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Sister's husband left her 5 years ago. They got divorced in the English court. He refuses to give her talaaq. Sister wants to remarry but the lack of talaaq is an obstacle.
I have read somewhere where if the husband and wife are seperate and have no contact for over 6 months then this is an automatic talaaq. Can someone confirm this?
If untrue how can she go about getting a talaaq. Her ex has remarried and is leading his own life, he has no contact with her or their children.
Sister's husband left her 5 years ago. They got divorced in the English court. He refuses to give her talaaq. Sister wants to remarry but the lack of talaaq is an obstacle.
I have read somewhere where if the husband and wife are seperate and have no contact for over 6 months then this is an automatic talaaq. Can someone confirm this?
If untrue how can she go about getting a talaaq. Her ex has remarried and is leading his own life, he has no contact with her or their children.
U need to speak to a scolar about this issue insha Allah, its no small matter, and there are several issues there that need islamic rulings. :jkk:
ammarcool
25-06-07, 02:00 PM
Seems its very serious situation. Sister better to consult a Ulema.
Abandoned-Mind
25-06-07, 02:00 PM
Sister's husband left her 5 years ago. They got divorced in the English court. He refuses to give her talaaq. Sister wants to remarry but the lack of talaaq is an obstacle.
I have read somewhere where if the husband and wife are seperate and have no contact for over 6 months then this is an automatic talaaq. Can someone confirm this?
If untrue how can she go about getting a talaaq. Her ex has remarried and is leading his own life, he has no contact with her or their children.
You in the UK? if you are, I can help you by passing someones number who deals with this stuff.
You in the UK? if you are, I can help you by passing someones number who deals with this stuff.
yes i am in UK. Please pm the phone number
You in the UK? if you are, I can help you by passing someones number who deals with this stuff.
:jkk:
Why do men refuse to give talaaq if and his wife agree to divorce like this example?
Why do men refuse to give talaaq if and his wife agree to divorce like this example?
mysogonists are everywhere, and as its the only "control" they have left over u..they make u suffer till their bitter end..may Allah guide them amin.
mysogonists are everywhere, and as its the only "control" they have left over u..they make u suffer till their bitter end..may Allah guide them amin.
Then how can this be allowed if their only purpose or motivation is to make them suffer, when they are no longer - well, your husband?
There is a possibility that this sister will not marry and restart her life for a great deal amount of time, how is this fair on other women?
I accept that men are generally given, so to speak, "administrative" responsibilities in Islam to their women, or in this respect, "privileges", but I don't understand why when there are and have been so so many men who abuse these things.
It's similar to the divorcing via text message. Some women are so desperate they throw away their mobiles so they may never read the actual message and hence are still formally married as they rely on their husbands. It's terribly sad, and in a way, I'm glad I'll never have to go through that.
Then how can this be allowed if their only purpose or motivation is to make them suffer, when they are no longer - well, your husband?
There is a possibility that this sister will not marry and restart her life for a great deal amount of time, how is this fair on other women?
I accept that men are generally given, so to speak, "administrative" responsibilities in Islam to their women, or in this respect, "privileges", but I don't understand why when there are and have been so so many men who abuse these things.
It's similar to the divorcing via text message. Some women are so desperate they throw away their mobiles so they may never read the actual message and hence are still formally married as they rely on their husbands. It's terribly sad, and in a way, I'm glad I'll never have to go through that.
yep but islamically in an ideal world no husband would do that if he read the ayats of Allah warning him so strongly about the treatment of his wives, and how to go about divorcing them, subhanAllah its such a serious issue, but yea ideally if we lived in a shariah compliant land, then the qadhi would order the man to divorce his wife, or he may have the marriage annulled or give the wive khula depending on the circumstances, so sisters are only suffering this because we do not have people of knowledge running our communities in general today, few imams would even get involved, and people dont always feel free to go to them because of cultural and familie pressures and so on ...
from what i have read, if the husband agrees to divorce in court, the divorce is valid he does not need to utter the words talaaq for the divorce to take effect :scratch:
alialiyan
25-06-07, 03:35 PM
I just want through this last year and its not as hard ...can take a year but no need to let them see you are stressed.
what you need to do is:
contact sharia council london and apply for khulla and then they will run there process and a women can have a khulla if she has grounds for it
grab him ,
blindfold him
take him in a van
and make him say those words :D
alialiyan
25-06-07, 05:05 PM
“The great Imam ash-Shafi’, he went to his teacher Waki`
Complaining about the weakness of his memory.
He told him, ‘abandon rebellion, for knowledge is a light
And the light of Allah is not bestowed upon a rebel.”
I really like that and its soo true....since I have become a rebel my memory has weakned
grab him ,
blindfold him
take him in a van
and make him say those words :D
:rotfl:
mizfissy815
25-06-07, 06:31 PM
I just want through this last year and its not as hard ...can take a year but no need to let them see you are stressed.
what you need to do is:
contact sharia council london and apply for khulla and then they will run there process and a women can have a khulla if she has grounds for it
^ What he/she said.
She has every right to get a Khula' in such a case; she needs to take the issue to whoever is responsible for the Muslim community in your region.
Medievalist
25-06-07, 06:40 PM
She needs to contact ulama. She should take the divorce papers that the court issued with his sig on. She may well already be divorced and free to marry - getting divorced in english courts also counts depending on the wording but she is going to have to get reliable Ulama to look at her case.
May ALLAH have mercy on her and her children - ameen
heaven2002
25-06-07, 07:38 PM
ameen
i feel very sorry for her
she is being oppressed:(
in our family , the men would go round and make him give the khula:torture:
Inshallah if she succeeds in getting talaaq/khula from him, make sure she gets some kind of paperwork to confirm it. I know in Islam a verbal contract is valid but evil men who want to exercise control would attempt to throw a spanner in the works. I know a brother who wanted to marry a divorcee and on the wedding day, her ex husband turned up claiming that he was still married to her. She had to get hold of her paperwork to shut him up and the wedding was able to take place.
“The great Imam ash-Shafi’, he went to his teacher Waki`
Complaining about the weakness of his memory.
He told him, ‘abandon rebellion, for knowledge is a light
And the light of Allah is not bestowed upon a rebel.”
I really like that and its soo true....since I have become a rebel my memory has weakned
yeah :torture:
:rotfl:
geez its happened:o
sunny_skies
25-06-07, 09:36 PM
This happens quite often, some husbands are just so stubborn! It is easy for this sister to gain a divorce (KHULA) through a Shariah Council. They will do everything on her behalf and issue her with an Islamic divorce certificate. Contact the Shariah council in Leyton for more details, there are some very helpful brothers working there.
If you need anymore information please PM me. I hope the sister gets everything sorted soon Insha allah :)
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