM
loool innit what happened to "as garments for one another" supposed to help each other through and compliment one another, and strengthen each others weaknesses but it seems it turns into a gender war :rolleyes:
i blame the mysogonists and the feminists :outta:
exactly :up:
whatever happened to.."yes, its my fault"
PiElle2
02-11-07, 08:56 AM
loool innit what happened to "as garments for one another" supposed to help each other through and compliment one another, and strengthen each others weaknesses but it seems it turns into a gender war :rolleyes:
i blame the mysogonists and the feminists :outta:
sometimes the garment do got a bit dirty and needs a good washing :idea:
Al-Farooq
02-11-07, 08:57 AM
why is it always the others fault?
Exactly.
Women are only as complicated as their men make them...and vice versa.
Always remember the three "C"'s....
Compassion
Consideration
Compromise
....and you'll be golden.:up:
PiElle2
02-11-07, 08:59 AM
Phoenix aka Fushicho is a legend, a firebird
for the chinese, it's reserved only for the females... the male use the dragon... phoenix and dragon are usually used as a pair (couple) icon.
didn't you know...? (sorry if i sound like nagging)... LOL
something like this....
exactly :up:
whatever happened to.."yes, its my fault"
as sufyan at thawari said ..
" we met a people who loved it when it was said to them Fear Allah the most high! " but today u find people become annoyed at this.."
thats whats missing bro..
ibn suleman
02-11-07, 09:00 AM
sometimes the garment do got a bit dirty and needs a good washing :idea:
yes but the garment is delicate, washing it at a too high temperature could ruin it, scrubbing it will make it rough, leaving it to hang to dry for too long will cause it to go hard...
:D
PiElle2
02-11-07, 09:03 AM
yes but the garment is delicate, washing it at a too high temperature could ruin it, scrubbing it will make it rough, leaving it to hang to dry for too long will cause it to go hard...
:D
read the label for washing instruction before buying the garment. :D
ibn suleman
02-11-07, 09:06 AM
read the label for washing instruction before buying the garment. :D
:D
yup, the instructions were "to treat kind and well" :D
precious_pearl
02-11-07, 09:09 AM
what do u mean by complicated ?
either by nature or spritually?
PiElle2
02-11-07, 09:10 AM
:D
yup, the instructions were "to treat kind and well" :D
and the price would be 'priceless'! hope you can afford! :D
ibn suleman
02-11-07, 09:12 AM
and the price would be 'priceless'! hope you can afford! :D
lol..but the payment isn't made with currency you have to use the heart :D
PiElle2
02-11-07, 09:14 AM
lol..but the payment isn't made with currency you have to use the heart :D
that's when you have to say... "i love you".... LOL.
i win! :hidban:
Socrates (470 BC–399 BC)
By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.
Bit off topic but I found it funny. Maybe u should take up philosophy
ibn suleman
02-11-07, 09:15 AM
and you have to say... "i love you".... LOL.
i win! :hidban:
..u lost me :scratch:
I dont think its necessary to say "I love you", if a woman cant be secure in knowing that her husband loves her from his actions, how can she be secure of it just cos he says it?
PiElle2
02-11-07, 09:23 AM
I dont think its necessary to say "I love you", if a woman cant be secure in knowing that her husband loves her from his actions, how can she be secure of it just cos he says it?
when a husband says that, the next thing would be he has to be responsible for what he said... ;)
Al-Farooq
02-11-07, 09:27 AM
Socrates (470 BC–399 BC)
By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.
Bit off topic but I found it funny. Maybe u should take up philosophy
One of my favourite quotes about marriage, that one. Here's a few more...
'I don't worry about terrorism. I was married for two years.'
- Sam Kinison
'There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking.
It's called marriage.'
- James Holt McGavran
The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, 'What does a woman want?
- Sigmund Freud
curious_man
02-11-07, 09:29 AM
man I sometimes land myself in right trouble. my wife is talking and am just looking at her and try my best to listen and still after few seconds all I see is her lips moving and cant understand much of what she says until she say ' so what do u think' and I have the blank look on my face and she just frowns say 'u wasnt even listening was u'
i panic and say of course i was and try to think hard and remember at least anything she has been on about -- nope in a split second of searching all hard drive a and ram i find nothing and mostly end up saying something she was on about in the morning..
of course it dont happen all the time but mainly its when I have just come home from work. finished my praying and just sat down on sofa and then she starts...
and even though I try to keep up with her updates bout her day i just go blaaaaaaaaaaaank...
ibn suleman
02-11-07, 09:31 AM
One of my favourite quotes about marriage, that one. Here's a few more...
'I don't worry about terrorism. I was married for two years.'
- Sam Kinison
'There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking.
It's called marriage.'
- James Holt McGavran
The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, 'What does a woman want?
- Sigmund Freud
LOOL :D
heres a thread on marriage quotes :D
http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=105712
(ignore all the other off topic posts in that thread though :embar:)
when a husband says that, the next thing would be he has to be responsible for what he said... ;)
True, but actions speak louder than words.
PiElle2
02-11-07, 09:40 AM
True, but actions speak louder than words.
dun tell me you dun wan your husband to say those 3 words... LOL
men, women, enuf of marriage talks... i'm outta here for the evening and weekend.
you all have a gr8 weekend! :up:
I'd want him to say it if he meant it. And not like everyday cos that would just be like "ok dude".
Safe, had a good one sis!
Phoenix CG
02-11-07, 10:02 AM
for the chinese, it's reserved only for the females... the male use the dragon... phoenix and dragon are usually used as a pair (couple) icon.
didn't you know...? (sorry if i sound like nagging)... LOL
something like this....
Thats more modern in china, although the older Feng is male. But I think that's only in china. Or I'm in touch with my feminine side :p
man I sometimes land myself in right trouble. my wife is talking and am just looking at her and try my best to listen and still after few seconds all I see is her lips moving and cant understand much of what she says until she say ' so what do u think' and I have the blank look on my face and she just frowns say 'u wasnt even listening was u'
i panic and say of course i was and try to think hard and remember at least anything she has been on about -- nope in a split second of searching all hard drive a and ram i find nothing and mostly end up saying something she was on about in the morning..
of course it dont happen all the time but mainly its when I have just come home from work. finished my praying and just sat down on sofa and then she starts...
and even though I try to keep up with her updates bout her day i just go blaaaaaaaaaaaank...
are all men like this?
ASSALAM ALAIKUM,
i dont know where to put this ..i put this video here coz its all about women in islam....and women in islam vs christianity...i was very happy when i saw its 1 st path but when i saw its 2 path i was shocked...but subhanALLAH its all true about the value of wone in islam....and i dont know wether its true about christanity or not????..but subhanALLAH its very good.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GoQzKbyrqB4&NR=1
This thread is so depressing to me
$HugoBoss$
02-11-07, 04:26 PM
Whats that saying again......
Women come from mars, men eat chocolate bars or something.
Maybe people from mars are just complicated :coolbro:
Whats that saying again......
Women come from mars, men eat chocolate bars or something.
Maybe people from mars are just complicated :coolbro:
thats not the saying :smack:
its men come from jupiter because they more stupider.
go bak to the elementary school playground
$HugoBoss$
02-11-07, 05:28 PM
thats not the saying :smack:
its men come from jupiter because they more stupider.
go bak to the elementary school playground
Calm yourself down i'm never wrong :up:
Anyways gucci gotta go to prayers and than afterwards me and my sister are going to Red Lobster :hidban:
nomoreillusions
02-11-07, 07:31 PM
salam.. im sure alot of brothers would agree
women are very complicated and difficult to understand
they get moody for no reason, nag alot. complain.
obsessed with the words "i love u" jus cos a guy does not say it dont mean he dnt love her
he can show his love through actions like. helping her out, doing chores babysitting, making his own breaky and ironing his own clothes.
and so un reasonable. trying to reason with them is like no go area
...
