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[An0n1]

AsalaamOalaikum

This is the problem:

My dad does not care about his children or wife.
He does not work but is able to, he is very strong can carry two heavy suitcases, one in each hand. He does not stop to think that we are his kids, and my mum is his wife and she has a right for support, not that she should apply for benefits for the rest of her life. he seems to think his kids OWE HIM SOMETHING AND WE SHOULD BE GIVING HIM "POCKET MONEY" OR UPKEEP MONEY" but what for? he stays at home doesnt he, he chooses himself not to work, he does not give money to my mum, so why should he have money?!?! we all study and have debts to pay off, or are recently married with our own rent and bills to pay... what madness is this??

he does not even eat on the dinner table in the kitchen, 95% of his meals are eaten in front of the tv on his own while everyone else eats on the main table, he doesnt even clean the table after him sometimes or pick the dishes up, if he does not work, i dont c why this little task is a problem for him?
He even swears at my mother if the food is not made according to his liking, he has performed the haj twice.
a few months back one of my sibling got married, and he did not allow my mother to invite her own brother and kids to the wedding, marriage is a time of joy, and none of my mothers relatives were present at the wedding, instead half the hall was full of people I have never seen in my life (My dad invited all his friends and thier family, which is fine, but it is not fine when my mother is not allowed to invite her own brother)

my dad has even taken money from mine and siblings bank account my mom made for us in our background country, we was only around 11 or maybe under, and he took these books, and took the money and spent it on allah knows what for himself.

he does not pay for shopping, he only pays the tv bill, he spends most his time in front of the tv, or out with his firends.

once when i was a baby my mum was telling me how she made dinner for my older siblings, but my dad arrived with his friends and they ate all the food, so none was left for the little kids :'(

i mentioned before he swears at my mum if food is not to her liking, this is even in the holy month of ramadan. he is a man of over 50! also one time 2 years back there was an incident where one of my cuzns phoned, my dad said my cousin is on the phone and is asking if I have print paper, i said yes, but the printer is not working... he switched at this statement and swore at me, and i said dont swear at me, after he put the phone down, he came and beat me i was in a bit of pain :'(

he loves his own friends and relatives more than his family, i get so angry, i cant stand to be in the same room as him for too long,

i feel bad for my mum that she has to put up with him, my mum has even told him it is the role of husband to support wife, but he just brushed it aside and says "leave it" is this right, he has been haj yet knows hardly anything about islam. my mum does not have any friends here, and cannot speak proper english, she does everything, most of her day is spent in the kitchen because of my dad. she wastes her own benefit money for his dinner.

he is quick to give money to his relatives but cant even give his wife £10 a week for groceries.


sometimes i wish he would go back to his country of origin and stay there forever.

-cries-

[*Al-Qadr*]

:wswrwb:

Ya Allah, please do not cry.

This is v.sad and disturbing to read, have sabr and make lots of dua :insha:


Allah does not burden a soul beyond its scope

‘Is not He (better than your gods) Who responds to the distressed one, when he calls Him, and Who removes the evil, and makes you inheritors of the earth, generations after generations. Is there any ilah (god) with Allah? Little is that you remember!’ {Qur’an 27:62}

This life is nothing, although your father is nt v nice and you have to put up with him remember this:
The Prophet Muhammad :saw: said
‘If this world were worth the wing of a mosquito to Allah, He would not have given the disbelievers (even) a drink of water’

Even thought your dad does not follow islamic guidance when it is presented to him, be thankful that you know right from wrong

‘Nay, but Allah has conferred a favour upon you, that He has guided you to the Faith..’ [Qur’an 49:17]


Your dad will be accountable for his deeds in front of Allah (:insha: he will repent and become a better muslim, husband and father before though)

‘To them We shall pay in full (the wages of) their deeds therein’ [Qur’an 11:15]


I don't know what else to say :crying:


Anyone else have any input?

[*IslamicGirl*]

:start:

:wswrwb:


May I ask how old you are? You sound like you are in your teens or younger than that? I may be wrong. :)

It seems that there are a few cultural clashes too – why don’t you start with the little things in your home which your dad will have to respect for instance you say your dad watches tv 95% of the time – the 5% he doesn’t you can find out what time the Aadhan comes on and play that- the Aadhan comes on every Muslim channel Alhamduillah so take your pick :) This will :insha: have a positive effect :)

During the time the Aadhan is playing be firm with your family that no one should speak because if one speaks of worldly matters whilst the Aadhan is playing it’s a bad thing.

