Marrying someone elder than you and marrying someone who is younger than you

[Sulaiman Harun]

Marrying someone elder than you (for brothers) and marrying someone who is younger than you (for sisters)


:start:


:salams


Would you like marry someone elder than you (for brothers) and marry someone who is younger than you (for sisters)?


:jkk:


:wswrwb:

[Kal-El]

Wa'alaikum Salaam brother,

There are several similar threads to this in the polling section already.

[Amaara]

:wswrwb:

If the potential has the characteristics you are looking for- age should not then be a problem InshaAllah...

[Chained_Water]

Age isn't a problem, some are elder than their wives and have no idea how to act it.. some are younger and have more of a sense of what it is to be a husband.. vice versa with wives.

[Sulaiman Harun]

Wa'alaikum Salaam brother,

There are several similar threads to this in the polling section already.


SorrY <embarassed>

[Sulaiman Harun]

I personally like an elder wife!

[Chained_Water]

I personally like an elder wife!
Good stuff.. I think many women get discriminated against because of age when it comes to marriage.. It's like once you hit a certain threshold 30+ if you aren't married by then, you're looked upon as a "past it".

[Sulaiman Harun]

that's stupid of people to think that way!

[Abu Ahlam]

I personally like an elder wife!
When the times comes for me, Insha'Allah, I would prefer a Muslimah my age, or a few years older. I don't want one younger. But there are always exceptions to the rule

[Lambo5688]

I want one the same age.:inlove:

But younger and older(by a couple of years) is Ok too.

[`asiya]

Age isn't a problem, some are elder than their wives and have no idea how to act it.. some are younger and have more of a sense of what it is to be a husband.. vice versa with wives.

:up:

[Lambo5688]

i've been told... I have a "thing" for "older" and "married" women...:rolleyes: (astaghfirullah)

...huh?:rubeyes:

[angel*]

i've been told... I have a "thing" for "older" and "married" women...:rolleyes: (astaghfirullah)

:scratch: eh?





Older than me by a few yrz --Kool

Same kinda age---Wkd!

Younger-------Nu uh not gonna happen!

[Peacenik]

Every age has it's good points.

As we know, the Prophet (saaw) married both young and old :)

[Cristiana]

Every age has it's good points.

As we know, the Prophet (saaw) married both young and old :)

Yes, that's a good point... but I'll have only 1 husband (insha'Allah) and younger men just don't give me that feeling of "security" and stability... and I usually do not find very young looking men attractive at all.

This is just my opinion of course.

[RaNdOm]

:salams

i think i defo need someone older inshaAllah :o kids these days so immature :p

[angel*]

:salams

i think i defo need someone older inshaAllah :o kids these days so immature :p

spot on! :hidban:

[AbuMusaab]

She must be younger than me by a couple years at least.

[Debater]

Would you like marry someone elder than you (for brothers) and marry someone who is younger than you (for sisters)?

hamari choro, apni batao, tum ko kis say kerni hai, kisi 45 saal kee chachi say ya ....?

[Debater]

She must be younger than me by a couple years at least.
You mean she should be at least 57?
Very bad man, sharam naheen aati? shaadi kay liay itni choti bachi??? tauba tauba tauba

[Sulaiman Harun]

yaar couple means 2 or maybe 3 not 57!

[Debater]

I personally like an elder wife!
bolo to dhoondoon koi bari bee? jo tum ko khilaye gee bhi, pehnaye gee bhi, nehlaye gee bhi, aur lori sunaye gee bhi...

[Sulaiman Harun]

:start: karein!

[Debater]

yaar couple means 2 or maybe 3 not 57!
tauba tauba tauba, khuda ka khauf ker bhai, 2 ya 3 saal kee???? astaghfirullah...tauba astaghfaar..

[Debater]

:start: karein!
hahaha, apni fikr hai, aur hamara koi khayal naheen?

[Sulaiman Harun]

yaar mujhe lagta hai aapke tabiyat thodhi see theek nahin hai. Meray mutlab tha, key couple ka mathlab do ya theen. Do ya theen saal ki bevi nahin!

[Sulaiman Harun]

hahaha, apni fikr hai, aur hamara koi khayal naheen?
Chalien aap batain kya chah yeh aapko?

[Debater]

Chalien aap batain kya chah yeh aapko?
mujh ko kuch naheen, jo mil jaye Rub ka shukr ada ker bhai, jo na mila wo manga he kyoun?

