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ibn suleman
08-07-07, 10:45 PM
salaams
why is it at weddings...one moment everyones happy..and then like a little while later the women leave crying? :rubeyes: :scratch:
ibn suleman
08-07-07, 10:52 PM
its called "rukhsati".. when the girlie departs and makes way to the grooms house.. forever and ever and everrrrrrrrr.. :crying:
[Whats the point?.. the thick layer of foundation gone to waste? :p]
i get the rukhsati thing..but like are they real tears? :embar: or is it like a show thing? :scratch:
Debater
08-07-07, 11:04 PM
salaams
why is it at weddings...one moment everyones happy..and then like a little while later the women leave crying? :rubeyes: :scratch:
They cry because they are jealous of the bride..
Chained_Water
08-07-07, 11:05 PM
salaams
why is it at weddings...one moment everyones happy..and then like a little while later the women leave crying? :rubeyes: :scratch:
:wswrwb:
I don't think men truly comprehend how marriage completely changes everything for a woman. I don't think they ever can.. maybe if you have a daughter and give her away in marriage and then see what she goes through in it.. then maybe you will realise why women cry.
Debater
08-07-07, 11:06 PM
i get the rukhsati thing..but like are they real tears? :embar: or is it like a show thing? :scratch:
Why don't you check yourself? (that will make you cry I bet).
this thread is making me sad :(
Debater
08-07-07, 11:07 PM
maybe if you have a daughter and give her away in marriage and then see what she goes through in it.. then maybe you will realise why women cry.
But to have a daughter, man has to marry, and if he marries he has to see crying ladies at rukhsati...so what's your point?
Chained_Water
08-07-07, 11:08 PM
But to have a daughter, man has to marry, and if he marries he has to see crying ladies at rukhsati...so what's your point?
Is there something strange in your water? Buy bottled :up:
Debater
08-07-07, 11:08 PM
this thread is making me sad :(
Whose rukhsati is that?
Debater
08-07-07, 11:09 PM
Is there something strange in your water? Buy bottled :up:
There's no baarish here for ages, and we are on Pepsi.
Chained_Water
08-07-07, 11:10 PM
There's no baarish here for ages, and we are on Pepsi.
That explains a LOT. :)
ibn suleman
08-07-07, 11:11 PM
:wswrwb:
I don't think men truly comprehend how marriage completely changes everything for a woman. I don't think they ever can.. maybe if you have a daughter and give her away in marriage and then see what she goes through in it.. then maybe you will realise why women cry.
:jkk:
i dont...and well cos i dont have sisters either..and well a daughter..well only Allah knows if/when..
so i was just wondering :o
so is everyone else crying with the bride or for the bride?
im sorry if these are really stoopid question..but erm..:o
Why don't you check yourself? (that will make you cry I bet).
:scratch:
Debater
08-07-07, 11:13 PM
That explains a LOT. :)
That why ladies cry at rukhsati?
Chained_Water
08-07-07, 11:21 PM
:jkk:
i dont...and well cos i dont have sisters either..and well a daughter..well only Allah knows if/when..
so i was just wondering :o
so is everyone else crying with the bride or for the bride?
im sorry if these are really stoopid question..but erm..:o
Both. It's an emotional time. Obviously it's happy for all the reasons we know.. but why is it sad? Well:
The bride knows her life with her parents and siblings is over, life as she knew it all these years is over, she is embarking upon something new, alien and life won't be the same again. In close knit families especially this can be difficult, leaving your mother, father and siblings is painful. You remember all they've done for you, and how little you've done for them.
Not only that (but especially in asian culture), you face the often harsh reality of having to live with a different family (the dreaded in laws), adapting to their way, rules, abnormalities :p ..it can often feel like losing your home and being a state of not belonging, losing your comfort zone and having your life taken over by other people who really have no right over it.
The parents, mother, female relatives are all sad to see the girl go, they know that she is moving onto a life of big responsibilities, big risks, and difficulties.. marriage is no walk in the park, being a wife, daughter in law, mother is not easy. Her days of being a carefree young girl are no more.
Letting go is hard.. and there is the worry of how the new life will be for her, will be make her or break her? Will it work out? Will she be happy? Will she get on OK on her own? Will she be treated well by the in laws? Will her husband look after her and treat her right?
Families forever worry about the fate of their daughters.
