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Medievalist
13-07-07, 10:51 PM
:salams

It is given that whatever environment a person lives in, in all likelihood, he will take on some of the norms and practices of that environment. We live in a society where there is no purdah, no hayaa, no sharam - we take on these qualities even without realising. Alhamdulillah that ALLAH Ta'ala guided us with Islaam, may He Ta'ala ennoble us with imaan, and grant su taufeeq to reach maqaam e ihsaan. ameen.

It is a common trait of our "practicing" youth in UK to look down - directly or indirectly - on the cultural practices of our parents and elders. We recognise the cultural baggage as something alien to our deen and we develop, at times, a superiority complex that we know better than them.

Let's put the shoe on the other foot.

Consider for a moment that some of the cultural practices of our elders may be closer to the shari'ah than our "enlightened" views. It is often that our elders frown on intermingling of the sexes and Im sure many of them would be appalled if they understood and read the way muslim youth interact with one another on the net. Is this attitude of theirs culture or religion? If there's is culture, then similarly our laxness with each other is not religion, that too is part of "our" british culture.

Ponder if in neglecting and saving ourselves from our parents culture - have we not erred and adopted the culture of another alien nation? We might not think it is a major issue - but anyone with any purity of heart is aware that the interaction that many of us engage in in uni or at college or at work or on the net is anti-islamic, anti-shari'ah.

ALLAH Ta'ala ennobled us with the religion of purity and cleanliness - in a hadeeth Nabi :saw: states to the effect that cleanliness is half of faith. This includes the purity of our interaction with each other - including people of the opposite gender.

Too many individuals here are playing with each other, the undercurrent is strong and pulsates quite clearly. ALLAH hamari hifaazat farmay. There is no need for names to be mentioned, nor is there a need for us to specify individuals - rather we need to do muhaasabah of our own condition.

If we are sitting here and engaging in illicit talk and illicit relationships with akhi fulaan and ukhti fulaana then we are bigger hypocrites than Jahangir and Perveen who link up at the cinema; atleast they dont don the garb of religion to engage in their relationship, we do.

It isnt difficult for a guy to not communicate with women, it isn't difficult for a woman to not communicate with a guy. Control that nafs and taste the sweetness of imaan. We think there is no harm in having sista fulaana on MSN list, oh we only having a laff, oh she asked me for religious advice - or its ok to chat to bro fulaan cos he's so funny, he makes me feel better. Rubbish! Rubbish! Rubbish!

souljaa
13-07-07, 10:54 PM
Wa Alaykumus Salaam

Akhi you have such a way with your words mashAllah...Your posts have alot of lessons behind them...May Allah reward you for your sincere efforts.

Medievalist
13-07-07, 11:01 PM
My sincere advice is for all of us to turn to Rahmaan Ta'ala in repentance and make istighfaar. Today, no tonight, NOW, we make intention that Ya Rabb! For whatever indiscretions we are guilty of we make true, sincere tawbah and vow by Your Azmat to not go near this fitnah again. Wash away the impurity which has accumulated on the heart and establish the relationship with Rabb Ta'ala.

Those of us who have female "friends" on msn, PM, on our fones, at uni,work etc make intention that from this day onwards all my rishtey will be according to ALLAH Ta'alas pleasure. There is no concept of fulaana and fulaan being platonic friends. Similarly those of our sisters who have male "friends" cut them off NOW. ALLAH Ta'ala didnt make a woman such a cheap thing that she be used for intellectual pleasure of every man - nor does any woman have right to benefit from the companionship of a man who is not her mahram or husband.

Finally - those people who are married and are engaging in extremely sinful communications with other women/men. You people need to stop this immediately. If you dont feel ashamed of your transgression - then atleast feel for us who are ashamed of your lewdity and desist from this.

May ALLAH Ta'ala grant us a life of hayaa and sharam and a deaht of hayaa and sharam. Ya ALLAH purify our externals and cleanse our internals and make us amongst the modest, pure, bashful ones. Ya ALLAH these women will one day die and rot, prevent our hearts from engaging in haraam with them. Ya ALLAH these men will one day die and rot, prevent our sisters hearts from engaging haraam with them. But Ya ALLAH rather fill our hearts with your ishq and make us magan in that. Ya Hayyu Ya Qayyum ba-hayaa awr ba-sharamwali zindagi ata farma, badkaari, behayai, besharmi awr napaaki se nijaa'at ata farma. Mawla Sayyidina Uthman ibn Affan radhiyallahu ta'ala anh ki bemisaal haya ata farma - ameen Ya Rabbe Muhammad :saw:

Guvna
13-07-07, 11:04 PM
good reminders there young med! well done! :up:

Omar Mukhtar
13-07-07, 11:18 PM
May ALLAH Ta'ala grant us a life of hayaa and sharam and a deaht of hayaa and sharam. Ya ALLAH purify our externals and cleanse our internals and make us amongst the modest, pure, bashful ones. Ya ALLAH these women will one day die and rot, prevent our hearts from engaging in haraam with them. Ya ALLAH these men will one day die and rot, prevent our sisters hearts from engaging haraam with them. But Ya ALLAH rather fill our hearts with your ishq and make us magan in that. Ya Hayyu Ya Qayyum ba-hayaa awr ba-sharamwali zindagi ata farma, badkaari, behayai, besharmi awr napaaki se nijaa'at ata farma. Mawla Sayyidina Uthman ibn Affan radhiyallahu ta'ala anh ki bemisaal haya ata farma - ameen Ya Rabbe Muhammad

Ameen.

Mashallah bro, gd advice. :up:

Loads of freemixing going on at this forum too needs to stop NOW!!.

Medievalist
13-07-07, 11:41 PM
these words arent written with the intention that people say wah wah! and then put it on mental ignore. forget the one who gives the words, look to the message behind them.

We are accountable for our own deeds and no-one will carry anothers burden. It is upon this Ummah to promote the virtue and prevent the vice to the best of ones ability - anything beyond that, the individual is not held kafeel. Bear witness that I conveyed the advice.

Umm 'Umarah
13-07-07, 11:52 PM
Just today I made such a very stupid mistake. :crying:

So true.. May Allah(SWT) give us strength to purify our hearts and repent with utmost sincerity..Ameen. :crying:

Chained_Water
13-07-07, 11:57 PM
:wswrwb:

I understand the message and appreciate the effort.. but I cringe at the cultural terms in which you present it.. an alien nation? our parents culture? You will not connect with your audience very easily on these terms, because many see the parents culture as alien and this nation as their own. And by telling someone their home is an alien nation and they ought to be on their parents culture is to possibly alienate them and switch them off to your message.

Also I don't think it is so much a question of hypocrisy as the eternal battle against ones nafs.. fulaan and fulaana are engaged in that battle.. jehanghir and perveen don't even think about it or care.. that's not to excuse fulaan(a) but just to frame the situation.

Medievalist
06-06-08, 03:50 PM
May ALLAH Ta'ala grant us modesty for the sake of the One from whom even the angels exhibited modesty - ameen






يا غفار صل و سلم علي النبي الشكار
Ya Ghaffaar salli wa sallim 'alan Nabiyyish Shakkaar
Oh Most Forgiving! Shower Peace and Blessing upon the Prophet, who remained ever so grateful