[Sulaiman Harun]

chalo koi baat nahin, aur aap kaisay hain?

[Debater]

chalo koi baat nahin, aur aap kaisay hain?
Hum zara say kuch kum sharmeelay hain zyada naheen...now better to speak English, and seriously, it depends on the relationship, if there's a strong and good relationship betwee them, age doesn't matter then.

[Sulaiman Harun]

well you are quite right

[Metroid]

her age does not matter has long as she is not 4 years older than me. I had to input an age range for personal preferences. As far as the look goes, my mind must be so messed up that I don't it does not matter to anymore. as long as my kids are healthy, thats fine.
There is already a topic exactly similar to this one, it may have been locked

[Pippin1376]

Age is nothing but a number. I don't see how age really matters, unless the female is 20 and the male is 15. Then under the law there would be a problem and she'd go to jail.

[nadzz]

Salaam to all,

Inshallah its good to have wife who is at least five or six year younger than you.

But if she is older than me, still doesn't make any difference.

Jazakallah

[~Warda~]

Personaly a hubby a few years older is better i think...although there is nothing wrong if the wife is older than the husband. The prophet :saw: married women of different ages. Its a personal choice i guess.

[Pro_Candy]

Older or younger, makes no difference...

[Abu Mus'ab]

well if i had to be myself i'd say "oi there aint no option for those who aint getting married" but to stick to the topic i guess i'd see if such a time ever comes, it's not like i'm going to put out marriage requirements and stuff, so things like this doesn't matter to me.

[Maureen]

I would marry someone younger, provided he had a mature attitude.

[Abu-Amr]

when im 40, im getting daddy to take me back home and i will get an arranged marriage with a 16 year old!

[Raziel]

Good stuff.. I think many women get discriminated against because of age when it comes to marriage.. It's like once you hit a certain threshold 30+ if you aren't married by then, you're looked upon as a "past it".

:alhumdull Ukthi, there is No Age discrimination in Islam,

:sub: this deen is indeed full of solutions to all manner of sicknesses imposed upon by Mankind on themselves ...

:jkk:

[Amaara]

age is nothing but a number! I think it's really about wisdom, piety, attractiveness and the ability to communicate.

[proff]

By the polls... it looks like the brothers are ater the Sunnah more then the sisters (GET IN THERE YOU BROTHERS)

[Kubs]

By the polls... it looks like the brothers are ater the Sunnah more then the sisters (GET IN THERE YOU BROTHERS)

Eh? It's actually the same.

[Umm_Hanzalah]

MashAllah it appears that a lot of people on this forum are open minded, either that or they may change their minds in reality. A lot of people would also consider a divorcee mashAllah:

http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=156498&highlight=divorce

The problem is that in reality this is not the case. A lot of people don't want to marry divorcees or they don't want to marry a brother younger than them or won't marry a sister older than them. Reality is different and in reality most people wouldn't. I don't think the polls reflect reality.

[fisabilllillah]

the ultimate choice lies in the taqwaa of the individual..why look at age? age will fade..the asset lies in the strength of the islamic character.same with looks,

we are muslims not superficial people:up:

[Fitnah Bolice]

Eh? It's actually the same.

How exactly is it the same when only 6.12% of the votes (from brothers) state that they wouldn't marry someone older compared to 22.45% of sisters voted they would not marry someone younger?

[Umm_Hanzalah]

How exactly is it the same when only 6.12% of the votes (from brothers) state that they wouldn't marry someone older compared to 22.45% of sisters voted they would not marry someone younger?

Thing you have to understand is that those sisters might be very young, 15, 16, 17 18 etc. I think it's understandable at that age not to want to marry someone younger than yourself (for sisters). I mean it takes longer for bros to mature especially nowadays. People in general due to culture and society act younger than their age.

[Islamiyyah]

Thing you have to understand is that those sisters might be very young, 15, 16, 17 18 etc. I think it's understandable at that age not to want to marry someone younger than yourself (for sisters). I mean it takes longer for bros to mature especially nowadays. People in general due to culture and society act younger than their age.

Exactly. I am going to be 17 in June Insh'Allah and my husband is 25.

[Kubs]

How exactly is it the same when only 6.12% of the votes (from brothers) state that they wouldn't marry someone older compared to 22.45% of sisters voted they would not marry someone younger?

Ultimately the sisters who don't mind getting married to a younger bro.....is roughly the same as ......brothers who have no problem marrying an older sis.