:zzz::coolbro:
Funny. I've observed these exact issues in men, too.
and they allwasy right
Of course, that last one is just simply true. ;)
Cristiana
02-11-07, 08:22 PM
They are not.
Supernova Nebula
02-11-07, 10:57 PM
Marriage without love is like a legalized prostitution, to put it bluntly, some women need to know if their husband love them. Just say it, it wont hurt you. duh!
Maureen
02-11-07, 11:00 PM
Women are complicated to give the males a challenge. We are also lovable and adorable though.
A_Muminah
02-11-07, 11:16 PM
As-Salaamu 'Alaykum,
Marriage is a give-and-take for both the husband and wife. The wife has the obligation of fulfilling many tasks for the sake of the husband and vice versa. Those duties also include being kind and loving to your spouse whether the spouse wants affection through flowers or simply saying 'I love you'.
You go to a store and ask for a blue dress, the store worker gives you a red dress, would you not be confused? That is how frustrated a wife feels when she wants to hear her husband say 'I love you' yet hears 'Wow, you cook wonderful hun!'
Well, when you go into a marriage one should know their spouse well enough to realize what the emotional needs of their wife are. Women, alHumdu-Lillaah, are very emotional creatures and Allaah has given us such characteristics that allow us to constantly make certain of our state. We have a tendency to repeatedly ask about our situation to feel comfortable and secure. AlHumdu-Lillaah, this is why Allaah has made the men our mahram and protectors.
Was-Salaamu 'Alaykum Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa Barakaatuh
This thread is so depressing to me
:up:
Why is the sky blue and why is the grass green???
GAL-actic
02-11-07, 11:26 PM
Why is the sky blue and why is the grass green???
LOOOOOL
LOOOOOL
oi *hittin emotion* only i was allowed to rinse the LOOL's but its cool, ive retired..u can use it now..*does not use LOOOL*
GAL-actic
03-11-07, 04:40 PM
oi *hittin emotion* only i was allowed to rinse the LOOL's but its cool, ive retired..u can use it now..*does not use LOOOL*
:o
fisabilllillah
03-11-07, 04:51 PM
salam.. im sure alot of brothers would agree
women are very complicated and difficult to understand
they get moody for no reason, nag alot. complain.
obsessed with the words "i love u" jus cos a guy does not say it dont mean he dnt love her
he can show his love through actions like. helping her out, doing chores babysitting, making his own breaky and ironing his own clothes.
and so un reasonable. trying to reason with them is like no go area
and they allwasy right.
:zzz::coolbro: im glad u recognise it and so inshallah u will be prepared for it. Women r complicated cos we have a lot of biological issues, our natural hormones which r often uncontrollable, dictate our moods. It is important to be weary of this so you are sensitive to your wives, sisters, daughetres and mothers.
if you are married, always comfort your wife with kind words, she might feel very insecure and extremely emotional at some times. This can be becuse of her hormones. A few words are light on the tongue but make a huge difference. Women are more self conscious than men which is why they need assurance. And if she tells you to do chores, you should help around but show u appreciate the little jobs she does for you, it makes a huge difference and it will make her feel great too!
Our bleesed Prophet saw use to help his wives and was extremely loving towards them. In fact he loved three things and one of em was women.... mashallah! how lovely is that....also, Rasool Allah saw mentioned that those who are the best are best to their wives.................
Sabr&Shukr
03-11-07, 05:34 PM
he can show his love through actions like. helping her out, doing chores babysitting, making his own breaky and ironing his own clothes.
:zzz::coolbro:
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Salaams bro - are you married??
You making your OWN breakfast is how you show her you love her!!
Subhanallah bro you got a lot to learn!!
How about making HER breakfast and ironing HER clothes and looking after YOUR kids with her - that might a bit closer to a good way to show how much you appreciate and love her.
Saudi Prince
03-11-07, 05:36 PM
why are women so complicated?
very interesting question.. so why are they? ;)
IbnAbdulHakim
03-11-07, 05:37 PM
what i find a bit scary is that oneday i joke around with my sister and its all good, shes laughing we're both having fun.
the next day i joke around with my sister and shes like "WHATS WRONG WITH YOU, YOUR SO MEAN AND RUDE AND" im like.... :| :o wat the.... *scratches head*
these days i think twice about joking with her... there have also been instances where shes all happy n joking and then all of a sudden BOOM... lol im quite confused :o
what i find a bit scary is that oneday i joke around with my sister and its all good, shes laughing we're both having fun.
the next day i joke around with my sister and shes like "WHATS WRONG WITH YOU, YOUR SO MEAN AND RUDE AND" im like.... :| :o wat the.... *scratches head*
these days i think twice about joking with her... there have also been instances where shes all happy n joking and then all of a sudden BOOM... lol im quite confused :o
there MUST be something ure doing wrong :D
Saudi Prince
03-11-07, 05:42 PM
what i find a bit scary is that oneday i joke around with my sister and its all good, shes laughing we're both having fun.
the next day i joke around with my sister and shes like "WHATS WRONG WITH YOU, YOUR SO MEAN AND RUDE AND" im like.... :| :o wat the.... *scratches head*
these days i think twice about joking with her... there have also been instances where shes all happy n joking and then all of a sudden BOOM... lol im quite confused :o
women are complicated. you never understand them. :)
IbnAbdulHakim
03-11-07, 05:45 PM
there MUST be something ure doing wrong :D
yeah i use to think so to
keyword: "use to"
but then after i behaved more and more careful, i understood less and less lol
sis_sarah
03-11-07, 06:15 PM
Women are NOT complicated...
They are so simple...Yet so SOPHISTICATED :P
yeah i use to think so to
keyword: "use to"
but then after i behaved more and more careful, i understood less and less lol
men and their excuses. what can i say?
I think everybody's missed the obvious one - attention seekers :D :outta:
I think everybody's missed the obvious one - attention seekers :D :outta:
men eh?:rolleyes:
men eh?:rolleyes:
doh, slaps, and sighs..., women
plus, why is it always the men having to reaffirm their love?
IbnAbdulHakim
03-11-07, 08:27 PM
lol humour with adhaab.
jazakAllah to many members, i appreciate the few little laughs i get here :)
doh, slaps, and sighs..., women
plus, why is it always the men having to reaffirm their love?
is it? ive never heard of that.:rubeyes:
is it? ive never heard of that.:rubeyes:
course you haven't :rolleyes:
course you haven't :rolleyes:
see? men
cant understand anythin
IbnAbdulHakim
03-11-07, 08:39 PM
then forgive us lol, treat us better for having little understanding. Thats what an understanding mu'minah would do inshaAllah.
assalamu alaikum :o
then forgive us lol, treat us better for having little understanding. Thats what an understanding mu'minah would do inshaAllah.
assalamu alaikum :o
:rotfl:
id rather not try or bother
a waste of time :D
IbnAbdulHakim
03-11-07, 08:42 PM
Thats what an understanding mu'minah would do inshaAllah.
assalamu alaikum :o
id rather not try or bother
a waste of time
lol i couldnt resist
honestly Allah has created both beautiful, Alhamdulillah
lol i couldnt resist
honestly Allah has created both beautiful, Alhamdulillah
lol good post
see? men
cant understand anythin
only 'cos we see right through you :p
well, that's only half true, but never mind!
