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ibn suleman
17-10-07, 10:39 PM
Satan beautifies for you the women who are unlawful to you

Ibn al-Muqaffa’ is speaking about women who are strangers to a person and warns against having any relationship with them. He says: “Whatever is beautified in the eyes and the hearts as regards the virtue of those women who are strangers from those who are known [to you] is nothing but baseless and a deception.

In fact, many a time the person who turns away from what he has [the wife which he has] is far better than what his soul is hankering after.”

Imám Ibn Muflih al-Hambali says: “The intelligent person should beware of giving his eyes a free reign. This is because the eye portrays to man something that is unlawful to him in a manner that is not unlawful to him.

It portrays it to be more beautiful, more graceful, more sociable, more appetizing, and more lovable than the pure and lawful partner which he has — that beautiful, graceful, forbearing and loyal partner.

All this is nothing but a beautification from Satan and an attempt at confusing him. In so doing, Satan desires to divert this person from the lawful and pure [partner which he has] to the unlawful and filthy person [to whom he is attracted]. Or, to cause him to dislike the lawful which he has and to cause him to be attracted to the unlawful which he does not have. Since the soul is not inclined to what it is familiar with and desires the unknown, and causes the person to imagine qualities and merits in the new [person] which are not found in the person [whom he presently has],

Satan, through his mischief and influence, causes you to think that what you do not have is more beautiful and better than what have at present.”

“Sometimes, this results in intense love. When this happens, the body and one’s Islam are destroyed. Many a glance has caused calamities in the heart of the person. And many a glance are actually daggers to the person. And many a glance have caused injuries to the heart.”

“Al-tjakim narrates in his Tărikh on the authorty of Ibn ‘Uyaynah who said: “Abdullâh ibn al-Mubarak, an intelligent person, related to me on the authority of senior people of Syria who said: The person who initially provides the causes of corruption from his self, will never escspe from them even if he refuses to do so,”

Khadija222333
17-10-07, 10:43 PM
:jkk: :up:

So true. :(

Sabr&Shukr
17-10-07, 10:51 PM
Another reason why we are told to lower our gaze - the married ones amongst us and the single ones.

sunrise
17-10-07, 10:54 PM
subhanAllah...his evil ploys and tricks

then you go chasing after your shahawaat and loose what you had (wife)and what you never had (other woman) and for what!?!

be content with what you have...nuture your marriage and with Allah's blessing inshAllah you will have something much better than what is on any other side :up:

ibn suleman
18-10-07, 09:05 PM
subhanAllah...his evil ploys and tricks

then you go chasing after your shahawaat and loose what you had (wife)and what you never had (other woman) and for what!?!




yup indeed one who does that is truly one of the losers...

SisterIslam
19-10-07, 11:22 AM
"The grass is always greener on the other side"- aint that the truth

ibn suleman
22-08-08, 10:59 PM
bump...

OBL
22-08-08, 11:01 PM
Jazakallah Khair for sharing.

Medievalist
22-08-08, 11:05 PM
**thumbs up**

Safiya
23-08-08, 06:26 PM
:salams

:jkk:

“Al-tjakim narrates in his Tărikh on the authorty of Ibn ‘Uyaynah who said: “Abdullâh ibn al-Mubarak, an intelligent person, related to me on the authority of senior people of Syria who said: The person who initially provides the causes of corruption from his self, will never escspe from them even if he refuses to do so,”

So very true.