Also how regular is your family with regards to prayer – if your dad can see his children praying- he might be affected by this too.

He should know Islam’s stance on working in a halal manner- if you are fit and able you should work because SubhanAllah coming from me a student doing placement year there is a beautiful blessings and such sweetness in earning money from a hard day’s labour and Alhamdulillah knowing it’s earned in a Halal way and that Allah is pleased with this :inlove: :insha: :love:

Time passes quickly – what if your father passed away you would miss his presence and his company despite what you may think. Don’t let that day come when he won’t be there and your mind is full of regrets.

Make plenty of Dua but also what is required is knowledge and understanding. Maybe your dad had a rough childhood or there are other factors- I’m not gonna produce some analysis on your family because I am no shrink but just some advice from a sister is patience, Duas, understanding, and Islam is required :insha:

:wswrwb:

[imported_wicked]

salaam
oh boy i had similar things to u in my life, it hurts and it brings hatred too, so give dawah to ur father and tell him if he don't do good things and be a servent to allah and not be good to his kids and wife he will go to hell, plus make dua too allah for good, especially make dua before magrib starts prophet saw said allah will not reject the dua made before magrib ( before sunset ). i gave dawah to my father trust me and i did make dua which i never did before and alhumdulilah what my dad was doing stopped right after i made dua to allah for it. yes we still have problems but its gotten better, he gives us money too and pays our bills and we got islamic channel too, all because i asked allah for it, ask allah for everything, i do, allah will give inshallah, plus allah listens to them who praise him, so praise allah, say allahuakbar, alhumdulilah, subhanallah and of course u got to mean it, plus if u try to be all good for allah of course allah will help you, inshallah everything will get better.

[An0n.1.]

i m in my teens

my family prays regulalry, but when we read together, men at the front, and the prayer time is over but the rest of us read dhikr, dad just gets up and sits in front of the television, he doesnt read with the rest of us, he prefers the television

even in ramadan after the fardh p[rayer of maghrib (after the breaking of the fast) rest of us would say subhanalaah, alhamdulillah and some ayats from the quran, but he would quickly read 2 sunnah and get up and go to sit on the table to wait for my mom to finish reading and make him dinner and tea.

i mean like, he even swore at my moms parents and told them he dont care about his wife and kids, so we know he doesnt care.


please more replies:(

[Survivour]

:wswrwb:

I went through exactly the same situation as you. My mother worked her guts off raising us children and then ever since my father came to live with us from saudi arabia things changed.

Just like you my father would swear at my mum in public, even at the hospital when my sis got taken in seriously ill with a bad rare disease, threaten to hit her my mother infront of us, we called emergency services many times, he would beat my brother to the point my brother let out urine where he kicked him in the kidneys.

Just like you my father didn't like my mothers family and would curse them but was quick to send money to his family, would send all our benefits, my mum sometimes wouldn't have nothing to feed us for breakfast before school.

My fathers been hajj like 7,8,9 times many many times and umrah. My father knows about his deen enough for him to take responsibility but he chose not too.

There's a lot more I have witnessed as a child/young teenager I shouldn't have, but that is what Allah decreed for me and my family, there was nothing I can do.

It's hard and until your out of the situation like I am you will be constantly thinking in your mind.

I've been in your situation and this was happening for almost 6/7yrs, you just need sabr, Allah loves you and is testing you. He is preparing you for akhirat that is why he's giving you many trials and tribulations.

You do not know the wisdom behind Allahs actions, none of us do, but he is preparing you for something and all you can do is have faith in him, do not abandon your deen, keep making du'a, try help your mother out as much as you can, tell your mum hadiths and verses of qur'an which say do not dispear and that Allah tests the believers and that dunya is meant to be torment for the believer.

Make conversation with your siblings and distract them from their thoughts because shaytan will try play on it.

Stay up early in the morning and read qur'an, constantly read qur'an and do dhikr, do no waste a precious moments, because Alalh will eventually give you relief.

Don't cry and just be grateful Allah has tested you with this and that Allah loves you so just do all you can to pass this test. you obviously must have strong eeman hence why your trial is so big.

May Allah ease you and your families pain Ameen.
May Allah give you relief after your struggles, Ameen.
May Allah reward you and your family immensly and may you all be successful in these tribulations, Ameen!

wassalam

[neelu]

Don't give him money- ever! If you earn anything, hide it from him and make it look as though you've spent it already. How are your mother's family and what do they think? Do you get on with them? If so, I suggest you keep good ties with them behind his back because your dad is deliberately trying to cut you and your mother off from any form of support and that is wrong. Also in Islam we do not break ties with relatives like that. Is there anyone in the family who isn't scared of him who can stand up to him?

