View Full Version : Do you want a working or house wife?
curious_man
12-10-07, 11:16 AM
I am just wondering what most brothers prefer and why?
GAL-actic
12-10-07, 11:33 AM
well??
Pro_Candy
12-10-07, 11:43 AM
Ok... as a woman (speaking for myself, cuz we're all different), I feel like I can do more than sit home and cook and clean. I would love to help my husband pay the bills, buy a home, and everything. I'd never try to outdo my husband, as a matter of fact, I think it would be lovely to have a family business and be able to help and support eachother this way.
Some men, apparently, would rather have their wife sit at home and take care of the kids all day. And, that works, as long as he and his wife are happy that way.
Sorry for hijacking a man-thread. I'll just go now :D
curious_man
12-10-07, 11:48 AM
Ok... as a woman (speaking for myself, cuz we're all different), I feel like I can do more than sit home and cook and clean. I would love to help my husband pay the bills, buy a home, and everything. I'd never try to outdo my husband, as a matter of fact, I think it would be lovely to have a family business and be able to help and support eachother this way.
Some men, apparently, would rather have their wife sit at home and take care of the kids all day. And, that works, as long as he and his wife are happy that way.
Sorry for hijacking a man-thread. I'll just go now :D
sorry am new to this thread business lol
i should have made it to welcome sisters point of view too.
I like your reply :-)
my wife does exactly what you said - but when she is tired and in the morning she has to go to work I wish she don't have to go because I want no hardship on her.
Also because I hear and read so much emphasis on man being the provider etc I feel really guilty in asking her to help out -
Am trying my best to earn enough so I dont have to ask her though.
:D I always always thought i wanted to work and be quite prosperous in my career but ive realised over time that im actually not bothered at all. I wouldnt mind working simply to keep myself occupied and not get bored but at the same time, if having kids means i get to spend time with them and just look after my home then thats fine too. I think i will stay at home if thats what my hubby would prefer inshaAllah :inlove:
I would NEVER have said this about a year or two ago... maybe im ill or something :p
Abu Mu'adh
12-10-07, 12:22 PM
:D I always always thought i wanted to work and be quite prosperous in my career but ive realised over time that im actually not bothered at all. I wouldnt mind working simply to keep myself occupied and not get bored but at the same time, if having kids means i get to spend time with them and just look after my home then thats fine too. I think i will stay at home if thats what my hubby would prefer inshaAllah :inlove:
I would NEVER have said this about a year or two ago... maybe im ill or something :p
I take it you're in your mid twenties, hence the change of attitude, younger girls between 18-21 think exactly the way you used to, but over time their attitudes change.
Personally I would only want my wife to work if I was to face severe financial difficulty (Insh'Allah won't happen) and even then in a halal environment such as teaching young children etc, where contact with non mahrams would be at a minimum, I would much rather she learn the deen than work when children aren't involved, that would be ideal.
Abu Amr
12-10-07, 12:51 PM
ditto
Abu Amr
12-10-07, 12:53 PM
As with everything Allah (swt) dictates how people should lead there lives, not society or desires.
It is only compulsory on the man to work, to provide for himself and his family.
So for me, it would be my wifes choice. If she wanted to work she could, if not she doesnt have to. Any money she earnt would be hers, I wouldnt be entitled to it, so from a financial point of view it would make no differnce to me. My obligation to provide for her would not be diminished. Im sure in a loving relationship the wife would want to or offer her wealth for the upkeep of the home.
I can understand why some women would like to work and not sit alone all day at home (surfing ummah.com :D) and waiting for her husband to get back. I would be supportive of her desire to work as long it was shariah compliant, and especially so if it was something useful (eg teaching etc) and did not interfere with her wifely duties.
I would not wish that upon my wife, to sit at home all day. Even if she didnt want to work, i would encourge her to get involved in other things, charity/community work, sisters circles etc.
I take it you're in your mid twenties, hence the change of attitude, younger girls between 18-21 think exactly the way you used to, but over time their attitudes change.
Personally I would only want my wife to work if I was to face severe financial difficulty (Insh'Allah won't happen) and even then in a halal environment such as teaching young children etc, where contact with non mahrams would be at a minimum, I would much rather she learn the deen than work when children aren't involved, that would be ideal.
:D early twenties if you dont mind! :p
yeh, i guess its been a gradual change in attitude- in honesty its also come with an increased learning and understanding of Deen Alhamdullilah. Im not against women who want to go out and work etc- go for it i say. For me personally it now simply boils down to- if my husband didnt want me to, or would rather i had a career in something that he thought was in line with Islam/more appropriate then thats fine. Id work aslong as it didnt interfere or mean i had to compromise on my duties as a wife and mother. Thse come first- so yeh.... unless he was struggling, im quite happy to sit around and surf Ummah :p
curious_man
12-10-07, 01:33 PM
few people have mention 'teaching' as useful profession for women -
what about doctors, pharmacist and muslim women in other top prefessions?
my thinking is it is ok to for a woman to work in which ever field she chooses, so long as she covers up properly according to islam.. wearing a scarf etc
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muslimah85
12-10-07, 01:33 PM
both
Abu Mu'adh
12-10-07, 01:37 PM
both
you're username is Muslimah, should other members be worried that you want a wife who does both :rubeyes:
curious_man
12-10-07, 01:41 PM
lol - scary
Abu Amr
12-10-07, 02:09 PM
few people have mention 'teaching' as useful profession for women -
what about doctors, pharmacist and muslim women in other top prefessions?
my thinking is it is ok to for a woman to work in which ever field she chooses, so long as she covers up properly according to islam.. wearing a scarf etc
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No of course there are more professions. it depends on what you consider acceptable. How many rules of free mixing, alcohol, seeing/touching haram are considered acceptable by your conscience?
I don’t think this is such an issue for women to bend rules. But married women don’t have to work. I think in some situations it can be, e.g. the ummah needs female Muslim docs, and their is not other means for them to train other than that kind of environment, then they should stick the shariah as much as they can. Like shaking hands with male colleagues is not permissible, but you have to touch your patient o help him. Same applies to men.
For other professions/work where it sake of work, then I think it’s not really acceptable for women to break shariah rules, as they are not obligated to work or provide financial assistance. The man has to provide for his family, is his obligation, but he should still endeavour to bring home a halal living through a shariah compliant job. I appreciate this is not always possible.
