Confused

[UniQue_BeDouin]

thier has been recently a guy wanting to visit me (potential Husband!!!!) i don't know anything about him and lately i've been skeptic about the guy's that have come to see me every time someone rings to arrange a meeting with my parents thiers 3 questions i ask 1 is he in deen? 2 Does he dress in sunna? 3 is he a salaf? and if the answers are not to my likeing i dont even bother. but the guy comming tommorrow i heard he is in deen and my dad was begging me to give him a try so i thought ok let him come so now his comming tommorrow. But i'm pretty sure his salafi and doesnt dress sunnah WHAT SHOULD I DO?

[Abandoned-Mind]

thier has been recently a guy wanting to visit me (potential Husband!!!!) i don't know anything about him and lately i've been skeptic about the guy's that have come to see me every time someone rings to arrange a meeting with my parents thiers 3 questions i ask 1 is he in deen? 2 Does he dress in sunna? 3 is he a salaf? and if the answers are not to my likeing i dont even bother. but the guy comming tommorrow i heard he is in deen and my dad was begging me to give him a try so i thought ok let him come so now his comming tommorrow. But i'm pretty sure his salafi and doesnt dress sunnah WHAT SHOULD I DO?

He is Salafi?! Put some poison in his tea.

Just see, if dont like, say naaaah pops.

[UniQue_BeDouin]

Lol thanks da advice eeeer i think?

[RashidD]

2 questions...

1.) You want a salafi?

2.) What do you define as dressing in Sunnah btw? (Just out of curiosity)

If the brother is not dressing in Sunnah then ask him whether he would consider it. Encourage him in it... Perhaps he would change to dressing in Sunnah InshaALLAH...

[elji]

Have you told your dad the type of person you want? or are you saying no no no in your head.

You need to tell your dad that the guy needs to be like so, so then your dad has an idea of what to choose so your dad can say no straight off to them without them visiting.

[UniQue_BeDouin]

salam nah i dont a salafi cause are fikr in deen will be to diffrent and i feel it will start 2 much fight between us if we get married

when i say dress in sunnah i mean like eg beard,jubbah u know NOT WESTERN clothing lol :P

[UniQue_BeDouin]

Have you told your dad the type of person you want? or are you saying no no no in your head.

You need to tell your dad that the guy needs to be like so, so then your dad has an idea of what to choose so your dad can say no straight off to them without them visiting.

yea i have told my dad the type of person i want u know and he understands but he hasnt met this guy we're gonna meet him tommorrow

[elji]

yea i have told my dad the type of person i want u know and he understands but he hasnt met this guy we're gonna meet him tommorrow

Ok you will probably go through 20+ "potential" guys. Dont worry about it. Make sure you get the right one and take your time. Dont feel confused. Enjoy the way the "potential" guys will bring gifts for you etc. Its the process. Marriage selection is a process to enjoy.

Once you find the right one dont hesitate, to say yes inshallah the time will come soon.

[UniQue_BeDouin]

Ok you will probably go through 20 "potential" guys. Dont worry about it. Make sure you get the right one and take your time. Dont feel confused. Enjoy the way the "potential" guys will bring gifts for you etc. Its the process. Marriage selection is a process to enjoy.

Once you find the right one dont hesitate, to say yes inshallah the time will come soon.

lol thanks but i'll quote on this i've been through more than 20 potential guys :P lol

[elji]

lol thanks but i'll quote on this i've been through more than 20 potential guys :P lol

20+ i meant ;)

[UniQue_BeDouin]

Ok you will probably go through 20 "potential" guys. Dont worry about it. Make sure you get the right one and take your time. Dont feel confused. Enjoy the way the "potential" guys will bring gifts for you etc. Its the process. Marriage selection is a process to enjoy.

Once you find the right one dont hesitate, to say yes inshallah the time will come soon.

20+ i meant ;)

lol :P hehehehe just 2 picky

[Kubs]

You never know....he may be the one. Just give it a go.... see him and then make your decision. Don't judge him without knowing him.

Good luck! :up:

[Kal-El]

Don't try to find someone. They'll find you - as the saying goes.