Often for a guy, the only thing that changes is that he now has a woman sharing his bedroom, time, life etc. Apart from that, he still lives with mommy (and her apron strings) and daddy and life goes on.
ibn suleman
08-07-07, 11:27 PM
Both. It's an emotional time. Obviously it's happy for all the reasons we know.. but why is it sad? Well:
The bride knows her life with her parents and siblings is over, life as she knew it all these years is over, she is embarking upon something new, alien and life won't be the same again. In close knit families especially this can be difficult, leaving your mother, father and siblings is painful. You remember all they've done for you, and how little you've done for them.
Not only that (but especially in asian culture), you face the often harsh reality of having to live with a different family (the dreaded in laws), adapting to their way, rules, abnormalities :p ..it can often feel like losing your home and being a state of not belonging, losing your comfort zone and having your life taken over by other people who really have no right over it.
The parents, mother, female relatives are all sad to see the girl go, they know that she is moving onto a life of big responsibilities, big risks, and difficulties.. marriage is no walk in the park, being a wife, daughter in law, mother is not easy. Her days of being a carefree young girl are no more.
Letting go is hard.. and there is the worry of how the new life will be for her, will be make her or break her? Will it work out? Will she be happy? Will she get on OK on her own? Will she be treated well by the in laws? Will her husband look after her and treat her right?
Families forever worry about the fate of their daughters.
Often for a guy, the only thing that changes is that he now has a woman sharing his bedroom, time, life etc. Apart from that, he still lives with mommy (and her apron strings) and daddy and life goes on.
:jkk:
thats pretty much answers what i was asking abt :)
Debater
08-07-07, 11:33 PM
:jkk:
thats pretty much answers what i was asking abt :)
Well that's your fault, you could better ask a crying lady at Rukhsati, she would give much better answer.
ibn suleman
08-07-07, 11:36 PM
Well that's your fault, you could better ask a crying lady at Rukhsati, she would give much better answer.
what's my fault?
im not gonna go up to a random lady and ask her why u been crying. :eek:
Chained_Water
08-07-07, 11:39 PM
:jkk:
thats pretty much answers what i was asking abt :)
wa iyaki, no problemo :)
Phoenix CG
08-07-07, 11:48 PM
women cry at everything, any excuse they find and they start the waterworks.
Chained_Water
08-07-07, 11:48 PM
women cry at everything, any excuse they find and they start the waterworks.
:rolleyes:
:torture:
Phoenix CG
08-07-07, 11:49 PM
:rotfl: u know its true :crying:
Chained_Water
08-07-07, 11:53 PM
*gives pheonix evils*
http://www.hardware-one.com/forum/smileys/suspect.gif
.: Rashid :.
08-07-07, 11:57 PM
women cry at everything, any excuse they find and they start the waterworks.
Apart from the way its worded (:p) I've mostly found this to be true. Women cry waay too easily.
I understand all the reasons you explained in your post CW, but seriously, that wouldn't make me cry. Ever.
My sister will/may be far away from us soon and she was like crying going "I'm gonna miss you :crying:" I was watching TV like "hmm...yeah...yeah *when is she gonna shut up?*" :p
I'm quite an insensitive human being, so I imagine I'm gonna have some difficulty dealing with a sensitive person when I'm married :p
-Rashid
Phoenix CG
08-07-07, 11:58 PM
looool i see a tear rolling down ur cheek :rotfl:
Chained_Water
09-07-07, 12:03 AM
Apart from the way its worded (:p) I've mostly found this to be true. Women cry waay too easily.
I understand all the reasons you explained in your post CW, but seriously, that wouldn't make me cry. Ever.
My sister will/may be far away from us soon and she was like crying going "I'm gonna miss you :crying:" I was watching TV like "hmm...yeah...yeah *when is she gonna shut up?*" :p
I'm quite an insensitive human being, so I imagine I'm gonna have some difficulty dealing with a sensitive person when I'm married :p
-Rashid
:torture:men :rolleyes: ..are you made of stone or something?!
.: Rashid :.
09-07-07, 12:06 AM
:torture:men :rolleyes: ..are you made of stone or something?!
Lol thats what my sisters think :p
-Rashid
Debater
09-07-07, 12:17 AM
men :rolleyes: ..are you made of stone or something?!
steel.
women, are you made of gold? then why you wear loads of gold?