From experience, doesn’t matter what your job is, or how noble it is. In this western society you are always making compromises male or female. I think you just have to minimise your compromises the best you can, and hope for Allah’s infinite Mercy.
muslimah85
12-10-07, 03:41 PM
you're username is Muslimah, should other members be worried that you want a wife who does both :rubeyes:
I personally will be both :nuts:
sis_sarah
12-10-07, 06:52 PM
ok this is coming from a 15 yr old but...
personally i'd like to work, not entirely sure wat i wanna do atm but im thinkin of choosin the path of becoming a counsellor -- i feel i could try my best and help people out there, as well as use the additional islamic knowledge i have to help maybe other muslims, so it can be beneficial...
however, i do understand that importance of the responsibilities of a muslim wife, so i would fulfill them too...
I am just wondering what most brothers prefer and why?
You can have a career and still take care of the house.
insomniac
12-10-07, 09:23 PM
Insha'Allaah women should work if they don't have children and when I say should work I mean community work, helping elderly neighbours, doing research, helping around home, teaching (deen + other skills you have), studying deen, nursing, babysitting, helping kids off the street, homeless shelter work, counselling etc. - list could go on and on (notice the emphasis is on community because husbands may not have this opportunity therefore one person in family unit could do this and it would be in the way of Allaah and beneficial for ummah - I'm not undermining men's work, it is also in the way of Allaah as they are providing for their families)
After children, up to the individual couple - though personally I would feel useless if I didn't do anything in community even after kids
Khadija222333
12-10-07, 10:31 PM
i want a houseman.
Me too Insha Allah. :D
I am just wondering what most brothers prefer and why?
a housewife :inlove: but i think i would like to a work maybe 1 (pushing it 2) days a week inshallah
north/south sis
13-10-07, 06:23 PM
i would love to stay at home and look after the house BUT only if it was MINE!!! as i have to live with in-laws (who arent so easy to get along with) im desperately looking for a job so i can occupy my time...............i know a lot of sisters who work just so they can get away from the in-laws.........but when the kiddies come alog inshallah then thats a full time job in itself, but theres no harm in planning a little business where i can work from home...........
insomniac
14-10-07, 10:26 AM
interesting how such few guys have responded on this thread.
Abu Mu'adh
14-10-07, 11:00 AM
interesting how such few guys have responded on this thread.
Got to be careful in what they say, don't wanna upset their chances!
imanalistic
14-10-07, 11:28 AM
Don't want a working wife or a house wife. I want a wife who would help me bring up the best muslim children and help each other improve ourselves in islam.
Well, luckily I'll marry a smart woman. And smart women, who want children, realise that they cant juggle a career with being a mother. Personally, I want my wife to be "out there" and not just at home but I can see the appeal of it to many men. Having someone you love there waiting for you at home to greet you warmly with a nice meal etc. But wives can have careers and children. For example, she could have children at first - and when they're old enough, she can look for work at a later age. Or vice versa.
I wouldn't put that kind of restriction on her considering my "type" of women would probably have a career. It's something that can't be planned, the best decision will be taken when the situation turns up.
Cristiana
14-10-07, 04:43 PM
:D I always always thought i wanted to work and be quite prosperous in my career but ive realised over time that im actually not bothered at all. I wouldnt mind working simply to keep myself occupied and not get bored but at the same time, if having kids means i get to spend time with them and just look after my home then thats fine too. I think i will stay at home if thats what my hubby would prefer inshaAllah :inlove:
I would NEVER have said this about a year or two ago... maybe im ill or something :p
AMOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOREEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!
Exactly the same for me.
Befre meeting my husband/becoming muslim I had a strict "NO DOGS - NO CHILDREN" policy...and all I could think of was my carreer in academia...
...then I became muslim and understood what Islam does for women so I "relaxed" and started expressing my femininity and it made me happier.
2 Years ago if someone would have told me she was happy to bake cookies from her hubby before he came back from work i would have though: "ok...S-L-A-V-E!!!". And now I do it and baby#1 is on the way insha'Allah!!!
I think I will want to work IF I get too bored, just for variety in my life and intellectual stimulation OTHER than from my hubby/kids :up:
Cristiana
14-10-07, 04:47 PM
interesting how such few guys have responded on this thread.
I had no doubt sisters were gonna hijack this... sorry!:o
imanalistic
14-10-07, 05:01 PM
a housewife :inlove: but i think i would like to a work maybe 1 (pushing it 2) days a week inshallah
what i wouldn't do to have that option as a man!!! just work the weekends and have the week off. :up:
what i wouldn't do to have that option as a man!!! just work the weekends and have the week off. :up:
technically i would still be working bcos i would be looking after the footie team (our children :D ) at home on the days i dont work inshallah :inlove:
dhakiyya
14-10-07, 05:36 PM
bringing up kids *is* work. Breastfeeding a newborn baby is a full time job in itself (8hrs per day at least just feeding, on call 24hrs a day 7 days a week) - so anything a new mum does beyond that is overtime :mujahida:
of course the workload lessens a bit once baby is on solid food and breastfeeding just for snacks inshaAllah... but there is still loads and loads of work to do, tis still a full time job with overtime and on call 24/7 innit :hidban:
imanalistic
14-10-07, 05:49 PM
technically i would still be working bcos i would be looking after the footie team (our children :D ) at home on the days i dont work inshallah :inlove:
don't men do that too? work all day 5 days a week then come home and help with the children? :p
Arrakis
14-10-07, 05:52 PM
Considering I have ambition, they would have to be able to handle a wife who travels for her job, on months on end. Who could end up in the limelight if she realises her goals. :D
I did the stay at home thing :zzz: it caused me untold depression and misery to feel so trapped and controlled. To give up my dreams and plans.
Some people were meant to stay at home and some weren't, and that was never gender related.
imanalistic
14-10-07, 05:53 PM
bringing up kids *is* work. Breastfeeding a newborn baby is a full time job in itself (8hrs per day at least just feeding, on call 24hrs a day 7 days a week) - so anything a new mum does beyond that is overtime :mujahida:
of course the workload lessens a bit once baby is on solid food and breastfeeding just for snacks inshaAllah... but there is still loads and loads of work to do, tis still a full time job with overtime and on call 24/7 innit :hidban:
my brother has got 10-11 month old twins who are giants masha'allah, wear 1 and a half your old clothing... and they drain the mom so much that when they were born, she wouldn't let anyone touch them, but now both her and my brother tell us to take one of them for a few hours each day! :D
we don't complain, we love them to bits..
so yes, i can imagine, because just picking one of them up for 5 minutes makes your arms hurt...
Khadija222333
14-10-07, 05:54 PM
Aww Masha Allah twins. :love:
AMOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOREEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!
Exactly the same for me.
Befre meeting my husband/becoming muslim I had a strict "NO DOGS - NO CHILDREN" policy...and all I could think of was my carreer in academia...
