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muslimaa1
31-10-07, 10:23 AM
still single!!!
This thread goes out to all those brothers who have decided that they do not want:
1) a sister who wears the hijab or veil
2) a sister who prays the salah
3) a sister who respects her elders, is affectionate towards youngsters.
4) in other words a sister who knows the deen and wants to please her Lord Allah!
What are the reasons? Surely if you are not into the deen yourself you should want to go that way.:rubeyes:
I've been thinking. The reason sisters arent getting the muttaqi proposals we are expecting.:coolbro::coolbro::coolbro:
Bro No 1 decided to have a girlfriend at high sch/college so he could not reach proposal age.
Bro No 2 got into drugs, smoking, drinking and so he just would not be marriage material.
Bro No 3 intends to spend the rest of his life with his mates and has no connections to his own family. How is this one going to materialise?
So the reasons go back a whole generation.ya Allah
The list can go on and on.
I just pray to Allah I find that 1 in a million sometime soon :inlove: because the way things are going I dont see no light at the end of the tunnel :(:(
Any suggestions welcome :(
Not even a divorcee.You make it sound like there's something wrong with that, even though you don't intend it. This sounds like on those commercials..
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Respecting your deen should be standard, so any Muslim woman who marries should wear a hijab if she wasn't before anyway. If I was looking, I wouldn't be impressed with your list as you haven't actually talked about the sister - only what she does. I mean, who exactly is she, what is she like?
EDIT: Wait, you were talking about yourself? :rotfl: lool quality. Ok you have humour
muslimuk
31-10-07, 10:29 AM
salam. there are many good brothers around who are practising. have paitence open your options to wider audience.
its about fidning the right person..
you need to make effort. ask around let your family friends look for you etc.. its hard but what ever is meant to happen will happen
Abu Mu'adh
31-10-07, 10:32 AM
another brother bashing thread, I mean it's always the brothers fault isn't it!
instead of blaming brothers, perhaps a more practical approach in terms of moving forward is to look at yourself...
maybe there's some fault within you that Allah feels you are not yet ready for marriage?
and maybe correcting this fault, Allah will then open a way for you to get married?
still single!!! Not even a divorcee. (No offence intended to divorcees)
This thread goes out to all those brothers who have decided that they do not want:
1) a sister who wears the hijab or veil
2) a sister who prays the salah
3) a sister who respects her elders, is affectionate towards youngsters.
4) in other words a sister who knows the deen and wants to please her Lord Allah!
What are the reasons? Surely if you are not into the deen yourself you should want to go that way.:rubeyes:
I've been thinking. The reason sisters arent getting the muttaqi proposals we are expecting.:coolbro::coolbro::coolbro:
Bro No 1 decided to have a girlfriend at high sch/college so he could not reach proposal age.
Bro No 2 got into drugs, smoking, drinking and so he just would not be marriage material.
Bro No 3 intends to spend the rest of his life with his mates and has no connections to his own family. How is this one going to materialise?
So the reasons go back a whole generation.ya Allah
The list can go on and on.
I just pray to Allah I find that 1 in a million sometime soon :inlove: because the way things are going I dont see no light at the end of the tunnel :(:(
Any suggestions welcome :(
lool and ur "not even a divorcee" huh nice to see the non divorced are also having the same problems as the rest of us ;) ask your walli to be more active in seeking a husband for u insha Allah many just sit waiting for someone to come knocking with a proposal, but as the prophet salAllahu alleyhi wa salam said, we should tie our camels first and trust in Allah, so send ur walli to actively search for a bro for u, he can ask the local imam, amongst his freinds etc. hope it all works out for u insha Allah ta ala :up:
muslimuk
31-10-07, 10:53 AM
i know many sincere practising brothers who cant find any good sisters.. soworks both way.. just needto broadern your search i guess
SisterIslam
31-10-07, 11:00 AM
You seem to be blowing your own trumpet sis lol I know a 40+ practising brother. Interested?
You seem to be blowing your own trumpet sis lol I know a 40+ practising brother. Interested?
(ouch)
but yeahh..everyone gets married whenever it's written for them so don't worry about it. I knew a 30 year old sister who got married last summer and she was a very practising niqaabi, educated, intelligent, pretty, great personality, everything..plus she was looking to get married. It's all about qadr'Allah, you can't speed up or slow down the process that's already written in the books. So make use of what time you have while you're single because when a husband comes along and kids come skipping into the picture a while after, you're gonna wish you had the time you have now!
Seems that people are destined to marry in their early 30's and plus :o
(*_Hamzah
31-10-07, 11:44 AM
(ouch)
but yeahh..everyone gets married whenever it's written for them so don't worry about it. I knew a 30 year old sister who got married last summer and she was a very practising niqaabi, educated, intelligent, pretty, great personality, everything..plus she was looking to get married. It's all about qadr'Allah, you can't speed up or slow down the process that's already written in the books. So make use of what time you have while you're single because when a husband comes along and kids come skipping into the picture a while after, you're gonna wish you had the time you have now!
:masha: good advice.......
ImaanSeeker
31-10-07, 11:44 AM
i know many sincere practising brothers who cant find any good sisters.. soworks both way.. just needto broadern your search i guess
true. it works both ways.
i know many sincere practising brothers who cant find any good sisters.. soworks both way.. just needto broadern your search i guess
Tell em to pay this site a visit: www.themiddlepath.co.uk/matrimonial.asp
:up:
Hisham Abu
31-10-07, 12:39 PM
Seems that people are destined to marry in their early 30's and plus :o
I believe today’s society is set-up so that it's easy to marry when your 30+. What with education, money, housing etc. You’re just generally a lot more secure at that age.
Umm 'Umarah
31-10-07, 12:41 PM
look at it realistically, if any one of these brothers were meant for you, you'd be married to one of them by now. but you're not...and it's down to qadr, you shouldn't dwell on it. Insha'Allah, have tawaakul and sabr.
and ukhti, don't be too sure about the 'Muttaqee' brothers either.
you might get a brother who gives allegiance to a certain type of shaykh, and if something doesn't sit well with his shaykh then it doesn't sit well with him...and if his shaykh says sit then he'd probably sit...and if his shaykh says stand... then..... LOL.
it's understandable to have admiration for a learned person, but, making that shaykh or their teachings the be all and end all is just....I really don't like seeing people being part of a hizb or followers of a particular shaykh or certain religious groups, I don't get involved in that kind of stuff and I'd hate to have a husband who gets involved in stuff like that.
munyeka
31-10-07, 02:07 PM
salaams sis
Your thread echos one I started a few weeks back.....
and inshallah dont be disheartened...apparently ive been told its really good to meet all the wrong people first so when the "one" comes along you appreciate it so much more!
Be happy with whatever state Allah places you in, be greatful for the blessings that you have sister....
...you pretty...you could so easily have not been, yet Allah blessed you with beauty
...your practicing...you could so easily not be....yet Allah has blessed with the greatest blessing of Imaan
...your intelligent and educated...there are so many who yearn for a education yet do not have the means.
do you really think an Allah that has been so good to you will abandon you in your search for the other half of your soul that has already been destined for you? No....this is a test for people like you and me to have sabr and shukr.
have a look at the thread "your a great girl BUT"...its got some excellent advice from which i have gained great strength.
Inshallah Allah will you bless you with a good Muslim husband who will make all your dreams come true......just be patient sweetie.
ma'sallama:hidban:
stephenoskie
31-10-07, 02:43 PM
to alot of 'muslims' culture is more respectable and apporopriate rather than the actually true deen, sad i know :(
The good, practising, intelligent, educated brothers are keeping their heads down studying/working and praying in the masjid. They're not freemixing and are probably not outgoing so they don't draw attention to themselves in which case you hardly notice them or realise they're out there... but apparently people tell me this rumour that they are out there... somewhere... will someone tell us where please???;)
Arsalan
31-10-07, 06:17 PM
Not ALL sisters are Mutaqui themselves - who is to say they are more mutaqui then boys. So your angle of analysing the situatuion of unmarried "sisters" is erreoneous and unhelpful.
There are other reasons. For example, ill speak from my expereince.. There were girls in my locality who i could/possibly have got married t0, who were old , practicing and good. But i didnt, because i got married "back home". This behaviour causes sisters here to remain unmarried if they are dependent on their parents on finding them partners in this country. Especially if they are well spoken, educated, independently minded.
Solution: sign up to islamic internet dating at ummah.com/forum
Abu Mus'ab
31-10-07, 06:26 PM
One thing's for sure, your husband/wife sure ent gonna fall from the sky, ask your family to keep an eye out for a spouse for you, it'd be better for you instead of just expecting a knight in shining armour to just land up on your doorstep *Roll Eyes*
Bint Yusuf
31-10-07, 06:39 PM
One thing's for sure, your husband/wife sure ent gonna fall from the sky, ask your family to keep an eye out for a spouse for you, it'd be better for you instead of just expecting a knight in shining armour to just land up on your doorstep *Roll Eyes*
Could happen..by the will of Allah....:o
insomniac
31-10-07, 06:42 PM
May Allaah swt bless you Ukhti, with a pious, practising and hardworking husband. Ameen.
We need ABDELTAWWAB style dua'as here insha'Allaah :D
Abu Mus'ab
31-10-07, 06:56 PM
Could happen..by the will of Allah....:o
Sure everything is possible, but like the hadith 'tie your camel and have tawakkul in Allah" a person can't just expect something to happen if they make no effort from their side.
Sure everything is possible, but like the hadith 'tie your camel and have tawakkul in Allah" a person can't just expect something to happen if they make no effort from their side.
sah akhi masha Allah :jkk: , like my sheikh once said "we trust in Allah for our provision, but only a mad man would sit there and wait for the food to jump up and enter his mouth " :up:
muslimaa1
31-10-07, 07:48 PM
Aslamalakum
JuzakAllah khair for all of your msgs they have beena real eye opener.