Tahiyah
09-07-07, 12:44 AM
men will understand why women cry at weddings when they are the one giving away their daughter to another man
shes just not your little girl anymore...
.: Rashid :.
09-07-07, 01:08 AM
men will understand why women cry at weddings when they are the one giving away their daughter to another man
shes just not your little girl anymore...
I still wouldn't cry...
In fact, I've been to many weddings and I've never seen the father of the bride cry at any of them...
lol...I remember when I was little I used to think women cry at their weddings because they don't like their husbands :p (plus was bombarded with the idea that all Asians are forced into marriage, don't see their spouse until the day of the wedding etc :rolleyes: )
-Rashid
ibnKathir27
09-07-07, 06:46 AM
I already know that my marriage is going to be a waterfest. All her friends are going to be bawling their eyes out, my then wife will be crying...i'm going to feel like i've become the mean guy thats taken her away from her family
Why do I have the impression that if a Muslim guy were to demonstrate even the most casual empathy for the difficulties of women that he would have Islam's most beautiful, pious, charming, intelligent, and loving women begging their wallis for an introduction to him?
Why do so many Muslim women seem content to settle for immature jokers who not only have no empathy for women, but absolutely no understanding of adult married life whatsoever?
The immature jokers don't have anything to do with Islam, really. I mean, they'd be immature jokers were they Hindu, Christian, Buddhist, whatever.
Free your mind, and your deen will follow.
umm umamah
09-07-07, 09:15 AM
Apart from the way its worded (:p) I've mostly found this to be true. Women cry waay too easily.
I understand all the reasons you explained in your post CW, but seriously, that wouldn't make me cry. Ever.-Rashid
its alrite u saying that it wouldnt make u cry evr, but how would u know if ur nvr put in that situation??
its mainly that the girl goes to live with the grooms family so shes the one that is moving out of her house, leaving her parents n bros/sis behind. but as for the groom, they nt goin newer or leaving ne1 behind, rather they have an extra addition to the family (the bride)
n at the rukhsati, its the official moment when the bride is leaving her family the parents are obviously gna get emotional n seeing this the bride also gets emotional.
so stop trying to justify urselves when u no u wnt b put in that situation, rather look at it from the brides point of view!
khalaas
Lambo5688
09-07-07, 09:17 AM
Its when that babul song comes on.
AbuMusaab
09-07-07, 09:17 AM
I am very sensitive. :coolbro: Unless you deserve harshness.
Lambo5688
09-07-07, 09:19 AM
I would only cry if my only daughter was getting married and I was putting in the car during that ceremony where the babul song comes on.
CW really just said it all. Guyz wont ever understand untill they bcum fatherz.
:torture: they shuld stop putting that babul song on at weddingz mks u teray eyed even if its sum1 elsez wedding!
I think Chained Water hit the nail on the head :o
Its a really really emotional moment for the bride- she is leaving everything she has ever known for this one man. InshaAllah life after marriage will be great but theres alot of adapting to do and she really has to kinda find her space again. I always end up crying even at my cousins weddings.
2 Years ago my best cousin got married and we only had to look at each other and we'd start crying :rofl1: :embar: (yeh its funny now but at the time it was sssoo emotional.. it still is sometimes cos the reality is.. in 2 years of her marriage ive hardly had a chance to spend any proper time with her). Anyway our parents told us off for looking at each other and crying and all we could think about was our childhood together.
Her hubby was sitting in the next room with the men and he kept looking over at his wife (heheh) with a reallyy concerned look on his face.. then he'd look at me and mouth "is she ok? Are you ok." looooooolll...
The next day when i spoke to him he was like, "I couldnt believe you lot were crying so much, it made me feel emotional.. i was thinking- what have i done! I only wana marry her." :rofl1:
:o Guess unless you have sisters youre close too, or a daughter.. its hard to understand.. Im absolutely dreading the moment i have to say bye to my dad. Thats gona be the most painful moment.
urban_rose
09-07-07, 10:48 AM
Its when that babul song comes on.
yep, thats true :D
I think Chained Water hit the nail on the head :o
Its a really really emotional moment for the bride- she is leaving everything she has ever known for this one man. InshaAllah life after marriage will be great but theres alot of adapting to do and she really has to kinda find her space again. I always end up crying even at my cousins weddings.