...then I became muslim and understood what Islam does for women so I "relaxed" and started expressing my femininity and it made me happier.
2 Years ago if someone would have told me she was happy to bake cookies from her hubby before he came back from work i would have though: "ok...S-L-A-V-E!!!". And now I do it and baby#1 is on the way insha'Allah!!!
I think I will want to work IF I get too bored, just for variety in my life and intellectual stimulation OTHER than from my hubby/kids :up:
Christianaaaa!! :inlove:
Im hoping to bug you in about a weeks time inshaAllah :p so prepare yourself lol!
Yeh, my thoughts concerning this whole work/stay at home issue changed dramatically over the last year or so. Sometimes i think an alien has taken over my mind :p
I like baking.. looll.. so thats good i guess.
:S Too much girly-girly stuff going on here. *Takes his top hat, and picks up his raincoat and walks out the front door*
:S Too much girly-girly stuff going on here. *Takes his top hat, and picks up his raincoat and walks out the front door*
ppffttt.. just cos you wana be able to bake cookies :hidban:
don't men do that too? work all day 5 days a week then come home and help with the children? :p
no
no
loooolll to put it simply eh! :D
I think of my mum sometimes and i think, "Damn she is superwoman!" The things she hasd achieved in her life aswell as being able to look after her home and family is amazing. Men are very lazy in comparison.
Considering I have ambition, they would have to be able to handle a wife who travels for her job, on months on end. Who could end up in the limelight if she realises her goals. :D
I did the stay at home thing :zzz: it caused me untold depression and misery to feel so trapped and controlled. To give up my dreams and plans.
Some people were meant to stay at home and some weren't, and that was never gender related.
i dont think staying at home means u have no ambition, i mean, my ambition is to stay at home (most of the week) once im married inshallah :D
if time at home is used effectively i.e doing something for yourself, gym, or courses that interested u etc then inshallah there might be less chance of someone falling into depression, allahu alim everyones situation is different but if i was at home and not working at all, i would definetaly have to sort a routine out for myself where i do something for ME only so that i dont get bored or get depressed, it is very easy to fall into depression if your a housewife.
my brother has got 10-11 month old twins who are giants masha'allah, wear 1 and a half your old clothing... and they drain the mom so much that when they were born, she wouldn't let anyone touch them, but now both her and my brother tell us to take one of them for a few hours each day! :D
we don't complain, we love them to bits..
so yes, i can imagine, because just picking one of them up for 5 minutes makes your arms hurt...
mashallah at twins, i always loved twins, wish i had one :(
Khadija222333
14-10-07, 06:14 PM
mashallah at twins, i always loved twins, wish i had one :(
:there:
ummbilal
14-10-07, 06:15 PM
Ok... as a woman (speaking for myself, cuz we're all different), I feel like I can do more than sit home and cook and clean. I would love to help my husband pay the bills, buy a home, and everything. I'd never try to outdo my husband, as a matter of fact, I think it would be lovely to have a family business and be able to help and support eachother this way.
Some men, apparently, would rather have their wife sit at home and take care of the kids all day. And, that works, as long as he and his wife are happy that way.
Sorry for hijacking a man-thread. I'll just go now :D
as another woman, and a married one, I think and i am sure most sisters will agree that we can be both sucessfully inshaallah.
too many people forget that the most important thing a woman will ever do is raise her children and look after her home and husbands property, I have a career and am a full time housewife at the moment i take breaks to look after my family and even home educated for 3 years, i find my children are happier and my home is run better when I am there to do it, not that my husband cant do all that stuff but its better when i do and he is so very busy working a fulltime job and running a business from home,
inshaallah we will all realize our potential and raise pious children.
Arrakis
14-10-07, 06:17 PM
i dont think staying at home means u have no ambition, i mean, my ambition is to stay at home (most of the week) once im married inshallah :D
if time at home is used effectively i.e doing something for yourself, gym, or courses that interested u etc then inshallah there might be less chance of someone falling into depression, allahu alim everyones situation is different but if i was at home and not working at all, i would definetaly have to sort a routine out for myself where i do something for ME only so that i dont get bored or get depressed, it is very easy to fall into depression if your a housewife.
May Allah grant you a husband who gives you that option, to set your own daily routine, may he grant you a husband who lets you go to see family or muslim female friends. May allah grant you a husband who allows you what you want, because I wasn't granted that.
The fact is you must obey your husband no matter how ridiculous his whims are, as long as it doesn't go against Islam.
Gym? in my dreams, even female muslim gyms no, friends? had none, what for, my place was at home.
May Allah grant you a husband who gives you that option, to set your own daily routine, may he grant you a husband who lets you go to see family or muslim female friends. May allah grant you a husband who allows you what you want, because I wasn't granted that.
The fact is you must obey your husband no matter how ridiculous his whims are, as long as it doesn't go against Islam.
Gym? in my dreams, even female muslim gyms no, friends? had none, what for, my place was at home.
ameen to your duas, im sorry to hear about ur situation, obviously we would assume this if the husband is thinking about his wife's needs as well :(
may Allah swt grant u a husband who gives u happiness in this world and then next ameen, u deserve it sis :)
Arrakis
14-10-07, 06:33 PM
ameen to your duas, im sorry to hear about ur situation, obviously we would assume this if the husband is thinking about his wife's needs as well :(
may Allah swt grant u a husband who gives u happiness in this world and then next ameen, u deserve it sis :)
Ameen, thanks you sis. :)
-Shamil-
14-10-07, 09:49 PM
mashallah at twins, i always loved twins, wish i had one :(
you cant have one twin :rolleyes:
assalamu alikeum
I'd die of insanity if i stayed at home all day, everyday, doing chores (granted that i wouldnt have much option for the few first months of a baby's life- assuming i had kids)
However, just sampling some time in the rat race has totally put me off the idea of being another zombie like slave, stuck in a poxy carboard like office from 9am-6pm (proabably getting home at 7pm what with tube delays, traffic and over crowding). Its a awful way to live and completly tires you out, but if someone has to do it, im leaving it to 'the man'
Im looking at going into the education sector inshallah after i graduate so i hope to work prior to having kids and after inshallah, when they're a bit older. Its a flexiable industry and pays relatively well. My dream job however would be to become a sucessful published author (unfortanly its only in my dreams where i'll ever win the booker prize :(.... or any prize for that matter lol)
Baybars
15-10-07, 04:13 AM
Working. There is a large need for muslim females in certain fields.