Especially munyeka's post.
JuzakAllah sis, I needed a dose of something like that.
It's so nice to know there are bro and sis out there who though you can't see in person are so sincere and caring in their advice
We need ABDELTAWWAB style dua'as here insha'Allaah :D
I thought i was the only person who noticed his du'a style lol :D
Supernova Nebula
31-10-07, 08:02 PM
just to tell you dont be deceived by bearded, seemingly knowledgeble brothers.. real world out there, there are men with Phd in Islamic studies treating their wife like crap, i tell you. Just be careful inshaAllah.
just to tell you dont be deceived by bearded, seemingly knowledgeble brothers.. real world out there, there are men with Phd in Islamic studies treating their wife like crap, i tell you. Just be careful inshaAllah.
good point:up:
P.S. to all the sisters, lets not start threads bashing bros or some of them becos if bros on here were starting threads like this about sisters we would be up in arms about it (i know i would :p ) as a sis sed on here previously, there are ways of saying things without offending others.
May Allah swt bless our brothers and sisters with pious , righteous and beautiful spouses and children ameen
Neena77
31-10-07, 08:08 PM
just to tell you dont be deceived by bearded, seemingly knowledgeble brothers.. real world out there, there are men with Phd in Islamic studies treating their wife like crap, i tell you. Just be careful inshaAllah.
Totally true....never take a 'brother' on his word. Always involve your Wali and get to know people who know him..saves the heartache later on...
insomniac
31-10-07, 08:13 PM
:smack:
negativity always breeds more negativity....
positivity breeds no response....
Welcome to Ummah.com
:rolleyes:
Abu Mus'ab
31-10-07, 08:20 PM
:smack:
negativity always breeds more negativity....
positivity breeds no response....
Welcome to Ummah.com
:rolleyes:
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
Supernova Nebula
31-10-07, 08:20 PM
:smack:
negativity always breeds more negativity....
positivity breeds no response....
Welcome to Ummah.com
:rolleyes:
true and i was jsut stating truth too, of course I do believe there are brothers out there who are good as well, just dont be obsessed with all this formality of piety.
Umm 'Umarah
31-10-07, 08:20 PM
Sorry for our lack of optimism, I'm starting to feel sorry for myself, I'm fed up of my family going on about potential suitors...the truth is... I don't trust a guy no matter how pious he supposedly is.
I'm not being obnoxious or man bashing, i'm just being realistic. 50% actually... 70% of men are certified morons. sorry for any offense caused.
insomniac
31-10-07, 08:22 PM
........
Umm 'Umarah
31-10-07, 08:25 PM
actually, i'll retract 20%, yeah, 50% of men are untrustworthy.
insomniac
31-10-07, 08:29 PM
actually, i'll retract 20%, yeah, 50% of men are untrustworthy.
as is the case with us women too....
:)
I'm not being obnoxious or man bashing, i'm just being realistic. 50% actually... 70% of men are certified morons. sorry for any offense caused.
actually, i'll retract 20%, yeah, 50% of men are untrustworthy.
i liked yer original calculation.:D
ooh ape bashing thread :inlove:
oooh and ummah doing matrimonials :1popcorn: where poopy :D
ibn suleman
31-10-07, 08:41 PM
...
ignore :embar:
Abu Mus'ab
31-10-07, 08:44 PM
unfortunately it's true that many people are untrustworthy, which is why you get so many sell outs :asta:
release your inner caveman, kick that closet do' open :D
ibn suleman
31-10-07, 08:46 PM
release your inner caveman, kick that closet do' open :D
whaaa..whats that supposed to mean...:rubeyes:
insomniac
31-10-07, 08:47 PM
release your inner caveman, kick that closet do' open :D
:rofl1: Eemo you're too funny :p
whaaa..whats that supposed to mean...:rubeyes:
ugga ugga ooo ugga *grunt*
ibn suleman
31-10-07, 08:49 PM
:confused: did i miss something...:scratch:
ugga ugga ooo ugga *grunt*
:smack: ... I do not know this indivdual
insomniac
31-10-07, 08:52 PM
:smack: ... I do not know this indivdual
looooool you people make me laugh sooo much.....
*runs away before thread starter can butt kick us all out* :outta:
Abu Mus'ab
31-10-07, 08:53 PM
whaaa..whats that supposed to mean...:rubeyes:
It means baaj has had too much of the good stuff :(
Abu Mus'ab
31-10-07, 08:55 PM
:smack: ... I do not know this indivdual
release your inner madness, kick that closet do' open :D
oh no wait you already did :rubeyes:
:smack: ... I do not know this indivdual
yes do do. you should make a matrimonial thread too :(
It means baaj has had too much of the good stuff :(
@)
looooool you people make me laugh sooo much.....
*runs away before thread starter can butt kick us all out* :outta:
:o ... What can i say ... it runs in the family :rotfl:
It means baaj has had too much of the good stuff :(
Oh .. you mean thats stuff ;) ... COUGH*W**D*COUGH
release your inner madness, kick that closet do' open :D
oh no wait you already did :rubeyes:
I did? .. :0:
yes do do. you should make a matrimonial thread too :(
A matrimonial thread? .. What for :confused:
:spamsign: yea go on thats it, jus turn it into another random thread
:smack:
negativity always breeds more negativity....
positivity breeds no response....
Welcome to Ummah.com
:rolleyes:
That's not true bro. We got enough of that ":inlove:"
That's not true bro. We got enough of that ":inlove:"
insomniac is a sis :confused:
$HugoBoss$
31-10-07, 10:05 PM
insomniac is a sis :confused:
You are so gonna get it from her gucci :nervous:
You are so gonna get it from her gucci :nervous:
noooo i was correcting brother Kal because HE said "bro". read his post....
thats why i quoted him.... duhh :rolleyes:
miss-islamic
31-10-07, 10:14 PM
^Gucci do us all favor and don’t reply to you-know-who’s posts anymore. Allah (swt) will reward you for it iA. ;)
insomniac
31-10-07, 10:20 PM
That's not true bro. We got enough of that ":inlove:"
Sis you should be reported to Ummah's morality police for screaming over Tom Welling and the overt fascination with Superman....:rolleyes:
if ya got any more sly jabs - try a more random thread of mine than this one :D :up:
miss-islamic
31-10-07, 10:35 PM
i know eh. Myabe tomorrow i should change my avatar to a "hot" girl from t.v and see how long it lasts. Maybe Jessica Alba? :rolleyes:
^Gucci do us all favor and don’t reply to you-know-who’s posts anymore. Allah (swt) will reward you for it iA. ;)
What's wrong with my posts that if you ignore me you'd get a reward from Allah (swt) :confused:
Sis you should be reported to Ummah's morality police for screaming over Tom Welling and the overt fascination with Superman....:rolleyes:
if ya got any more sly jabs - try a more random thread of mine than this one :D :up:
i know eh. Myabe tomorrow i should change my avatar to a "hot" girl from t.v and see how long it lasts. Maybe Jessica Alba? :rolleyes:
What the heck are you talking about :wacko: Tom Welling plays Superman in my favourite show. I found this picture of when he turned bad so it's pretty cool. It's a man with shades and you start talking "hot" people. Look, if you're attracted to the avatar and can't help it - I will remove it to something which won't put you off but don't make it sound like I'm doing something intentionally wrong here. Who cares if you Jessica Alba on your avatar, do you honestly think it's an issue for me? Complain to a mod "he's avatar is just so hot, please remove it". And I was only joking with sis Insomniac, she just gets called "bro" often lol
*mutters to himself* some of these people need to get out more Yikes.
Here's something more appropiate for you. Check your pulse, is it okay? Heart rate fine? I couldn't find a dog with shades though, sorry.
What the heck are you talking about :wacko: Tom Welling plays Superman in my favourite show. I found this picture of when he turned bad so it's pretty cool. It's a man with shades and you start talking "hot" people. Look, if you're attracted to the avatar and can't help it - I will remove it to something which won't put you off but don't make it sound like I'm doing something intentionally wrong here. Who cares if you Jessica Alba on your avatar, do you honestly think it's an issue for me? Complain to a mod "he's avatar is just so hot, please remove it". And I was only joking with sis Insomniac, she just gets called "bro" often lol
*mutters to himself* some of these people need to get out more Yikes.
I had a picture of a woman on my avatar once and one of the moderators asked me to remove it. Hmmm 'tis strange the same concept doesn't apply to the brothers :p
Btw smallville is great!
insomniac
31-10-07, 10:46 PM
What's wrong with my posts that if you ignore me you'd get a reward from Allah (swt) :confused:
HugoBoss - not you...
What the heck are you talking about :wacko: Tom Welling plays Superman in my favourite show. I found this picture of when he turned bad so it's pretty cool. It's a man with shades and you start talking "hot" people. Look, if you're attracted to the avatar and can't help it - I will remove it to something which won't put you off but don't make it sound like I'm doing something intentionally wrong here. Who cares if you Jessica Alba on your avatar, do you honestly think it's an issue for me? Complain to a mod "he's avatar is just so hot, please remove it". And I was only joking with sis Insomniac, she just gets called "bro" often lol
*mutters to himself* some of these people need to get out more Yikes.
As I said before, young females like yourself taking on Superman avatars is inappropriate!
:torture::torture:
I had a picture of a woman on my avatar once and one of the moderators asked me to remove it. Hmmm 'tis strange the same concept doesn't apply to the brothers :p
Btw smallville is great!
We're allowed to have avatars of men and women, but for the women they're hair must be covered and they can't be showing any flesh. It's not like I put a picture of a nude man. It was just him wearing shades. I guess that was enough to get their attention!