2 Years ago my best cousin got married and we only had to look at each other and we'd start crying :rofl1: :embar: (yeh its funny now but at the time it was sssoo emotional.. it still is sometimes cos the reality is.. in 2 years of her marriage ive hardly had a chance to spend any proper time with her). Anyway our parents told us off for looking at each other and crying and all we could think about was our childhood together.
Her hubby was sitting in the next room with the men and he kept looking over at his wife (heheh) with a reallyy concerned look on his face.. then he'd look at me and mouth "is she ok? Are you ok." looooooolll...
The next day when i spoke to him he was like, "I couldnt believe you lot were crying so much, it made me feel emotional.. i was thinking- what have i done! I only wana marry her." :rofl1:
:o Guess unless you have sisters youre close too, or a daughter.. its hard to understand.. Im absolutely dreading the moment i have to say bye to my dad. Thats gona be the most painful moment.
aww, lol, Zesty :inlove:
:( @ the last part.....
:o Guess unless you have sisters youre close too, or a daughter.. its hard to understand.. Im absolutely dreading the moment i have to say bye to my dad. Thats gona be the most painful moment.
:( Yh me 2, 1 of the reasons i keep putting marraige off!!!
ha ha looool :rotfl: :rotfl: when my sis got married, mashallah me her and my brother r way 2 close and dayz b4 hand we all kept crying, i rmrbr when about 2 dayz b4 the wedding my brother in law calls me and goes "Sahara waz going on, Shaz just called me and waz like "I love you but i love my family more i cant marry you!" The poor guy failed 2 c she waz haveing a "moment"!
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:( Yh me 2, 1 of the reasons i keep putting marraige off!!!
ha ha looool :rotfl: :rotfl: when my sis got married, mashallah me her and my brother r way 2 close and dayz b4 hand we all kept crying, i rmrbr when about 2 dayz b4 the wedding my brother in law calls me and goes "Sahara waz going on, Shaz just called me and waz like "I love you but i love my family more i cant marry you!" The poor guy failed 2 c she waz haveing a "moment"!
:( i know.. sometimes i think about it and it chokes me up! Im very close to my mum.. for gods sake she cried when i was in hospital having my appendix out.. god knows what shes gona be like when i get married inshaAllah :rofl1: :embar: But at the same time im close to my dad.. and theres just something about dad's and daughters :inlove: lol.
Yeh i can relate to that, cos the days before my cousin was getting married we'd start crying. We looked like right do-do's sitting on the sofa holding each other and crying! :rofl1: Its cos she was getting married and i was moving away from home for the first time- so everything happened at the same time.
:rofl1: funnyyy.. yeh i think guys need to accept that his future bride might have loads of those moments ;)
Urbey :inlove: sweet i know.. and yes :( at the last part.
:rofl1: funnyyy.. yeh i think guys need to accept that his future bride might have loads of those moments ;).
Thats good advice, all brotherz listen up!!!^^^
.: Rashid :.
09-07-07, 01:26 PM
Why do I have the impression that if a Muslim guy were to demonstrate even the most casual empathy for the difficulties of women that he would have Islam's most beautiful, pious, charming, intelligent, and loving women begging their wallis for an introduction to him?
Why do so many Muslim women seem content to settle for immature jokers who not only have no empathy for women, but absolutely no understanding of adult married life whatsoever?
The immature jokers don't have anything to do with Islam, really. I mean, they'd be immature jokers were they Hindu, Christian, Buddhist, whatever.
Free your mind, and your deen will follow.
Hey, you're not helping the "immature jokers" here :torture: :p
its alrite u saying that it wouldnt make u cry evr, but how would u know if ur nvr put in that situation??
its mainly that the girl goes to live with the grooms family so shes the one that is moving out of her house, leaving her parents n bros/sis behind. but as for the groom, they nt goin newer or leaving ne1 behind, rather they have an extra addition to the family (the bride)
n at the rukhsati, its the official moment when the bride is leaving her family the parents are obviously gna get emotional n seeing this the bride also gets emotional.
so stop trying to justify urselves when u no u wnt b put in that situation, rather look at it from the brides point of view!
khalaas
Hmm, yeah, thats true. But I don't even feel sad thinking about being away from my family, although if I think about it logically I imagine I would be eventually. But even just thinking about it makes my sister cry...
