Queen of my body

[Medievalist]

Sayyidina Anas radhiyallahu anh narrates that the Nabi :saw: said:

"The faith of a servant is not put right until his heart is put right, and his heart is not put right until his tongue is put right."

The Ulama mention that this hadeeth shows that imaan is dependent upon the condition and straightness of the heart, and the condition of the heart is dependent upon the straightness of the tongue. In the path of self-rectification it is the condition of the heart which needs to be improved; the nafs must be denied its pleasures and punished for its criminality; the lowly qualities of the heart must be brought under control and virtuous and noble qualities instilled and cultivated. Undoubtedly, as per the Hadeeth and also as per the aqwaal of the Pious, the imaan of a person is dependent on his heart and hence his heart can be termed the King of the Body. But - the heart itelf is an organ who's condition rests on another - the tongue. As Ml. Riyadhul Haq Sahib once mentioned:

If the heart is the King of the Body, then indeed the tongue is the Queen. And we all know where the real power lies.

Alhamdulillah that ALLAH Ta'ala has made us muslim and we have the jazbah of deen within us; undoubtedly all of us wish to attain purity and piety of the heart but we need to look to the root - the tongue. The connection between the heart and the tongue is a strong one; what is in a persons heart is sooner or later professed on his tongue, what a person professes on his tongue is an indication of the condition of his heart. The rectification of our nafs requires us to stage a two-pronged attack - one on the heart, one on the tongue.

This section is dealing with the Queen because she is the more deadly.

In a hadeeth related on the authority of Sayyidina Mu'adh radhiyallahu anh,
the Prophet :saw: said: "Shall I not tell you how to control all that?"
I said: "Yes do, O Messenger of ALLAH!".
So He :saw: held His Tongue between His Fingers, and then He said: "Restrain this".
I said: "O Prophet of ALLAH! are we accountable for everything that we say?"
He :saw: said: "May your mother be bereft by your loss! Is there anything more than the harvest of the tongues that throws people on their faces into the Fire?"

The Ulama mention regarding this hadeeth that quite clearly the biggest fitnah for us on the Day of Judgment will be due to what we had uttered in the world. This will bring calamity on many people. The meaning of "harvest of the tongues", according to the Ulama, is that we sow the seeds for the akhirah here with our words and our conversation. These will grow and bear fruit/ripen in the Akhirah and will be harvested there. For those who uttered good and pure they shall harvest honour and blessings, for those who uttered evil and futility they shall harvest disgrace and punishment. ALLAH hamari hifaazat farmay. ameen

We need to be extremely careful of our speech. Either speak good or remain silent is something we hear time and again yet we make no 'amal upon it. When a person reminds us our minds automatically go into *ignore mode* because we've heard it all before. Dont lie, dont backbite, dont swear . . . . . . *yes yes we already know*. But the point is we dont really know, we dont really have that 'ilm because the condition of complete 'ilm of a matter is that it is acted upon and we make 'amal on it. When we have heard about the dangers of the tongue yet still we persist in transgressing, it means we have heard but NOT understood and the message needs to be kept given to both our own souls and to each other until we are, as a mu'asharah, making 'amal upon this.

In this light - inshaALLAHU Ta'ala - posts will keep popping up on this issue, more for my own benefit and to revise my own lessons than anything else; if others benefit then alhamdulillah this is ALLAH's grace - but at the very least the speaker/writer needs to do his own islaah.

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:( JazakAllah for the reminder, akhi...

[Medievalist]

Wherein lies salvation?

Sayyidina Uqba ibn Amir radhiyallahu anh said: "I said: 'O Messenger of ALLAH! What is our best way of surviving?' He :saw: replied: 'Guard your tongue, make your house suffice for sheltering your privacy, and weep for your wrong actions.'"

In the advice of the Nabi :saw: lies our success in this life and the next. May I be sacrificed on the Sahaabah Karaam, they asked those questions which became a source of guidance for the entire humanity. In the above hadeeth Sayyidina Uqba radhiyallahu enquires from Madani Kareem :saw: that wherein lies salvation and Nabi :saw: answers in His most beautiful and eloquent manner.