I hope, Sparky (the dog in my avatar) gets some attention too. He's really good - he even flushes the toilet after himself, although sometimes he gets stuck and is prone to going down with the flush
insomniac
31-10-07, 10:48 PM
We're allowed to have avatars of men and women, but for the women they're hair must be covered and they can't be showing any flesh. It's not like I put a picture of a nude man. It was just him wearing shades. I guess that was enough to get their attention!
:rolleyes:
oh puh-leese you're the one obsessing over him....
my first post was a joke obviously as I referred to you as 'sis'
killed joke.
guys quit it, the thread is being ruined.
We're allowed to have avatars of men and women, but for the women they're hair must be covered and they can't be showing any flesh. It's not like I put a picture of a nude man. It was just him wearing shades. I guess that was enough to get their attention!
You can put it up...it's okay by me. My pulse rate is fine. :rolleyes:
guys quit it, the thread is being ruined.
Are you kidding? I make this thread :p Alright I'm taking my business elsewhere. I know where I'm not wanted!
Are you kidding? I make this thread :p Alright I'm taking my business elsewhere. I know where I'm not wanted!
i said guyS
i was talking to everyone and not just one person
no one said u werent wanted :rolleyes:
$HugoBoss$
31-10-07, 11:00 PM
^Gucci do us all favor and don’t reply to you-know-who’s posts anymore. Allah (swt) will reward you for it iA. ;)
How dare you say something like that :torture:
Here's something more appropiate for you. Check your pulse, is it okay? Heart rate fine? I couldn't find a dog with shades though, sorry.
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
afrasayab
01-11-07, 12:23 AM
The good, practising, intelligent, educated brothers are keeping their heads down studying/working and praying in the masjid. They're not freemixing and are probably not outgoing so they don't draw attention to themselves in which case you hardly notice them or realise they're out there... but apparently people tell me this rumour that they are out there... somewhere... will someone tell us where please???;)
gee, you know I am sure there are alot of them on this site even, so if you are looking in the wrong places you won't find them.
Frankly, I am getting tired of the BS that 'sisters' are saying about dudes, coz when a nice praciticing guy asks about them or proposes them they just refuse or just ignore. So cut the BS, guys are having the same problem as the girls... Don't blame us but blame yourself first... I can ask the same questions, where are nice, practicing, intelligent, pretty girls?
I you are not willing to give someone a chance, then don't expect someone else to give you a chance either. Everyone is looking for something better...
Abandoned-Mind
01-11-07, 12:24 AM
gee, you know I am sure there are alot of them on this site even, so if you are looking in the wrong places you won't find them.
Frankly, I am getting tired of the BS that 'sisters' are saying about dudes, coz when a nice praciticing guy asks about them or proposes them they just refuse or just ignore. So cut the BS, guys are having the same problem as the girls... Don't blame us but blame yourself first... I can ask the same questions, where are nice, practicing, intelligent, pretty girls?
I you are not willing to give someone a chance, then don't expect someone else to give you a chance either. Everyone is looking for something better...
I sense you've been hurt bro lol... but yeah... do many people just looking for dream people without checking anyone properly...
Deen ain't a priority these days G.
afrasayab
01-11-07, 12:32 AM
I sense you've been hurt bro lol... but yeah... do many people just looking for dream people without checking anyone properly...
Deen ain't a priority these days G.
oh ya, hurt, burnt and stomped but still standing... Reality is that you can't marry someone just for the deen. Deen should be The most important thing but not the ONLY thing. You could find someone really good in deen but someone who can't carry a decent conversation.... it won't work.
For all the JOKERS plz stick to the topic, and stop fighting, acussing, flirting and hehe hoho. You know who you are....
Abandoned-Mind
01-11-07, 12:33 AM
oh ya, hurt, burnt and stomped but still standing... Reality is that you can't marry someone just for the deen. Deen should be The most important thing but not the ONLY thing. You could find someone really good in deen but someone who can't carry a decent conversation.... it won't work.
For all the JOKERS plz stick to the topic, and stop fighting, acussing, flirting and hehe hoho. You know who you are....
lol...
Wish you well on your quest.
Pro_Candy
01-11-07, 12:34 AM
gee, you know I am sure there are alot of them on this site even, so if you are looking in the wrong places you won't find them.
Frankly, I am getting tired of the BS that 'sisters' are saying about dudes, coz when a nice praciticing guy asks about them or proposes them they just refuse or just ignore. So cut the BS, guys are having the same problem as the girls... Don't blame us but blame yourself first... I can ask the same questions, where are nice, practicing, intelligent, pretty girls?
I you are not willing to give someone a chance, then don't expect someone else to give you a chance either. Everyone is looking for something better...
Back when I was married, my ex used to tell me 'if I divorced you, you'd never be able to marry again. You're used meat, no man wants second hand goods.' Then he'd throw in a few lines about being a mother, and how men will not want to marry someone with such a burden.
After reading this thread, I think he was probably right. Where are the good men who aren't seeking that young virgin? Personally, I'd rather marry a divorced man, and it wouldn't matter if he had kids or not. I'd rather be with someone who has been down the same road, and has more understanding of the ups and downs of a marriage.
But, any man who has been spoken to on my behalf either wants to marry me out of pity as a second wife, or thinks kids are too much to deal with. Which is why I don't care for anyone to talk 'on my behalf' anymore. (wasn't done with my permission in the first place :rolleyes:) I won't be a pitied second wife. And, if the man would look at my kids as a burden, then he's probably not the right one anyway. I'd rather be single than to have a man resent my kids.
Abandoned-Mind
01-11-07, 12:37 AM
Back when I was married, my ex used to tell me 'if I divorced you, you'd never be able to marry again. You're used meat, no man wants second hand goods.' Then he'd throw in a few lines about being a mother, and how men will not want to marry someone with such a burden.
After reading this thread, I think he was probably right. Where are the good men who aren't seeking that young virgin? Personally, I'd rather marry a divorced man, and it wouldn't matter if he had kids or not. I'd rather be with someone who has been down the same road, and has more understanding of the ups and downs of a marriage.
But, any man who has been spoken to on my behalf either wants to marry me out of pity as a second wife, or thinks kids are too much to deal with. Which is why I don't care for anyone to talk 'on my behalf' anymore. (wasn't done with my permission in the first place :rolleyes:) I won't be a pitied second wife. And, if the man would look at my kids as a burden, then he's probably not the right one anyway. I'd rather be single than to have a man resent my kids.
:up:
Alot of brothers live fairy world sister....
Islamiyyah
01-11-07, 01:39 AM
27 and still not married, looking for the perfect guy, good luck, hope you find him inshallah before your hair turns grey.
That wasn't very nice :nono:
Rosalie-Beauty
01-11-07, 01:40 AM
I agree..somewhat. They dont make them like they used to.
$HugoBoss$
01-11-07, 01:50 AM
That wasn't very nice :nono:
Some girls are just so picky thats all :smack:
Islamiyyah
01-11-07, 01:56 AM
Some girls are just so picky thats all :smack:
Not all. I mean, some who are very arrogant and swear they have the full package are picky, but the humble ones arent alhamdulillah.
afrasayab
01-11-07, 01:58 AM
Back when I was married, my ex used to tell me 'if I divorced you, you'd never be able to marry again. You're used meat, no man wants second hand goods.' Then he'd throw in a few lines about being a mother, and how men will not want to marry someone with such a burden.
After reading this thread, I think he was probably right. Where are the good men who aren't seeking that young virgin? Personally, I'd rather marry a divorced man, and it wouldn't matter if he had kids or not. I'd rather be with someone who has been down the same road, and has more understanding of the ups and downs of a marriage.
But, any man who has been spoken to on my behalf either wants to marry me out of pity as a second wife, or thinks kids are too much to deal with. Which is why I don't care for anyone to talk 'on my behalf' anymore. (wasn't done with my permission in the first place :rolleyes:) I won't be a pitied second wife. And, if the man would look at my kids as a burden, then he's probably not the right one anyway. I'd rather be single than to have a man resent my kids.
Again, if a guy who never married before is not interested in a divorcee, I think that is ok. Plus, not every one wants to deal with kids, it is alot of responsibility and that's a fact. I see nothing wrong with it. However, if a divorced guy with kids has problem with a divorced woman with or without kids then I can understand your point.
You don't have a problem marrying a divorced guy becuase you yourself are divorced, so I don't know what is your point by stating that :rolleyes:
I have never married but i won't have any problem marrying a divorcee or a non-virgin girl as long as she is a good girl, and i am attracted to her. I don't think I would marry a girl with kid(s) though. That is something I can not deal with... simple and fair.
$HugoBoss$
01-11-07, 02:02 AM
Not all. I mean, some who are very arrogant and swear they have the full package are picky, but the humble ones arent alhamdulillah.
lol my younger sister is one of them, she's rejected 8 proposals already. She thinks she's ms.universe or something :smack:
I told her not to be so stuck up, 3 of those guys she rejected were amazing brothers, 2 bad for her.
afrasayab
01-11-07, 02:03 AM
I think it is unfair and pathetic to blame just guys for all the problems, I see most of the girls on this thread doing that which I think shows their mentality towards guys. Well if you have such a mentality then don't complain... It seems to me that guys are more willing to admitt their faults and shortcomings then the girls are.... sad.
Islamiyyah
01-11-07, 02:05 AM
lol my younger sister is one of them, she's rejected 8 proposals already. She thinks she's ms.universe or something :smack:
I told her not to be so stuck up, 3 of those guys she rejected were amazing brothers, 2 bad for her.
These women will forget they will be old hags years from now, Allah can also take away any womans beauty when He aza wa jaal wants. May Allah preserve your sister though.:love:
oh this stinks im sad now... im getting old too and i dont hav any proposals!!!
except a few months ago but that was a 30 year old *pout*
$HugoBoss$
01-11-07, 02:22 AM
These women will forget they will be old hags years from now, Allah can also take away any womans beauty when He aza wa jaal wants. May Allah preserve your sister though.:love:
I agree 100% and ameen.
