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brjimc
29-09-07, 05:26 PM
Sahih Muslim

Book 008, Number 3316:

Sahl b. Sa'd al-Sa'idi (Allah be pleased with him) reported: A woman came to Allah's Messenger. (may peace be upon him) and said: Messerbger of Allah, I have come to you to entrust myself to you (you may contract my marriage with anyone at your discretion). Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) saw her and cast a glance at her from head to foot. Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) then lowered his head. When the woman saw that he had made no decision in regard to her, she sat down. There stood up a person from amongst his companions and said: Messenger of Allah, marry her to me if you have no need of her. He (the Holy Prophet) said: is there anything with you (which you con give as a dower)? He said: No, Messenger of Allah, by Allah I have nothing. Thereupon Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: Go to your people (family) and see if you can find something. He returned and said: I have found nothing. The Apostle of Allah (may peace be upon him) said: See even if it is an Iron ring. He went and returned and said: No, by God, not even an iron ring, but only this lower garment of mine (Sahl said that he had no upper garment), half of which (I am prepared to part with) for her. Thereupon Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: How can your lower garment serve your purpose, for it you wear it, she would not be able to make any use of it and if she wears it there would not be anything on you? The man sat down and as the sitting prolonged he stood up (in disappointment) and as he was going back Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) commanded (him) to be called back, and as he came, he said to him: Do you know any part of the Qur'an? He said: I know such and such surahs (and he counted them). whereupon he said: Can you recite them from heart (from your memory)? He said: Yes, whereupon he (Allah's Messenger) said: Go, I have given her to you in marriage for the part of the Qur'an which you know.

Pro_Candy
29-09-07, 05:33 PM
Thanks for that. I think more women should realize there's more to life than money. There is a lot more than that, that a man can have to offer.

MG
29-09-07, 05:45 PM
The man should give what is within his capacity, which is what the Prophet saw has advised:

If man is a millionare and the woman asks for £100,000, and man gives it willingly, i dont see a problem in that.


If a man is poor and the woman makes that demand then i would call it her being unreasonable.

at the end of the day, the ultimate choice will be the man's anyway on wether he agrees with the amount or not.

Musa Hilal
29-09-07, 05:57 PM
I know a brother whose wife wanted a small dowry. She insisted on just one dirham because the prophet (saw) praised sisters who marry for a small dowry. Anyone know the hadeeth? :confused:

brjimc
29-09-07, 06:27 PM
I know a brother whose wife wanted a small dowry. She insisted on just one dirham because the prophet (saw) praised sisters who marry for a small dowry. Anyone know the hadeeth? :confused:

"The best woman is the one whose mahr is the easiest to pay." (Reported by al-Haythami)