In reality it may or may not be different.

[Umm_Hanzalah]

Exactly. I am going to be 17 in June Insh'Allah and my husband is 25.

MashAllah, may Allah bless your marriage sis. :)

[Amaara]

MashAllah it appears that a lot of people on this forum are open minded, either that or they may change their minds in reality. A lot of people would also consider a divorcee mashAllah:

http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=156498&highlight=divorce

The problem is that in reality this is not the case. A lot of people don't want to marry divorcees or they don't want to marry a brother younger than them or won't marry a sister older than them. Reality is different and in reality most people wouldn't. I don't think the polls reflect reality.

I agree..a person can feel that they can do this or that there is nothing wrong in doing this but they feel different when put in the situation.

[Metroid]

Nice necromancy in reviving a 1 year old thread:torture:

[BiroLX]

Yeah actually i m looking a woman who elder than me .. but must be palestine or iraq woman

[Eemaan]

as a wise woman said me me yesterweek, mature cheddar is good

[MMS]

as a wise woman said me me yesterweek, mature cheddar is good

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

[Eemaan]

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

you bloody better be right :torture:

[MMS]

you bloody better be right :torture:
they have more savings :up:

[Eemaan]

they have more savings :up:

:rubeyes: never thought of that.

good thinking batman.

[MMS]

:rubeyes: never thought of that.

good thinking batman.

now i ain't sayin ima gold digger

but... but i ain't dealing with no broke brothers

:outta:

[Eemaan]

now i ain't sayin ima gold digger

but... but i ain't dealing with no broke brothers

:outta:


^^ :smack: wait til hekmaa gets here, youre gonna deserve the telling off you get

older brotha no good though if he has the god given sense of a mountain goat tho :(

[MMS]

Hekmaa doesn't tell me off, he only tells you and CW off :hidban:

he knows i'm the sensible one :o

[Eemaan]

Hekmaa doesn't tell me off, he only tells you and CW off :hidban:

he knows i'm the sensible one :o

well maybe i should show him the PMs you just sent me about blokes with beards :o

this is for you when you find yer mahoolionaire :o

http://i117.photobucket.com/albums/o42/eemaany/funny-pictures-excited-proposal-cat.jpg

[MMS]

well maybe i should show him the PMs you just sent me about blokes with beards :o

this is for you when you find yer mahoolionaire :o

http://i117.photobucket.com/albums/o42/eemaany/funny-pictures-excited-proposal-cat.jpg

i have no idea what you are talking about :fairy:

[Abu Mus'ab]

:rotfl:

[Eemaan]

:rotfl:

grumps you know shes the evil one dont you? :( i always get told off

[MMS]

grumps you know shes the evil one dont you? :( i always get told off

whatever :rolleyes: i was all giving u good advise that you should marry a brother who has a beard as opposed to not because like hes following the sunnah and stuff :coolbro: and ur all trying to make it seem like im shady :torture:

[muslimma]

whatever :rolleyes: i was all giving u good advise that you should marry a brother who has a beard as opposed to not because like hes following the sunnah and stuff :coolbro: and ur all trying to make it seem like im shady :torture:

id have no problem accepting that...:p

[Redmist]

as a wise woman said me me yesterweek, mature cheddar is good

Yeh it is.....

^^ :smack: wait til hekmaa gets here, youre gonna deserve the telling off you get

older brotha no good though if he has the god given sense of a mountain goat tho :(

Your wit astounds me eemaan......sometimes.

[Lovetolaugh]

It is easy to be open minded when we are not committing to anything. Funny that on this website, many brothers say they don't mind older than them but then in real life, most Muslim bros generally want a woman between 5 to 15 years their junior.

[peace2u]

^^^ exactly! But there are exceptions :D


Peace

[FadlUH]

:salams

Personally I wouldn't mind marrying someone older than me as long as the age difference is within 5 years.

[MMS]

id have no problem accepting that...:p

lol look whose talking :eek: i wont mention that thing now or your gonna get into a strop again :o

[Te'oma]

It is easy to be open minded when we are not committing to anything. Funny that on this website, many brothers say they don't mind older than them but then in real life, most Muslim bros generally want a woman between 5 to 15 years their junior.

well my wife is older then I am...6 kids and 25 years later it seems to be working pretty well :D

[Lovetolaugh]

well my wife is older then I am...6 kids and 25 years later it seems to be working pretty well :D


Let me guess...she is 2 months older than you :up: