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[ibn suleman]

when did weddings get so complicated :rubeyes:

the walimah
the wedding day
the rukhsati
the mehndi
the pre walimah day
the pre wedding day
the pre-pre walimah day
the pre-pre wedding day
the pre-pre-pre ....ah u get the picture
post wedding day

[K h a l i l]

when did weddings get so complicated :rubeyes:

the walimah
the wedding day
the rukhsati
the mehndi
the pre walimah day
the pre wedding day
the pre-pre walimah day
the pre-pre wedding day
the pre-pre-pre ....ah u get the picture

What about the post wedding day??

[ibn suleman]

What about the post wedding day??

added :up:

[sunrise]

What about the post wedding day??


yeah don't forget the during and the all the post this and that's...enjoy:up:

doesn't it just make u wanna get married right now (Not! lol):D

[Raziel]

when did weddings get so complicated :rubeyes:

the walimah
the wedding day
the rukhsati
the mehndi
the pre walimah day
the pre wedding day
the pre-pre walimah day
the pre-pre wedding day
the pre-pre-pre ....ah u get the picture
post wedding day

:smack: :outta:

:jkk:

[ibn suleman]

and not to mention the costs nowaday

i know sumone who took a loan of £50000 for a wedding :shock: :rubeyes:

[sunrise]

:banghead: so much for making the halal easy and the haram hard:smack:

[Raziel]

and not to mention the costs nowaday

i know sumone who took a loan of £50000 for a wedding :shock: :rubeyes:

Astagfirullah! :smack:

mines probably gonna cost me around half that, and thats still too expensive... :smack:

:jkk:

[sunrise]

Astagfirullah! :smack:

mines probably gonna cost me around half that, and thats still too expensive... :smack:

:jkk:


why man! r u inviting half of Pakistan or something???

[uhkt_al'muminun]

when did weddings get so complicated :rubeyes:

the walimah
the wedding day
the rukhsati
the mehndi
the pre walimah day
the pre wedding day
the pre-pre walimah day
the pre-pre wedding day
the pre-pre-pre ....ah u get the picture
post wedding day

lol... honestly talk about ppl complicating their lives :rolleyes:

[ibn suleman]

*note to self- have simple wedding* :D
*note to others- no, im not getting married right now* :p

[sunrise]

lol... honestly talk about ppl complicating their lives :rolleyes:


defo and why do u need a loan for a wedding man!!

[OBL]

If you want a a nice, simple, cheap wedding go back home and get married. Don't get married in this country to much of a hassle.

[sunrise]

If you want a a nice, simple, cheap wedding go back home and get married. Don't get married in this country to much of a hassle.


what if ur not both from the same country? might not be convenient for both parties

also who said u cant have one here and not be broke! just be wise and don't buy and do things u dont need! just so people can say oh 'yusuf and Nasreen's' wedding was so nice he must come from a wealthy family ohhhh'

who cares!

[Raziel]

why man! r u inviting half of Pakistan or something???

Nah sis, it's this cultural baggage, hirin limo's and this and that, paying big time to the bridegrooms side, it's like my dad doesn't look at the bank balance ... it's just a give as much as possible situation.... :smack:

:jkk:

[Raziel]

*note to self- have simple wedding* :D
*note to others- no, im not getting married right now* :p

so you keep tellin us bro... :D

I wonder why? ... :D

You sure you aren't engaged yet? :D

:jkk:

[GuCcI]

u didnt mention pre-mehendi day....... isnt that the day wen most of the huss and fuss take place :p


me... i hav a problem ... all my wedding plans for next summer are ruined :crying:

[sunrise]

Nah sis, it's this cultural baggage, hirin limo's and this and that, paying big time to the bridegrooms side, it's like my dad doesn't look at the bank balance ... it's just a give as much as possible situation.... :smack:

:jkk:


giving is goos. but it's not appropraite..it will just place strain on u for the rest of ur life...paying off a loan for years to come..it's infringes on a marriage big time and also u wana be broke for the first ten years of ur married life?:torture:

[Raziel]

giving is goos. but it's not appropraite..it will just place strain on u for the rest of ur life...paying off a loan for years to come..it's infringes on a marriage big time and also u wana be broke for the first ten years of ur married life?:torture:

Too late for that sis, much of it is beyond my control, parent already arranged much of it, I have no choice but to pay for it.... :smack:

Insha'allah I hope I don't get broke...