I dunno about culturally, but for my family at least its not a case of the groom is living with his parents and the bride comes and lives with them. But rather they both move out of the places they live into somewhere bigger etc Plus they're usually in travelling distance to both their families...
But anyway, I wasn't trying to justify myself or anything, but just saying women are a LOT more emotional than men. If I, as a man, was put in that situation I wouldn't cry. If I was a woman however, I probably would, I can understand that :)
Thats good advice, all brotherz listen up!!!^^^
lol yeah I was making a mental note :o
-Rashid
ibn suleman
09-07-07, 05:09 PM
lots of those moments??? :eek: :outta:
Ya Allah! crying at weddings its soooo exhausting! :rolleyes: ..at the time it was like 'nooooooooo dont leave us'..(when afa (sis) married) but now we've managed cope perfeclty fine without her!..
Mashallah water works start in my family even when someone is going abroad..:D (well only when its mum actually)....we like have six or seven rounds of crying then!..lol :o
muslim_sis
09-07-07, 05:28 PM
didnt read the whole thread, but just read the first post...
just thought i'd mention something someone put out to me : why does one need to cry at a wedding ? If it's a happy moment, why cry ? A baby is the most purest thing on Earth, and it doesn't cry when its happy.
I think Chained Water hit the nail on the head -Defo!!! [/B]
Its a really really emotional moment for the bride- she is leaving everything she has ever known for this one man. InshaAllah life after marriage will be great but theres alot of adapting to do and she really has to kinda find her space again. I always end up crying even at my cousins weddings.
2 Years ago my best cousin got married and we only had to look at each other and we'd start crying :rofl1: :embar: (yeh its funny now but at the time it was sssoo emotional.. it still is sometimes cos the reality is.. in 2 years of her marriage ive hardly had a chance to spend any proper time with her). Anyway our parents told us off for looking at each other and crying and all we could think about was our childhood together.
:o Guess unless you have sisters youre close too, or a daughter.. its hard to understand.. Im absolutely dreading the moment i have to say bye to my dad. Thats gona be the most painful moment.
readin ur post mde me almst cry lol cuz i no i'm gna b lyk tht wen ma sis goes :crying: I mean il b happy 4 hr cuz i wna c hr hapily mrrid n hav children n that bt at th sme tym i dnt wna let her go cuz she's ma bst m8.....:)
Believer1984
09-07-07, 05:51 PM
HAHA !
nuffin.
:rolleyes:
its because the bride is moving out forever, shes moving all the way to the house next door :rubeyes:
Chained_Water
09-07-07, 06:14 PM
its because the bride is moving out forever, shes moving all the way to the house next door :rubeyes:
You're more evil than the blokes :torture:
And you're meant to be the bollywood one, you should understand this!
You're more evil than the blokes :torture:
And you're meant to be the bollywood one, you should understand this!
mehkey kabhi na yaad aaein, susraal mein itni maar pareh :crying:
Chained_Water
09-07-07, 06:17 PM
mehkey kabhi na yaad aaein, susraal mein itni maar pareh :crying:
LOL, thats usually how it is innit :p
lots of those moments??? :eek: :outta:
Lots and lots of them, try and get used to it, will be better in the long run. :up:
Lots and lots of them, try and get used to it, will be better in the long run. :up:
lol - maan his future bride's gna luv us - tranin him up lol ;) :D
salaams
why is it at weddings...one moment everyones happy..and then like a little while later the women leave crying? :rubeyes: :scratch:
:wswrwb:
the older ladies probably remember the time that they left all their fam to go marry someone :(:( and no more times chillin with ya fam in the same way,:( especially the older u get... but they probably cry for the bride cos they like *shakes head* if only she knew the extent of what she was lettin herself in for :p
i HATE cryin infront of people, but when that happens its really hard so im on mega blink mode :rubeyes::rubeyes::rubeyes:
:o Guess unless you have sisters youre close too, or a daughter.. its hard to understand.. Im absolutely dreading the moment i have to say bye to my dad. Thats gona be the most painful moment.