Lord Summerisle
15-10-07, 06:16 AM
Well, personally I'd like the best of both worlds. She could go to work all day and do the housework at weekends!:up:
Well, personally I'd like the best of both worlds. She could go to work all day and do the housework at weekends!:up:
What did your last slave die of?!
:torture:
mansoor36
15-10-07, 11:44 AM
Well for me, my wife stays at home, everybody specialises in what he/she is the best. Of course I would not stop her from doing a job, when the kids have grown up and she does not have to do much at home. She makes the best food, and takes care of my house and kids, and I furnish her with all her requirements. Sometimes she is over-worked, sometimes I am, we do understand ourselves and let nature take its path. We enjoy fights as we enjoy caring for each other, we are relieved when we meet in the evening and its the best way to relax ...
Peacenik
15-10-07, 11:53 AM
Got to be careful in what they say, don't wanna upset their chances!
:rotfl:
;)
curious_man
15-10-07, 12:02 PM
looks like I have started a bored housewives thread - come on guys this thread was supposed to be for you.... someone be a man and say something for goodness sake....lolllll
you cant have one twin
1 (me) + 1 (the twin) = 2 :rolleyes:
imanalistic
15-10-07, 12:07 PM
looks like I have started a bored housewives thread - come on guys this thread was supposed to be for you.... someone be a man and say something for goodness sake....lolllll
http://www.ummah.com/forum/showpost.php?p=2189189&postcount=25
Peacenik
15-10-07, 12:09 PM
looks like I have started a bored housewives thread - come on guys this thread was supposed to be for you.... someone be a man and say something for goodness sake....lolllll
Alright, you've twisted my arm.
Doesn't ALLAH (SWT) Say (and the Prophet (saaw) ) that there's more Blessing and Reward if the wife stays at home ?
:)
Lord Summerisle
15-10-07, 04:15 PM
What did your last slave die of?!
:torture:
Boredom! :rotfl:
riaizhere
16-10-07, 09:45 PM
I personally wouldn't mind jus being a housewife and looking after the kids, husband etc.
But then I don't think I could help but feel as though I've wasted so much time and money on my degree. I'd end up feeling a bit guilty! :(
Z-Blade
16-10-07, 10:45 PM
:salams,
Obviously I'd want a house wife, especially if we have kids (inshaAllah). The role of the mother is a full time job, I don't want them to be brainwashed by some kafir carer, they need their mother's full support!
The father can never replace the mother, as she is much more nurturing, patient and understanding.
Plus if the man has any sense of Gheerat, he'd rather have his wife not work if possible, since the man is meant to look after the woman. Unless of course he's not making enough money, than that's another issue and most probably the wife will have to work too.
I personally wouldn't mind jus being a housewife and looking after the kids, husband etc.
But then I don't think I could help but feel as though I've wasted so much time and money on my degree. I'd end up feeling a bit guilty! :(
That's the idea sis! Your degree can be used for teaching the children and other sisters, it doesn't necessarily have to be used in a job. Degrees are usually pure theory anyway, 99% of it is useless in jobs, you learn other skills so you can do the job. Degrees just show commitment etc.
Wassalam.
afsalim
17-10-07, 07:46 AM
Since I am marrying an educated lady InshAllah, I would never want her to be a housewife. But if she chooses to be so, I am ok with it. I would support her if she chooses to follow a career. All the women in my family are working gals. My mother and my aunt are both professors. Both my sisters (twins) are doctors. My female cousins are either engineers, architects, accountants or doctors (I have large family btw).
I'd much rather have a professional woman, even if she works from home.
I tend to think they appreciate more what you do for the family with regards to work, they can earn some money of their own to spend on Chocolates, Shoes and Purses, and I can have an intelligent conversation.
Pro_Candy
17-10-07, 11:25 AM
It's always the shoes and chocolates and purses with you :rolleyes:
I want both.. man im greedy.
Disclaimer. I dont mean 2 wives (one who works and one who does the house stuff) but i mean 2 in 1 , as in one who can do both, based on the circumstances.
Pro_Candy
17-10-07, 12:44 PM
I want both.. man im greedy.
Disclaimer. I dont mean 2 wives (one who works and one who does the house stuff) but i mean 2 in 1 , as in one who can do both, based on the circumstances.
I think that's perfect. And, as Jim mentioned above, working from home is a good option as well. I think it's great to be able to work together to accomplish whatever goals a couple/family has. And there must always be compromise.
Khadija222333
17-10-07, 01:11 PM
Both my sisters (twins) are doctors.
Aww! :love: Masha Allah! :love:
riaizhere
17-10-07, 09:17 PM
:salams,
Obviously I'd want a house wife, especially if we have kids (inshaAllah). The role of the mother is a full time job, I don't want them to be brainwashed by some kafir carer, they need their mother's full support!
The father can never replace the mother, as she is much more nurturing, patient and understanding.
Plus if the man has any sense of Gheerat, he'd rather have his wife not work if possible, since the man is meant to look after the woman. Unless of course he's not making enough money, than that's another issue and most probably the wife will have to work too.
That's the idea sis! Your degree can be used for teaching the children and other sisters, it doesn't necessarily have to be used in a job. Degrees are usually pure theory anyway, 99% of it is useless in jobs, you learn other skills so you can do the job. Degrees just show commitment etc.
Wassalam.
The thing is I've done a law degree and I'm doing my legal practice course at the minute, which my parents are paying for. So I think it's expected of me to go on and become a solicitor. So I think I would have to be a housewife, unless my husband would prefer me not to work, then i'd have a valid excuse!:)
Z-Blade
18-10-07, 01:37 AM
The thing is I've done a law degree and I'm doing my legal practice course at the minute, which my parents are paying for. So I think it's expected of me to go on and become a solicitor. So I think I would have to be a housewife, unless my husband would prefer me not to work, then i'd have a valid excuse!:)
:salams sister,
You have the urge to be a housewife since it's natural for women to feel that way. They especially feel that's the case after they've worked (like my own sister for example doesn't want to work since she got a full time job lol). Those women who want to work are going against their own fitrah as far as I can see it, since the greatest women of the past such as Fatima (RA), Aisha (RA), Asiya (AS) - the wife of Firawn, mother of Musa (AS) and others were all house wives!
The best role of any woman is being a mother, which in itself is a full time job. That's why she receives immense reward for it and it's stressed so much in the Quran and the Sunnah. But if she can't have children, then that's another issue!
Wassalam.
RashidD
18-10-07, 02:47 AM
Asiya, May ALLAH (Azzawajall) be pleased with her was not the birth-mother of Musa (Alayhis Salaam) right?