:jkk:

[Raziel]

u didnt mention pre-mehendi day....... isnt that the day wen most of the huss and fuss take place :p


me... i hav a problem ... all my wedding plans for next summer are ruined :crying:

why is that sis? :scratch:

:jkk:

[ibn suleman]

ok seems like i musta missed out quite a few

so you keep tellin us bro... :D

I wonder why? ... :D

You sure you aren't engaged yet? :D

:jkk:

:smack: yes im sure :p

[Raziel]

ok seems like i musta missed out quite a few

:smack: yes im sure :p

come on bro, get a move on, when you gonna get married? :D

:jkk:

[sunrise]

Too late for that sis, much of it is beyond my control, parent already arranged much of it, I have no choice but to pay for it.... :smack:

Insha'allah I hope I don't get broke...

:jkk:

yh i hope 4 u2 lol! and all the other bros out there...honestly i thought arabs were outlandish and some people just take the biscuit:torture:

[Raziel]

yh i hope 4 u2 lol! and all the other bros out there...honestly i thought arabs were outlandish and some people just take the biscuit:torture:

Pray to Allah Subhana Uta'ala for me sis... :o

:jkk:

[ibn suleman]

come on bro, get a move on, when you gonna get married? :D

:jkk:


im going to...............sleep :p

was-salaamu alaykum :D

[Raziel]

im going to...............sleep :p

was-salaamu alaykum :D

Wa-Alaikum-Salam-Warahmatullah!

lol! :D

May Allah subhana Uta'ala join my bro in Marriage to a Pious Muslimah, ASAP! :D

:jkk:

[GuCcI]

why is that sis? :scratch:

:jkk:


http://ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=129860

[`asiya]

when did weddings get so complicated :rubeyes:

the walimah
the wedding day
the rukhsati
the mehndi
the pre walimah day
the pre wedding day
the pre-pre walimah day
the pre-pre wedding day
the pre-pre-pre ....ah u get the picture
post wedding day

:rubeyes: jahil nonsense..

and not to mention the costs nowaday

i know sumone who took a loan of £50000 for a wedding :shock: :rubeyes: spending that amount of money on a wedding and all these batil so called "ceremonies" its beyond a joke, we are not supposed to be wasteful with money and to spend that amount.. its a crime, especially if people are taking out loans to marry!! if u cant afford to get married without taking out a loan, then theres something wrong. seriously as the prophet salAllahu alleyhi wa salam said we are following them straight down the lizard holes...

If you want a a nice, simple, cheap wedding go back home and get married. Don't get married in this country to much of a hassle.

are you serious? if what u mean by "home" is india or pakistan then i havent seen anyone spend as they spend on a wedding , even when they havent got the money ... :rolleyes:

[peace2u]

:eek: all that just to say "I do" ??? no wonder people are not in a rush to get married.


Peace

[Sulaiman Harun]

if you get married in Pakistan you'll pay like £100,000!! (converted value from rupees)!!

[Supernova Nebula]

all this cultural baggage sometimes makes a walimah like a joke or something.

[PiElle]

hmmm... is that what is holding some brothers from asking for my hand.... :D

[ibn suleman]

Wa-Alaikum-Salam-Warahmatullah!

lol! :D

May Allah subhana Uta'ala join my bro in Marriage to a Pious Muslimah, ASAP! :D

:jkk:

ameen :o

:rubeyes: jahil nonsense..

spending that amount of money on a wedding and all these batil so called "ceremonies" its beyond a joke, we are not supposed to be wasteful with money and to spend that amount.. its a crime, especially if people are taking out loans to marry!! if u cant afford to get married without taking out a loan, then theres something wrong. seriously as the prophet salAllahu alleyhi wa salam said we are following them straight down the lizard holes...



are you serious? if what u mean by "home" is india or pakistan then i havent seen anyone spend as they spend on a wedding , even when they havent got the money ... :rolleyes:

its true..spending beyond ones means is extravagance and showing off

[-Fady-]

my bro got married and all together he probably spent $5000 (AUD) thats probably including half the furniture... that 50000 is way toooo much :o

[sunrise]

my bro got married and all together he probably spent $5000 (AUD) thats probably including half the furniture... that 50000 is way toooo much :o


lol it's does sound more reasonable that 50.000 pounds but yeah extravagence isn't the point of a weddin'

[-Fady-]

lol it's does sound more reasonable that 50.000 pounds but yeah extravagence isn't the point of a weddin'

wait how much is 50000 pounds in AUD?