:smack: come on sis, it's not like you're never gonna see him... :outta:
:jkk:
:smack: come on sis, it's not like you're never gonna see him... :outta:
:jkk:
:smack: you wont understand bro! :p and how do you know? :( we dont know where our Qadr takes us! looll (yes this is me being melodramatic) :hidban:
:smack: come on sis, it's not like you're never gonna see him... :outta:
:jkk:
im gonna miss my daddyyy tooooooo :(
he sticks up for me allll the time even wen no one else does :crying:
hes done more for me than for any other family member. i know for sure that im his favourite :hidban:
Wow, this thread makes me glad I don't have a sister. :o :)
Thats good advice, all brotherz listen up!!!^^^
*Gets buckets ready!*
:rofl1: dont cryyyy irfyyy :crying: I know ya feeling sad but dunnae cryyy! *gives you tissue*
Ah forget that, Ima need a tissue factory! :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying:
Ah forget that, Ima need a tissue factory! :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying:
:nervous: dont cry on me man.. i hate it when blokes cry on me.. it scaressss me! :nervous: take the tissue and do one :p
:nervous: dont cry on me man.. i hate it when blokes cry on me.. it scaressss me! :nervous: take the tissue and do one :p
lol like they say, big boys don't cry. :p
Besides, I aint cried for ages. Wonder when I'll break... :(
lol like they say, big boys don't cry. :p
Besides, I aint cried for ages. Wonder when I'll break... :(
Youd thinhk huh! :rolleyes: big boys cry man.,,. trust me :smack:
uuhh ohh.. i think youre feeling a bit sensitive... are you gona cry? :crying: do you need a good cry?Its oriteeee irfeh.. let it all out.. you wil feel much better! :D
Youd thinhk huh! :rolleyes: big boys cry man.,,. trust me :smack:
uuhh ohh.. i think youre feeling a bit sensitive... are you gona cry? :crying: do you need a good cry?Its oriteeee irfeh.. let it all out.. you wil feel much better! :D
Okay, but can you handle 50 litres of tears? :D
Okay, but can you handle 50 litres of tears? :D
*gulps* bass? is that it? go for it.. think i can handle it *goes off to get as many towels as i can find* :p
*gulps* bass? is that it? go for it.. think i can handle it *goes off to get as many towels as i can find* :p
*lets it all out*
:crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying:
*lets it all out*
:crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying:
*throws towels at you and runs* :outta: buhh byeeee! :wavey:
*throws towels at you and runs* :outta: buhh byeeee! :wavey:
*drowns*
:D
Byeee!
ze leetle elper
10-07-07, 07:00 AM
Do brothers cry? (http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=87090) :p
ibn suleman
10-07-07, 09:53 AM
i guess i do understand now..
i guess i do understand now..
:up:
ummbilal
10-07-07, 11:38 AM
i cried so much at my wedding i couldnt see, but they were tears of joy and thankfulness to my Lord, Allhumdulilah.....wipes tear away..
Nah man, you must be joking. Theres always someone cutting onions nearby, it gives it the 'true' effect.
I dont believe you or anyone else should take the **** out of parents getting upset, when they have to say goodbye to their daughter. You take care of them and protect them all your lives, and then you're handing them (the responsibility) over. Its a big thing, and would make any human with emotion cry!
Maybe when your parents do it, they will be acting but not ours!
ur_yusra
10-07-07, 10:10 PM
:wswrwb:
I don't think men truly comprehend how marriage completely changes everything for a woman. I don't think they ever can.. maybe if you have a daughter and give her away in marriage and then see what she goes through in it.. then maybe you will realise why women cry.
:wswrwb:
Yep men don't realise.. and looks like they never will.
:smack: you wont understand bro! :p and how do you know? :( we dont know where our Qadr takes us! looll (yes this is me being melodramatic) :hidban:
yeah well that could happen even if you is livin with your parents, so I think you is being presumptuous sis ... :outta:
:jkk:
:wswrwb:
I don't think men truly comprehend how marriage completely changes everything for a woman. I don't think they ever can.. maybe if you have a daughter and give her away in marriage and then see what she goes through in it.. then maybe you will realise why women cry.
Sis, thats why they are MEN... :outta:
there are some things Men don't understand, will never Understand about Women...
likewise there are things which Women take for Granted, don't understand about Men ...
ps. sorry if it sounded lame...