only 'cos we see right through you :p
well, that's only half true, but never mind!
lol never mind. given up. says alot :D
fisabilllillah
03-11-07, 08:52 PM
what i find a bit scary is that oneday i joke around with my sister and its all good, shes laughing we're both having fun.
the next day i joke around with my sister and shes like "WHATS WRONG WITH YOU, YOUR SO MEAN AND RUDE AND" im like.... :| :o wat the.... *scratches head*
these days i think twice about joking with her... there have also been instances where shes all happy n joking and then all of a sudden BOOM... lol im quite confused :o
i think she might be on flip mode because of hormone changes....women sometimes get this as the female body changes in cycle each month....I think you should try to tone ur jokes down and know when is the best time to share them or not. Its important to help your sis and the best way u can do that is by giving her a little space when she needs it or when shes experiencing her 'off moods'. Making tea or giving her some chocolates is cool. Chocolates r actually a great thing in lifting moods......
i think she might be feeling 'ratty' because of hormone changes....women sometimes get this as the female body changes in cycle each month....I think you should try to tone ur jokes down and know when is the best time to share them or not. Its important to help your sis and the best way u can do that is by giving her a little space when she needs it or when shes experiencing her 'off moods'. Making tea or giving her some chocolates is cool. Chocolates r actually a great thing in lifting moods......
yes absolutely! all men should make women tea and bring them chocolate when theyre being grumpy insha Allah :D
:outta:
yes absolutely! all men should make women tea and bring them chocolate when theyre being grumpy insha Allah :D
:outta:
yeah lindt and patchi :D
Abandoned-Mind
03-11-07, 08:55 PM
Why are women so complicated...hmm
To give man something to do I guess...
Women are lovely creatures. Most. Some.. Few...Yeah
IbnAbdulHakim
03-11-07, 08:56 PM
you know i have been contemplating over my treatment with my sisters recently.
Maybe i should do as advised by fisabilillah
jazakAllahu khairan, i'll keep you updated about the switch of modes
niqaabi_muslima
03-11-07, 08:57 PM
Lol i have to agree....Some women can b vvvvv complicated :p ahem
I sometimes get like that towards my brother!! What can i say hey
Lol i have to agree....Some women can b vvvvv complicated :p ahem
I sometimes get like that towards my brother!! What can i say hey
argh! ure ruining it!:rubeyes:
IbnAbdulHakim
03-11-07, 08:59 PM
I sometimes get like that towards my brother!! What can i say hey
sister is it due to the tone of the jokes?
or are the jokes inappropriate?
maybe sometimes i make offensive jokes? :confused:
or is it all the sister lol?
niqaabi_muslima
03-11-07, 09:04 PM
argh! ure ruining it!:rubeyes:
lol but Sisssss its true u no!! some women can b veryy strange at times! :p
Well brother it all depends...for me sometimes if some1 is always having a ha ha hee hee then u no can get bit.....!!
In ur case like fibi said you should try tone down on ur jokes... Some ppl jok around not realising that they are actually offending the person whcih can b dangerous...... :rubeyes:
fisabilllillah
03-11-07, 09:06 PM
alhamdullilah...ive never experienced it but i know a condition and ive heard some sisters go through PMT, premenstrual tension...this is rare...but someone women will feel in general, physically weak and emotionally tired which is the case for most not all....actually sometimes there can be a sense of irrationality and u can look back and think...errmmm did i really think that or did i say that? But ultimately woman are in control of themselves...they may feel a certain way but they r in control of their tongues and actions and there are no excuses for that.
But its important that men areound them undertsand this and are able to support women during such times. So yeahhhhh i advise brothers to give the extra hand in the cleaning and washing up.... chocolates r nice and camomile tea is cool to reliev stress in the body.....
lol but Sisssss its true u no!! some women can b veryy strange at times! :p
never give em an excuse they hold it againts u for the rest of ya life ;)
dunya_or_akhira
03-11-07, 09:10 PM
oh come on, admit it...some of you sisters really do just get into next moods...its very hard to sometimes understand...
all these things just confuse us poor men, we are simple people...honest:rolleyes:
niqaabi_muslima
03-11-07, 09:10 PM
but i understand where they are coming from?!!!! i really have seen some females go on flip mode!!
niqaabi_muslima
03-11-07, 09:12 PM
oh come on, admit it...some of you sisters really do just get into next moods...its very hard to sometimes understand...
all these things just confuse us poor men, we are simple people...honest:rolleyes:
However i must add come men do act like women at times...which makes it even more strange...so bascially every1 is strange.....
oh come on, admit it...some of you sisters really do just get into next moods...its very hard to sometimes understand...
all these things just confuse us poor men, we are simple people...honest:rolleyes:oh lets take the violins out. :(:rolleyes:
However i must add come men do act like women at times...which makes it even more strange...so bascially every1 is strange.....even myself which is hard to believe...:p
:rotfl:cept a few of course.
IbnAbdulHakim
03-11-07, 09:15 PM
However i must add come men do act like women at times........
the haramness of it all, effeminette men are cursed, CURSED !!
dunya_or_akhira
03-11-07, 09:15 PM
Men and Women are different physically and mentally etc so yeh its true but its reality and we have to deal with it
oh lets take the violins out. :(:rolleyes:
:rotfl:
:rolleyes: You'll love this:
Why can't a Woman be more like a Man - My Fair Lady (prob know this but adaptation of Pygmalion by George Bernard Shaw)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U6iktQ2y1Rs
And this one: I'm just an Ordinary Man, Again from My Fair Lady
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VAOEOh0tIFo
Neither are very long ~4mins
fisabilllillah
03-11-07, 09:21 PM
i remeber a sister saying she was watching a film 'honey i blew up the kids' and she started crying :wacko:
and ive also witnessed a sister go through postnatal depression..that was scaryy....
And also one of my old teachers had enough of teaching us that she started crying in the middle of the class...it was surreal cos we thought our behaviour upset her...she was going thru ...ive forgotten wat the process is called now....when you stop your menses permenantly.....
Any way there are very serious changes that can affect a persons life...i dont think we shud take it lightly......and i think its important for men to educate themselves about it too. I think the hard experiences r pregnancy and post child birth...i think great hormone changes at that period.....its important adequate support is there,
dunya_or_akhira
03-11-07, 09:22 PM
:rolleyes: You'll love this:
Why can't a Woman be more like a Man - My Fair Lady (prob know this but adaptation of Pygmalion by George Bernard Shaw)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U6iktQ2y1Rs
And this one: I'm just an Ordinary Man, Again from My Fair Lady
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VAOEOh0tIFo
Neither are very long ~4mins
hahaaha
IbnAbdulHakim
03-11-07, 09:24 PM
Men and Women are different physically and mentally etc so yeh its true but its reality and we have to deal with it
our beloved rasool sallallahi alaihi wasallaam, has indeed paved the way of how to treat them.
us men should really learn how he treated his female companions/mahrams etc.
niqaabi_muslima
03-11-07, 09:24 PM
i remeber a sister saying she was watching a film 'honey i blew up the kids' and she started crying :wacko:
and ive also witnessed a sister go through postnatal depression..that was scaryy....
And also one of my old teachers had enough of teaching us that she started crying in the middle of the class...it was surreal cos we thought our behaviour upset her...she was going thru ...ive forgotten wat the process is called now....when you stop your menses permenantly.....