[RashidD]

salam nah i dont a salafi cause are fikr in deen will be to diffrent and i feel it will start 2 much fight between us if we get married

when i say dress in sunnah i mean like eg beard,jubbah u know NOT WESTERN clothing lol :P

Ok :jkk: So you don't want a Salafi in what sense... Are you Tableeghi? (I'm only asking cos you used the word fikr - which i heard for the first time from the tableeghi bros, i didn't know it before)
What would be the differences between you and a Salafi?

[Peacenik]

...and lately i've been skeptic about the guy's that have come to see me every time someone rings to arrange a meeting with my parents thiers 3 questions i ask 1 is he in deen? 2 Does he dress in sunna? 3 is he a salaf?

Regarding the question of, is he dressed according to the Sunnah, what do you mean by that ?

Surely different times and culture normally determine what kind of clothing you wear ?

As long as the Brother in question is dressed modestly, what's wrong with that ?

And if he is dressed according to the Sunnah, then Alhamdulillah, but don't dis-regard potentital husbands just because they're not dressed a certain way.

Your other question about whether he's a Salaf or not, how do you define that ?

As long as he's trying to cling on to the Sunnah of the Prophet (saaw) and the Holy Quran, then surely that should be enough ?

[RashidD]

She's pretty much answered those above when i asked lol...

[Peacenik]

Lol !

Sorry, must have been typing halfway :)

[Enigma Dreamer]

No offence intended sister but I will suggest you think carefully and ask yourself what Salafi means. It just means following the Salafs in as much as possible. And there is nothing wrong with that. To turn down such an offer because he is a Salafi is naive to me. Believe me, you have more in common as Muslims than in difference. Just look at his deen and as long as he is a Sunni Muslim, then go for it PLUS (and you probably forgot this) his character, this is very important.
Otherwise, may the Almighty lead you to that which is in the good of your akhira and duniya.

[elji]

You never know....he may be the one. Just give it a go.... see him and then make your decision. Don't judge him without knowing him.

Good luck! :up:

Yes.. never prejudge

Don't try to find someone. They'll find you - as the saying goes.


That advice cant be for everyone. someone has to try. lol

[UniQue_BeDouin]

even though i shouldnt really answer that cause we r one but when it comes to marriage its very important to me yes im a tablighi and well the salafs call us the ppl of jahanam its just that i dont want controversy if nasib happens between us. oh and i dont want a salaf in the sense that his like "jihad jihad" i know it is very stereotypical for me to say but most of the people who r terrorest suspects are salaf.
also to me i feel that following a mudhab is important and well salafs dont follow any of the four i just feel to avoid issues when married dont marry a salaf well not the extreme ones who follow thier nuffs when it comes 2 din i dont know if what im saying makes sense to you guys cause im more of a talking person not a writing person

[dunya_or_akhira]

ur an arabi tablighi??? not many of them about

[elji]

even though i shouldnt really answer that cause we r one but when it comes to marriage its very important to me yes im a tablighi and well the salafs call us the ppl of jahanam its just that i dont want controversy if nasib happens between us

So you dont want your future husband, to be a salaf?

[elji]

ur an arabi tablighi??? not many of them about

arabi tablighi
pakistani tablighi
indian tablighi

whats the difference? :confused:

[UniQue_BeDouin]

Don't try to find someone. They'll find you - as the saying goes.


how is it im finding them if thier the ones looking for me ?

[dunya_or_akhira]

cos tablighi is mainly asian...after all it was founded in india

i know a lot about tablighis because i used to be part of them and still i do side with their akhlaqi matters and in general they are my brothers in the deen...

[UniQue_BeDouin]

yeah i dont get that i didnt understand that what r u trying to imply?:confused:

[UniQue_BeDouin]

cos tablighi is mainly asian...after all it was founded in india

yes yes thats correct

[dunya_or_akhira]

so my question is..you being an arab...what got you into tablighi since most of its founders and its source of knowledge is in a different language to arabi

[UniQue_BeDouin]

well its all got to do with how my family became in din

[dunya_or_akhira]

oh ok..well thats good cos one thing the tablighis are good at is going to peoples houses and inviting them to the masjid and in general their outward behaviour is very islamic

[UniQue_BeDouin]

well we live in aus yes most are indian and asian ect but its very multicultrual we have alot of natios i guess as it got popular and more founded more nationalities got involved even saudis we have saudis that come from saudi arabia on tabligh jammat