Sulaiman Harun
18-10-07, 02:54 AM
:start:
:salams
yes, brother you are right
I'd NEVER allow my wife to work :insha:
perfectpearl
18-10-07, 02:57 AM
Leave the choice to her...
Sulaiman Harun
18-10-07, 03:06 AM
are you talking to me?
perfectpearl
18-10-07, 03:10 AM
are you talking to me?
no to all the men in genrel..
Sulaiman Harun
18-10-07, 03:18 AM
Since Allah (SWT) has given men the status of "protectors" of their women, its better for them not to work
perfectpearl
18-10-07, 03:27 AM
Since Allah (SWT) has given men the status of "protectors" of their women, its better for them not to work
Its their choice really. The "protectors" should give them freedom of choice....
Sulaiman Harun
18-10-07, 03:32 AM
Its better for her to be in a safe place rather to be in a dangerous world of animals!
:S Too much girly-girly stuff going on here. *Takes his top hat, and picks up his raincoat and walks out the front door*
So true!
$HugoBoss$
18-10-07, 06:49 PM
50/50
Abu-Amr
18-10-07, 07:02 PM
Leave the choice to her...
What if her choice conflicts with the guidance of Allah (swt) & his messenger?
The man is the protector of his wife. An believing woman will listen to & obey her husband, as long he does not deviate from the shariah himself.
The man is responsible for his household; he will be accountable what he allows to occur in it.
Bubblegoose
18-10-07, 09:34 PM
I need a woman who does both.
Abu Mu'adh
18-10-07, 09:49 PM
remove the 'or' from the thread title question and that's what I want.
I want both, just the working part to be in the house :rotfl:
Z-Blade
18-10-07, 11:40 PM
Its their choice really. The "protectors" should give them freedom of choice....
She can work... but from home as the brother said :rotfl:.
Wassalam.
Tariq Lateef
19-10-07, 01:22 AM
Really, i don't have a big preference when it comes this. I mean if she wants to work in a safe and HALAL enviroment, GO FOR it, i'll b suportive but iF were already well OFF no need for more. Then why not just stay home and live the life, well some would argue that it would get boring. Then mayb they can work at like the Masjid teaching or something, really I mean doesnt matter, whether she is a doctor or not. Preferably yes. :D Free treatment. :up: :rolleyes:
remove the 'or' from the thread title question and that's what I want.
I want both, just the working part to be in the house :rotfl:
Hah, good call....I agree with this....maybe if she worked a few days/week babysitting or teaching Quran.
Pro_Candy
21-10-07, 07:36 AM
Really, i don't have a big preference when it comes this. I mean if she wants to work in a safe and HALAL enviroment, GO FOR it, i'll b suportive but iF were already well OFF no need for more. Then why not just stay home and live the life, well some would argue that it would get boring. Then mayb they can work at like the Masjid teaching or something, really I mean doesnt matter, whether she is a doctor or not. Preferably yes. :D Free treatment. :up: :rolleyes:
Shouldn't men work in a halal environment as well? I mean come on, why put all the emphasis on women?
Salam
I once graduated, wanted to have a good career and was trying to build up to it, but now I just don't really care much about career progression. I work part time at the moment and wanted full time for a long time, but as time went by I like the amount of time I work for (my freinds think I'm lazy) its not stressful (don't have to wake early everyday lol). Otherwise if I stay at home I'll be a loner and have to wait for everyone else to come home from school, college and work.
In the future when I have kids I prefer to stay at home and look after them, once they start full time school I might decide to work but that would be only part time.
Shouldn't men work in a halal environment as well? I mean come on, why put all the emphasis on women?
true say :up:
Z-Blade
21-10-07, 07:49 PM
Shouldn't men work in a halal environment as well? I mean come on, why put all the emphasis on women?
:salams,
Because for men it's necessary to work. And a woman's awrah and honour are more easily violated than a man's. By halal environment, I'm sure he means there shouldn't be too much mixing with the opposite sex. You don't even know all the perverts out there, it's best to be careful, as Allah has directed.
Wassalam.
Shouldn't men work in a halal environment as well? I mean come on, why put all the emphasis on women?
absolutely right :up: look at how many marriages break up due to adultery with people in the work place audu billah. sometimes a man maybe spending more waking time at work, than with his own wife so a good enviroment is a must .
Z-Blade
21-10-07, 08:04 PM
absolutely right :up: look at how many marriages break up due to adultery with people in the work place audu billah. sometimes a man maybe spending more waking time at work, than with his own wife so a good enviroment is a must .
Obviously the environment should be halal in that a man and a woman should never be in seclusion and all other forms of free-mixing. That's down to the individual and his taqwa more than anything since he would have to tell the business he can't be with a woman in such a situation. But it's pretty impossible to get a fully halal environment (in that you don't have to talk to a female at all, since they could be your boss etc.) in this country, unless if you are blessed enough by the Grace of Allah to get a job in a good Muslim company.
Wassalam.
Umm 'Umarah
21-10-07, 08:05 PM
I want a working house husband. :D
Z-Blade
21-10-07, 08:12 PM
I want a working house husband. :D
:salams,
This thread is not for sisters damnit!! :outta:
May Allah give you what you desire, Ameen!
Wassalam.
Umm 'Umarah
21-10-07, 08:20 PM
:salams,
This thread is not for sisters damnit!! :outta:
May Allah give you what you desire, Ameen!
Wassalam.
:wswrwb:
Jazak'Allah.
Insha'Allah :D
Ameen.
niqaabi_muslima
21-10-07, 08:21 PM
lol i was thinking the same :p
dunya_or_akhira
21-10-07, 08:29 PM
so what you sisters doing here??? tut tut...shooo shooo......
had it been us brothers in your sisters section we would be banned (after a tirade of posts from you sisters)
give us a break yaar, we are weak
niqaabi_muslima
21-10-07, 08:33 PM
:0: :wacko:
so what you sisters doing here??? tut tut...shooo shooo......
had it been us brothers in your sisters section we would be banned (after a tirade of posts from you sisters)
give us a break yaar, we are weak
It's always the shoes and chocolates and purses with you :rolleyes:
:rotfl:
You got me! :afro:
I need a woman who does both.
I need 4 of em :p
dunya_or_akhira
21-10-07, 10:12 PM
yes man all of us brothers need 4....shame the sisters of today aint like the sisters of the past...
Pro_Candy
21-10-07, 10:17 PM
Obviously the environment should be halal in that a man and a woman should never be in seclusion and all other forms of free-mixing. That's down to the individual and his taqwa more than anything since he would have to tell the business he can't be with a woman in such a situation. But it's pretty impossible to get a fully halal environment (in that you don't have to talk to a female at all, since they could be your boss etc.) in this country, unless if you are blessed enough by the Grace of Allah to get a job in a good Muslim company.
