Why won't some women marry a man from mirpuri?

[wazza]

Have been visiting muslim marriage websites looking for a wife. The profile of most women or when talking to them one of the questions they ask is are you from Mirpur in Pakistan? I am not. It seems that the majority of women i talk to would not consider marrying a mirpuri. Why?

Would a women or man from this forum marry someone from mirpuri when themselves are not a mirpuri?

[sunrise]

i've 'heard' people from miripuri are quite tribal so maybe that's why?

who cares where they r from...

[Chained_Water]

Haha, too funny.. :D

[elji]

Have been visiting muslim marriage websites looking for a wife. The profile of most women or when talking to them one of the questions they ask is are you from Mirpur in Pakistan? I am not. It seems that the majority of women i talk to would not consider marrying a mirpuri. Why?

Would a women or man from this forum marry someone from mirpuri when themselves are not a mirpuri?

Maybe they have had a bad experience with mirpuri men.

[Sabr&Shukr]

Any person who asks you where you are from in the manner that they need to know your entire family background and area like that, is prob placing too much importance on cultural issues when selecting their partner, I would think.

Unless people are actually living in Mirpur and thats why they are asking ( like they want to know if they know you!) I cant honestly see why this would be relevant. Not from an Islamic perspective.

But then I am not Pakistani - so maybe I dont have room to talk.

(but I am married to one :D )

[Khadija222333]

who cares where they r from...

Yes Subhan Allah you should look at a person's deen not where they're from, what model of car they have, are they black or white, etc...

[Abu Mu'adh]

Yes Subhan Allah you should look at a person's deen not where they're from, what model of car they have, are they black or white, etc...

You have to take into account other things to, you can work on someones deen/imaan, but if they mingin' then that's difficult to correct.:rofl1:

[Khadija222333]

You have to take into account other things to, you can work on someones deen/imaan, but if they mingin' then that's difficult to correct.:rofl1:

Yes but that should come after a person's deen.

For instance: If a person has a Lamborghini ( absolutely love the silver ones :cool: ) you but doesn't pray five times a day, fast, read the Quran etc. and there's another person who has a simple car but is very pious then you should marry the one who's pious right?

[(*_Hamzah]

Have been visiting muslim marriage websites looking for a wife. The profile of most women or when talking to them one of the questions they ask is are you from Mirpur in Pakistan? I am not. It seems that the majority of women i talk to would not consider marrying a mirpuri. Why?

Would a women or man from this forum marry someone from mirpuri when themselves are not a mirpuri?

I'm not from Mirpuri, not even Pakistani so I dont stand much of a chance :( anyway, oh well.

[elji]

Yes but that should come after a person's deen.

For instance: If a person has a Lamborghini ( absolutely love the silver ones :cool: ) you but doesn't pray five times a day, fast, read the Quran etc. and there's another person who has a simple car but is very pious then you should marry the one who's pious right?



cars? and looks? they are just not the same thing.

[Sabr&Shukr]

Yes but that should come after a person's deen.

For instance: If a person has a Lamborghini ( absolutely love the silver ones :cool: ) you but doesn't pray five times a day, fast, read the Quran etc. and there's another person who has a simple car but is very pious then you should marry the one who's pious right?



Right sister. The first ones not going to be able to take that silver Lambourghini with him in the next life is he?

And he probably bought it on HP anyway.

The trouble nowadays is that we are using non-islamic standards to find ourselves Islamic spouses for Islamic marriage - its doomed from the start.

Marriage isnt called half your deen for nothing you know!

[puella]

trust me...u dont ever wanna know! :nervous:

tis like the 'never ever ask that question' type questio :eek:

tis too gruesome...too scary...too vulgar...you will have sleepless nights and vivid nightmares,that is, when you do get some sleep....:(

[sunrise]

Yes but that should come after a person's deen.

For instance: If a person has a Lamborghini ( absolutely love the silver ones :cool: ) you but doesn't pray five times a day, fast, read the Quran etc. and there's another person who has a simple car but is very pious then you should marry the one who's pious right?



you know what's funny...some people think that 'deen' can be changed so easy, so just marry someone who is medium or semi religious but really 'beautiful' and you can change them and then you'll get bost of both worlds...:smack:

firstly wouldn't you want someone who chnaged for Allah SWT and not purely for you?

