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regretting
11-07-07, 06:26 PM
salaams everyone,

during my stupid years..or year to precise i did sum stupid things. i was with this guy for a few months, not to mention he had different beliefs then me (he was shia), he was soo flirty with me, and he used to always just want to talk to me/be with me....and my life jus went all wrong after that. ive had teh worst year of my life. i realli wanted ot marry him and he too, but his family was saying i convert to their sect or no, so i ended it with him coz there was no point in carrying on a haraam relationship. i didnt mean for it to happen, things jus lead from one to another. after i ended it, he seemed ok and just got on with his life ( i have a feeling he didnt even care fo rme becaus eit was all too easy for him). i couldnt stop thinking about him and i went into depression mode. i realli cared about him, and still do, and hes changed alot. ive made soo much taubah to allah and im never goign to do that again, i cant beleve i did all that, wasted my time, and ive scarred myself so much. im tryign to becum the best muslim i can, but i cant get over teh fact ive commited such a big gunnah, and im scared for my future, does sum1 liek me even deserve a good marriage. i feel liek ive been used and stuff. will allah ever forgive me? i did a stupid thing, and ever since things have jus gone soo wrong, i feel liek im being punished for what i did, and i deserve it, what else can i do to compensate for this?

religiouspolice
11-07-07, 07:14 PM
waleikomasalaam

whether you wanted to marry him or not the relationship was haram anyway.
did u know he was a shia when indulging in this relationship?
make dua that Allah forgives u

THE PATH 2
11-07-07, 07:16 PM
in islam there is no regret:) or guilt..


there is sincere taubah(asking allah for forgiveness)

once that is done the sins we have committed are turned into rewards

our status is elevated

even the angels are commanded to forget

all humans except prophets commit sins

thus we become humble and realise how weak we are and how merciful allah is

be happy in allahs love and mercy:)

regretting
11-07-07, 07:56 PM
yes i did no he was shia, but at that time i wasnt aware of many of teh differences, and now i have been educated on it alot. thinking about it, i no that it would have been a complete mistake to marry him because he was so strong n his beliefs, and it would be difficult to live a life praying and practising as i do. the way hes changed is horrible, i never saw thsi side to him b4, although im sure it was always tehre. it jus hurts alot.

im thankful i didnt do nething majorly bad that way. it was onli roughly 3 months we were together and i didnt let nethign progress. i make taubah everytime soo muchh, and i jus love my allah more then anything for saving me from such a thing. inshallah over teh next year im goign to becum the best muslim i can, and i cant wait until ramadhan so i can make the most of it. i jus hope allah will forgive me.

Debater
11-07-07, 11:04 PM
repent to Allah sis, inshaAllah He will clean you as though you didn't do anything bad in the past, we all are humans, with our shortcommings, dont worry everything will be alright inshaAllah but please avoid bad companies or the compay of any non mahram, thats what leads us to the evil, if you keep a good company of sisters or mahram guys inshaAllah it will affect your Iman and you wouldn't think of doing anything bad. Do sabr and inshaAllah you will one day marry a nice man and will live a happy life.