[bro again]

thats really bad of him but look at those who are living in worse conditions my dear sis/bro. there are many families who are living without a male guardian, ask them how they feel without one, trust me, they would say they wouldn't mind if they had a father like yours who wouldn't work but at least would live with them. i understand sometimes you might feel that better not to have such a father, i know that's quite natural when we are extra annoyed by such behaviour.

do one thing, forget that he's your father, imagine he's an spoilt child, because as you say hes in his 50s and its very hard for him to change, he wont change, 90% chances he wont, so dont waste your energy on him, stop annoying at him, maybe hes a psychological case, maybe he loves to annoy you people, and to hurt your mom and you guys is his hobby, so do what wouldn't please him, like ignore everything he does, suppose he watches tv all the time, don't care, let him watch the tv, but if possible sit in his company, or give him a cup of tea while hes watching tv, hopefully he'll think of you, i'm asking you sis/bro, do this, do make a cup of tea for him while hes watching tv, maybe you can do something to your family, maybe he can see a friend in you, maybe you can change him, so from today take him as a bad guy, and take him as a project, work on him, recite Quran, say prayers in time and make dua to Allah for His blessings on your family inshaallah.

keep in touch with us brothers and sisters, we are always here to give you a good advise inshaallah my dear sis/bro.

[perfectpearl]

May Allah help make it easy for you and the rest of the family that have to deal with this.

I mentioned this lots of times on this forum but it works the most.


Wake up in the middle of the night and pray. Cry and ask Allah to help with whats best. Ask sincerely. Inshaa Allah, Allah will help you.

[RashidD]

Could this be the work of sihr (magic) or jinn?

[ya-rehman]

i m in my teens

my family prays regulalry, but when we read together, men at the front, and the prayer time is over but the rest of us read dhikr, dad just gets up and sits in front of the television, he doesnt read with the rest of us, he prefers the television

even in ramadan after the fardh p[rayer of maghrib (after the breaking of the fast) rest of us would say subhanalaah, alhamdulillah and some ayats from the quran, but he would quickly read 2 sunnah and get up and go to sit on the table to wait for my mom to finish reading and make him dinner and tea.

i mean like, he even swore at my moms parents and told them he dont care about his wife and kids, so we know he doesnt care.


please more replies:(

your not alone sis.:(

[THE PATH 2]

young men ..as they are growing up need ..good FATHERS.. to lead by example

part of the problem is fathers who came before..a sad cycle carrying on

we muslims need to realize ..that to be god mums and dads needs education,discipline and spiritual guidance too..

to become a mother or father is easier

to be good FATHERS and MOTHERS..AS PARENTS..

is a learning process,challenge and EDUCATION..

whatever you do..please do not repeat the cyle..i see alhamdulillah..you do find youre fathers behaviour unacceptable

unfortunately..many find it normal
abnormal and unjust and most of all UNISLAMIC is what it is

MAKE SABR AND DUAS...THESE HABITS could be carried over from generations..forgive my assumptions:o

[wajiha10]

If he doesn't care about his wife, then why'd he marry her? Allah says that he gives hard times to the people he love to test them and they get many reward and peace afterward. So inshallah the hard times will pass, just ba patient.

*disturbed by sadness of story:( :( *

[Sun_shine]

very sad life story
I pray to Allah swt to gave guidance to All of us
yaa
where are you orignally from?

[WhiteNnerdy]

Dear AnOn1, I am sad to hear that your father behaves this way.

Allah listens to those in need, so call to him, and He will respond. He is as-Sami.

Allah ease our affairs and accept our duas amin.

[Destination]

dear sis

probably your dad is a psychological case and he enjoys to annoy his wife and kids, its better to stop responding to what pleases him, tell us how long hes been like that, for a long time or what, i think you should try my advices that
when he's watching tv go to him with a cup of tea, im sure hes gonna like that, try to get close to him, maybe hes expecting or waiting for someone whos friendly, maybe you can help change him, maybe you can do something positive towards your family and dad both.
i know its really annoying what he does but think again what happened if you didnt have this father, youd be alone without this tree, i know this is apparently a fruitless tree but still its giving you a shade, accept it or not, sometimes birds in this tree drop **** on you guys but still its there for you guys. no ones perfect, some people are naturally irresponsible, perhaps hes a very lazy person or expecting you all to help yourselves, treat him like a spoilt child and keep praying to Allah, inshaallah things will change in your favour, take care and be happy and keep everyone in the family happy with little jokes and smiles

your brother

[An0n..1..]

imported wicked: wow, subhanallah, thats great news ur dad changed. Not many people know what if feels like 2 have a parent like that, people dont realize how lucky they are, and fuss if there dad did not get them the latest phone.