:jkk:
THE PATH 2
11-07-07, 03:22 PM
salaams
why is it at weddings...one moment everyones happy..and then like a little while later the women leave crying? :rubeyes: :scratch:
get married..
they cry
its a random and manipulative response:D
get married..
they cry
its a random and manipulative response:D
:torture:
manipulative?
sunrise
11-07-07, 04:18 PM
salam alakou,
yeah i went to a wedding a couple of days ago one minute its all happy then omg get the buckets ready for the rivers of tears:torture:
ud think they were taking here to japan from morocco not to the sreet down the road:rubeyes:
Some girls turn on the water works as though they're being abducted. Crying itself is understandable, but when you get the loud wailers - thats whats really annoying
Some girls turn on the water works as though they're being abducted. Crying itself is understandable, but when you get the loud wailers - thats whats really annoying
Mmm i hate it when ppl do that, mks u feel really uncomfortable and awkward i ussually leg it outside if thats the case! :outta:
Some girls turn on the water works as though they're being abducted. Crying itself is understandable, but when you get the loud wailers - thats whats really annoying
i know wailing isnt great to listen to but we should try to understand how she must be feeling... its harder for some girls more than others and wen they do it theyre all in the moment :(
Theres no excuse for the wailers. They';re just bunch of attention seeking idiots :p
Theres no excuse for the wailers. They';re just bunch of attention seeking idiots :p
no theyre not! they a bunch of sisters who are sooo into the moment that they dont realize they are annoying ppl like u and angel and cant control themselves well enough to cry a little more softly. :(
Chained_Water
12-07-07, 02:41 AM
Some girls turn on the water works as though they're being abducted. Crying itself is understandable, but when you get the loud wailers - thats whats really annoying
You big ole' ice queen :p
You big ole' ice queen :p
wats icier is calling them idiots :(
i suspect i will be on of those "wailing idiots" around this time next year :( *waaaaaail*
Theres no excuse for the wailers. They';re just bunch of attention seeking idiots :p
:eek3: thas a bit harsh aint it? i dont get "annoyed" when they do that it just mks me feel a bit unconfortable cuz i dunoo what to do wiv myself, but i think its perfectly normal 4 them 2 cry cuz its a very emotional moment, looool i bet il b crying like therz no tomoz hen i get hitched!
Lambo5688
12-07-07, 09:22 AM
LOL, thats usually how it is innit :p
No! :p
Susraal ain't bad.
THE PATH 2
12-07-07, 09:29 AM
:torture:
manipulative?
er..okay
persuasive:D
No! :p
Susraal ain't bad.
:rubeyes: im scared 2 even ask how u know that!!
er..okay
persuasive:D
:D
Lambo5688
12-07-07, 09:34 AM
:rubeyes: im scared 2 even ask how u know that!!
What I was trying to say is that...susraal shouldn't be bad. I mean...we want the new wife in our house...so why be mean to her?
What I was trying to say is that...susraal shouldn't be bad. I mean...we want the new wife in our house...so why be mean to her?
:smack: sorry ma bad! It just sounding like........aaa well never mind:p
:rotfl: :rotfl: @ ur avvie! :up: Pearlz gonna kill ya is she seez that, its supposed 2 b a sis thing only!
Lambo5688
12-07-07, 09:39 AM
:smack: sorry ma bad! It just sounding like........aaa well never mind:p
:rotfl: :rotfl: @ ur avvie! :up: Pearlz gonna kill ya is she seez that, its supposed 2 b a sis thing only!
hahaha...yea I hope some sisters don't take it too seriusly...:D
no theyre not! they a bunch of sisters who are sooo into the moment that they dont realize they are annoying ppl like u and angel and cant control themselves well enough to cry a little more softly. :(
Crying is one thing but Wailing is Totally un-necessary and out of order...
Women do this when Some close relative of their Died!
Inna-Lilla-hi-Wa-inna-ilayhi-Rajiun!
:jkk:
We had in the past centuries professional wailers at funerals, called mourners. They were hired exactly to give a more profound atmosphere to the funeral.
Redmist
12-07-07, 01:19 PM
......just a thought, but u dont know she could be crying/wailing out of happiness.
A good cry is good.....lets the emotions out.
We had in the past centuries professional wailers at funerals, called mourners. They were hired exactly to give a more profound atmosphere to the funeral.
we are Prohibited from Wailing at the Deaths ...
Death comes by the Decree of Allah Subhana Uta'ala...
wailing, causes greater lasting grief to those who are alive...
