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are we allowed to marry our own cousin brother.....that is ur aunt's son.
i realy find it strange tho, because ur entire life from childhood till adulthood u played with him n thought of him like ur own brother....n suddenly one day out of the blue u r asked to marry him!!:confused:
imanalistic
04-10-07, 02:47 PM
are we allowed to marry our own cousin brother.....that is ur aunt's son.
i realy find it strange tho, because ur entire life from childhood till adulthood u played with him n thought of him like ur own brother....n suddenly one day out of the blue u r asked to marry him!!:confused:
you don't have to marry him. but you can if you want to. if you think he is a suitable partner after looking at his deen, wealth, looks, and you are happy about the marriage, you can say yes.
but if you do not want to marry him, in islam you are free to say no.
Khadija222333
04-10-07, 02:48 PM
Well actually you aren't supposed to play/see/talk with him after you reach the age of puberty because he becomes your Non-Mehram so you wouldn't exactly think of him as a brother but of course it's your own choice if you want to marry him or not.
imanalistic
04-10-07, 02:49 PM
Well actually you aren't supposed to play/see/talk with him after you reach the age of puberty because he becomes your Non-Mehram so you wouldn't exactly think of him as a brother but of course it's your own choice if you want to marry him or not.
very important point which people seem to forget.
well ofcourse after puberty playing is not the same as during childhood.
yes talking n joking together (i mean with all cousin brothers n sisters) in front of all the family members, tht is what i meant.
but if u thought of him as ur brother n gave him the same respect n position as ur real brother den marriage with him really becomes impossible to think off.
Khadija222333
04-10-07, 03:04 PM
well ofcourse after puberty playing is not the same as during childhood.
yes talking n joking together (i mean with all cousin brothers n sisters) in front of all the family members, tht is what i meant.
but if u thought of him as ur brother n gave him the same respect n position as ur real brother den marriage with him really becomes impossible to think off.
In a way but there are some benefits too like you know exactly what he/she likes, dislikes, appreciates, wants that kinda thing. :D Best thing to do is Istikhara. :up:
xzaifir
04-10-07, 03:10 PM
answer simple. yes.
but no touchy if you are already adult :P
i swear it comes as a shock n its not easy at all..........
Khadija222333
04-10-07, 03:25 PM
i swear it comes as a shock n its not easy at all..........
:there: It's your choice ukhti if you don't want to marry him just tell your parents so I'm sure they'll understand Insha Allah. :up:
xzaifir
04-10-07, 03:27 PM
Khadija said it all. Was about to say that :P! :torture:
HiDdEn_pEaRL
04-10-07, 03:52 PM
Asalamalaikum warahmatuallah wabarakatuh
Ukhti perform istikhara prayer. You must take heed from the hadith when prophet Muhammad peace be upon him mentioned to look at the persons deen despite him being related. The choice is yours and may Allah help you to the best path ameen
MasjidAlHaram
04-10-07, 04:49 PM
The muslim woman cant marry
father, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husband's sons, their brothers or their brother's sons, or their sisters sons[Qur'an 24:31] and non muslim men
everyone else is allowed...including cousins
In Islam cousin marriages are permissable.
However there could be real physical consequences if you have children. Why? Because the gene pool is too closely related potentially and could increase the chances of a birth defect, such as mental and developmental problems.
It's certainly not something I'd recommend. It's up to you. :)
MasjidAlHaram
04-10-07, 07:49 PM
In Islam cousin marriages are permissable.
However there could be real physical consequences if you have children. Why? Because the gene pool is too closely related potentially and could increase the chances of a birth defect, such as mental and developmental problems.
It's certainly not something I'd recommend. It's up to you. :)
That is only the case if both genes carried something of a defect, a few of my aunties and uncles are cousins and married and have had healthy children and now have grand kids mashaAllah...in fact i know many cousins who married each other their kids are perfect mashaAllah..
If it was really a health issue Islam would not permit, and as its allowed there is no harm
Personally i prefer to marry a revert or someone not related but thats my own choice
Bubblegoose
04-10-07, 09:16 PM
It is permissable, but I will be seeking a bride from outside our family bloodline, Insha'Allah.
afsalim
05-10-07, 10:38 AM
are we allowed to marry our own cousin brother.....that is ur aunt's son.
i realy find it strange tho, because ur entire life from childhood till adulthood u played with him n thought of him like ur own brother....n suddenly one day out of the blue u r asked to marry him!!:confused:
You don't have to marry him if you don't want to. Marriages are haraam without the consent of both the bride and the groom. Personally, I come from a very tightly knit family and I grew up with my cousins as siblings. I could never look at any of them other than a sibling.
~Jafrene~
05-10-07, 12:15 PM
ewwwwwwwwwwwwww id hate to marry my cousin my cousins are like my best friends/brother yukk jus to imgaine that is disgusting
aisha2007
05-10-07, 03:15 PM
ewwwwwwwwwwwwww id hate to marry my cousin my cousins are like my best friends/brother yukk jus to imgaine that is disgusting
you shouldn't use the word disgusting when talking about something halal!
MasjidAlHaram
05-10-07, 03:24 PM
ewwwwwwwwwwwwww id hate to marry my cousin my cousins are like my best friends/brother yukk jus to imgaine that is disgusting
thats where your wrong, they are not your brothers, why make out something is haram when its halal...
the problem more is with families when they free mix with their non mahrams which includes cousins not with marriage
hammerofthehuns
05-10-07, 08:11 PM
ewwwwwwwwwwwwww id hate to marry my cousin my cousins are like my best friends/brother yukk jus to imgaine that is disgusting
yeah, hating something from Islam can nullify ur Islam and make u a kaafir.
hammerofthehuns
05-10-07, 08:12 PM
In Islam cousin marriages are permissable.
However there could be real physical consequences if you have children. Why? Because the gene pool is too closely related potentially and could increase the chances of a birth defect, such as mental and developmental problems.
It's certainly not something I'd recommend. It's up to you. :)
the likelihood of this ever being an issue is very remote.
Tariq Lateef
05-10-07, 08:40 PM
Ya wow...would be amazingly wierd, i wouldn't REALLLLY MIND if it was like my 2nd or 3rd Cousin, but immediate cousin, like my MOMS BROTHERS DAUGHTER........*cough* Just my 2 Cents
afsalim
06-10-07, 05:46 AM
ewwwwwwwwwwwwww id hate to marry my cousin my cousins are like my best friends/brother yukk jus to imgaine that is disgusting
I understand what you're trying to say. I'm close to my cousins and treat them as I would treat my own sisters. Personally I can not bare to look at them any other way. But it is halal. I have no problem people marrying their cousins, but for me it will be like committing incest. Let's not forget the possible repercussions of breeding within the same gene pool. The more closely related the breeding pair (say first cousins) is, the more homozygous deleterious genes the offspring may have, resulting in very unfit individuals. Lack of genetic diversity results in people becoming susceptible to diseases, increased congenital defects such as cryptorchidism, heart defects, cleft palates, fluctuating asymmetry (such as crooked faces, or uneven eye placement and size), lower birthweight, higher neonatal mortality, loss of immune system function, etc.
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