The Ulama mention a number of things in regards this hadeeth. The first thing to note is that three things specifically have been mentioned; the tongue, the home and weeping. In regards weeping over ones sins - included amongst the actual literal meaning of weeping is the act of making istighfaar and making sincere and true repentance to Rahmaan Ta'ala and feeling remorse and regret. But given precedence to this weeping and repentance is the act of remaining within the privacy of one's home. It is established by the mashaa'ikh that the saalik is required to reduce his intermingling with the people unnecessarily and the Ulama draw attention to the fact that Madani Kareem :saw: has given precedence to cutting unnecessary social ties to weeping. And the very first act upon which a person must strive if he wishes to enjoy salvation is the witholding of the tongue - before reducing mixing with people, before weeping - the control and subjugation of the tongue is mentioned. There is indeed truth and wisdom and success in the advice of the Nabi :saw: - if only we would benefit from it!

It is amazing indeed; this hadeeth and the power and depth of its meaning has not been lost on our Respected Ulama. We all are aware of the great virtue of one tear shed in fear of ALLAH, how one tiny drop of fluid emitted from our eyes in the fear of ALLAH is enough to douse the Fires of Hell for us. They say three fluids are heavy and weighty in the sight of ALLAH - the blood of the martyr, the ink of the scholar, and the tear of repenter. Yet - despite the high status and great virtue enjoyed by these fluids - Madani Kareem :saw: has mentioned the control and withholding of the tongue first and foremost as the path to salvation.

On another angle these three acts are connected. Earlier it was mentioned how there is a strong bond and connection between the heart and the tongue. The weeping of a person may externally be attributed to the eye but in reality it is an act whose root lies in the heart. The heart is remorseful or fearful and sheds tears which are made apparent in the eye. It is the softness and the purity of the heart which is required before a person can weep; an arrogant and hardhearted sinner finds it difficult to shed tears in the Court of ALLAH due to the condition of his heart. Amongst the proofs of soft-heart being a prerequisite for a person to weep in the fear of ALLAH is taken from the condition of small children. We know that at their birth they are pure and free from sin and this remains with them until they mature and attain perception of right and wrong - this is why young children find it so easy to weep; they are closer to the original state of innocence and purity (ma'sumiyat).

In this light to achieve weeping over ones sins one must develop a pure heart and protect it from becoming hard. By withholding ones tongue the believer prevents himself from falling into a great many sins which are the cause of the darkness in ones heart. The straightness of the heart rests upon the straightness of the tongue and the only way to control the tongue is to reduce its speech as the majority of human speech is futility and baatil. A consequence of reducing one's speech is that a person develops within themselves a sensitivity and revulsion for futile speech and sinful speech. When we are unaccustomed to sin then our natural fitri state is to be offended by things unnatural or evil - this is also the case with the tongue. When we ourselves strive to purify our tongues we become more aware of the excesses that occur in our social gatherings and the sins committed by people in their speech becomes more easily perceptible for us. This pure sensitivity to sins of the tongue naturally progress to make the one controlling his tongue uncomfortable in many many social gatherings as the crux of these is most of the time a gathering of backbite, gossip, slander, shamelessness etc. From this - as a person has already reduced his speech and his mixing with people - the effects become apparent on ones heart and there is great likelihood that the persons heart is nourished on a pure spiritual sustenance and its natural fitri softness, suppleness and humility begins to return and the believers eyes become wells of fear and love for ALLAH - inshaALLAH.

In short reduced speech, followed by solitude generally tends to lead to weeping over ones sins. Those of us who wish to develop the ability to weep in the fear and love of ALLAH should make intention to make 'amal on the ahadeeth of Madani Kareem :saw:

May ALLAH Ta'ala grant us the ability to withhold our tongues, remain within the privacy of our homes and to weep over our sins.

[S@Z]

jazakAllah khair for an excellent thread akh

[Medievalist]

Speak with knowledge or maintain silence

Words are heavy and they count. If someone states something and we are unsure about the answer then the point of wisdom is to maintain silence or to say what you know about the issue - unless an issue is clearly and fully understood by a person - we shouldn't make a blanket statement on an issue.

Example:
I heard peeling bananas from the bottom is a sunnah.

How do we respond?
1. This a load of rubbish. There is no sunnah way of peeling a banana.
2. If you heard it, it must be true. thanks bro
3. I've never heard or read anything on the issue. Did you hear this from a reliable alim?

I'd choose option 3. I dont know if there is a sunnah way of peeling a banana; I cant mock the question/statement, I cant negate it, I cant confirm it. So the wise move is to make an uncommitted statement - I don't know/I've not read anything etc.