Im happy that your father changed, mashallaah.
thanks for your help, will try it inshallaah.


survivor: :wswrwb:

I went through exactly the same situation as you. My mother worked her guts off raising us children and then ever since my father came to live with us from saudi arabia things changed.

Just like you my father would swear at my mum in public, even at the hospital when my sis got taken in seriously ill with a bad rare disease, threaten to hit her my mother infront of us, we called emergency services many times, he would beat my brother to the point my brother let out urine where he kicked him in the kidneys.

Just like you my father didn't like my mothers family and would curse them but was quick to send money to his family, would send all our benefits, my mum sometimes wouldn't have nothing to feed us for breakfast before school.

My fathers been hajj like 7,8,9 times many many times and umrah. My father knows about his deen enough for him to take responsibility but he chose not too.

There's a lot more I have witnessed as a child/young teenager I shouldn't have, but that is what Allah decreed for me and my family, there was nothing I can do.

It's hard and until your out of the situation like I am you will be constantly thinking in your mind.

I've been in your situation and this was happening for almost 6/7yrs, you just need sabr, Allah loves you and is testing you. He is preparing you for akhirat that is why he's giving you many trials and tribulations.

You do not know the wisdom behind Allahs actions, none of us do, but he is preparing you for something and all you can do is have faith in him, do not abandon your deen, keep making du'a, try help your mother out as much as you can, tell your mum hadiths and verses of qur'an which say do not dispear and that Allah tests the believers and that dunya is meant to be torment for the believer.

Make conversation with your siblings and distract them from their thoughts because shaytan will try play on it.

Stay up early in the morning and read qur'an, constantly read qur'an and do dhikr, do no waste a precious moments, because Alalh will eventually give you relief.

Don't cry and just be grateful Allah has tested you with this and that Allah loves you so just do all you can to pass this test. you obviously must have strong eeman hence why your trial is so big.

May Allah ease you and your families pain Ameen.
May Allah give you relief after your struggles, Ameen.
May Allah reward you and your family immensly and may you all be successful in these tribulations, Ameen!

wassalam


waleikumsalam, :( sorry to hear about your suffering and your mothers, may allah provide for her and you and your silbings abundantly in this life and definately the akhira ameen.

i guess it is a test, i do get angry and sometimes might say angry things about my dad to my mother. i should have sabr. i dont know, sometimes i c other peoples fathers giving them everything, paying for thier education, buying them cars, taking them on holidays and get a little jealous.

I will increase my dikr and quran reciting inshaallah, ameen to the dua and same to you ameen.

neelu - i dont give my dad money :) i am not earning (yet) and have my own debsts to pay off, inshaallaah when it is time to work my dad may open my letters, he always opens my mothers letters like there is going to be gold in there or something :@
my mum has her 3 brothers who live here, her parents and sisters are "back home" my dad hates one of my mothers brothers because he is successful (i think that is why) and he wouldnt let them come to the wedding, my dad is ok with one of my other mums brothers, but i dont know about the other. i havent seen one of my uncles from moms side in 4-5 yrs, other one i saw after 5 yrs, because my dad dont like him and when i was 14 or so and they was living nearby, we would go to visit (not dad) and dad would always put a mark on the calendar on the days we went, and then made a big fuss after a few weeks, his sisters and his wife came and there was some argument downstairs, i got angry and banged my foot on the floor to get them to quieten up, my dad got angry and came upstairs to hit me, my uncle saw this as he came after my dad :(
i know we should cut ties off in islam, but its hard sometimes.


perfect pearl: thanx, will try it inshallah

sunshine: ameen. my background is pakistani.

white n nerdy: thank u

destination: maybe he has psycho problems, he has a very short temper and is just annoys everyone, he thinks he should have everything his own way. my father doesnt provide shade, we live in a council house, in my moms name. dad pays no rent, he lives of mom and kids. i dont know if he can change, he is nearly 60, has been haj two times, knows tht he should provide (i think he does, 'coz mum has told him, and he goes mosque on friday). he should think more about what his purpose is in life and how to attain jannah, but there are some people who no matter how many times you tell them remain ignorant and arrogant. "they have eyes but cant see" "they have ears but cant hear"
i dont want to sound rude but sometimes i just see a wasted life, someone who cares for money and if his dinner is on time and wants everything his way. people like him make me sick :S


thank you all for your advice :)

may Allah keep us all on the sirat al sustaqeen, and grant us jannah. ameen.