Wassalam.
True, but look at how many Muslims decide to drive a cab. Alone with many women during the day.
Or who own a shop and hire only women.
Or who work as a doctor or dentist, and hire only women.
I'm just saying, before a man decides that his wife should stay home for fear of 'haraam', he should take a look at what he's doing as well. He's supposed to lead by example. :up:
dunya_or_akhira
21-10-07, 10:24 PM
the brothers would had the sisters been like the pious sisters of the past.
Masumah
21-10-07, 10:26 PM
many men prefer housewifes..and to be honest that is the best job for a woman anyways :)
:rotfl:
You got me! :afro:
I need 4 of em :p
yes man all of us brothers need 4....shame the sisters of today aint like the sisters of the past...
why dont u lot work on maintaining and getting one wife first :rolleyes:
and i dont think some brothers of today are exactly like those of the past either.....*sigh*
dunya_or_akhira
21-10-07, 10:27 PM
subhanAllah us brothers of today are an shining example:up:.:coolbro:..its just sad the sisters of today just .....:(
Khadija222333
21-10-07, 10:29 PM
subhanAllah us brothers of today are an shining example:up:.:coolbro:..its just sad the sisters of today just .....:(
Bragging...what a beautiful example. :rolleyes:
why dont u lot work on maintaining and getting one wife first :rolleyes:
and i dont think the brothers of today are exactly like those of the past either.....*sigh*
and you know this about ALL brothers of today how? :p
subhanAllah us brothers of today are an shining example:up:.:coolbro:..its just sad the sisters of today just .....:(
*cough* bull *cough*
:rolleyes:
and you know this about ALL brothers of today how? :p
i changed my post slightly.
Yes your right there are some still around with their brain intact alhumdulillah, like a needle in a haystack unfortunately
HiDdEn_pEaRL
21-10-07, 10:32 PM
Ya Raheem!
Not another war breaking out
Had enough of these Confrontations today on ummah forum :(
dunya_or_akhira
21-10-07, 10:32 PM
Bragging...what a beautiful example. :rolleyes:
no sister in Islam ...its fact....satchi baat karwi laghteh hainn:hidban:
Khadija222333
21-10-07, 10:33 PM
no sister in Islam ...its fact....satchi baat karwi laghteh hainn:hidban:
Proof please. :rolleyes:
no sister in Islam ...its fact....satchi baat karwi laghteh hainn:hidban:
jee aur kuch logo ko sacha nazar hee nahi aatha
Khadija222333
21-10-07, 10:35 PM
jee aur kuch logo ko sacha nazar hee nahi aatha
:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: Too funny. :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
Islamiyyah
21-10-07, 10:39 PM
Sure it is better for the woman to stay home, but if she needs to work, then I dont see the problem with that. Khadijah (ra) as we all know, was a business woman. But I originally believe the home is the place for the woman, and nowhere else, unless nessacary.
HiDdEn_pEaRL
21-10-07, 10:39 PM
So true ! :up:
Every shepard is responsible for their own flock hai na?
i changed my post slightly.
Yes your right there are some still around with their brain intact alhumdulillah, like a needle in a haystack unfortunately
Doh! sorry.. I no longer can modify my post to reflect your changes.. its been too long :rubeyes:
Z-Blade
22-10-07, 06:59 PM
True, but look at how many Muslims decide to drive a cab. Alone with many women during the day.
Or who own a shop and hire only women.
Or who work as a doctor or dentist, and hire only women.
I'm just saying, before a man decides that his wife should stay home for fear of 'haraam', he should take a look at what he's doing as well. He's supposed to lead by example. :up:
:salams,
You are right, and I'm sure no one disagrees with that :p. We should all do as Allah has commanded, everything through halal means, or face the consequences!
:jkk:.
Wassalam.
Pro_Candy
23-10-07, 12:21 AM
the brothers would had the sisters been like the pious sisters of the past.
Dude, you guys are supposed to be the pious leaders. You are our protectors and maintainers, remember?
dunya_or_akhira
23-10-07, 12:26 AM
hey man i dont know you guys but you should know i do add some sarcasm to some posts of mine... only because its boring to be monotone all the time...
of course the sisters aint all like the ones in the past
and nor are the brothers!!
Pro_Candy
23-10-07, 12:32 AM
hey man i dont know you guys but you should know i do add some sarcasm to some posts of mine... only because its boring to be monotone all the time...
of course the sisters aint all like the ones in the past
and nor are the brothers!!
Sorry... forgot to add the :torture:.... perhaps that would have showed that I detected a bit of sarcasm, and answered with a sarcastic remark myself :rolleyes:
mujahids-turn
23-10-07, 12:32 AM
I want both muhahaha
dunya_or_akhira
23-10-07, 12:33 AM
mujahid wake up akhi...i think you was having a bad dream
mujahids-turn
23-10-07, 12:34 AM
Dude me iz all awake ! Aint nothn rong wid having 2 wives is ther!!?
Pro_Candy
23-10-07, 12:40 AM
Dude me iz all awake ! Aint nothn rong wid having 2 wives is ther!!?
Are you married to one even, yet? Just you wait.... marry two, and see how they conspire against you. Muahahaahaaaaa.....
dunya_or_akhira
23-10-07, 12:42 AM
I know many brothers who used to brag about marrying many wives....when they married they have all gone lowdown.... no more talking about marrying 2 !!
they all been tamed...
never underestimate the wife i am told
mujahids-turn
23-10-07, 12:42 AM
hahaha that sounds exciting!!
afsalim
23-10-07, 06:04 AM
hahaha that sounds exciting!!
Trust me, having more than one wife can never be exciting.
umm shuyookh
23-10-07, 06:55 AM
Trust me, having more than one wife can never be exciting.
you forgot to add "for me".
afsalim
25-10-07, 06:25 AM
you forgot to add "for me".
For anyone that matter. Find one voice blabbing in your ears annoying? Well....how about a 4 point surround sound?
Anyway, I wouldn't recommend polygamy to anyone unless he has some serious valid reasons. This doesn't mean I disapprove of it.
PiElle2
25-10-07, 06:49 AM
For anyone that matter. Find one voice blabbing in your ears annoying? Well....how about a 4 point surround sound?
Anyway, I wouldn't recommend polygamy to anyone unless he has some serious valid reasons. This doesn't mean I disapprove of it.
why would you put more than 1 set of 4-point surround sound in the same room and turn them all on at the same ?
afsalim
25-10-07, 01:46 PM
why would you put more than 1 set of 4-point surround sound in the same room and turn them all on at the same ?
