masturbaiting problem

[Unregistered000]

salams how can i stop masturbaiting.

[.: Anna :.]

assalaam alaykum
if u search this anon forum u will find alot of ppl opened topics about this so maybe those responses will be useful to u insha allah..
hw to stop this act i think will be the same as with any sin, u have to make a firm intention and determination. For example try to imagine if u die while commiting such a sin how would u feel, if this sin became exposed to the people how would you feel... and such like that, this could help to prevent you insha allah.
On another point, to relate to this particular issue if u really hv a difficulty in this kind of area y dnt u consider whether it is practical and possible for u to search for a good spouse and get married so u cd deal with ur 'needs' in some kind of a halal way insha allah :$

[*hayat*]

1. Get married
2. DO NOT STAY ALONE
3. Read Qur'an, pray and keep away from looking at things that can lead you to that situation such as t.v,

[muslimuk]

1. Get married
2. DO NOT STAY ALONE
3. Read Qur'an, pray and keep away from looking at things that can lead you to that situation such as t.v,

marriage is not allwasy the answer. most of the people do it even after marriage its a common thing in the west not seen as anything bad at all..

[muslim_sis]

Wa alaykum asalam,

Fear Allah! Know that Allah can see everything that you do and you will be judged by it. And remember that you want to go to jannah!

Know that this is a disgusting act and that it is haraam! Allah has blessed us with the ultimate choice of marriage which not only are desires fulfilled, but also we live in peace and tranquility with our spouses upon the deen inshallah! This desire that you have turns into barakah (in marriage with your spouse) instead of haram !

Every time you sin, Think, 'If the angel of death should come to meet me now', this would be a terrible degrading state to die in. Everytime you do this, know that it is a whisper from the shaytaan and that the shaytaan is with you !

Dont give into the shaytaan, he only wants to bring you down with him-think in the long term that inshallah you will be in jannah if you fight these whispers from the shaytaan.

Fast if marriage is not an option. And keep yourself occupied with dhikr Allah. Keep yourself occupied with coming closer to Allah (pray, go to the mosque, learn surahs, read a book, do a good deed, help ur mum or dad),Keep good company !

Remember Allah!

[.: Anna :.]

marriage is not allwasy the answer. most of the people do it even after marriage its a common thing in the west not seen as anything bad at all..

brother/sister

regardless if seen as "not a bad thing" in the west or as common or "normal" which they even sometimes teach in school these days, we hav 2 go by wat Islam tells not jst wat society may think. So if a person wants advice to refrain from that habit, its better not to come and make out like its no big deal, they dont even have to bother if they commit that or not...

marriage will be a help for that because they hav a halal way rather than having 2 only control themself all the time, however noone is saying get married just because of that.. obviously they should look into their circumstances and everything insha allah, but also if the circumstances do allow marriage they shud not needlessly delay it especially while they have the habit of commiting this sin in the meanwhile..

[salat]

pray 5 times a day and do it on time ! :)

[Summayah]

Sticky: The Islamic Remedy (http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=134774)

[Hekmaa]

Why you the sisters take it upon themselves to answer such questions? There is no place in deen for a sister to answer such questions in an open forum. It is quiet important that we are aware of such things.

Everything does not need a response even if you know the answers, or the direction as to where to find those answers. Haya requires of you in such times, to ignore the question and do not contribute.

[Peacenik]

I agree with Brother Hekmaa.

It's pretty embarrassing the repsonses from the Sisters; not the responses but the fact they have actually responded in a public forum...

[aboosait]

[QUOTE]It is quiet important that we are aware of such things.

:rubeyes:

On the one hand you say it is important to have knowledge of these things and on the other hand you object to the decent way of enlightening people about it.

Everything does not need a response even if you know the answers, or the direction as to where to find those answers.

Please prove from the Qur'an and Sunnah if your statement is true.

Haya requires of you in such times, to ignore the question and do not contribute.

I dont find any of the answers given in this thread, including the article in the link, crossing the bounds of 'haya'

................There is no place in deen for a sister to answer such questions in an open forum................