[Destination]

you rightly said these are tests, dear sis, trust me they are good for your personal groom inshaallah, as they are telling you this world is a temporary flat which no one can buy, we get it on rent for as long as we live here, Allah is the most knowing and from what your suffering i can say He s.w.t is very kind towards you and your family, if your father was good maybe you or other siblings would be spoilt and wouldnt be close to Allah, now they are mashaallah and a good chance for you all to stand on your own feet inshaallah, your not depending on your father and going to make your lives on your own which is a positive thing. and yes look at those whose fathers are worse than yours, there are many fathers in the world who behave like animals, dont you listen to or read stories about them? be thankful to Allah always as He gave you a bad father but not the worst father, he could as well be like an animal but hes not, im sorry im using this word but im telling you the truth, your fathers just misguided, selfish, irresponsible blah blah, but trust me whatever he is he definitely loves you and others in the family, only that you havent seen this love so far, maybe the time comes and you will see that

cheers my sis, keep everyone in the family happy, especially your mom and moms are the most beautiful and loving creatures in the world, tell mom all these things your learning from us, your brothers and sisters and never be sad, you have all of us on your side inshaallah

your brother

[An0n1.]

thats really bad of him but look at those who are living in worse conditions my dear sis/bro. there are many families who are living without a male guardian, ask them how they feel without one, trust me, they would say they wouldn't mind if they had a father like yours who wouldn't work but at least would live with them. i understand sometimes you might feel that better not to have such a father, i know that's quite natural when we are extra annoyed by such behaviour.

do one thing, forget that he's your father, imagine he's an spoilt child, because as you say hes in his 50s and its very hard for him to change, he wont change, 90% chances he wont, so dont waste your energy on him, stop annoying at him, maybe hes a psychological case, maybe he loves to annoy you people, and to hurt your mom and you guys is his hobby, so do what wouldn't please him, like ignore everything he does, suppose he watches tv all the time, don't care, let him watch the tv, but if possible sit in his company, or give him a cup of tea while hes watching tv, hopefully he'll think of you, i'm asking you sis/bro, do this, do make a cup of tea for him while hes watching tv, maybe you can do something to your family, maybe he can see a friend in you, maybe you can change him, so from today take him as a bad guy, and take him as a project, work on him, recite Quran, say prayers in time and make dua to Allah for His blessings on your family inshaallah.

keep in touch with us brothers and sisters, we are always here to give you a good advise inshaallah my dear sis/bro.

thank you. yes, noone stops him from watching tv, he does that first thing when he wakes up to last thing before he sleeps. i havent made him tea in ages :$ i dno if that will work, i dont know, part of me gives up, but i do make dua everytime things change for the better.

you say i should think of those who have no male guardians, i have brothers. i doubt i will miss him say if he decides to go holiday back home for a few months. yes, it may seem bad thing to say, but im being truthful right now.

:) i will keep in touch inshallah, jazakumallahu khayra for your help.

Could this be the work of sihr (magic) or jinn?
maybe. but dont know whos doing it, his parents have passed away, his mother (my gran) was also known for being cruel towards my mum, tried to burn her once, and when i went back home and my cousin aswell (grans OTHER grandchild) my grandma and grandad bought gifts and things for my cousin, but not for me. I dont mean to sound spoilt, but we are both the grandchildren, is it right to favour one over another in islam?. his parents did not like my mother, so he (dad) is the same.

your not alone sis.:(
:( sorry to hear, make lots of dua, dont let it get to you and i will to for you :)

young men ..as they are growing up need ..good FATHERS.. to lead by example

part of the problem is fathers who came before..a sad cycle carrying on

we muslims need to realize ..that to be god mums and dads needs education,discipline and spiritual guidance too..

to become a mother or father is easier

to be good FATHERS and MOTHERS..AS PARENTS..

is a learning process,challenge and EDUCATION..

whatever you do..please do not repeat the cyle..i see alhamdulillah..you do find youre fathers behaviour unacceptable

unfortunately..many find it normal
abnormal and unjust and most of all UNISLAMIC is what it is

MAKE SABR AND DUAS...THESE HABITS could be carried over from generations..forgive my assumptions:o

yes, good parents do wonders for kids growing up, if your parents support you then you are bound to be successful in life (of course with the help of allah) and it increases confidence aswell i think, i have little self confidence and am extremely shy. inshallah i wont repeat the cycle of my dad, i can take this an an opportunity to learn from others bad points and mistakes.