Hats off to your point. :up:
Abu Mus'ab
25-10-07, 01:51 PM
I am just wondering what most brothers prefer and why?
What about those who don't get married? :rubeyes: you cuda added a poll btw.
housewife :|
curious_man
25-10-07, 03:38 PM
What about those who don't get married? :rubeyes: you cuda added a poll btw.
housewife :|
i dont know how to add a poll.
muslimah85
25-10-07, 03:59 PM
many men prefer housewifes..and to be honest that is the best job for a woman anyways :)
says who???????? :rubeyes:
Some men like a balanced woman!!! :)
i wouldnt mind working i just dont want to be told that i HAVE to work...
ok, scenario:
Girl A is engaged to Boy B. Boy B wants to move to a far away city after marriage because can't find good job in current city due to language barriers. Girl A wants to live in her current city because all family freinds are here, plus thinking long term when they have kids its better for kids to be raised with pracitising uncles and grandparents who will have plenty of time to teach islam to kids. thats a totally different issue.
Boy B says, if u dont want to move, dont marry. Girl A says, fine. Boy B still hanging on to her. Boy B now puts condition, "we shall stay in the city of your choosing if you work a better paying full time job than me, and i will open my own business where i will have employees working FOR me"
Scenario End.
Is that a bribe???
Definitely should not be allowed. Girl A's father doesn't want his daughter to be forced into working. It should be her choice. Boy B doesn't want fianancial stress and so wants Girl A to work.
Desipower
25-10-07, 04:21 PM
Working is not required of a Muslim woman. Nor can she be forced to work, it is the obigation and duty of the wali (father or husband) to provide for her, and they will be questioned on J-Day regarding that duty.
With that said, it's a muslimah's choice if she wants to work or not (provided her wali agrees). I disagree that sisters should work in every field. There are many fields that are best left for men, that we are not needed nor will it benefit us or the ummah much. These fields are like engineering, archelology, and other male dominated fields. We need sisters in fields that can keep her safe and give benefit to the ummah. Fields like teaching, medicine, and as such.
I was just reading an article the other day about breast cancer and saudi. Around 40% women get it where as only 5% in US because of lack of pre-education to the sisters for early detection and prevention. It's a taboo to even talk about that topic and so the sisters are dieing cuz its a "disease" no one wants to talk about and one that isn't tested. All the technicians doing mammograms are males, which doesn't help one bit. If we had sisters in that field, it would make life so much easier for our sisters there. Why the heck are their men in that field in saudi?
We also need women gynecologists, some sisters go "eww" and then complain about not being able to find a female gynecologist to go to. Why are most arab doctors in that field also?
We need sisters in the fields that have a need and shortages like above so they can not only benefit the ummah but especially their sisters in islam.
Z-Blade
25-10-07, 04:47 PM
Working is not required of a Muslim woman. Nor can she be forced to work, it is the obigation and duty of the wali (father or husband) to provide for her, and they will be questioned on J-Day regarding that duty.
With that said, it's a muslimah's choice if she wants to work or not (provided her wali agrees). I disagree that sisters should work in every field. There are many fields that are best left for men, that we are not needed nor will it benefit us or the ummah much. These fields are like engineering, archelology, and other male dominated fields. We need sisters in fields that can keep her safe and give benefit to the ummah. Fields like teaching, medicine, and as such.
I was just reading an article the other day about breast cancer and saudi. Around 40% women get it where as only 5% in US because of lack of pre-education to the sisters for early detection and prevention. It's a taboo to even talk about that topic and so the sisters are dieing cuz its a "disease" no one wants to talk about and one that isn't tested. All the technicians doing mammograms are males, which doesn't help one bit. If we had sisters in that field, it would make life so much easier for our sisters there. Why the heck are their men in that field in saudi?
We also need women gynecologists, some sisters go "eww" and then complain about not being able to find a female gynecologist to go to. Why are most arab doctors in that field also?
We need sisters in the fields that have a need and shortages like above so they can not only benefit the ummah but especially their sisters in islam.
:salams,
:jkk: for that, I completely agree with what you have said. If my wife has to work, then it should be in something that will help the Ummah inshaAllah, apart from being modest and halal.
Wassalam.
fisabilllillah
25-10-07, 05:45 PM
read the ideal muslimah-----forgot the name of the author
i wouldnt mind working i just dont want to be told that i HAVE to work...
ok, scenario:
Girl A is engaged to Boy B. Boy B wants to move to a far away city after marriage because can't find good job in current city due to language barriers. Girl A wants to live in her current city because all family freinds are here, plus thinking long term when they have kids its better for kids to be raised with pracitising uncles and grandparents who will have plenty of time to teach islam to kids. thats a totally different issue.
Boy B says, if u dont want to move, dont marry. Girl A says, fine. Boy B still hanging on to her. Boy B now puts condition, "we shall stay in the city of your choosing if you work a better paying full time job than me, and i will open my own business where i will have employees working FOR me"
Scenario End.
Is that a bribe???
Definitely should not be allowed. Girl A's father doesn't want his daughter to be forced into working. It should be her choice. Boy B doesn't want fianancial stress and so wants Girl A to work.
If she genuinely does love him and wants to spend the rest of her life with him....then why doesn't she want to work?
Laziness perhaps? :rolleyes:
i wouldnt mind working i just dont want to be told that i HAVE to work...
ok, scenario:
Girl A is engaged to Boy B. Boy B wants to move to a far away city after marriage because can't find good job in current city due to language barriers. Girl A wants to live in her current city because all family freinds are here, plus thinking long term when they have kids its better for kids to be raised with pracitising uncles and grandparents who will have plenty of time to teach islam to kids. thats a totally different issue.
Boy B says, if u dont want to move, dont marry. Girl A says, fine. Boy B still hanging on to her. Boy B now puts condition, "we shall stay in the city of your choosing if you work a better paying full time job than me, and i will open my own business where i will have employees working FOR me"
Scenario End.
Is that a bribe???
Definitely should not be allowed. Girl A's father doesn't want his daughter to be forced into working. It should be her choice. Boy B doesn't want fianancial stress and so wants Girl A to work.
IMO they shouldn't get married, there's no point in her moving and then becoming depressed because she's away from friends and family.
sis_niqabi
25-10-07, 06:33 PM
read the ideal muslimah-----forgot the name of the author
Muhammed Ali Al-Hashimi
i have the book. it is really good. i have read it twice already
Desipower
25-10-07, 06:33 PM
If she genuinely does love him and wants to spend the rest of her life with him....then why doesn't she want to work?