The worst type of waterworks is at airports. All our aunties wail and weep till their eyes go dry, and everyone looking on (not to mention security giggling!) Tut tut. Asians, eh?
we are Prohibited from Wailing at the Deaths ...
Death comes by the Decree of Allah Subhana Uta'ala...
wailing, causes greater lasting grief to those who are alive...In the spirit of the thread :embar: i just mentioned them. Now the job dissapeared and you can't find professional mourners. So you can hear only the relatives cry or their silence.
In the spirit of the thread :embar: i just mentioned them. Now the job dissapeared and you can't find professional mourners. So you can hear only the relatives cry or their silence.
Sister Mara, you had Professional Mourners? :eek:
How does that happen? :eek:
I mean do you pay people to Mourn for you? :eek3:
that just doesn't make any sense!!! it's a Job?!!! :eek:
Crying is one thing but Wailing is Totally un-necessary and out of order...
Women do this when Some close relative of their Died!
Inna-Lilla-hi-Wa-inna-ilayhi-Rajiun!
:jkk:
calm down... its a hysterical moment cuz all of ur family and freinds are all there and ur leaving them all- literally u hav to walk away leaving everyone behind with some guy who is now called ur "hubby" its crazy u guys should be a little more sympathetic understanding and open minded. these ladies ARE human :rolleyes:
krystal~sky
14-07-07, 07:12 PM
You gotta love us! We're such drama queens.If only we realize how men are so emotionally simple and oblivious :D
Muslimah Wifey
14-07-07, 07:53 PM
Sister Mara, you had Professional Mourners? :eek:
How does that happen? :eek:
I mean do you pay people to Mourn for you? :eek3:
that just doesn't make any sense!!! it's a Job?!!! :eek:
I think she was referring to in the days of jahiliyya, people used to pay people to come mourn and wail at the graves of their deceased as a show, to show-off to the community how "loved" their relavtive was. This was the reason that wailing at the grave was forbidden.
Letting go is hard.. and there is the worry of how the new life will be for her, will be make her or break her? Will it work out? Will she be happy? Will she get on OK on her own? Will she be treated well by the in laws? Will her husband look after her and treat her right?
Families forever worry about the fate of their daughters.
I don't understand why anyone would give their daughter in marriage if they had this many concerns? I mean, I would only give my daughter to a man that I was confident would treat her right, the in laws would treat her right and that she would be happy, etc.
By the way, I think this crying at weddings is not Islamic and is cultural. I have never been to a wedding with crying, alhamdulilah and hope to never go to one. Weddings are supposed to be joyous occasions with baraka.
Leading up to my wedding, my mom sometimes did look at me longingly and say things like, "I'm going to miss you" I was always like WHY? What the HECK I'm not dying, I'm just getting married!!!" lol
I don't understand why some cultures have this notion of "leaving" your old family for a new one. From what I know, Aisha used to visit her family daily after she was married. And also after the death of one of his wives, Prophet (saws) used to send food for her family and visit them often. I forget the exact details, if anyone knows please post :) This shows that it is SUNNAH to keep relations with your family and that the husband should be just as much part of the wifes family as she is of his.
I think she was referring to in the days of jahiliyya, people used to pay people to come mourn and wail at the graves of their deceased as a show, to show-off to the community how "loved" their relavtive was. This was the reason that wailing at the grave was forbidden.
I don't understand why anyone would give their daughter in marriage if they had this many concerns? I mean, I would only give my daughter to a man that I was confident would treat her right, the in laws would treat her right and that she would be happy, etc.
By the way, I think this crying at weddings is not Islamic and is cultural. I have never been to a wedding with crying, alhamdulilah and hope to never go to one. Weddings are supposed to be joyous occasions with baraka.
Leading up to my wedding, my mom sometimes did look at me longingly and say things like, "I'm going to miss you" I was always like WHY? What the HECK I'm not dying, I'm just getting married!!!" lol
I don't understand why some cultures have this notion of "leaving" your old family for a new one. From what I know, Aisha used to visit her family daily after she was married. And also after the death of one of his wives, Prophet (saws) used to send food for her family and visit them often. I forget the exact details, if anyone knows please post :) This shows that it is SUNNAH to keep relations with your family and that the husband should be just as much part of the wifes family as she is of his.
:jkk: :D
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