If he doesn't care about his wife, then why'd he marry her? Allah says that he gives hard times to the people he love to test them and they get many reward and peace afterward. So inshallah the hard times will pass, just ba patient.

*disturbed by sadness of story:( :( *

he married her because it was arranged, it was the will of allah for them to marry, thats why they did. back then and people from olden ages dont know about istikhara much. or that they should look at a persons deen and stuff. not just because "my parents said and he or she is from same village" mentalilty.

thank you.


may allah bless all those who replied and protect us from such things, and give us a happy family life and make us good parents ourselves and strive for jannat al firdous.
ameen.

[AnOn1]

I meant i know we shouldnt cut off ties, not i know we should cut off ties ! ! !

[Survivour]

Anon1, have you got money to buy a book called, Don't be sad by Shaykh A'aiaadh Al Qarni.

Will help you so much, at times where you feel like you on the edge and you can't cope, you can read it to your mum and siblings when your father isn't around.

Maybe you father can read it? Maybe something is upsetting him and this is the reason for his behaviour.

I know the reason for my fathers behaviour was his older brother, demanding money all the time.

Like some others said, let us know what happens, and we your brothers and sisters in Islam, so you can talk to us and most of all Allah.

I admire your efforts and your strong will not to give in, so you are half ay there! Not long to go inshAllah!

Wasalaam

[An0n.1]

you rightly said these are tests, dear sis, trust me they are good for your personal groom inshaallah, as they are telling you this world is a temporary flat which no one can buy, we get it on rent for as long as we live here, Allah is the most knowing and from what your suffering i can say He s.w.t is very kind towards you and your family, if your father was good maybe you or other siblings would be spoilt and wouldnt be close to Allah, now they are mashaallah and a good chance for you all to stand on your own feet inshaallah, your not depending on your father and going to make your lives on your own which is a positive thing. and yes look at those whose fathers are worse than yours, there are many fathers in the world who behave like animals, dont you listen to or read stories about them? be thankful to Allah always as He gave you a bad father but not the worst father, he could as well be like an animal but hes not, im sorry im using this word but im telling you the truth, your fathers just misguided, selfish, irresponsible blah blah, but trust me whatever he is he definitely loves you and others in the family, only that you havent seen this love so far, maybe the time comes and you will see that

cheers my sis, keep everyone in the family happy, especially your mom and moms are the most beautiful and loving creatures in the world, tell mom all these things your learning from us, your brothers and sisters and never be sad, you have all of us on your side inshaallah

your brother

:) thanks, yes there are worse fathers out there, thats true.
And I can see what u mean, if my father spoiled us then we could turn out 2 b very annoying spoilt brats whoz onli care os this dunya.

[An0n.1.]

Anon1, have you got money to buy a book called, Don't be sad by Shaykh A'aiaadh Al Qarni.

Will help you so much, at times where you feel like you on the edge and you can't cope, you can read it to your mum and siblings when your father isn't around.

Maybe you father can read it? Maybe something is upsetting him and this is the reason for his behaviour.

I know the reason for my fathers behaviour was his older brother, demanding money all the time.

Like some others said, let us know what happens, and we your brothers and sisters in Islam, so you can talk to us and most of all Allah.

I admire your efforts and your strong will not to give in, so you are half ay there! Not long to go inshAllah!

Wasalaam

i have that book, its good.. my dad cant read english properly, and i dont think he would want to read it. i have never seen him read quran.

thanx :) inshallah

w.s.

[An0n.1.]

this life is only short, y cant some ppl c that

[Anon.1.]

its gon 2 far, he said rudely to mom "oh look at u reading ur tasbee" and slammed the door& wnt out coz he wantd her 2 buy some tomatoes cos he invited ppl arnd. i feel lyk running away sumtyms, or bashing him on the head so he becomes unconscious.HELP ME :'(

hes so chauvinistic selfish rude bossy arrogant cultured i dnt care if i neva c him agen

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i want2 run away :(