need some advice

[becky]

hi am new to this have been assaulted a few times and now try to provoke my partner into hitting me y am i like this

[RashidD]

You want him to hit you?

[assia]

Salaam......

Must be a reason for you to be the way you are....
family history... any violence, abuse, breakup of family, ie mom and dad are they still together.

Social life... do you work? what job? does your partner work? is there money problems, housing problems etc, children, do you have any?

There must be something happening in your life to make you feel like this, depression, mental illness, hopelessness, lonely, feel neglected, not loved etc alot of things can trigger off your behaviour towards your partner!!!

for you to want to provoke him to hit you.
Have you been abused in the past?

Seek help and advise from your GP who may then direct you on the right path to recovery.

In the mean time... when you get angry, take time out, go for a walk, as this could get out of hand if you push your partner to harm you!

I think something is making you be the way you are. Look at all the above and try to find if you fit into anything what i mentioned. But still go see your GP

If you are muslim then pray to Allah (swt) to help you.
Pray, read qur'an alot... ie surah al Baqarah, to get rid of the shaytaan's who are trying to provoke you to carry out this act!!!


Fee Amaanilla

Sister in islam

[*hayat*]

erm...hi,

would it not be a bit helpful if you could say a bit more in your post with a few commas and explain your situation in order to get soem help maybe?

[Noor_Usman]

Asalamalikum.

If you are sincere about this please PM me and we will discuss in private. I might be able to help or at least give a few pointers.

If you are a muslim sister or thinking of reverting/converting please state this in your PM as well as any information about exactly WHEN this feeling occurs.

I am working full time for the next 3 weeks but I'm online early morning and the evening to respond.

[assia]

hi am new to this have been assaulted a few times and now try to provoke my partner into hitting me y am i like this

I take it your not a muslim???

[Babbage]

hi am new to this have been assaulted a few times and now try to provoke my partner into hitting me y am i like this
Complicated reasons. It would be a good idea if you and your partner consulted experts as soon as possible. I don't know if you are muslim, in which case the local mosque etc might be able to get in touch with someone, but either ask your GP to help you get in touch with someone or via http://www.relate.org.uk/
If you are in a relationship like the one you describe the violence may well become more serious unless you do something.