Laziness perhaps? :rolleyes:
She has every right NOT to work. Allah gave her that right, you can't force her to work. It's the duty of the husband to provide for the family and spend on the family. If he can't find a good job then get better education rather then cry about stress and force her to work.
She is allowed to state as a condition that she will not leave her city and if he wants to marry then he has to accept otherwise he can look else where. And if he is already putting conditions about working then she doesn't need to marry him, plenty of other fish in the sea.
dunya_or_akhira
25-10-07, 06:39 PM
i think more sisters need to read it and put it into practice...
yeh yeh i know the brothers should do the same... hang on..not the same book unless you want to act like a woman..
isnt that what the man of the modern era is doing....acting more like women....
how can men shave...ewww its sick....unless you cant grow facial hair then your alright
sis_niqabi
25-10-07, 06:46 PM
If she genuinely does love him and wants to spend the rest of her life with him....then why doesn't she want to work?
Laziness perhaps? :rolleyes:
one of the rights of the woman is that the husband provide for her and she doesn't have to work. it is not laziness if the woman doesn't want to work. being a wife and mother is hard. and it is even harder working as well. and even if the woman doesn't have children it is still not laziness on her part. it is actually better if the woman stays home. the prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said that best place for the woman is in the home.
this is the problem nowadays. too many women focus on having a career and less on their family and as a result children are misbehaving acting out for attention and problems arising in the marriage. and the couples not even speaking to each other because they are both working and just passing by each other. one of the parents has to be in home.
now im not saying a woman can't work. because my mom worked when i was small and she still is working. but she chose a field they suited a Muslim woman. and she put her family first always
Abu Mus'ab
25-10-07, 06:46 PM
She has every right NOT to work. Allah gave her that right, you can't force her to work. It's the duty of the husband to provide for the family and spend on the family. If he can't find a good job then get better education rather then cry about stress and force her to work.
She is allowed to state as a condition that she will not leave her city and if he wants to marry then he has to accept otherwise he can look else where. And if he is already putting conditions about working then she doesn't need to marry him, plenty of other fish in the sea.
100% agree :up:
one of the rights of the woman is that the husband provide for her and she doesn't have to work. it is not laziness if the woman doesn't want to work. being a wife and mother is hard. and it is even harder working as well. and even if the woman doesn't have children it is still not laziness on her part. it is actually better if the woman stays home. the prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said that best place for the woman is in the home.
this is the problem nowadays. too many women focus on having a career and less on their family and as a result children are misbehaving acting out for attention and problems arising in the marriage. and the couples not even speaking to each other because they are both working and just passing by each other. one of the parents has to be in home.
now im not saying a woman can't work. because my mom worked when i was small and she still is working. but she chose a field they suited a Muslim woman. and she put her family first always
If she doesn't want to work, she doesn't HAVE to. She also doesn't have to move away to another country/city - it's too far away and she probably wouldn't be able to cope alone.
To bring up a child, nurture it and see them grow up and become a decent Muslim… is the most rewarding thing on this planet, and no job or career can replace that.
However if she could still pursue her career without compromising her wifely duties then there’s nothing Islamic ally wrong with that. If that's the only reason this marriage is not going ahead and if she genuinely does love this man...then why not work and help out financially? Even for a little while?
But once the wife has children, then obviously she wouldn't hesitate to stay at home whilst the husband is breaking his back to pay for the bills and food (and those expensive gifts the wives require at least 5 times a year). :p
assalam...if she makes jiahd fisebilillah and evereything's suit to shariah of İslam,she should struggle for ummah,too...but the biggest jihad's her family,especially children when she gets married...we should know in which conditions we're allowe to work according to shariah of İslam...for exp. if she's a medicine dr.she should look after only ladies and children but also we know from the life of Rasolullah saw and Ashab ra,some sahabes had cured mujaheds in badr,uhud...anyway it's certain in fetwas like these conditions but we have lots of dr.s to look after men so a muslm woman dr. should't do...like that...also,we should take ulum-ul naql(like tafser,hadith,fıqh...) and learn at home or masced...but the first,to our children...that's the jihad...inshaALLAH...
Girls...Why oh why would you want to work!! Well..I am working at the moment and thanks to Allah have a job which I am most pleased with. However, it can't be denied that a woman's role is different to that of a man and therefore her priority is to maintain her home and her children as opposed to 'work' being her priority.
When I do get married it would be nice to continue working perhaps part time if this is an option which is necessary however, if my husband asked me not to I would gladly say "yes hunny, absolutely" ...Rather than working every single day in which you are being dictated what time you must arrive and leave, when you may eat and so on, coming home tired, spending a great amount of your life doing something that may not even benefit you.
In my ideal world I am hoping to quit my job very soon inshAllah as I would much rather use this time productively by doing what will please Allah. I don't feel I need to work or have a career but attending various courses whether they are islamic or courses from which you learn a skill such as sewing, calligraphy etc would be wonderful.
If your husband is asking you not to work..goodness, what more could you ask for? : )
Z-Blade
25-10-07, 11:58 PM
Girls...Why oh why would you want to work!! Well..I am working at the moment and thanks to Allah have a job which I am most pleased with. However, it can't be denied that a woman's role is different to that of a man and therefore her priority is to maintain her home and her children as opposed to 'work' being her priority.
When I do get married it would be nice to continue working perhaps part time if this is an option which is necessary however, if my husband asked me not to I would gladly say "yes hunny, absolutely" ...Rather than working every single day in which you are being dictated what time you must arrive and leave, when you may eat and so on, coming home tired, spending a great amount of your life doing something that may not even benefit you.
In my ideal world I am hoping to quit my job very soon inshAllah as I would much rather use this time productively by doing what will please Allah. I don't feel I need to work or have a career but attending various courses whether they are islamic or courses from which you learn a skill such as sewing, calligraphy etc would be wonderful.
If your husband is asking you not to work..goodness, what more could you ask for? : )
:salams,
Even though this thread is for brothers, :jkk: for those words, it should be how every sister thinks IMO :D.
Wassalam.
If she genuinely does love him and wants to spend the rest of her life with him....then why doesn't she want to work?
Laziness perhaps? :rolleyes:
no, u missed the point.
its not the Girl A doesnt want to work. she just doesnt like how shes being told she HAS TO work and pay half the bills even though islamically she isnt required to do so. If she wants to work it should her own decision and not someone else's. Boy B's condition on staying in the city of her preferance is her pursuing a full time job. for him to start a business, obviously he will need some capital, where is he going to get that from if he doesnt work first? Take the wife's money?
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