Because if we make a categorical statement on an issue and later we find that there is another valid statement - we look foolish and we have erred when we should have controlled ourselves. It happens to all of us, someone will ask a question -

Question: What intention should I make for witr?

Answer - Bro make intention for wajib.

Thats a correct answer if the questioner is a hanafi because witr is wajib in our hanafi madhab; if the questioner is hambali then I think by them witr is sunnah e mu'akkadah and hence the answer would be different for them.

The point is if we are to give an answer we should qualify it with the amount of knowledge we have - eg according to the hanafi madhab this is the ruling, I was taught this, etc - because giving an unqualified and erroneous answer is a major calamity. Amongst the signs of the last hour is that people who are QUALIFIED to hold an opinion will hold an opinion - ma'aadhALLAH - we have exceeded that. We are people who dont even qualifiy to hold religious opinions and everyones giving their own categorical answer. May ALLAH protect us from this calamity.

Its about a context - in the principles of the religion which are inflexible we can give categorical statements alhamdulillah. But in the minor branches and minor religious edicts we need to be aware that the Ulama differ and have ikhtilaaf on so much - why should we put ourselves in a situation where we make categorical statement which is incorrect? Its not correct - ALLAH hamari hifaazat farmay. ameen


Finally - reminder reminder reminder. The Difference of Opinion in our religion is a mercy. There is a strain which is virulently stringent and strict on even matters which can be validly disputed - make sure we dont fall into that strain which sometimes leads to a major misguidance. The way I was taught and the way of the Ahlus Sunnah wal Jama'ah is that we are inflexible on the principles and are soft on the minor branches. Remember it well.

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:jkk: :up:

[Medievalist]

Lads, we love it when we make women laff. Even the shyest and most bashful of bros feels like da man when he makes a beautiful woman laff. Gud use of words can have an amazing effect on women ;)

But u knw what - one woman you can make laff and smile and please and forget anyone here - the One above the Seven Heavens will love you for it :shock:

Obviously we're talking about your mother :D - and all that stuff about making her laff and pleasing the One of the Heavens, applies to gyals aswell in regards their mummys :)

What's wrong with us? We make the "sisters" at college laff, we're nice and polite to the beauty who works at Pak Supermarket, we'll smile and say "after you" to the leggy hijabi on bus. Oh - we the proper gentlemen when it comes to everyone elses women - but when it comes to the ONE WOMAN WHO REALLY MATTERS - what happens to our words then?!

InshaALLAH - NONE of us swear at or shout at our mother. But do we use our words on her to please her and make effort to make her laff the way we do with women who don't even matter?

We all know the rank of the mother. Our garden lies in her feet, subhanALLAH - for an article on Maa refer to "She's the love of my life" thread. But we need to really display the BEST words, the BEST affection to our moms.

Sit with your mum, doesn't matter how busy you are, make a time in your day where you sitting by your mum and make light banter with her, if you don't know your mother well enough to know how to make her laff then there's summat wrong :rubeyes:

If you CAN make Amma laff then get cracking :D , and if you can't then you need to find out who Amma is apart from the woman who's your life support machine and personal servant :rubeyes:

The situation is equally valid for ABBA :coolbro:

Use the tongue ALLAH Ta'ala gave you to make the one who was your world for 9 months content; use your words to soften and please the one who is your door to the Garden.:coolbro:

This is the month of mercy, the month of looting ALLAH's treasures. In Fazaa'il it is written that a gaze of affection and love for the parents is equal to reward of a maqbul nafil hajj. Imagine how much greater the reward is to show affection and love to your parents in this month - hmmmmm.

So bros - forget the piece of jilbab who u wish thought u were the funniest lad alive.
So sistas - forget about the "bro" who u wish thought u perfect homemaker material.

Focus on yr mom, focus on yr dad - make them laff and I have hope in my ALLAH that He will make us laff on the day we deserve to be crying :S

May ALLAH Ta'ala honour our parents. May He Ta'ala increase them in imaan, islaam and ihsaan. May Rahman Ta'ala grant them ability to speak the truth and to make 'amal upon the truth. May Afuww Ta'ala forgive their sins and transform ALL their sins into good deeds, without doubt this is no difficult task for the Lord of the Heavens and Earths. and us also - ameen

[Medievalist]

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