self harm

[12unregistered]

i know its wrong
but i get angry relly kwikly , wen ever my parents shout at me i just go to my bedroom and start harming myself
the other day i used a piece of glass, from a broken perfume bottle
the only reason i do this is cos i fink its tha easiest way to get over it.
but the thing is im scared im gonna end up hurting myself real bad...and over nothing big.
how can i make myself stop doing it?

[Wolfn]

There's always a fresh start for everyone. If you're causing your parents to be mad at you, then stop doing what you do. If your parents are mad at you for no reason, then you lose ties to them in the future. For example, my adoptive parents don't like me now that I'm Muslim, and if this gets worse, after college I lose all ties to them and start a new life. I know other Muslims here would protest that action, but I think it's personally better to lose ties to someone who's trying to make me give up Islam than the alternative (me giving up Islam).

I actually attempted suicide a few years ago. My adoptive dad said that if I died, the only reason he would come to my funeral is because people would expect him to. He said no-one cared about me, so I just thought "get it over with". So I took a boxcutter to my wrists in the garage, but then thought about losing ties to them in the future. They don't control my life. Not to mention, there was so many things I would have missed out on if I went through with it.

In the end, you know more about your situation than I do, so only you can decide how to run your life.

[elji]

Im suggesting all possible solutions so dont get offended if any dont meet your criteria. Just avoid it:

1) read the last 2 surah's of the quran with the meaning, so you actually understand what you are reading/saying.

2) Buy a punching bag and take your anger out on that.

3) Avoid being a naughty person so your parents wont shout at you.

4) Take a walk instead of going to the bedroom and start swearing at your worst enemy in your head. or even say it out loud. Let it all out.

5) Pray to Allah to change this ilness as that is exactly what it is.

Thanks

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:salams


My Mother once said to me- when there is a fight one person has to slightly bend to allow room for logical and peaceful thinking and a positive outcome.


Don't give up on the Truth and justice- if you have it, stand firm and believe in it :insha: but also remember they are your parents- you don't have another set in the wings waiting to replace them.

Once they're gone, they're gone.

Yet we are in need of their Duas - as there is much Barakha in them :ahb:

May i ask- you're not a teenager are you? :)

:wswrwb:

[Mutawwa]

Tell your parents to cease in shouting at you. Remove all sharp objects from your room.

[Noor]

I think u need to realise that self harming is a psychological illness and won't just simply be overcome by ur parents not shouting at you.

You should go and see a doctor, possible even have some therapy if they recommend it.

Speak to your parents, tell them what is happening. In order to stop the harming you need to be able to confront the cause of it.

Also remember harming your body is a sin. Do dhikir or pray 2 rakat nafl if u find urself in that situation again, turn to Allah (swt) for help always, whatever your situation is.

[e14 don]

oh please dont, your too beautiful to and everyone parents shout, dont let it get it to you, i dont, i mostly ignore them, unless they have anything good to say

stop harming yourself, you would do yourself more damage on the inside and nothings is worth this, nothing

if you have a sister go to her for help