Any way there are very serious changes that can affect a persons life...i dont think we shud take it lightly......and i think its important for men to educate themselves about it too. I think the hard experiences r pregnancy and post child birth...i think great hormone changes at that period.....its important adequate support is there,
thats soo true ya ukhti.... I witnessed not too long ago a sister scream in my ear when she found out a certain recitor may be attending the gpu this year...:rolleyes: i was like :rubeyes::rubeyes:
why are u guys cussin sisters? fi sabillillah and niqaabi? cmonnnnn...:D
fisabilllillah
03-11-07, 09:27 PM
why are u guys cussin sisters? fi sabillillah and niqaabi? cmonnnnn...:D
i aint dissin sistas......im talking about their needs....
i aint dissin sistas......im talking about their needs....
cussin dissin same thing ;)
:rolleyes: You'll love this:
Why can't a Woman be more like a Man - My Fair Lady (prob know this but adaptation of Pygmalion by George Bernard Shaw)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U6iktQ2y1Rs
And this one: I'm just an Ordinary Man, Again from My Fair Lady
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VAOEOh0tIFo
Neither are very long ~4mins
sorry my youtube has gone verrry slow. WAS fast..but its messed up.:D
niqaabi_muslima
03-11-07, 09:29 PM
yeh man sisters need alot to remain normal .....:p no cussing dissing ya patakas goin of here :p
dunya_or_akhira
03-11-07, 09:30 PM
THE ONLY REASON WHY I AM TEMPTED TO ATTEND GPU 2007 is because of Shaykh Mishary Rashid Elfassyy
Just to pray salat magrib behind him and if lucky even Isha!! thats if he is there and leads inshaAllah
omg omg im guna like screammmmm (das a typical sisters reaction)
niqaabi_muslima
03-11-07, 09:32 PM
THE ONLY REASON WHY I AM TEMPTED TO ATTEND GPU 2007 is because of Shaykh Mishary Rashid Elfassyy
Just to pray salat magrib behind him and if lucky even Isha!! thats if he is there and leads inshaAllah
omg omg im guna like screammmmm (das a typical sisters reaction)
no no you wasnt the sister i was talking abt...
ibn suleman
03-11-07, 09:32 PM
,,,,
sorry my youtube has gone verrry slow. WAS fast..but its messed up.:D
yea rrright! excuses, excuses
yea rrright! excuses, excuses
lol think what u like.
;)
its on 2min54sec
and thats the FIRST vid
Why is it that so many Worthless threads are Created ...? :scratch:
Don't the Brothers and Sisters in the other sections of Ummah, know anything about Islam that they can tell the Non-Muslims in the Comparative Religion section?
If you can't do that then at least discuss Islamic matters among the Muslims, instead of worthless threads such as these ...
yeh man sisters need alot to remain normal .....:p no cussing dissing ya patakas goin of here :p
patakas?:D
:rolleyes: You'll love this:
Why can't a Woman be more like a Man - My Fair Lady (prob know this but adaptation of Pygmalion by George Bernard Shaw)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U6iktQ2y1Rs
And this one: I'm just an Ordinary Man, Again from My Fair Lady
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VAOEOh0tIFo
Neither are very long ~4mins
i found it IMPOSSIBLE to understand wat they were saying because their accent is so thick :zzz: its sounded like a totally different language. i was squinting my eyes trying to understand.. :rubeyes:
i found it IMPOSSIBLE to understand wat they were saying because their accent is so thick :zzz: its sounded like a totally different language. i was squinting my eyes trying to understand.. :rubeyes:
tsk, Americans :D ;)
Took our language, prostituted, pilfered and destroyed it, then have the gall to tell us that our accent's too thick!
dunya_or_akhira
03-11-07, 09:47 PM
Why is it that so many Worthless threads are Created ...? :scratch:
Don't the Brothers and Sisters in the other sections of Ummah, know anything about Islam that they can tell the Non-Muslims in the Comparative Religion section?
If you can't do that then at least discuss Islamic matters among the Muslims, instead of worthless threads such as these ...
I understand to an extent what your saying but this forum is not only for comparative religions... it is also for muslims to also let off some steam between muslims
i am watching it
and its ridiculous joha :rolleyes: im definately not watchin the next one :smack:
silly !!!
i am watching it
and its ridiculous joha :rolleyes: im definately not watchin the next one :smack:
silly !!!
silly? Uh huh, the next one's good though...
Come on, even if it is, you gotta admit the way he's put the words together is good!
You might have to read Pygmalion to understand it though, it was a commentary (short play) on the social conditions at the time, and quite a good one!
niqaabi_muslima
03-11-07, 09:52 PM
lol now now Sis its not that silly... i mean if u just think abt it..maybe jus maybe...:P
silly? Uh huh, the next one's good though...
Come on, even if it is, you gotta admit the way he's put the words together is good!
the next one puts women down even more which is why it gets a round of appluase by the likes of u? how very surprising to hear it is good from a man.:rolleyes:
lol now now Sis its not that silly... i mean if u just think abt it..maybe jus maybe...:P
silly? thats degrading.
women are irrational thats all there is to that
here heads are full of cotton hay and rags
theyre nothing but exasperating irriatating
calculating agitating maddening and infuriating hags
why cant a woman be more like a man
men are so honest i think im gonna be sik
so thoroughly squared etrenally noble
when u win
we will always give u a pat on ure back
why cant a woman be like that
why does one does what the others do?
cant a woman learn to use her head?why do they do what their mothers do?
why cant they grow up like their fatherinstead?
why cant they take after a man?
men are so pleasent so easy to please
whenever ure with em ure always as ease
:rolleyes:
the next one puts women down even more which is why it gets a round of appluase by the likes of u? how very surprising to hear it is good from a man.:rolleyes:
silly? thats degrading.
Ah sis, you missed the irony! (Maybe 'cos you haven't read the play). Shaw was trying to show how ridiculous that guy was, did you notice how the author made the character get confused in the last line of the first vid!
As I said, it was a social commentary, and one of the many things it seems to attack were some of the stupid and irrational views on women. Although I'm not sure to what extent those clips are in the original play.
typical, women :p
ps: men are honest ;)
pps: some of it's true though, ya only need to compare a girls school to a boys one to see that!
Ah sis, you missed the irony! (Maybe 'cos you haven't read the play). Shaw was trying to show how ridiculous that guy was, did you notice how the author made the character get confused in the last line of the first vid!
As I said, it was a social commentary, and one of the many things it seems to attack were some of the stupid and irrational views on women. Although I'm not sure to what extent those clips are in the original play.
typical, women :p
typical of men not to showthe whole thing? :D
thinkk!
tsk, Americans :D ;)
Took our language, prostituted, pilfered and destroyed it, then have the gall to tell us that our accent's too thick!
:shock:
typical of men not to showthe whole thing? :D
thinkk!
:buttkick:
:shock:
Fine, Canadians then, same difference :rolleyes: *gets armour ready*
:buttkick:
*
lol is that ure abusive response? :D
lol is that ure abusive response? :D
hey, who rubbished that guy saying that men were kind and gentle creatures ;)
hey, you were the one rubbishing that guy saying that men were kind and gentle creatures ;)
thats not what i said :D
thats not what i said :D
you did! and that ain't what I said either :D
you did! and that ain't what I said either :D
so ure sayin i said men are gentle and kind creatures? :eek3:
must be another bint. shes ruinin my rep ;)
so ure sayin i said men are gentle and kind creatures? :eek3:
must be another bint. shes ruinin my rep ;)
LOOL!