2nd of all what makes you think they will certainly change afterwards anyways

no-one is saying marry a 'minger' obv you have to be attratced to them to a certain degree but if we know what's best for us we'd know the pious ones don't come around often do you snap em up when they come along inshAllah :D

[Khadija222333]

Right sister. The first ones not going to be able to take that silver Lambourghini with him in the next life is he?

And he probably bought it on HP anyway.

The trouble nowadays is that we are using non-islamic standards to find ourselves Islamic spouses for Islamic marriage - its doomed from the start.

Marriage isnt called half your deen for nothing you know!

Exactly! :up:

People nowadayz look at a person's beautifulness, money, cars, etc. and not at their deen. :(

[elji]

Exactly! :up:

People nowadayz look at a person's beautifulness, money, cars, etc. and not at their deen. :(




You have to consider beauty. It may not be so much of an important part but you have to be attracted to the person you are going to marry

Beauty is one thing that is different to status wealth etc.

[Khadija222333]

you know what's funny...some people think that 'deen' can be changed so easy, so just marry someone who is medium or semi but really 'beautiful' and you can change them and then you'll get bost of both worlds...:smack:

firstly wouldn't you want someone who chnaged for Allah SWT and not purely for you

2nd of all what makes you think they will certainly change afterwards anyways

no-one is saying marry a 'minger' obv you have to be attratced to them to a certain degree but if we know what's right for us we'd know the pious ones don't come around often do you snap em up when they come along inshAllah :D

And I've noticed people that have successful marriages are so pious and have all the wordly things as well as deen and Masha Allah their kids are real pious as well. :inlove:

[Khadija222333]

You have to consider beauty. It may not be so much of an important part but you have to be attracted to the person you are going to marry

Beauty is one thing that is different to status wealth etc.

Obviously but beauty wouldn't matter much if the person had faith.

[sunrise]

And I've noticed people that have successful marriages are so pious and have all the wordly things as well as deen and Masha Allah their kids are real pious as well. :inlove:


mashAllah



Obviously but beauty wouldn't matter much if the person had faith.
i think it counts but not to the extent that it takes precedence over more important things

who would want to marry a supermodel or male model type person anyway...you'd always be on the look out if people were eyeing them up and probably get insecurity issues for not being good enough

too much hassle man lol:o

[Sabr&Shukr]

When you love someone for who they are, they are beautiful to you no matter what they may look like to others. That tiny flaw you first saw in their nose, or their build or their eyes or their hair - when you love them you cant see it anymore, no matter how hard you look.

Real beauty is noor on their face and love in their eyes. Real wealth is iman in their heart and good deeds in their book. Real intelligence is one who thinks of Allah swt in all that they do. And as for culture, nationality, caste nonsense - when someone asks "where do you come from?" we should say " I come from Allah swt."

No-one is perfect but we are all creation of Allah swt as he saw fit to make us - which is in the best way.

[Khadija222333]

mashAllah

i think it counts but not to the extent that it takes precedence over more important things

who would want to marry a supermodel or male model type person anyway...you'd always be on the look out if people were eyeing them up and probably get insecurity issues for not being good enough

too much hassle man lol:o

lol yeah. Super models receive too much publicity man. :zzz:

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with looking at a person's looks all I'm saying is that there are more important things like the guy/gal's deen and personality.

I know of a brother whose wife divorced him just 'cuz he didn't have a green card. :(

[Kubs]

mirpuri? :s

[Khadija222333]

When you love someone for who they are, they are beautiful to you no matter what they may look like to others. That tiny flaw you first saw in their nose, or their build or their eyes or their hair - when you love them you cant see it anymore, no matter how hard you look.

Real beauty is noor on their face and love in their eyes. Real wealth is iman in their heart and good deeds in their book. Real intelligence is one who thinks of Allah swt in all that they do. And as for culture, nationality, caste nonsense - when someone asks "where do you come from?" we should say " I come from Allah swt."

No-one is perfect but we are all creation of Allah swt as he saw fit to make us - which is in the best way.

Masha Allah sis well said. :up:

[ummbilal]

heres some advice, marry a MUSLIM who is pleasing to you and PIOUS! very important the PIOUS part not the Paki part subhannallah

[sunrise]

heres some advice, marry a MUSLIM who is pleasing to you and PIOUS! very important the PIOUS part not the Paki part subhannallah


:love: :up:

[neelu]

Akhi wazza, if you met the women who wrote those profiles and then met a gathering of mirpuri men; you'd have your answer right there!

[Kal-El]

Woman: Are you from Mirpuri?