On what basis do you say this?

As far as my knowledge goes 'deen' is 'qur'an' and 'Sunnah'. No topic that deals with human life has been left out in these. Most of the Ahadeeth that deal with Sunnah are narrated by the Mother of Mu'mineen Ayesha (may Allah be pleased with her)

[Abdulah]

Allah will not purify the one on Judgement Day who masturbates.

[sis_niqabi]

salam

i first want to say how dare someone say a woman should not post advice on this matter. how do we know the person who posted the question a man? it might be a woman. so maybe its best that men and women answer this question. so there be advice from both genders on this matter. because we do not know if this thread started is woman or man



Ruling on masturbation and how to cure the problem

Question:
I have a question which I am shy to ask but another sister who has come to Islam recently wants an answer to and I do not have an answer (with dilals from the Qur'an and Sunnah). I hope you can help and I hope Allah will for give me if it is inappropriate but as Muslims we should never be shy in seeking knowledge. Her question was "Is it permissible in Islam to masturbate?".
May Allah increase us all in knowledge.

Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.

Masturbation (for both men and women) is haraam (forbidden) in Islam based on the following evidence:

First from the Qur’aan:

Imam Shafi’i stated that masturbation is forbidden based on the following verses from the Qur’aan (interpretation of the meaning):

"And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts). Except from their wives or (the captives and slaves) that their right hands possess, - for them, they are free from blame. But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors." 23.5-7 Here the verses are clear in forbidding all illegal sexual acts (including masturbation) except for the wives or that their right hand possess. And whoever seeks beyond that is the transgressor.

"And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah enriches them of His bounty." 24.33. This verse also clearly orders whoever does not have the financial means to marry to keep himself chaste and be patient in facing temptations (including masturbation) until Allah enriches them of His bounty.

Secondly, from the sunnah of the Prophet (peace be upon him):

Abdullaah ibn Mas’ood said, "We were with the Prophet while we were young and had no wealth whatsoever. So Allaah’s Messenger said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power." Bukhari:5066. The hadeeth orders men who are not able to marry to fast despite the hardship encountered in doing so, and not to masturbate despite the ease with which it can be done.

There are additional evidences that can be cited to support this ruling on masturbation, but due to the limited space we will not go through them here. Allaah knows what is best and most correct.

As for curing the habit of masturbation, we recommend the following suggestions:

1) The motive to seek a cure for this problem should be solely following Allaah’s orders and fearing His punishment.

2) A permanent and quick cure from this problem lies in marriage as soon as the person is able, as shown in the Prophet’s hadeeth.

3) Keeping oneself busy with what is good for this world and the hereafter is essential in breaking this habit before it becomes second nature after which it is very difficult to rid oneself of it.

4) Lowering the gaze (from looking at forbidden things such as pictures, movies etc.) will help suppress the desire before it leads one to commit the haraam (forbidden). Allaah orders men and women to lower their gaze as shown in the following two verses and in the Prophet’s hadeeth (interpretations of the meanings):

"Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is all-aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) ..... " 24.30-31

Allaah’s messenger said: "Do not follow a casual (unintentional) look (at forbidden things) with another look." Al-Tirmidhi 2777. This is a general instruction by the Prophet to abstain from all that may sexually excite a person because it might lead him/her to commit the haraam (forbidden).

5) Using one’s available leisure time in worshipping Allaah and increasing religious knowledge.

6) Being cautious not to develop any of the medical symptoms that may result from masturbation such as weak eyesight, weak nervous system, and/or back pain. More importantly, feeling of guilt and anxiety that can be complicated by missing obligatory prayers because of the need to shower (ghusl) after every incidence of masturbation.

7) Avoiding the illusion that some youth have that masturbation is permissible because it prevents them from committing illegal sexual acts such as fornication or even homosexuality.

8) Strengthening one’s willpower and avoiding spending time alone as recommended by the Prophet when he said "Do not spend the night alone" Ahmad 6919.