$HugoBoss$
01-11-07, 02:22 AM
oh this stinks im sad now... im getting old too and i dont hav any proposals!!!
except a few months ago but that was a 30 year old *pout*
Abu Mus'ab?????
Ibn Sina
01-11-07, 02:24 AM
Abu Mus'ab?????
:rofl1: :asta: :rotfl:
Lambo5688
01-11-07, 02:34 AM
i think freshie is looking
Lambo5688
01-11-07, 02:35 AM
Abu Mus'ab????? bwahahahahaha oh man thats mean
Abu Mus'ab?????
uh... no... its funny u mention brother abu musab cuz the man was a lot shorter than me...
but ya .. i dont think he`ll be happy to see that hugo boss
$HugoBoss$
01-11-07, 02:44 AM
uh... no... its funny u mention brother abu musab cuz the man was a lot shorter than me...
but ya .. i dont think he`ll be happy to see that hugo boss
:rotfl: you calling abu mus'ab short lol, he's gonna kill you gucci :spunch:
No me and him are cool, he's a good guy, wish he was my real bro :)
:rotfl: you calling abu mus'ab short lol, he's gonna kill you gucci :spunch:
No me and him are cool, he's a good guy, wish he was my real bro :)
i didnt say abu musab was short :rolleyes:
$HugoBoss$
01-11-07, 02:48 AM
i didnt say abu musab was short :rolleyes:
You didn't say that but thats what you meant, no backing out of it now, your done for, khalas.
Sulaiman Harun
01-11-07, 03:15 AM
Abu Mus'ab?????
Boss bhai Abu Mus'ab bhai kay barey mey asay kaiko bolta tum?
$HugoBoss$
01-11-07, 03:23 AM
Boss bhai Abu Mus'ab bhai kay barey mey asay kaiko bolta tum?
Maaf kardo bhai, mazak karaha ta :coolbro:
Sulaiman Harun
01-11-07, 03:29 AM
chalo bhai ma'aaf kya aap bhi yaad rakain gey!
Abu Mus'ab
01-11-07, 08:59 AM
Abu Mus'ab?????
:asta:
Abu Mus'ab
01-11-07, 09:03 AM
uh... no... its funny u mention brother abu musab cuz the man was a lot shorter than me...
but ya .. i dont think he`ll be happy to see that hugo boss
erm maybe you didn't notice but what you just said there implies that i'm really short :rubeyes:
Pro_Candy
01-11-07, 10:29 AM
Again, if a guy who never married before is not interested in a divorcee, I think that is ok. Plus, not every one wants to deal with kids, it is alot of responsibility and that's a fact. I see nothing wrong with it. However, if a divorced guy with kids has problem with a divorced woman with or without kids then I can understand your point.
You don't have a problem marrying a divorced guy becuase you yourself are divorced, so I don't know what is your point by stating that :rolleyes:
I have never married but i won't have any problem marrying a divorcee or a non-virgin girl as long as she is a good girl, and i am attracted to her. I don't think I would marry a girl with kid(s) though. That is something I can not deal with... simple and fair.
My point in saying that (:rolleyes:) is because there are so many men (as mentioned before) who are divorced, yet they still want to go for that picture perfect young virgin wife.
Also, many men see kids as a burden, when they could be such a blessing. Imagine the rewards for raising children to become good Muslims, good people. I'm not knocking men who don't want to marry women with children, I'm just saying men should try and think more positive about the situation.
abubakarbristol
01-11-07, 11:21 AM
Back when I was married, my ex used to tell me 'if I divorced you, you'd never be able to marry again. You're used meat, no man wants second hand goods.' Then he'd throw in a few lines about being a mother, and how men will not want to marry someone with such a burden.
After reading this thread, I think he was probably right. Where are the good men who aren't seeking that young virgin? Personally, I'd rather marry a divorced man, and it wouldn't matter if he had kids or not. I'd rather be with someone who has been down the same road, and has more understanding of the ups and downs of a marriage.
But, any man who has been spoken to on my behalf either wants to marry me out of pity as a second wife, or thinks kids are too much to deal with. Which is why I don't care for anyone to talk 'on my behalf' anymore. (wasn't done with my permission in the first place :rolleyes:) I won't be a pitied second wife. And, if the man would look at my kids as a burden, then he's probably not the right one anyway. I'd rather be single than to have a man resent my kids.
Asalamaleykum Sister
Oh dear, you are now believing the gibes that your ex-husband used against you when you used to argue! If he was such a fountain of knowledge why are you not with him?
The truth is that there are some brothers who may not want to marry you because you are divorced and have kids, well that is a good thing because at least you wont have to build a relationship with some who is clearly not up to it.
Do you think its possible that a man might want to take you as a second wife without feeling sorry for you? If I take a second wife it is not just a charitable exercise but an attempt to build a good relationship that will be good for both of us.
Could you be looking in the wrong places or are you puting exacting limits on who you would consider for marriage? You can't change how some of these idiot men think but you can check that you are giving yourself the best chance of success.
For all you know someone may have seen you already and is trying to pluck up courage to make an approach.
miss-islamic
01-11-07, 11:30 AM
How dare you say something like that :torture:
Just giving her advice to not respond to your inane comments in regards to her posts. Comment like “my sister can sell you garbage e.t.c. :rolleyes:What's wrong with my posts that if you ignore me you'd get a reward from Allah (swt) :confused:
What the heck are you talking about :wacko: Tom Welling plays Superman in my favourite show. I found this picture of when he turned bad so it's pretty cool. It's a man with shades and you start talking "hot" people. Look, if you're attracted to the avatar and can't help it - I will remove it to something which won't put you off but don't make it sound like I'm doing something intentionally wrong here. Who cares if you Jessica Alba on your avatar, do you honestly think it's an issue for me? Complain to a mod "he's avatar is just so hot, please remove it". And I was only joking with sis Insomniac, she just gets called "bro" often lol
*mutters to himself* some of these people need to get out more Yikes.
Why do you think everything is always about you? :smack: I was referring to the “morality police” insomniac mentioned in her post. And Tom Welling is a “heartthrob” for teenage girls. You know that.
Abu Mus'ab
01-11-07, 11:48 AM
I was referring to the “morality police” insomniac mentioned in her post. And Tom Welling is a “heartthrob” for teenage girls. You know that
Yallah that thing is a "heartthrob"? :rubeyes: i wonder if they're using their eyes to see with or what :rubeyes:
Pro_Candy
01-11-07, 11:54 AM
Asalamaleykum Sister
Oh dear, you are now believing the gibes that your ex-husband used against you when you used to argue! If he was such a fountain of knowledge why are you not with him?
Well, I didn't believe him at the time... Where I grew up, where I live, people get married all the time, kids or no kids. Men take kids and raise them for years as their own, as do women. Personally, I was raised by my dad and step mom, and when my mom remarried, I loved my stepdad as well, and he loved us. Thing is, I don't live in a Muslim country.
I don't see as much of this in the Muslim community. And, after reading this thread, I see I'm not the only one who noticed. Which brought me back to what my ex said (many times) in the past. I guess he knew the Muslim community better than I did, and it was something I refused (and am still trying to refuse) to believe.
The truth is that there are some brothers who may not want to marry you because you are divorced and have kids, well that is a good thing because at least you wont have to build a relationship with some who is clearly not up to it.
Exactly right. I do not want to waste my time on a man who would not eventually come to love my kids, who would see them as a burden, who would resent my kids and the fact that I was married before.
Do you think its possible that a man might want to take you as a second wife without feeling sorry for you? If I take a second wife it is not just a charitable exercise but an attempt to build a good relationship that will be good for both of us.
Well the 'offer' I had, the guy never even met me. I was not even aware that talk was going on. The sheikh just told him of this poor job-less mother who needed help.
And either way, knowing how I would feel if my husband wanted to take a second wife (or maybe because it was used as a threat against me), I would not want to move in on a woman's marriage. I could not hurt a sister like that.
Could you be looking in the wrong places or are you puting exacting limits on who you would consider for marriage? You can't change how some of these idiot men think but you can check that you are giving yourself the best chance of success.
For all you know someone may have seen you already and is trying to pluck up courage to make an approach.
Honestly, I'm not really 'looking'. It's much less discouraging if there's nothing to be discouraged about, right? I'm just praying that the right man comes along, things happen, and we're eventually a happy, healthy family.
As for that last part, I kinda doubt it... would be nice to know, lol, but I seriously doubt it.
erm maybe you didn't notice but what you just said there implies that i'm really short :rubeyes:
i didnt mean it that way!!!
how would i know if ur short tall fat skinny watever
maybe wat happens in brothers section should stay in brothers section... no?
curious_man
01-11-07, 01:15 PM
another brother bashing thread, I mean it's always the brothers fault isn't it!
lol deep sigh---
curious_man
01-11-07, 01:19 PM
The good, practising, intelligent, educated brothers are keeping their heads down studying/working and praying in the masjid. They're not freemixing and are probably not outgoing so they don't draw attention to themselves in which case you hardly notice them or realise they're out there... but apparently people tell me this rumour that they are out there... somewhere... will someone tell us where please???;)
already married and out of ur reach lol
munyeka
01-11-07, 01:43 PM
well theres one with my name on him and im sure hell come find me someday!
:inlove:
Just giving her advice to not respond to your inane comments in regards to her posts. Comment like “my sister can sell you garbage e.t.c. :rolleyes:
Why do you think everything is always about you? :smack: I was referring to the “morality police” insomniac mentioned in her post. And Tom Welling is a “heartthrob” for teenage girls. You know that.
I didn't realise we had so many immature teenage girls who get excited over a face wearing shades. I didn't take into consideration because I don't think about who these teen girls here would find too attractive that they'd have to speak about it. I'm a comic book guy and I sometimes display characters in my avatar; its not my fault that they sometimes happen to good looking actors playing that role. But there are good looking people all over the world, I just thought people could contain themselves over an avatar which showed no immorality.