[dunya_or_akhira]

tablighi jamaat is not allowed to practice openly in saudi arabi tho,

having come from a tablighi background the salaf can really smash the tablighis on knowledge and authenticity of their works

[UniQue_BeDouin]

oh ok..well thats good cos one thing the tablighis are good at is going to peoples houses and inviting them to the masjid and in general their outward behaviour is very islamic

thats how it exactly happend they vistited us one of my bros was out of control and he got in din and i guess from thier we all became in din alhamdulilah to tell u the truth we were so far from din that i didnt even know about sahabas ect alhamdulilah for the tablighis :hidban: may allah reward them and evry other muslim who goes out thier and spreads islam

[dunya_or_akhira]

yeh i often dream about the perfect mix.....tablighis akhlaaq..their outward behaviour and approach mixed with the knowlege of the salaf and their application to the sunnah mixed with the bravery of the mujahideen, added with the spiritual side of the sufis = unity

because the main goal is to follow the sunnah..and the above groups all possess parts of the sunnah but not the complete jigsaw..

i loved being in the tablighi when i was in my teens...they really helped me mashaAllah...its just when i got a bit older my quest and desire to learn the sunnah and gain more knowledge did not increase with them...even their ameers were very lacking in knowledge like scholars...and it was hard to get authenticity from their books...as many of the stories they read lacked authenticity and when questioning them about it ...i was rather told to just believe rather then question

[UniQue_BeDouin]

yeh i often dream about the perfect mix.....tablighis akhlaaq..their outward behaviour and approach mixed with the knowlege of the salaf and their application to the sunnah mixed with the bravery of the mujahideen, added with the spiritual side of the sufis = unity

because the main goal is to follow the sunnah..and the above groups all possess parts of the sunnah but not the complete jigsaw..

i loved being in the tablighi when i was in my teens...they really helped me mashaAllah...its just when i got a bit older my quest and desire to learn the sunnah and gain more knowledge did not increase with them...even their ameers were very lacking in knowledge like scholars...and it was hard to get authenticity from their books...as many of the stories they read lacked authenticity and when questioning them about it ...i was rather told to just believe rather then question

subhanallah really? its so not like that in aus where u live by the way?

[dunya_or_akhira]

UK - the third home of the tablighis after India and Pakistan!!

My father was a close friend the head of the UK tablighi and we also spent time in the Pakistani head quarters ..a place called Raiwand....

I spent time with some of the influential members of the jamaat however i was quite young back then and personally didnt know them as my father did but i enjoyed their company

[UniQue_BeDouin]

UK - the third home of the tablighis after India and Pakistan!!

My father was a close friend the head of the UK tablighi and we also spent time in the Pakistani head quarters ..a place called Raiwand....

I spent time with some of the influential members of the jamaat however i was quite young back then and personally didnt know them as my father did but i enjoyed their company


oh ok yeah i know its fully banned one guy came on tabligh jaammat and told us that tabligh work thier was secretly done OUTHUBILLAH this was not only the work of the prophet muhammed pbuh but all the prophets pbut

[dunya_or_akhira]

well thats where i disagree... its not fully the way the prophet pbuh carried out his pbuh dawah....there are many aspects that do aspire from the sunnah but many non sunnahs have crept in...

i know the saudis are not the role models either but a lot of their teachings have more authenticity towards them....

[RashidD]

There was a Kuwaiti Jamaat that came to our island of Sri Lanka...

I'm a bit of a mix myself... Salafi in 'aqeedah, Shafi'ee in fiqh. I respect the tableeghi work (and have uncles in Jamaat etc) but love and respect the mujahideen (Hafidhahullah) more.

[dunya_or_akhira]

of course.. the mujahideen on the sunnah ARE THE BEST...

[RashidD]

Fully agree...

[dunya_or_akhira]

love ur pic u got there... ak47:up:

[RashidD]

I'll give you a few mins to grab it if you want it. I'll change my avatar so you can use it as yours if you like...

[dunya_or_akhira]

I'll give you a few mins to grab it if you want it. I'll change my avatar so you can use it as yours if you like...

JazakAllah khair

i wana be original and design my own soon!!!