Male thinks to himself, thinking that she likes men from Mirpuri

Guy: Yes I am actually!

Woman: Oh. Well I'm sorry, I'm not interested

Male panics

Guy: Eh wait! Mirpuri? Oh I thought you said Mississippi. Nah. I'm not from Mirpuri *laughs nervously*

[Treasured Soul]

^^ :rofl1:


Well Im not sure why gals dont wana marry from Mirpur, Iv heard it only once but through someone else ... so i never really got the chance to ask her why she didnt want to marry a Mirpuri.

From what I gather, and I know I'm speaking genreally ... its most likely their backward ways ... which is like a big generalisation.

[Medievalist]

If this was in the boys forum I'd give a killer answer but its not so I cant :outta:

[Chained_Water]

I'm with puella :rotfl:

Just don't go there.. some things are better left unsaid :D

[Medievalist]

ALTHOUGH what I will say - is that in our family the jhelumi women marry MP men, but none of the MP women has married a jhelumi man, 'cept one ;)

[Black_Flag]

LAUGH OUT LOUD! LOOOL!!!!!!!!! marryin a MP? i wouldnt mind...i just found it funny how u singled them out...i think ppl get a bit :s about Jhelam aswel tho...

[`asiya]

mirpuri? :s

:scratch: yea i dont get all this either its weird


its like the english saying they wont marry the scottish cos of ... "cultural differences " :smack:

[Treasured Soul]

I'm with puella :rotfl:

Just don't go there.. some things are better left unsaid :D

Buh me wants to know :o

[Chained_Water]

Sorry but some people on ummah sound sooooo naive.. do you really think a persons background doesn't matter? I'd hazard a guess that people saying that are NOT married.

Get married and you'll realise how much it ends up mattering. You gotta live with it, so don't blindly go about thinking it's not relevant and won't affect you. It's possibly the most relevant thing you should think about, the persons family, their background, their culture, it all dictates a LOT of how people live, what they expect, how they behave, and so on.

Wake up.. we don't live in fantasy land.. do people even get what marrying for deen means.. because some talk as though this criteria is making them blind and ignorant to all else.

[Treasured Soul]

^^ Agreed

But why single them out?? I dont understand. Theres good and bad in everyone.

[yousif206]

Sorry but some people on ummah sound sooooo naive.. do you really think a persons background doesn't matter? I'd hazard a guess that people saying that are NOT married.

Get married and you'll realise how much it ends up mattering. You gotta live with it, so don't blindly go about thinking it's not relevant and won't affect you. It's possibly the most relevant thing you should think about, the persons family, their background, their culture, it all dictates a LOT of how people live, what they expect, how they behave, and so on.

Wake up.. we don't live in fantasy land.. do people even get what marrying for deen means.. because some talk as though this criteria is making them blind and ignorant to all else.
i cant agree more:up:

[salahuldin786]

subhan allah im mirpuri and im proud of it people cant take the fact that villagers from mirpur have come to england and have made them self very rich, have you been to mirpur have you seen the koti's there subhan allah, people in mirpur trade in pounds so the rest are all haters.

and we have close's tie's with are family then any other group,so if you marry a mirpuri you have to deal with his family too like on eid,weddings,birthday's.

[Al-Farooq]

I'm with puella :rotfl:

Just don't go there.. some things are better left unsaid :D

Now I'm intrigued as well. *scratches head*

So, from a male perspective, do men not want to marry Mirpuri women as well? Or is this unspeakable thing only possessed by Mirpuri males?

Er, where's Mirpur (?) anyway. I'm guessing Pakistan.

[elji]

Now I'm intrigued as well. *scratches head*

So, from a male perspective, do men not want to marry Mirpuri women as well? Or is this unspeakable thing only possessed by Mirpuri males?

Er, where's Mirpur (?) anyway. I'm guessing Pakistan.

Only males

[salahuldin786]

Now I'm intrigued as well. *scratches head*

So, from a male perspective, do men not want to marry Mirpuri women as well? Or is this unspeakable thing only possessed by Mirpuri males?

Er, where's Mirpur (?) anyway. I'm guessing Pakistan.


it is in ak azad kashmir (free kashmir)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_yO3xVNivyc

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K9Z_bsf3uck&mode=related&search=

[Al-Farooq]

Only males

it is in ak azad kashmir (free kashmir)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_yO3xVNivyc

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K9Z_bsf3uck&mode=related&search=

Jazak'Allah khairan.