Sparky (this dog) can be the heart throb
miss-islamic
01-11-07, 02:19 PM
^Whatever. If you didn’t get if the first time, too bad for you. I don’t have time for pointless arguments. :)They took my Jessica alba pic off. It lasted for an hour. :rolleyes:
Abu Mus'ab
01-11-07, 02:37 PM
^Whatever. If you didn’t get if the first time, too bad for you. I don’t have time for pointless arguments. :)They took my Jessica alba pic off. It lasted for an hour. :rolleyes:
Those pictures don't belong on an Islamic forum, and it's against forum rules as well.
RashidD
01-11-07, 02:39 PM
Akhee did you get my PM? Or was i pushing bounds haha?!
Don't fret about being unmarried. There are so many good things about being single. For one thing, you don't have to compromise with your husband all the time.
^Whatever. If you didn’t get if the first time, too bad for you. I don’t have time for pointless arguments. :)They took my Jessica alba pic off. It lasted for an hour. :rolleyes:
Weren't an argument sis.
Those pictures don't belong on an Islamic forum, and it's against forum rules as well.
True say. We can't display pictures of women who are not covered, or show their hair, so Jessica Alba is the last person to be allowed on the forum.
Islamiyyah
01-11-07, 02:52 PM
It's common sense not to post a picture of a woman in general on an Islamic website. Especially a non-muslim one without a cover, subhanAllah help protect your brothers from lustful gazes (not that Im saying the bros did).
Islamiyyah
01-11-07, 02:55 PM
Just giving her advice to not respond to your inane comments in regards to her posts. Comment like “my sister can sell you garbage e.t.c. :rolleyes:
Why do you think everything is always about you? :smack: I was referring to the “morality police” insomniac mentioned in her post. And Tom Welling is a “heartthrob” for teenage girls. You know that.
Uh.........ew? For airheaded one's he is. Dont generalize. Astaghfirullah
Abu Mus'ab
01-11-07, 03:02 PM
Akhee did you get my PM? Or was i pushing bounds haha?!
I thought Al Ghazalli had answered your question? :confused:
RashidD
01-11-07, 03:21 PM
I thought Al Ghazalli had answered your question? :confused:
I would appreciate yours and Al-Irhaab's views. The questions are not fully answered. :jkk:
abubakarbristol
01-11-07, 04:20 PM
Asalamaleykum Sister
Oh dear, you are now believing the gibes that your ex-husband used against you when you used to argue! If he was such a fountain of knowledge why are you not with him?
Well, I didn't believe him at the time... Where I grew up, where I live, people get married all the time, kids or no kids. Men take kids and raise them for years as their own, as do women. Personally, I was raised by my dad and step mom, and when my mom remarried, I loved my stepdad as well, and he loved us. Thing is, I don't live in a Muslim country.
I don't see as much of this in the Muslim community. And, after reading this thread, I see I'm not the only one who noticed. Which brought me back to what my ex said (many times) in the past. I guess he knew the Muslim community better than I did, and it was something I refused (and am still trying to refuse) to believe.
Asalamaleykum Sister
I live in a non-Muslim Country as well. I know nothing about Muslims in Azerbaijan, so can't comment on that aspect.
I find some Muslim men here and more in West Africa marry divorced Women or/and Women with children.
miss-islamic
01-11-07, 05:44 PM
Weren't an argument sis.
True say. We can't display pictures of women who are not covered, or show their hair, so Jessica Alba is the last person to be allowed on the forum.
It didn't showing her hair.. well, very little of it on the side. Not all scholars believe a women's face is awrah. Ummah forum rules should tolerate that.
insomniac
01-11-07, 05:46 PM
I think avatar pics (both male and female) should be banned full stop - but no one's gona listen to me :p
Hisham Abu
01-11-07, 05:48 PM
It didn't showing her hair.. well, very little of it on the side. Not all scholars believe a women's face is awrah. Ummah forum rules should tolerate that.All scholars believe in lowering the gaze. You should respect that.
miss-islamic
01-11-07, 05:51 PM
yeah and you (meaning the bros) can do that. life is a test.
Al-Irhaab
01-11-07, 05:55 PM
yeah and you (meaning the bros) can do that. life is a test.
exactly so u put the picture up we were tested and we prevailed the picture was removed.... so mashallah the brothers passed the test...
Hisham Abu
01-11-07, 05:59 PM
yeah and you (meaning the bros) can do that. life is a test.All Muslims are to lower their gaze, not just men.
insomniac
01-11-07, 06:00 PM
therefore, I re-iterate the post below:
I think avatar pics (both male and female) should be banned full stop - but no one's gona listen to me :p
Al-Irhaab
01-11-07, 06:03 PM
therefore, I re-iterate the post below:
actually that is a very good idea mashallah...lets see if we can get it implemented
miss-islamic
01-11-07, 06:04 PM
All Muslims are to lower their gaze, not just men.
yeah so they shouldn't allow pictures of women or men. That was the point of my putting the picture up. see 2 pages back.exactly so u put the picture up we were tested and we prevailed the picture was removed.... so mashallah the brothers passed the test...
the test is in lowering one's gaze. There is no test if everyone's covered up.
insomniac
01-11-07, 06:05 PM
the face isn't covered and you have to look at screen to type or read responses and then gaze is not lowered which is cause enough for fitnah....
Abu Mus'ab
01-11-07, 06:10 PM
It didn't showing her hair.. well, very little of it on the side. Not all scholars believe a women's face is awrah. Ummah forum rules should tolerate that.
No they shouldn't and i'm glad that they don't, this is an Islamic forum not a modernistic teenybopper forum.
Al-Irhaab
01-11-07, 06:12 PM
yeah so they shouldn't allow pictures of women or men. That was the point of my putting the picture up. see 2 pages back.
the test is in lowering one's gaze. There is no test if everyone's covered up.
that is one test the other is removing the evil which mashallah was done by the mods.... so both tests passed.... and you shouldnt ask to be tested by allah *SwT* as allah *SwT* desires ease not hardship on his slaves...
Abu Mus'ab
01-11-07, 06:13 PM
I think avatar pics (both male and female) should be banned full stop - but no one's gona listen to me :p
If i remember correctly then one of the other admins held the same view as you, it came up cos of people using peoples pics in their avatars.
So i support that view as well :up:
Abu Mus'ab
01-11-07, 06:17 PM
the face isn't covered and you have to look at screen to type or read responses and then gaze is not lowered which is cause enough for fitnah....
Regardless of 'fitnah', it's a sin to look at them, little does she realise that she gets the sin of everyone who looks at that picture, some 'test' eh.
Hisham Abu
01-11-07, 06:17 PM
We don't test each other, Allaah (swT) tests us. I agree with removing all photos of humans. Insha'Allaah, maybe someone can raise this issue with the admis.
Al-Irhaab
01-11-07, 06:18 PM
http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?p=2227366#post2227366
$HugoBoss$
01-11-07, 06:18 PM
Regardless of 'fitnah', it's a sin to look at them, little does she realise that she gets the sin of everyone who looks at that picture, some 'test' eh.
What are you talking about, facebook profile pictures????
Abu Mus'ab
01-11-07, 06:19 PM
that is one test the other is removing the evil which mashallah was done by the mods.... so both tests passed.... and you shouldnt ask to be tested by allah *SwT* as allah *SwT* desires ease not hardship on his slaves...
aye, yureedullahi bikumul yusra wa laa yureedu bikumul 3usr...
Ur Yusra still asked about this ayah a long time ago and i posted the tafsir of it.
miss-islamic
01-11-07, 06:20 PM
So if a scholar who doesn’t believe a women’s face is awarah were “ruling”, what would you say if they banned anybody from having the view of a women face being awrah? In the case of a forum, banned people from having avatars of women wearing niqab? (I’m playing devil’s advocate here)that is one test the other is removing the evil which mashallah was done by the mods.... so both tests passed.... and you shouldnt ask to be tested by allah *SwT* as allah *SwT* desires ease not hardship on his slaves...
I see. JazakAllahu khairun.
Abu Mus'ab
01-11-07, 06:22 PM
What are you talking about, facebook profile pictures????
Ctrl+F search word 'facebook', Result: no matches found.
Who mentioned facebook? :eek3:
she had a picture of a kaafir female as her avatar, so the mods removed it.
Abu Mus'ab
01-11-07, 06:29 PM
So if a scholar who doesn’t believe a women’s face is awarah were “ruling”, what would you say if they banned anybody from having the view of a women face being awrah? In the case of a forum, banned people from having avatars of women wearing niqab? (I’m playing devil’s advocate here)
I see. JazakAllahu khairun.
You need to get one thing clear, everyone agrees that looking at a non mahram is haraam, that's according to both those who believe the niqaab is fardh and those that doesn't believe it's fardh as well.
so all of them would rule that those avatars are haraam.
$HugoBoss$
01-11-07, 06:30 PM
Ctrl+F search word 'facebook', Result: no matches found.
Who mentioned facebook? :eek3:
she had a picture of a kaafir female as her avatar, so the mods removed it.
Hmmmmmmm k got it.
Abu Mus'ab
01-11-07, 06:35 PM
http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?p=2227366#post2227366
*cough* you shuda added a poll too btw.