I apologise if my statement was ambiguous, maybe a few more commas would've helped, but I was referring to you - rubbishing - 'the guy that was saying men are gentle and kind'.
Sometimes, I wish I could find a cliff to jump off, for some reason, it's back to, doh...women. (said how Homer would like it to be said)
ps: I must say, you're not exactly helping womenkind :D
LOOL!
I apologise if my statement was ambiguous, maybe a few more commas would've helped, but I was referring to you - rubbishing - 'the guy that was saying men are gentle and kind'.
Sometimes, I wish I could find a cliff to jump off, for some reason, it's back to, doh...women. (said how Homer would like it to be said)
ps: I must say, you're not exactly helping womenkind :D
i dont need to do women any favours. nor they for me. nor for men. im for myself. :wacko: :D
If women can barely understand eachother, what makes you think men have a chance? :0:
If women can barely understand eachother, what makes you think men have a chance? :0:
ure a girl arent u? :rubeyes:
ure a girl arent u? :rubeyes:
yea..and i don't blame the brother..i find other girls confusing all the time :scratch:
yea..and i don't blame the brother..i find other girls confusing all the time :scratch:
oh bwoy. no comment
i shall take leave before this gets nasty
oh bwoy. no comment
i shall take leave before this gets nasty
what..did i just break some sort of unspoken feminist law? it's the truth:confused:
what..did i just break some sort of unspoken feminist law? it's the truth:confused:
matter of opinion love :D
its all light hearted. ;)
matter of opinion love :D
its all light hearted. ;)
Oh well that's a relief :p
Oh well that's a relief :p
but still err nevermind.
matter of opinion love :D
its all light hearted. ;)
yea, you (zammy) didn't stand rib to rib with the sisterhood....*sarcasm*
ps: I think you'll find, I was doing all the understanding back there, binty was just faffing around.
but still err nevermind.
and then you wonder why i said what i said :rolleyes: i'm kidding.
yea, you (zammy) didn't stand rib to rib with the sisterhood....*sarcasm*
ps: I think you'll find, I was doing all the understanding back there, binty was just faffing around.
faffin around. what understandin
that hard work eh?
and then you wonder why i said what i said :rolleyes: i'm kidding.
loool! :p
yea, you (zammy) didn't stand rib to rib with the sisterhood....*sarcasm*
ps: I think you'll find, I was doing all the understanding back there, binty was just faffing around.
well i'm very good at pretending to understand..you should try it, it works :D
well i'm very good at pretending to understand..you should try it, it works :D
man that makes me feel so much better zammy!:eek:
man that makes me feel so much better zammy!:eek:
*backtracks* well ofcourse there's many level headed sisters out there (such as yourself)..in which case i don't have to 'pretend' to understand ;) :outta:
*backtracks* well ofcourse there's many level headed sisters out there (such as yourself)..in which case i don't have to 'pretend' to understand ;) :outta:
oh that made me feel sooo much better thanx, made me go all warm n fuzzy inside:inlove: *cough cough*:p
faffin around. what understandin
that hard work eh?
loool! :p
when I have to pretend to be you, trust you me, it's hard work, getting all those creaking cogs a-whirring... :D :D
well i'm very good at pretending to understand..you should try it, it works
lol, an essential skill in any marriage I s'pose :p
Anyway, getting late, gd night all.
creaky cogs a whirrin? :rotfl:
oh that made me feel sooo much better thanx, made me go all warm n fuzzy inside:inlove: *cough cough*:p
all in a days work haha :D (gosh, I hope you weren't being sarcastic) :eek: :rolleyes:
all in a days work haha :D (gosh, I hope you weren't being sarcastic) :eek: :rolleyes:
:outta:
:there: notice how we turned this into a random thread (it's all ur fault) :p
lol, i have a tendency to do that :outta:
:p
ibn suleman
03-11-07, 11:36 PM
maybe the fact thats happened proves the thread true :p
maybe the fact thats happened proves the thread true :p
:eek: i was counting down the seconds before a male chauvanist came and said that..i really was! :rotfl: :p
ibn suleman
03-11-07, 11:42 PM
:eek: i was counting down the seconds before a male chauvanist came and said that..i really was! :rotfl: :p
wow..first time ive been called that :rubeyes:....:p
wow..first time ive been called that :rubeyes:....:p
you're right it doesn't suit you much does it :rolleyes: But there's a first time for everything right..now next time you're in an intellectually stimulating conversation you can mention that you've been called that at least once in your life..it's all about your list of credentials..or lack of it..you can thank me later :D
ibn suleman
03-11-07, 11:51 PM
you're right it doesn't suit you much does it :rolleyes: But there's a first time for everything right..now next time you're in an intellectually stimulating conversation you can mention that you've been called that at least once in your life..it's all about your list of credentials..or lack of it..you can thank me later :D
:rubeyes:
nah doesnt count, cos theres lack of justification for saying it...
i declare it null and void :D
:rubeyes:
nah doesnt count, cos theres lack of justification for saying it...
i declare it null and void :D
I didn't mean it anyway so agreed :coolbro:
fisabilllillah
04-11-07, 10:15 AM
i am watching it
and its ridiculous joha :rolleyes: im definately not watchin the next one :smack:
silly !!!
i agree! lol........................bad taste! severe bad taste!
:zzz::zzz: its :torture: watching that....lalalala...... i kinda freak out wen i have to listen to a musical:zzz: now i dont need advice from men telling me wat women shud be like thank u! esp old age men! lol........singing and boring me to death.......:zzz:
algharib
04-11-07, 01:01 PM
:wswrwb:
lool & ur not the first man to complain
It is reported that a man once came to 'Umar, the second Caliph, with the intention of bringing to his notice certain complaints he had against his wife. When he reached the door of Umar's house, he heard the Caliph's wife railing against him....
Hearing this, he went back as he thought that the Caliph himself was in the same predicament and could, therefore, be hardly expected to set matters right for him. "Umar, coming out of his house, saw the person going back. So he called him out and inquired as to the purpose which had brought him to his house. He said that he had come to him with some complaints against his wife, but turned back on finding that the Caliph himself was subject to the same treatment from his wife...
`Umar said to him that he patiently bore the excesses of his wife because she had certain rights over him. "Is is not true that she cooks my food, washes my clothes and suckles my children, thus reliving me of the necessity of employing a cook, a washerman and a nurse although she is not in the slighted degree responsible for this?
Not only that, I enjoy peace of mind on account of her and I am protected from committing the sin of adultery. In view of these advantages, I put up with her excesses. You should also do the same." ."
from Marriage in Islam: A Manual, by Abdul-Rauf check it out :up:
Well said:up:.