Mash'Allah looks rather nice to me.

[MG]

jhelumis and mirpuris are the same, jhelumis just like to pretend their a "notch" above :D


asiya , its like the posh english saying we dont wanna marry a cockney londoner ;)

[rafi]

Sorry but some people on ummah sound sooooo naive.. do you really think a persons background doesn't matter? I'd hazard a guess that people saying that are NOT married.

Get married and you'll realise how much it ends up mattering. You gotta live with it, so don't blindly go about thinking it's not relevant and won't affect you. It's possibly the most relevant thing you should think about, the persons family, their background, their culture, it all dictates a LOT of how people live, what they expect, how they behave, and so on.

Wake up.. we don't live in fantasy land.. do people even get what marrying for deen means.. because some talk as though this criteria is making them blind and ignorant to all else.


agreed
Whata bizarre thread, funny nonetheless. encore:)

[MalikOne™]

jhelumis and mirpuris are the same, jhelumis just like to pretend their a "notch" above :D


we know where a notch above

for real tho if a woman was 2 reject someone jus because they mirpuri then they aint worth ur time neway regardless of where u from

[imanalistic]

i went to a marriage site and i saw many profiles which said stuff like "no blacks , no asians, no middle east people, only white people may contact me".

i was like dayium, what happened to "islam is color blind" LOL

[MG]

we know where a notch above

for real tho if a woman was 2 reject someone jus because they mirpuri then they aint worth ur time neway regardless of where u from


self-promotion doesn't count

[Eemaan]

Why won't some women marry a man from mirpuri?

might be because of your sentance structure :(

i jork :D

[Khadija222333]

might be because of your sentance structure :(

i jork :D

EEMAN!!! Where have you been? :eek:

The whole ummah was missing you! :rubeyes:

[Eemaan]

EEMAN!!! Where have you been? :eek:

The whole ummah was missing you! :rubeyes:

Salam sis :love: hope your well inshallah,

im too growned up for ummah now inshallah :(



*wipes nose on sleeve*

[Fais]

Yea .. I missed you :o

[Eemaan]

Yea .. I missed you :o

oh there you are daisy.

you ever "baaji am i still you faisy waisy" call me at 1:30am ever again im gonna whack you on the head with a sausage. you woke me up and i was :eek: "time for work!!!"

go brush your teeth, clean power rangers pyjamas are on the bed and dont forget mr.tiddles. :love:

jaa, mara sona puthaar, jaa

[Khadija222333]

Salam sis :love: hope your well inshallah,

im too growned up for ummah now inshallah :(



*wipes nose on sleeve*

:wswrwb:

You can't even spell properly aunty. :p

*+ makes an eww noise :outta: +*

[fisabilllillah]

Have been visiting muslim marriage websites looking for a wife. The profile of most women or when talking to them one of the questions they ask is are you from Mirpur in Pakistan? I am not. It seems that the majority of women i talk to would not consider marrying a mirpuri. Why?

Would a women or man from this forum marry someone from mirpuri when themselves are not a mirpuri?

im a mirpuri.................wats right wit em??njgtvythvtut:inlove:

[fisabilllillah]

:wswrwb:

You can't even spell properly aunty. :p

*+ makes an eww noise :outta: +*

that sounds like cute 5 yr old

[Esha]

hiya all

maybe it`s the language,,? :rolleyes: it is bit funny...

[dunya_or_akhira]

its the stereotype of the village mentality which sadly many pakis have brought back to the UK... as they say.. you can take a paki outside of pakistan but you cant take the pakiness out of him...

most of the pakis who came to the UK were not very educated and were recruited back in the 50s-60s to the north which was full of industrial jobs...they worked very hard, day and nights 7 days a week earning for their families here and back home..they didnt have the chance to educate themselves and thats why many still have this back home mentality, it is through education that opens the eyes of people and that is why all this punjab,mirpur, bengal, guji etc stereotypes is slowlying dying as many are now 2nd and 3rd generation mixed up educated pakis who dont carry this village mentality with us..

[Urr]

Cuz they got a bad rep. You dont wanna know some of the stff most of these mp's get up 2.

[xyz]

:rofl1::rofl1::rofl1: Brilliant :D

Mps aint all bad :p

[MalikOne™]

self-promotion doesn't count

what

we aint mirpuri sista its like callin london..luton.

[ADZ w3]

what

we aint mirpuri sista its like callin london..luton.

eid mubarak bro, long time no see, how u been