Yayness.
did u just actually type "yayness" :0:
Al-Irhaab
01-11-07, 06:41 PM
So if a scholar who doesn’t believe a women’s face is awarah were “ruling”, what would you say if they banned anybody from having the view of a women face being awrah? In the case of a forum, banned people from having avatars of women wearing niqab? (I’m playing devil’s advocate here)
I see. JazakAllahu khairun.
barakallahu fikum wal hudam minallah
regardless of whether the face is awrah or not and many ulema say it is not that does not mean you are allowed to look at it or that you should.... the face of a man is not awrah according to islam but even then women should lower their gaze towards men and people should not post avatars of men and make it easy upon the sisters as well...
no one should ban someone for having a view that is valid in islam but regardless of that view if the actions relating to it affect or COULD affect someones deen they should refrain or be banned from enacting that view...
insomniac
01-11-07, 06:47 PM
Regardless of 'fitnah', it's a sin to look at them
:jkk: for the correction
Abu Mus'ab
01-11-07, 06:59 PM
did u just actually type "yayness" :0:
:rotfl: aye i learnt it on LI forum, and it felt appropriate to say then :|
But lemme edit my post in any case :outta:
urban_rose
01-11-07, 07:01 PM
Yayness.
did u just actually type "yayness" :0:
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
too late to edit now, Abu Mus'ab-ji :D
Al-Irhaab
01-11-07, 07:04 PM
*cough* you shuda added a poll too btw.
nah im reading anwar al bayan.... and me thinks polls are too close to dis democracy ting so am staying away from them...
miss-islamic
01-11-07, 07:08 PM
al irhaab: JazakAllahu khairun againYou need to get one thing clear, everyone agrees that looking at a non mahram is haraam, that's according to both those who believe the niqaab is fardh and those that doesn't believe it's fardh as well.
so all of them would rule that those avatars are haraam.
yeah but that’s the ruling for women to. It is sin for a women to gaze at men too. So every time a women looked at kal-el’s pictures of men (who btw was kafir too) he got a sin for it. That was the point of me posting the picture. The question is; what make my picture worse than his?
insomniac
01-11-07, 07:09 PM
2 wrongs don't make a right :o
$HugoBoss$
01-11-07, 07:10 PM
2 wrongs don't make a right :o
2 Minuses make a positive though :up:
miss-islamic
01-11-07, 07:14 PM
2 wrongs don't make a right :o
It was to make a point. Figh the system and all that. I think it worked. :D
You initiated it though. :D
Abu Mus'ab
01-11-07, 07:18 PM
It was to make a point. Figh the system and all that. I think it worked. :D
You initiated it though. :D
it didn't work, peacenik happened to think just like you, so he went and put a sister with a scarf on as his avatar, so he got given a verbal warning not to try and undermine the admins and the rules.
So there's no such thing as fighting the rules.
2 Minuses make a positive though :up:
in mathematics bro ...
:jkk:
Abu Mus'ab
01-11-07, 07:21 PM
al irhaab: JazakAllahu khairun again
yeah but that’s the ruling for women to. It is sin for a women to gaze at men too. So every time a women looked at kal-el’s pictures of men (who btw was kafir too) he got a sin for it. That was the point of me posting the picture. The question is; what make my picture worse than his?
Difference is, your picture was a woman and his was a male (well atleast a supposed male), a mans face is not his awrah, while there is ikhtilaaf on a womans face.
miss-islamic
01-11-07, 07:23 PM
peacenik is a guy? damn! hmmm.. i've seen an avatar of a women wearing hijab before. She was holding her kid and crying though. What a weird rule.
^yeah, so they should respect the ikhtilaf. They aren't. :-/
Abu Mus'ab
01-11-07, 07:23 PM
nah im reading anwar al bayan.... and me thinks polls are too close to dis democracy ting so am staying away from them...
That so? :scratch: who's the author of anwar ul bayan? :confused:
And my minds a little fuzzy right now, but how is a khalifah picked again? :scratch: there's a comittee that picks the khalifah i know, but how do they go about doing it? do they have like a poll or sumt? :confused:
insomniac
01-11-07, 07:23 PM
me - hmmmm :scratch:
I thought it was you who sparked it off - I guess it was me then... :confused:
Sequence of events is below:
:smack:
negativity always breeds more negativity....
positivity breeds no response....
Welcome to Ummah.com
:rolleyes:
That's not true bro. We got enough of that ":inlove:"
Sis you should be reported to Ummah's morality police for screaming over Tom Welling and the overt fascination with Superman....:rolleyes:
if ya got any more sly jabs - try a more random thread of mine than this one :D :up:
i know eh. Myabe tomorrow i should change my avatar to a "hot" girl from t.v and see how long it lasts. Maybe Jessica Alba? :rolleyes:
What's wrong with my posts that if you ignore me you'd get a reward from Allah (swt) :confused:
What the heck are you talking about :wacko: Tom Welling plays Superman in my favourite show. I found this picture of when he turned bad so it's pretty cool. It's a man with shades and you start talking "hot" people. Look, if you're attracted to the avatar and can't help it - I will remove it to something which won't put you off but don't make it sound like I'm doing something intentionally wrong here. Who cares if you Jessica Alba on your avatar, do you honestly think it's an issue for me? Complain to a mod "he's avatar is just so hot, please remove it". And I was only joking with sis Insomniac, she just gets called "bro" often lol
*mutters to himself* some of these people need to get out more Yikes.
HugoBoss - not you...
As I said before, young females like yourself taking on Superman avatars is inappropriate!
:torture::torture:
We're allowed to have avatars of men and women, but for the women they're hair must be covered and they can't be showing any flesh. It's not like I put a picture of a nude man. It was just him wearing shades. I guess that was enough to get their attention!
I hope, Sparky (the dog in my avatar) gets some attention too. He's really good - he even flushes the toilet after himself, although sometimes he gets stuck and is prone to going down with the flush
:rolleyes:
oh puh-leese you're the one obsessing over him....
my first post was a joke obviously as I referred to you as 'sis'
killed joke.
miss-islamic
01-11-07, 07:27 PM
your forgot: (miss-islamic to kal-el)
Why do you think everything is always about you? :smack: I was referring to the “morality police” insomniac mentioned in her post. And Tom Welling is a “heartthrob” for teenage girls. You know that.
and btw, the picture had her awrah covered.
insomniac
01-11-07, 07:30 PM
your forgot: (miss-islamic to kal-el)
oh yeh that one as well.
Like I said it was me who probably instigated it now that I'm looking at it, I'm sorry if you feel everyone has ganged up on you but that is most definitely not the case alhamdulillah, it's merely a learning process for us all insha'Allaah :)
:salams
miss-islamic
01-11-07, 07:36 PM
Na, I find this all funny. I hope they change the rule and respect the ikhtilaf or just not let both to post pictures. The latter one would be dumb because then Nazias can't post picture of Muslim men who went to prison anymore. :O Or should the rule be you can’t post pics of celebrities?
Na, I find this all funny. I hope they change the rule and respect the ikhtilaf or just not let both to post pictures. The latter one would be dumb because then Nazias can't post picture of Muslim men who went to prison anymore. :O Or should the rule be you can’t post pics of celebrities?
:rubeyes: where did I come into this?
There is a purpose behind my avatar and signature.
insomniac
01-11-07, 07:58 PM
:rubeyes: where did I come into this?
There is a purpose behind my avatar and signature.
:rubeyes:
:outta:
:salams
Abu Mus'ab
01-11-07, 08:02 PM
:rubeyes: where did I come into this?
There is a purpose behind my avatar and signature.
Aye and therefore yours can be an exception to the rule.
miss-islamic
01-11-07, 08:03 PM
^^^That what I'm saying. If there's a good purpose (or no seemingly bad purpose)then it should be okay. That should be the rule not some general one that says any pic of women are not allowed or (the new one) any pic of men and women shouldn't be allowed.
Al-Irhaab
01-11-07, 08:03 PM
Aye and therefore yours can be an exception to the rule.
hmmm hmmmm me thinks rule should be total.... purpose can be achieved via other means....
Cristiana
01-11-07, 08:41 PM
Salam aleykum,
probably a big reason for even practicing brothers (or sisters!) to put off getting married (till their mid 30s sometimes!!!!) is money. They "can't afford" to get married.
This is not a good excuse though...if you trust in Allah the Provider!
I wish you all brothers and sisters to find a pious and loving spouse insha'Allah:inlove:
afrasayab
02-11-07, 01:26 AM
My point in saying that (:rolleyes:) is because there are so many men (as mentioned before) who are divorced, yet they still want to go for that picture perfect young virgin wife.
Also, many men see kids as a burden, when they could be such a blessing. Imagine the rewards for raising children to become good Muslims, good people. I'm not knocking men who don't want to marry women with children, I'm just saying men should try and think more positive about the situation.
Agree with you, but that goes for women aswell...
I notice this thread has gone down the JOKE Lane
Pro_Candy
02-11-07, 10:49 AM
Agree with you, but that goes for women aswell...
Yeah it goes for everyone. But, since it's usually the women taking care of the children anyway, it's usually more of an issue with men.
I notice this thread has gone down the JOKE Lane
Yeah, unfortunately. Oh well.
Medievalist
02-11-07, 11:06 AM
Here's something more appropiate for you. Check your pulse, is it okay? Heart rate fine? I couldn't find a dog with shades though, sorry.
OUCH!!:rubeyes:
muslimaa1
04-11-07, 10:05 PM
Aslamalakum once again
This thread has lost it's course.
Anyone please answer why sisters are finding it so hard to find a marriage partner and much more importantly what is the solution !!!
Get wali active, ask at the masjid, ask aunts to keep a look out, spread the word in the local community.
Been there done that. Anyone have any other more original ideas .....
JuzakAllah
Abu Mus'ab
04-11-07, 10:45 PM
Anyone please answer why sisters are finding it so hard to find a marriage partner and much more importantly what is the solution !!!
Well from what i've heard (not my experiences) is that either the girl or the family are the problem, having highhhhh expectations, kinda like they want a farishta with bags of money to come by and marry their daughter *Roll Eyes*
high mahrs is also one of the problems, another one is that the family wants a highly 'qualified' person for their daughter, like one said "you're not qualified enough to marry my doctor daughter", even though the brother concerned is quite qualified himself unall, but because he's not more qualified than her he got rejected.