9) Following the Prophet’s aforementioned hadeeth and fast when possible, because fasting will temper one’s sexual desire and keep it under control. However, one should not overreact and swear by Allaah not to return to the act because if one does not honor one’s promise, one would be facing the consequences of not living up to one’s oath to Allaah. Also, note that medication to diminish one’s sexual desire is strictly prohibited because it might permanently affect one’s sexual ability.

10) Trying to follow the Prophet’s recommendation concerning the etiquette of getting ready for bed, such as reading well-known supplications, sleeping on the right side, and avoiding sleeping on the belly (the Prophet forbade sleeping on the belly).

11) Striving hard to be patient and chaste, because persistence will eventually, Allaah willing, lead to attaining those qualities as second nature, as the Prophet explains in the following hadeeth:
"Whoever seeks chastity Allaah will make him chaste, and whoever seeks help from none but Allaah, He will help him, and whoever is patient He will make it easy for him, and no one has ever been given anything better than patience." Bukhari:1469.

12) Repenting, asking forgiveness from Allaah, doing good deeds, and not losing hope and feeling despair are all prerequisites to curing this problem. Note that losing hope is one of the major sins punishable by Allaah.

13) Finally, Allaah is the Most Merciful and He always responds to whoever calls on Him. So, asking for Allah’s forgiveness will be accepted, by His will.

Wallahu a’lam. And Allah knows what is best and most correct.



Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid
http://islam-qa.com/index.php?ref=329&ln=eng&txt=masturbation

[aboosait]

Allah will not purify the one on Judgement Day who masturbates.

How do you know? Where has Allah told you this? Has the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said so? Please provide reference.

[e14 don]

a down to earth answer

cut down and use your leisure time for more practical things

basically think is it worth the short time pleasure for something forbidden, if the answer is yes, then sorry dude cant help

[1 LOVE 1 DEEN]

Jazakallahairun for keeping it real brother Aboosait.

Brothers please be cautious in your speech, the post is anonymous, it could be from a sister or a brother we just do not know. There is no benefit in attacking our sisters in such a way.

Our sisters have so much knowledge mashallah and for all we know a post from the sister may have been more beneficial to the individual than one from a brother !

If you feel the need to do such a thing, engage yourself in another activity, here are a few suggestions, go for a drive/walk, wash the car, clean/hoover you room or house, do some excercise push ups/sit ups until you're exhausted so keep going until you can't do anymore.

Also seek protection from Allah reach out for help. Recite audhabillahi minashaytanirajeem. Recite out aloud any Quran that you know or listen to it and try to pay attention.

Try and set yourself goals, for example try and get through a whole day without doing such a thing, then a week, a fortnight and so on.

Hope this helps.

[~Jafrene~]

Rememer Allah is watching u.

[~Jafrene~]

Why you the sisters take it upon themselves to answer such questions? There is no place in deen for a sister to answer such questions in an open forum. It is quiet important that we are aware of such things.

Everything does not need a response even if you know the answers, or the direction as to where to find those answers. Haya requires of you in such times, to ignore the question and do not contribute.




what made you think that they are a sister. it may be a brother what would u do then give him adivce????????

[saifah]

salams

sorry but i agree
sisters shouldnt post these kind of answers and i hesitated beofr i wrote this becuase i dont want my name in this thread but my post i cant put anywer else wer it will be seen and have the same affect inshaAllah
sisters ask some of the most outragous questions so do brothers and most of the time its just curiosity and something that isnt even relivent
and sisters always quote there is no hayat in deen
yeh ok i accept that but a sister should always have hayat and with this things the chances are that it is a brother
and even if it is a sister men are reading how well you women know how to obstain from such a thing and hardly any of it was actually from quran and sunnah except a couple of my beloved sisters ( jazak Allah khairun)

i think its better for a sister if she wants to reply to one of these questions based on her opinion to send it to the admin

what happend to fasting???
that is the answer to so many issues bithnillah

wassalams