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unique_zenab
22-09-07, 09:00 AM
I have recently managed to wear the hijab at work with the excuse of ramadan i found it very easy Allahdullah!
But the real problem now is that i feel after ramadan i wont wear it
any advise on how i can stick to it or word on encouragement?
I have recently managed to wear the hijab at work with the excuse of ramadan i found it very easy Allahdullah!
But the real problem now is that i feel after ramadan i wont wear it
any advise on how i can stick to it or word on encouragement?
aslaam alaikum
you have got over the worst bit sis !! of wearing it forthe 1st time in front of everyone, why dont u want to wear it after ramadan?
unique_zenab
22-09-07, 09:22 AM
its not that i do not want to wear it (am only wearing for Allah swt) it that i fear i may not stick to it, 2day i got up getting ready for work and i did not want to wear it because my hair lookd good (i know it sounds stupid) and then i realise if i feel like that now what goinh to happen after Ramadan Inshallah i want to continue wearing am also encouraging my older sis who feel she not got the guts to wear it..
I think most people feel that at first and even after which is obviously due to the waswash of shaytaan.
Insha'allah, you should read this: http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=138476 :)
its not that i do not want to wear it (am only wearing for Allah swt) it that i fear i may not stick to it, 2day i got up getting ready for work and i did not want to wear it because my hair lookd good (i know it sounds stupid) and then i realise if i feel like that now what goinh to happen after Ramadan Inshallah i want to continue wearing am also encouraging my older sis who feel she not got the guts to wear it..
dont stop wearing it sis, its shaytaan whispering to u, i feel like that sometimes even now, if my cosuins or friends got their hear out and it looks good, i miss doing mine but jus remember the reason why ur doing it and the reward whihc those that do not wear hijab are missing out on, u soon get back on track inshallah.
May Allah swt make the path of success easy for u in this world and then next. Ameen
unique_zenab
22-09-07, 09:29 AM
I think most people feel that at first and even after which is obviously due to the waswash of shaytaan.
Insha'allah, you should read this: http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=138476 :)
jazakallah for that sis was very helpful and encouraging every time i feel like not wearing the hijab i know what do read but plz duas for me so i can stick to the hijab inshallah
HighDreamer
22-09-07, 09:46 AM
jazakallah for that sis was very helpful and encouraging every time i feel like not wearing the hijab i know what do read but plz duas for me so i can stick to the hijab inshallah
:insha:
Aameen. :up:
jazakallah for that sis was very helpful and encouraging every time i feel like not wearing the hijab i know what do read but plz duas for me so i can stick to the hijab inshallah
It's so nice reading it! :love:
Insha'allah, you should remember that most people feel like that at first and it is not abnormal (I used to think I was evil :o) and Insha'allah you should make sincere dua to Allah(swt) to make it easy for you! :coolsis:
yasmin20
22-09-07, 03:14 PM
I have recently managed to wear the hijab at work with the excuse of ramadan i found it very easy Allahdullah!
But the real problem now is that i feel after ramadan i wont wear it
any advise on how i can stick to it or word on encouragement?
Assalam alakium Zenab, Firstly congratulations for taking this first step in wearing the hijab and may Allah swt bless you.
It must have been a huge step to start wearing it at work and it can be quite scary as to what comment/remarks to expect from your work colleuages you are not alone in this because even I have started to wear the hijab at work since ramadhan started. I was wearing the hijab outside of work anyway but I couldnt get myself to wear it at work now alhmadulillah I've put it on to never take off inshaAllah ,
ask yourself why did you put it on now and why would you take it off ?
unique_zenab
22-09-07, 03:23 PM
Assalam alakium Zenab, Firstly congratulations for taking this first step in wearing the hijab and may Allah swt bless you.
It must have been a huge step to start wearing it at work and it can be quite scary as to what comment/remarks to expect from your work colleuages you are not alone in this because even I have started to wear the hijab at work since ramadhan started. I was wearing the hijab outside of work anyway but I couldnt get myself to wear it at work now alhmadulillah I've put it on to never take off inshaAllah ,
ask yourself why did you put it on now and why would you take it off ?
true say but u get tempted inshallah i will stick with it!
But is it k not to wear it at family houses like infrnt of your uncles and so?
yasmin20
22-09-07, 03:26 PM
As far as I know you have to wear hijab in front of non mehrem if he is your blood uncle i.e mum's brother dad's brother then yes it is okay but if you have male cousins around then no you have to keep in on
Abandoned-Mind
22-09-07, 03:28 PM
Try to be around friends who wear it.
But masha'Allah,well done........
May Allaah make you, and us all firm on His deen, and to be among the first to act.
unique_zenab
22-09-07, 03:40 PM
Try to be around friends who wear it.
But masha'Allah,well done........
May Allaah make you, and us all firm on His deen, and to be among the first to act.
wish it was that easy but i live in an area where theres mostly non muslim the few friends that i have are very very modernl like they celebrate brthdays parties and give each other gift on valetines and christmas has an excuse for faily dinner etc n am not into all that so i stay abit away from them...
HighDreamer
22-09-07, 03:50 PM
wish it was that easy but i live in an area where theres mostly non muslim the few friends that i have are very very modernl like they celebrate brthdays parties and give each other gift on valetines and christmas has an excuse for faily dinner etc n am not into all that so i stay abit away from them...
Good Choice :masha:!
Don't worry, :insha: you'll not be tempted out of your good habits. I'd advise you NOT to think too much about it. Just concentrate on other issues and keep on wearing Hijaab all along Ramadhaan, and :insha: this will become a habit like brushing your teeth. :up:
hammerofthehuns
22-09-07, 05:36 PM
yeah, wear it!:up:
Oh cool, when i first started wearing it i used ramadan as an excuse too. I did that because it was a trial run and i told myself if i found it too difficult i cud always take it off at the end of the month using that excuse. By the end of the month tho, it kinda grew on me and i felt naked without it. it was an interesting time for me tho cos i hadnt changed much that ramadan and was still the same person, but pretty much every1 i knew changed their attitude towards me. Kufaar didnt change much but a lot of muslims (inc some close family members) were quite hostile. Practising muslims warmed up to me a bit tho and over time i think it partly contributed to me ending up with a different set of friends.
U have 2 learn to be bold and self confident and to hell with what any idiot thinks who doesnt like 2 c u dress islamically- they're the abnormal ones not u (even if ur the only 1 who covers u have 2 realise that). Don't get overly self conscious abt what others think of u- they wont b there 2 answer ?s for u on judgement day.
hammerofthehuns
22-09-07, 07:23 PM
yeah ramadan great like that, gave up smoking after ramadan, gave me time to realise i didnt need em and get clean, alhamdulillah.
Also the only males you can remove your scarf in front of are close male blood relatives: your brother, father, grandfather, father's brothers, mother's brothers, your sons, your nephews, "half" siblings such as half brothers or parents half brothers and children who haven't yet hit puberty. You cannot remove your scarf in front of male cousins, brother in laws or your parents cousins or friends who you call "uncle" but are not your parents real blood siblings and if there's a big party or wedding where they'll all be present that's no excuse. Allow time for the whole controversy to blow over about why you're the only one dressed like that and eventually other sisters in your social circle are probably going to come forward saying they also want to start covering and will ask you how to do it cos' they'll have the same worries and anticipation you have.
As a precautionary measure, I suggest that you get some modest, but pretty scarves that you can wear if there is an Eid gathering or special occassion so that you still look presentable. Silk scarves in nice but dark colours like purple or maroon look particularly good but you may need to wear a small bandana or something to keep it in place and stop it from slipping everywhere.
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