The solution? well as some people on this forum always stress "you can't expect someone to have something when you don't have it yourself" meaning if you're realllly poor without 2 quids to rub together then you can't expect a rich rich person to marry you, sure there's no harm in dreaming about it, but putting it as a condition of some sort is unacceptable :nono: this refers to qualities etc as well, if ahmad looks like something that crawled out of a tin of baked beans then he can't expect his wife to look like a hoor.
However in each individuals case they need to look for themselves, if ahmad was looking to get married and knew that he wanted a deeni woman that wears niqaab etc then he should look in the proper places, he can't expect to find her on a street corner :nono:
Hisham Abu
04-11-07, 11:03 PM
However in each individuals case they need to look for themselves, if ahmad was looking to get married and knew that he wanted a deeni woman that wears niqaab etc then he should look in the proper places, he can't expect to find her on a street corner :nono:Where is this proper place? For example I'm not a really social individual, I know very few people, and even less practising. The website; Masjid At-Taqwa Islamic Matrimonial (http://www.totallyislamic.com/mat/index.php?page=muslim-matrimonial) looks like it has a lot of potential, but where else.
I am speaking hypothetically, since I do not intent to get married for at least a few years now.
Jazaak Allaahu Khair.
Abu Mus'ab
05-11-07, 10:23 AM
Where is this proper place? For example I'm not a really social individual, I know very few people, and even less practising. The website; Masjid At-Taqwa Islamic Matrimonial (http://www.totallyislamic.com/mat/index.php?page=muslim-matrimonial) looks like it has a lot of potential, but where else.
I am speaking hypothetically, since I do not intent to get married for at least a few years now.
Jazaak Allaahu Khair.
Saeed is that you? :eek3:
The proper places are the proper places innay, i can't pinpoint the exact location for you :nono: however for you i think you should go 'back home' and get married there :up:
Lloyd Banks
05-11-07, 11:36 AM
Why dont you 'get to know' an individual and go 'groom-hunting' yourself. I think its haraam but its the permissable haraam not the forbidden haraam :up: As long as neither one of you makes a move on each other its all good. :rolleyes: I really dont see any other way considering you tried other methods. Also your getting older and as much as i hate to mention this time-is-ticking.
:help:
Abu Mu'adh
05-11-07, 11:46 AM
Why dont you 'get to know' an individual and go 'groom-hunting' yourself. I think its haraam but its the permissable haraam not the forbidden haraam :up: As long as neither one of you makes a move on each other its all good. :rolleyes: I really dont see any other way considering you tried other methods. Also your getting older and as much as i hate to mention this time-is-ticking.
:help:
an oxymoron if ever there was one.... 'permissable haraam'
Lloyd Banks
05-11-07, 11:58 AM
an oxymoron if ever there was one.... 'permissable haraam'
Oxymoron for you maybe...But not for me as I stopped believing in God (Allah) :D
$HugoBoss$
05-11-07, 12:00 PM
Oxymoron for you maybe...But not for me as I stopped believing in God (Allah) :D
Who do you worship now, 50 cent?????
Who do you worship now, 50 cent?????
someone's up bright and early :p
$HugoBoss$
05-11-07, 12:04 PM
someone's up bright and early :p
I only sleep 6 to 7 hours, usually i review at this time because it's nice and peacefull.
You got school to right, what time is your first class????
I only sleep 6 to 7 hours, usually i review at this time because it's nice and peacefull.
You got school to right, what time is your first class????
review??? mashallah.. i wait till exam time to review my stuff :(
class at 10 but i hav to print lecture slides :hidban:
Abu Mus'ab
05-11-07, 12:09 PM
an oxymoron if ever there was one.... 'permissable haraam'
well he claims to be a murtad of some sort so it doesn't come as a surprise.
Abu Mus'ab
05-11-07, 12:12 PM
I only sleep 6 to 7 hours, usually i review at this time because it's nice and peacefull.
You got school to right, what time is your first class????
I slept about 4 1/2 - 5 hours and yet i don't feel sleepy :rubeyes:
$HugoBoss$
05-11-07, 12:12 PM
review??? mashallah.. i wait till exam time to review my stuff :(
class at 10 but i hav to print lecture slides :hidban:
Bad gucci should have printed lecture slides last night and reviewing them this morning :nono:
I'm out of milk, how am i gonna me lucky charms now?????
Abu Mus'ab
05-11-07, 12:13 PM
Who do you worship now, 50 cent?????
:rotfl:
$HugoBoss$
05-11-07, 12:14 PM
I slept about 4 1/2 - 5 hours and yet i don't feel sleepy :rubeyes:
Cause your a hafiz so your used to less hours of sleep, 4 and a half is 2 less bro, try to get more :up:
Bad gucci should have printed lecture slides last night and reviewing them this morning :nono:
I'm out of milk, how am i gonna me lucky charms now?????
buddy i hate to be the one to tell u this but lucky charms have marshmellows and those marshmellows aint halal.
its like the time wen someone told me poptarts werent halal either. :crying:
Lloyd Banks
05-11-07, 12:16 PM
Who do you worship now, 50 cent?????
Not really. I see Lloyd Banks as a role model, while he is still alive.
$HugoBoss$
05-11-07, 12:16 PM
buddy i hate to be the one to tell u this but lucky charms have marshmellows and those marshmellows aint halal.
its like the time wen someone told me poptarts werent halal either. :crying:
:eek: ahhhh i was just jk, who eats lucky charms anyways????
Ahhhhh really poptarts are haram????? Never tried em anyways :p
miss-islamic
05-11-07, 12:18 PM
Originally Posted by Kal-El Here's something more appropiate for you. Check your pulse, is it okay? Heart rate fine? I couldn't find a dog with shades though, sorry. OUCH!!:rubeyes:
Idiot. I bet he (kal el) still doesn’t get the point of what I was trying to do. *roll eyes*
$HugoBoss$
05-11-07, 12:19 PM
Not really. I see Lloyd Banks as a role model, while he is still alive.
Why because he wears his pants low so you see his g-unit under pants???? Does that turn you on?????
Or maybe his g-unit spinner which i can probably get from the local toy store :rolleyes:
:eek: ahhhh i was just jk, who eats lucky charms anyways????
Ahhhhh really poptarts are haram????? Never tried em anyways :p
yaa my printing skills are a disaster. i cant even work a printer!!!!!:eek:
$HugoBoss$
05-11-07, 12:25 PM
yaa my printing skills are a disaster. i cant even work a printer!!!!!:eek:
:smack: sad story, tell your friends to do it for you next time or go early and print it at school or something.
Lloyd Banks
05-11-07, 12:28 PM
Why because he wears his pants low so you see his g-unit under pants???? Does that turn you on?????
Or maybe his g-unit spinner which i can probably get from the local toy store :rolleyes:
Well I do buy my clothes online from their store. His dressing is ideal and appeals to me. Almost every youth does the 'low-batty' :wacko:
$HugoBoss$
05-11-07, 12:35 PM
Well I do buy my clothes online from their store. His dressing is ideal and appeals to me. Almost every youth does the 'low-batty' :wacko:
Almost every youth :scratch:, do you live in the ghetto??????
Lloyd Banks
05-11-07, 12:38 PM
Almost every youth :scratch:, do you live in the ghetto??????
So you have to dress as according to your society. :wacko: If you live in Africa would you be topless? If you live in Afghanistan, would you dress like an arab? If you live in the city, would you only wear suits :wacko:
imanalistic
05-11-07, 12:38 PM
I believe today’s society is set-up so that it's easy to marry when your 30+. What with education, money, housing etc. You’re just generally a lot more secure at that age.
security in this life is just an illusion. one minute you can have everything, the next minute you can have nothing. so never think of security when getting married.
Abu Mus'ab
05-11-07, 12:40 PM
Well I do buy my clothes online from their store. His dressing is ideal and appeals to me. Almost every youth does the 'low-batty' :wacko:
you vile creature :vomit:
curious_man
05-11-07, 12:43 PM
this thread is out of order - and off topic...it should be closed... or all off topic posts should be deleted.
$HugoBoss$
05-11-07, 12:44 PM
So you have to dress as according to your society. :wacko: If you live in Africa would you be topless? If you live in Afghanistan, would you dress like an arab? If you live in the city, would you only wear suits :wacko:
What are you talking about you said "almost every youth" in a normal society that would be a joke, only in the ghetto it would make sense to say "almost every youth"
I know it's tough growing up in the hood at least you got the net now :up:
Lloyd Banks
05-11-07, 12:44 PM
you vile creature :vomit:
Or i could dress like an arab.....Naaa
Lloyd Banks
05-11-07, 12:48 PM
His dressing is modest and it does not show the muscles and covers the body
sapphire_blue
05-11-07, 12:48 PM
Troll alert.
imanalistic
05-11-07, 12:52 PM
His dressing is modest and it does not show the muscles and covers the body
lol.
Lloyd Banks
05-11-07, 12:52 PM
Troll alert.
Alhumdulillah :hidban:
Abu Mus'ab
05-11-07, 12:54 PM
Troll alert.
yee i noticed that when i read his very first post, he ent gonna last long :up:
$HugoBoss$
05-11-07, 12:55 PM
His dressing is modest and it does not show the muscles and covers the body
Looks modest with the gun and gold chain :rolleyes:
http://www.nndb.com/people/945/000067744/lloyd-banks.jpg
Abu Mus'ab
05-11-07, 12:56 PM
Or i could dress like an arab.....Naaa
Maybe you're just another dumb american who doesn't know that afghanistan is not in arabia :rolleyes:
Lloyd Banks
05-11-07, 12:57 PM
Looks modest with the gun and gold chain :rolleyes:
http://www.nndb.com/people/945/000067744/lloyd-banks.jpg
His at the frontline of G-Unit. What do the Talibans do at the frontline :rolleyes:
Lloyd Banks
05-11-07, 12:57 PM
Maybe you're just another dumb american who doesn't know that afghanistan is not in arabia :rolleyes:
Kinda the same thing....they both dress like terrorists :rolleyes:
Lloyd Banks
05-11-07, 12:59 PM
This thread is not about dressing modestly. Get back on topic :torture:
imanalistic
05-11-07, 01:01 PM
Kinda the same thing....they both dress like terrorists :rolleyes:
The perfect example of how people are influenced by media...
