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[bit jelus]

im older than my brother, n i have never been allowed to visit friends house without gud reason or go shopping n just in general go out with them. bt my brother nw has hit the age wer he wants to go out with his frends n that n i dnt knw how 2 explain. but i just dnt think its fair. its frustratin.,.. i neva complain cos i dnt wana b a nuisance to my parents n i dnt have gut to argue with them which is what i wud have to do. i just dnt get why i dnt have as much freedom as my lil bro. im a gud person.

[YBWS2Z]

Your life before has made you the person you are today. What if when you was younger you enjoyed the freedoms your brother has taken for granted today. It may well be that today you would have turned out to be far from a 'good person'.

If you are a sister, then there are certain restrictions, some imposed by culture and some by religion. Leave the former and follow the later. You need to understand your rights, and the rights of your parents. Don't just take what is fed to you, research and read for yourself.

[NoLongerLost]

hmm have u asked ur parents y ur not allowed out and he is?

[neelu]

It isn't fair but it is normal in some families for parents to behave differently with their eldest child because that's their first experience of parenthood so they're overly cautious. Over time, if they learn to chill a bit, then they tend to become more lenient with the younger ones. My sister is in her 30s and she still complains about how I always seemed to be allowed to do more than her and she had to fight harder to get my parents to see sense on certain issues which paved the way and made things easier for me. I also think that she is a more compliant person whereas in my teens I had a tendency to be stubborn and argumentative more so there were times when that succeeded and my parents would become more lenient with me on certain issues.

In the long term, you'll have the last laugh inshallah because I can tell you my sister is now very strong and self reliant because she had to learn so many things on her own without the encouragement of the rest of the family. Unlike many other people, she doesn't need any spoon feeding as spoon feeding and being a spoilt child can seem cushy at home but in the outside world, it makes life all the more difficult.

[perfectpearl]

Its your fault then. Your the one that didnt discuss this issue with your parents. You should of discussed it. You just wanted avoid consequences. Your brother took the extra step : The risk. There is no one to blame here. Just ask your parents.

[THE PATH 2]

i presume youre female

the hypocrisy..double standards.in the asian/muslim community are quite apparent

though it must be accepted there are different shariah rulings for men and women..but the rights remain the same..

cultural shackles ..intermingled with "islamic " values


its a difficult situation..but young men too must address this problem and help their sisters..in islam and literally..

young sisters everywhere..state youre rights and ask for ..healthy/halal freedom


mums and dads...realize it is youre daughters whole lives and relationship with them you could be damaging

illleave it there for now:o