Stylish-Girly
04-11-07, 01:55 PM
its only 3 words, why do you guys find it so hard to say
You can do the housework just cant say i love you, use your brains if you wants some peace :confused:
Baybars
04-11-07, 03:06 PM
Just say I love you when she needs you to, preferably before, and that's it. Say it like you mean it, which really means mixing it up a little; changing the words, the setting, the tone, circumstances, adding flowers, chocolates etc., but not all the time. And say it like you mean it, find that place in your heart that passion for such things as football, cricket or baseball etc. comes from and then say it. Like if you’re a Manchester United fan, then think about how much you love the team, but instead of saying I love Man U, cut the Man out and just say I love u, with all the passion of I LOVE MAN U. Get what I’m saying? Just have to make sure it doesn't get repetitive. Also, try not to say it too much, which is a balancing act, cause then she’ll complain that you say it too much without any meaning, and you'll lose there. Know that ultimately you are going to lose. There is no winning, there is just being brave in the face of ultimate defeat. It’s like you’re a brave warrior (or mujahid) going into battle against an enemy that cannot be defeated, because ultimately her defeat is your destruction. You have to let her win. They’re like female black widows in this regard; they’ll eat you alive if you tick them off. Know that IMO there isn’t a man in this world that can truly be at peace and content if his wife is unhappy and unsatisfied in general. If you try to understand women, you will go crazy. I am so serious, you will literally go insane, if you attempt the self-defeating task of deciphering what truly goes on within the cranium of a female, it will lead you down a path of miscomprehension. Dare I say it would probably be trippy! If you took a man and suddenly put him inside a female brain, he probably would have to be committed by the end of the day. It may be that two of the same chromosome is sort of like a system overload; where as two different chromosomes balance things a little more. Now if you’re a “naram” lad, a bit of a softy, then forget about it. Just accept your lot in life and endure in patience. If you're a little thicker skinned, then you’re somewhat lucky, you might fare better, but even then you’ll bring the whole “you don’t understand me, you’re so insensitive, why can’t you be more like whats-her-names husband?” wrath upon yourself.
Anyway, like I said, there’s no victory in sight. Accept that this is a game of scrabble that you will for sure lose.
In any case, I’m no expert on this, cause it didn’t work for me, LOL which goes to show I could be right.
PiElle2
05-11-07, 05:27 AM
... you suddenly realised we have a voice.... :rolleyes:
Public Enemy
08-11-07, 10:36 AM
salam.. im sure alot of brothers would agree
women are very complicated and difficult to understand
they get moody for no reason, nag alot. complain.
obsessed with the words "i love u" jus cos a guy does not say it dont mean he dnt love her
he can show his love through actions like. helping her out, doing chores babysitting, making his own breaky and ironing his own clothes.
and so un reasonable. trying to reason with them is like no go area
and they allwasy right.
:zzz::coolbro:
lol very true. With women its the though that counts. So if you pretend or act like it once in a while they will stop being 'moody'. For example when you are about to go for a drive say to your wife "I'd open the door for you but its all the way on the other side" @) At least the thought was there ;)
lol very true. With women its the though that counts. So if you pretend or act like it once in a while they will stop being 'moody'. For example when you are about to go for a drive say to your wife "I'd open the door for you but its all the way on the other side" @) At least the thought was there ;)
You seem to know all the tricks of the trade. you married? done all this before?
Tahiyah
08-11-07, 11:05 AM
its only 3 words, why do you guys find it so hard to say
You can do the housework just cant say i love you, use your brains if you wants some peace :confused:
after you been married for awhile...hearing those 3 little words become pretty meaningless without proper action
if your denied rights...your not loved....or rather, its a selfish love, obsession even
action is much more than words in marriage. a spouse can say i promise this and that..his/her actions can break it.
if a woman needs to hear those words, then she obviously needs to be reassured, or it just feels nice to hear it. some men might think, what you cant tell by how hard i work for ya? and some see it as weakness. i say, just say it...its easy and makes her happy....and when the wife is happy, the whole house is happy..;)
sunrise
08-11-07, 11:13 AM
we shld learn to assure each other and men and women both have different ways of showing affection.. become attuned to it:up:
Tahiyah
08-11-07, 11:13 AM
lol very true. With women its the though that counts. So if you pretend or act like it once in a while they will stop being 'moody'. For example when you are about to go for a drive say to your wife "I'd open the door for you but its all the way on the other side" @) At least the thought was there ;)
becareful, in her mind she might be thinking why, you lazy $#!$....
if you really don't feel like carrying out the action..simply tell her just that, i mean perhaps your tired, thats understandable. just always make her believe she deserves whatever makes her happy....even if your unable to carry through..:up:
IbnAbdulHakim
08-11-07, 11:54 AM
i read a story once:
Once upon a time, a man asked a woman for her hand in marriage. The woman refused and the man lived happily ever after.
:rotfl:
Public Enemy
08-11-07, 12:05 PM
becareful, in her mind she might be thinking why, you lazy $#!$....
if you really don't feel like carrying out the action..simply tell her just that, i mean perhaps your tired, thats understandable. just always make her believe she deserves whatever makes her happy....even if your unable to carry through..:up:
All women want to be treated like a 'princess'. If you know when to and how to get away with not doing it 'Its all good'
Medievalist
08-11-07, 12:06 PM
All women want to be treated like a 'princess'. If you know when to and how to get away with not doing it 'Its all good'
wise words.
And some men are just princes and need to be treated as such all the time :D
muslimuk
08-11-07, 12:07 PM
all women are princesses so treat them right.. respect them.. shower them with your money and love..
Medievalist
08-11-07, 12:08 PM
all women are princesses so treat them right.. respect them.. shower them with your money and love..
:scratch:
are you a man or a woman?
Public Enemy
08-11-07, 12:09 PM
all women are princesses so treat them right.. respect them.. shower them with your money and love..
Sometimes doing the right thing is not always right
GAL-actic
08-11-07, 12:39 PM
all women are princesses so treat them right.. respect them.. shower them with your money and love..
Well said:D
Tahiyah
08-11-07, 01:35 PM
i still say the key is communication. marriages that fail are due to lack of it. if you dont truly understand each others wants and needs, then your not giving each other the right respect. if a spouse is being unreasonable, rather than argue about it, get him/her to see things from your perspective. sometimes you may even have to make em walk in your shoes.
i agree with you when you say the thought is what counts...but women are in tune to how sincere you are.
fyi...we too, can fake alot of crap, and i guess all couples do it from time to time, well, just because its a part of life and we may not want to hurt each others feelings and to keep peace and so on and so on..
just treat women like human beings...real people. dont over spoil em, dont under spoil em.
some men need to realize that women are actually capable of separating their emotions (which i agree can often times control us, but Allah made us that way for a reason ;) )anyhow, we are capable of using our logic and reasoning...some of us even get pretty good at it and are able to recognize emotional/hormonal times for what they are and dont allow them to get in the way of our better judgement. so believe it or not...you actually can reason and communicate with us
afterall, Islam is the thinking persons way of life and muslims must realize that being irrational or unjust will only lead to fitnah
omigosh did i ever just ramble on...subhanAllah...i hope i made sense...i am kinda having a, havent had any coffee yet moment..:o
muslimuk
08-11-07, 01:37 PM
i still say the key is communication. marriages that fail are due to lack of it. if you dont truly understand each others wants and needs, then your not giving each other the right respect. if a spouse is being unreasonable, rather than argue about it, get him/her to see things from your perspective. sometimes you may even have to make em walk in your shoes.
i agree with you when you say the thought is what counts...but women are in tune to how sincere you are.
fyi...we too, can fake alot of crap, and i guess all couples do it from time to time, well, just because its a part of life and we may not want to hurt each others feelings and to keep peace and so on and so on..
just treat women like human beings...real people. dont over spoil em, dont under spoil em.
some men need to realize that women are actually capable of separating their emotions (which i agree can often times control us, but Allah made us that way for a reason ;) )anyhow, we are capable of using our logic and reasoning...some of us even get pretty good at it and are able to recognize emtional/hormonal times for what they are and dont allow them to get in the way of our better judgement. so believe it or not...you actually can reason and communicate with us
afterall, Islam is the thinking persons way of life and muslims must realize that being irrational or unjust will only lead to fitnah
omigosh did i ever just ramble on...subhanAllah...i hope i made sense...i am kinda having a, havent had any coffee yet moment..:o
:zzz::zzz: nag nag nag.. put the radio up loud will yah lol
Public Enemy
08-11-07, 01:38 PM
why are women so complicated
Women are funny like that
men are just as bad public enemy.
uve just proved it.
thankgod my brothers arent narrowminded like you.
Tahiyah
08-11-07, 05:27 PM
:zzz::zzz: nag nag nag.. put the radio up loud will yah lol
i am louder than the radio..:nuts:
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fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 05:41 PM
i think if we werent emotional, giving em second chances and if our heart didnt melt..... men would fail in this world big time!!!!!!! like big time!!!!! Huuugely...i think its thru our god given mercies that they r very fortunate to be married lol and lucky to be!!! :P
~Jafrene~
08-11-07, 05:45 PM
:O i cn tell that ur nt a feminist.
fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 05:47 PM
:O i cn tell that ur nt a feminist.
i aint!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
~Jafrene~
08-11-07, 05:48 PM
salam.. im sure alot of brothers would agree
women are very complicated and difficult to understand
they get moody for no reason, nag alot. complain.
obsessed with the words "i love u" jus cos a guy does not say it dont mean he dnt love her
he can show his love through actions like. helping her out, doing chores babysitting, making his own breaky and ironing his own clothes.
and so un reasonable. trying to reason with them is like no go area
and they allwasy right.
:zzz::coolbro:
theres no harm in telling her u love her if u do love her not that m doubting whethe u love her or not. no seriously bro jus tell her u lpove her, if it mkes her happy jus say it MAN lol. i dnt like saying i love u but if it made my husband happy i ud say it lol. :D
fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 05:51 PM
theres no harm in telling her u love her if u do love her not that m doubting whethe u love her or not. no seriously bro jus tell her u lpove her, if it mkes her happy jus say it MAN lol. i dnt like saying i love u but if it made my husband happy i ud say it lol. :D
How can anyone not like declaring their love for one another.....? :(
unless theres sumthing real wrong...like u dont love the person :'(
How can anyone not like declaring their love for one another.....? :(
unless theres sumthing real wrong...like u dont love the person :'(
my thoughts exactly!:o lol
we are complicated because we are picky, spoiled and constantly need money and attention
is that to much? :D
fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 06:06 PM
we are complicated because we are picky, spoiled and constantly need money and attention
is that to much? :D
noooopeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
The point is we dont get enough attention!!!!!!!!!!!
hahahahaha we are picky! nope...i doont think sooo...and we dont need money jus lots and losts and lots and lots of love...thats the recipe for a successful marriage and a stable happy family with happy kids :D
niqaabi_muslima
08-11-07, 06:11 PM
mmm I think it takes more than just to say those 3 words....Anyone can say them..its the actions that count..
Plus women are not that complicated its the men who make things complicated
fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 06:16 PM
mmm I think it takes more than just to say those 3 words....Anyone can say them..its the actions that count..
Plus women are not that complicated its the men who turn it into a complex situation..
yeh anyone can say them except for men.....they complain sooo much over a three words! ..yet its soo easy three words.....
fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 06:20 PM
Here is an example...how easy it is:
I :love: YOU NIQABIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII WAS THAT DIFFICULT........?:inlove:
just three words man.....
ill say it again...............
I :love: u
even bettter.......
i :love: u for the sake of Allah.....
Now tell me sis.....how did that make u feel :inlove:
3 words make a huge difference to s person's day.........:D
niqaabi_muslima
08-11-07, 06:22 PM
yeh...actualy it should be always 8 words... I bla you for the sake of Allah :)
Then u cant possibly go wrong there...See simple!
niqaabi_muslima
08-11-07, 06:23 PM
Here is an example...how easy it is:
I :love: YOU NIQABIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII WAS THAT DIFFICULT........?:inlove:
just three words man.....
ill say it again...............
I :love: u
even bettter.......
i :love: u for the sake of Allah.....
Now tell me sis.....how did that make u feel :inlove:
3 words make a huge difference to s person's day.........:D
hmmm maybe its true..women can b very complicated :p
fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 06:27 PM
but i dooooooooooooooooooo :o i:torture: now belive it !
and women love to be assured too........................thats an important advice to brothers....
fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 06:32 PM
yeh...actualy it should be always 8 words... I bla you for the sake of Allah :)
Then u cant possibly go wrong there...See simple!
ive never heard of i ' i bla u for the sake of allah':rubeyes: its i :love: u for the sake of allah.....r u scared of saying love or sumthing....billy......i cant stand it...my brother, before he got married use to hate saying the word love..like getting blood out of a stone (until he got married)...his face wud turn pasty.....
Al-Muhaajiroun
08-11-07, 06:53 PM
salam.. im sure alot of brothers would agree
women are very complicated and difficult to understand
they get moody for no reason, nag alot. complain.
obsessed with the words "i love u" jus cos a guy does not say it dont mean he dnt love her
he can show his love through actions like. helping her out, doing chores babysitting, making his own breaky and ironing his own clothes.
and so un reasonable. trying to reason with them is like no go area
and they allwasy right.
:zzz::coolbro:
lool welcome to the life of marriage.
Brother don't worry all women are like that well the married ones espeacially, Muhammed SAW said that women are a fitnah, so there is nothink you can do alot to be honest because remember a woman is like a bent rib so you can't straighten her and if you did she will snap, even if you gave her everythink in the world she will always find somethink else to say or complain. :rubeyes:
lool welcome to the life of marriage.
Brother don't worry all women are like that well the married ones espeacially, Muhammed SAW said that women are a fitnah, so there is nothink you can do alot to be honest because remember a woman is like a bent rib so you can't straighten her and if you did she will snap, even if you gave her everythink in the world she will always find somethink else to say or complain. :rubeyes:
geez..women are not a fitnah. dont blow it out of context¬
Al-Muhaajiroun
08-11-07, 07:09 PM
geez..women are not a fitnah. dont blow it out of context¬
Muhammed SAW said clearly in the Hadith that women are a fitnah, so how is that out of context? it seems very clear to me.
Muhammed SAW said clearly in the Hadith that women are a fitnah, so how is that out of context? it seems very clear to me.
can u show me the proof and source? now?
Al-Muhaajiroun
08-11-07, 07:14 PM
can u show me the proof and source? now?
Yes i will show you proof and source tommorow as right now i'm at work. Sabr Insha ALLAH. Or maybe someone else can put there hand up and agree with me what i am saying.
cool. ill be waitin. inshaAllah
Al-Muhaajiroun
08-11-07, 07:25 PM
cool. ill be waitin. inshaAllah Please do that. There is also another Hadith i would like to share too.
(Paraphrasing) Muhammed SAW said to his companions that there will be more women in the hell fire then men, then the companion said "why" and Muhammed SAW said because they will be disobeying there husbands.
I will try to get hadith for this too and if not wait for the other one.
Please do that. There is also another Hadith i would like to share too.
(Paraphrasing) Muhammed SAW said to his companions that there will be more women in the hell fire then men, then the companion said "why" and Muhammed SAW said because they will be disobeying there husbands.
I will try to get hadith for this too and if not wait for the other one.
whats that hadeeth got to do with anything here?
women are complicated therefore in the firehell? what?
fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 07:28 PM
geez..women are not a fitnah. dont blow it out of context¬
they r a fitnah
they r a fitnah
how easily said.show ure proof.daleel?
Calm down people.
Relax ... Take a deep breath.
:outta:
fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 07:31 PM
geez..women are not a fitnah. dont blow it out of context¬
women r a fitnah
fais ure studying arent you? can u tell me something about women being a fitnah?
i know there will be more women in the hellfire..etc..
i know women can BE a fitnah.
but ARE they a fitnah?
i hope people are studying it deeply before saying too much. cos there is a very big commentry behind the hadeeth im sure.
niqaabi_muslima
08-11-07, 07:35 PM
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) spoke the truth when he said, “I am not leaving behind any fitnah (trial, temptation) more harmful to men than women.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4706).
He (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) also said: “This world is sweet and dazzling, and Allaah has you put in charge of it to see how you will do and what you will do, so beware of this world and beware of women, for the first fitnah (temptation, trial) that befell the Children of Israel was concerning women.” (Reported by Muslim, 4925).
fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 07:35 PM
i will give u daleel
from hadith but first im gana tell u to open your eyes and look at the men in our societies those who r distracted by women their wives......sometimes women r a distraction which takes the men away from their service to Allah....Marriage and children are a fitnah ....
oh okay. so i can say men are a distraction to me. so they are a fitnah. its quiet general really. u cant specifically say women are a fitnah bas!..theres more deep down explanation to it. to say they will be in the hellfire..yes..we know that. that doesnt mean..ah forget it.
fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 07:40 PM
Also, i want to say that even in the Quran if you read surah al takathar, the last verse....Allah asks us and most scholars have said that Allah is talking about the halal dunya.....how we use it in his service and onedience to him.....
We as women, it is our duty to ensure we do not let our husband in the luxuries of this world but encourage them to see it is all temporary and encourage and support them to strive fisabillilah..remembering Allah, praising him.....but women distract the men from worship and service to Allah......a strong woman helps her husband...but this is rare...we lure them with this dunya...
Al-Muhaajiroun
08-11-07, 07:41 PM
whats that hadeeth got to do with anything here?
women are complicated therefore in the firehell? what?
I can see that your young so therefore you may not no this, But in Islam a man has a status above women so therefor women are obliged to listen to there husbands no matter what just as long it's not contradicting her religion. This is serious and not to be taken lightly because ALLAH says in the Qur'an obeying the prophet is like obeying me so there for we have to obey our beloved prophet Muhammed SAW and Muhammed SAW says in the hadith (paraphrasing) obey your husband(s).
I can see that your young so therefore you may not no this, But in Islam a man has a status above women so therefor women are obliged to listen to there husbands no matter what just as long it's not contradicting her religion. This is serious and not to be taken lightly because ALLAH says in the Qur'an obeying the prophet is like obeying me so there for we have to obey our beloved prophet Muhammed SAW and Muhammed SAW says in the hadith (paraphrasing) obey your husband(s).
why are we talking about obedience? i am young yes. but not a 16 yr old. im old enough to understand!
i will give u daleel
from hadith but first im gana tell u to open your eyes and look at the men in our societies those who r distracted by women their wives......sometimes women r a distraction which takes the men away from their service to Allah....Marriage and children are a fitnah ....
yea but thats the mans problem that he allows himself to be distracted by those things, it was made that way so that women would be a temptation for men, and indeed they are, many a weak man has lost everything for the love or obsession with a beautiful woman, which is why the prophet also advised not to marry women for their beauty.
Men are supposed to be the maintainers and protectors of women, but now theres a common problem we see today..good practising brothers, with not so practising wives, but they wont say anything to them, and the woman rule the roost, dont allow him to be a man, dont "allow" him to marry again, hes too scared to even bring up the subject. the man runs behind her like a fool no matter what... so its up to the men not to be weak and fall for those traps but to heed the words of Allah ta ala and his messenger salAllahu alleyhi wa salam and strive not to be a slave to beauty and wealth and the things of this world for it is not just play and amusement...
asiya jazakAllah khayr for the post. :up:
fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 07:49 PM
oh okay. so i can say men are a distraction to me. so they are a fitnah. its quiet general really. u cant specifically say women are a fitnah bas!..theres more deep down explanation to it. to say they will be in the hellfire..yes..we know that. that doesnt mean..ah forget it.
Sister women r a fitnah..........there is no generalisation...may allah safeguard us and protect us...............
it is in the quran sister:
(Beautified for men is the love of things they covet; women, children, al-qanaatiril-muqantarah (large measures) of gold and silver, branded beautiful horses (musawwamah), cattle and fertile land. That is the delight (mataa`) of the life of the world; but Allah has the excellent return with Him.) (Aal `Imran 3:14)
Ibn Kathir said: “Allah mentions the delights that He put in this life for people, such as women and children, and he started with women, because the test with them is more tempting. For instance, in the Sahih, it is recorded that the Messenger (sall Allah `alaihi wa sallam) said:
‘I did not leave behind a test more tempting to men than women.’
When one marries women for the purpose of having children and preserving his chastity, then he is encouraged to do so.”
And he mentioned the hadith: “This life is a delight (mataa`), and the best of delights (mataa`) is a righteous wife.” (Muslim and others)
"Your wealth and your children are only a trial (fitnah). And Allah - With Him is a great reward (Paradise)." [Surah al-Taghabun, 15]
He also states,
"And know that your possessions and your children are but a trial (fitnah) and that surely with Allah is a mighty reward." [Surah al-Anfal, 28]
May allah give us the tawfeeq to avoid all fitnahs and gain the ultimate reward which is complete obedience to him......
oh tahts comforting isnt it? im a fitnah.
fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 07:53 PM
yea but thats the mans problem that he allows himself to be distracted by those things, it was made that way so that women would be a temptation for men, and indeed they are, many a weak man has lost everything for the love or obsession with a beautiful woman, which is why the prophet also advised not to marry women for their beauty.
Men are supposed to be the maintainers and protectors of women, but now theres a common problem we see today..good practising brothers, with not so practising wives, but they wont say anything to them, and the woman rule the roost, dont allow him to be a man, dont "allow" him to marry again, hes too scared to even bring up the subject. the man runs behind her like a fool no matter what... so its up to the men not to be weak and fall for those traps but to heed the words of Allah ta ala and his messenger salAllahu alleyhi wa salam and strive not to be a slave to beauty and wealth and the things of this world for it is not just play and amusement...
sister...i agree but the issue of polygamy isnt as issue here...the problem is that wen a man marries he enjoys the comfort of his bed which his wife keeps warm for him and forgets his qiyaam , he forgets his service to Allah, the problem is wen they dont strive toghther and he begins to lose imaan as he increases more in this dunya.......
fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 07:57 PM
oh tahts comforting isnt it? im a fitnah.
OR////////////////////
you can be the best resource in the world to a man.......
in a hadith: it is mentioned that the best resource to a man in this dunya is a pious wife :D
or you can be a very evil fitnah....
the choice is yours and it is Allah's will........:inlove:
sister...i agree but the issue of polygamy isnt as issue here...the problem is that wen a man marries he enjoys the comfort of his bed which his wife keeps warm for him and forgets his qiyaam , he forgets his service to Allah and he begins to lose imaan as he increases more in this dunya.......
as i said hes supposed to be maintainer and protector of women hence bring that issue into it. many men neglect to do their duties to the ummah in this regard the sahabba rushed to seek the pleasure of Allah in striving to support the weaker members of this ummah, however today a man seeks more the pleasure of driving to his nice job in his beemer and being a slave to his beautiful wife, ( who hes got on the pill cos he doesnt want the responsability of children) than he seeks to support this ummah and raise it up to the ranks of the previous nations.
however this topic is about the complexity of women, and indeed we all have agreed that men need to strive to avoid fitnah a