$HugoBoss$
05-11-07, 01:02 PM
His at the frontline of G-Unit. What do the Talibans do at the frontline :rolleyes:
Your comparing some hood rat to the taliban :rotfl:
Dhul Qarnayn
05-11-07, 01:03 PM
This thread is not about dressing modestly. Get back on topic :torture:
Bye
stop picking on him because of the way he dresses. hes prolly some 14 year trying to fit in with the kids in schoool. he'll grow out of it :p
imanalistic
05-11-07, 01:03 PM
Bye
jazak'allah :up:
$HugoBoss$
05-11-07, 01:04 PM
stop picking on him because of the way he dresses. hes prolly some 14 year trying to fit in with the kids in schoool. he'll grow out of it :p
Is your printer working or what?????
Bye
lol that was a little scary.
a huge green giant comes out of literally nowhere with a bold username and says "bye" and then suddenly the kids' account is disabled... ooooooooo :nervous:
Is your printer working or what?????
paper jam but i got it to work and theres no breakfast. oh well breakfast from starbucks again it seems :up:
miss-islamic
05-11-07, 01:11 PM
stop picking on him because of the way he dresses. hes prolly some 14 year trying to fit in with the kids in schoool. he'll grow out of it :p
V. true. I was a “teeny bopper” and when my sister does it know, I’m just like, “oh dear…” :rubeyes: People often forgot how they were like when they were young. But the argument is that “I know I did that too but I’ve learned my mistake and I don’t want you to waste your time doing stupid stuff like that now. You’ll appreciate it later on blah blah blah…”
V. true. I was a “teeny bopper” and when my sister does it know, I’m just like, “oh dear…” :rubeyes: People often forgot how they were like when they were young. But the argument is that “I know I did that too but I’ve learned my mistake and I don’t want you to waste your time doing stupid stuff like that now. You’ll appreciate it later on blah blah blah…”
lol @ bopper :p
miss-islamic
05-11-07, 01:14 PM
Maybe you're just another dumb american who doesn't know that afghanistan is not in arabia :rolleyes:
My cousin’s neighbor (whose 40 +) doesn’t now Afghanistan and our country (canada) is at war with it! Damn…
miss-islamic
05-11-07, 01:16 PM
lol @ bopper :p
theres also "deeni boppers" e.g deen ul haq. i was that for awhile too. :D i wonder what i am now? :rubeyes:
Supernova Nebula
05-11-07, 01:21 PM
Kinda the same thing....they both dress like terrorists :rolleyes:
yea yea, some white blokes wear hood, ohh they must be the neo KKK:rolleyes:
Abu Mus'ab
05-11-07, 01:25 PM
Bye
yayness :D
Abu Mus'ab
05-11-07, 01:31 PM
theres also "deeni boppers" e.g deen ul haq. i was that for awhile too. :D i wonder what i am now? :rubeyes:
A teeny bopper :outta:
miss-islamic
05-11-07, 01:39 PM
Sharrrap! I’m a rebel now and my motto is, “question the system.” :D
Abu Mus'ab
05-11-07, 01:53 PM
Sharrrap! I’m a rebel now and my motto is, “question the system.” :D
Stay far away from that :nono: be a teeny bopper instead :up:
Because no joke people who start out questioning everything eventually becomes murtads, and more often than not they become like salman rushdie and co.
And remember things don't happen in one go, it happens slowly by slowly, Peace (the forum member) was like that, he didn't think that he'd leave islam one day, but it happened nonetheless, don't follow the same path :nono:
Not ALL sisters are Mutaqui themselves - who is to say they are more mutaqui then boys. So your angle of analysing the situatuion of unmarried "sisters" is erreoneous and unhelpful.
There are other reasons. For example, ill speak from my expereince.. There were girls in my locality who i could/possibly have got married t0, who were old , practicing and good. But i didnt, because i got married "back home". This behaviour causes sisters here to remain unmarried if they are dependent on their parents on finding them partners in this country. Especially if they are well spoken, educated, independently minded.
Solution: sign up to islamic internet dating at ummah.com/forum
islamic dating!!!:shock::shock: whats that???
miss-islamic
05-11-07, 06:51 PM
Stay far away from that :nono: be a teeny bopper instead :up:
Because no joke people who start out questioning everything eventually becomes murtads, and more often than not they become like salman rushdie and co.
And remember things don't happen in one go, it happens slowly by slowly, Peace (the forum member) was like that, he didn't think that he'd leave islam one day, but it happened nonetheless, don't follow the same path :nono:
Okay. JazakAllahu khairun. I was half-joking anyway. I’m a human being, Muslimand a women and want to help humanity, the ummah, and women in whatever way I can iA.
miss-islamic
05-11-07, 07:23 PM
Abu musab: what happened in my thread about “deleting threads?” its gone! :smack:
Abu Mus'ab
05-11-07, 07:34 PM
ehh i dont understand the 27, pretty, praciting.. *ahem*.. is someone advertising themselves? :rubeyes:
ehhh sounds like 'someone' is interested :rubeyes:
Abu Mus'ab
05-11-07, 07:35 PM
Abu musab: what happened in my thread about “deleting threads?” its gone! :smack:
I guess they musta wanted to show you how threads can be deleted :rotfl:
$HugoBoss$
05-11-07, 07:37 PM
ehhh sounds like 'someone' is interested :rubeyes:
:rotfl: as soon as he saw the word pretty he was jumping for joy :hidban:
Public Enemy
08-11-07, 10:30 AM
ehh i dont understand the 27, pretty, praciting.. *ahem*.. is someone advertising themselves? :rubeyes:
Kind of like a last resort type like thing @)
Tanya K
08-11-07, 11:45 AM
I will be 30 in a couple of years :embar: I still haven't found no one and I think it's because I'm divorced.... :rolleyes:
Pro_Candy
08-11-07, 12:33 PM
I will be 30 in a couple of years :embar: I still haven't found no one and I think it's because I'm divorced.... :rolleyes:
Join the club.... sigh... :rolleyes:
Public Enemy
08-11-07, 12:35 PM
I will be 30 in a couple of years :embar: I still haven't found no one and I think it's because I'm divorced.... :rolleyes:
Join the club.... sigh... :rolleyes:
You peeps are bare old *feels sorry for them*
Pro_Candy
08-11-07, 12:37 PM
You peeps are bare old *feels sorry for them*
:torture:
Public Enemy
08-11-07, 12:41 PM
:torture:
Whatever happened to the Sunnah, getting married young.
I mean Im 19 atm, gonna be at least 5 years till i get married. But thats understandable because Im a man.
Abu Mus'ab
08-11-07, 12:43 PM
You peeps are bare old *feels sorry for them*
let me guess, tic tac toe?
Tanya K
08-11-07, 01:30 PM
You peeps are bare old *feels sorry for them*
You need a slap. :eek: :bang:
:D
Public Enemy
08-11-07, 01:35 PM
You need a slap. :eek: :bang:
:D
OK. As long as you dont slap me into my 30s :outta:
Dhul Qarnayn
08-11-07, 01:59 PM
OK. As long as you dont slap me into my 30s :outta:
How about a ban instead.
ABDELTAWWAB
08-11-07, 04:47 PM
I will be 30 in a couple of years
:insha: in'shaa'ALLAH
:salams
fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 04:52 PM
Whatever happened to the Sunnah, getting married young.
I mean Im 19 atm, gonna be at least 5 years till i get married. But thats understandable because Im a man.
not really....i think men should marry earlier...it is harder for them to control their desires than women.....I dont belive you have to earn a certain amount and have a huge house and car to prepare yourself for marieage. I think if you can provide food on the table, have a stable income and secure imaan, then alhamdullilah.....no need to have white hairs to get married.......
fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 04:53 PM
theres also "deeni boppers" e.g deen ul haq. i was that for awhile too. :D i wonder what i am now? :rubeyes:
i love deeni boppers.....:up:
fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 05:03 PM
inshallah khair.....
Dear 'pretty, prasctsing, intelligent, educated 27 year old sis'....
i pray allah swt blesses u with a pious husband and i hope u will be the best resource for him in this life and the akhira......it sounds like u got it all mashallah and i admire that.....if only u were a bloke!..i hope all sistas have your qualities and maybe this is why u will marry someone of equal worth thats why u aint married yet cos a brother has to match those incredible qualities and im sure thats hard to cum by..........remian patient cos ull find that special sumone inshallah and remeber whatever allah wills is for the best.......:up:
fisabilllillah
08-11-07, 05:11 PM
RE : Bro No 1 decided to have a girlfriend at high sch/college so he could not reach proposal age.
Bro No 2 got into drugs, smoking, drinking and so he just would not be marriage material.
Bro No 3 intends to spend the rest of his life with his mates and has no connections to his own family. How is this one going to materialise?
So the reasons go back a whole generation.ya Allah
i really dont think we should generalise about brothers like this......and i think its important to not box people into categories....never judge a book by its cover.....ppl often make mistakes and if they reform themselves than thats an even better thing beacuse it takes courage and commitment to steer away from something which your soo haevily exposed too. I think the most amazing and practising ppl i have met and the most god fearing are those that were reforemed and actually originally came from those categories u mentioned but they sought guidance and held onto it firmly..........
Boy Wonder
12-11-07, 02:33 PM
Just hold on, you never know he could just be around the corner, literally :rolleyes:
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