[sunrise]

my bro got married and all together he probably spent $5000 (AUD) thats probably including half the furniture... that 50000 is way toooo much :o


five thousand...or fifty thousand?


50,000.00 GBP

=

117,997.85 AUD

[-Fady-]

and not to mention the costs nowaday

i know sumone who took a loan of £50000 for a wedding :shock: :rubeyes:

^^ that and thats Euros yeah?

[sunrise]

^^ that and thats Euros yeah?


its POUNDS thats why its got a pound sign in front of it:up:

[-Fady-]

its POUNDS thats why its got a pound sign in front of it:up:

yea i just didnt know if that sign meant euros or pounds.....so dat means its bout $118000 AUD?

[angel*]

why man! r u inviting half of Pakistan or something???

half of bangladesh actaully!:p soz culdnt resist the jibe!!!

*note to self- have simple wedding* :D
*note to others- no, im not getting married right now* :p

:rolleyes: same here!:p


If you want a a nice, simple, cheap wedding go back home and get married. Don't get married in this country to much of a hassle.


Mmmm nope, not nesc. true, infact i think u end up spending more there. We went bk "home" 4 my sis'z wedding, at the end it cost us 3z as much as it would have over here. I think thingz just get way out of control over there with all the cultural stuff taking 1st place, Yep Razzy, know eher ur cumming 4rm thats how my parents were when my sis got married!!!!

[Bint Yusuf]

Asalamu Alaykum

Ridiciulous, post this pre that subhanAllah.

My uncle(20yrsold) back home in somaliland got married in a lil hut(yeh seriously in their own homes, them lil straw houses) where they live in the desert, with some orangejuice, dates and lil henna(mendhi) for tha bride, this was their walima!

£50,000!!! I swear that's a sin!:rolleyes:

Wasalaam

[Raziel]

half of bangladesh actaully!:p soz culdnt resist the jibe!!!

:smack: only if Half the Population of Bangladesh is a couple hundred people... :o

Mmmm nope, not nesc. true, infact i think u end up spending more there. We went bk "home" 4 my sis'z wedding, at the end it cost us 3z as much as it would have over here. I think thingz just get way out of control over there with all the cultural stuff taking 1st place, Yep Razzy, know eher ur cumming 4rm thats how my parents were when my sis got married!!!!

unfortunately much of it is beyond my control... :smack:

I wish it was a straightforward marriage...



:jkk:

[Raziel]

Asalamu Alaykum

Ridiciulous, post this pre that subhanAllah.

My uncle(20yrsold) back home in somaliland got married in a lil hut(yeh seriously in their own homes, them lil straw houses) where they live in the desert, with some orangejuice, dates and lil henna(mendhi) for tha bride, this was their walima!

£50,000!!! I swear that's a sin!:rolleyes:

Wasalaam

:sub: :D

thats what I call a marriage... :o

you know sis, sometimes I envy the life people used to have, simple and straightforward, without all these hassles we have to deal with nowadays...

:jkk:

[Raziel]

if you get married in Pakistan you'll pay like £100,000!! (converted value from rupees)!!

:nervous: you scarin people of from gettin married man... :smack: :outta:

:jkk:

[Fais]

Asalamu Alaykum

Ridiciulous, post this pre that subhanAllah.

My uncle(20yrsold) back home in somaliland got married in a lil hut(yeh seriously in their own homes, them lil straw houses) where they live in the desert, with some orangejuice, dates and lil henna(mendhi) for tha bride, this was their walima!

£50,000!!! I swear that's a sin! :rolleyes:

Wasalaam

Wa Alaikum Salaam,

Its only a sin if you dont have that much money and you go out of your way to spend that much and be extravagant. :0:

[urban_rose]

Wa Alaikum Salaam,

Its only a sin if you dont have that much money and you go out of your way to spend that much and be extravagant. :0:

and show off about it at the same time...

[angel*]

Asalamu Alaykum

Ridiciulous, post this pre that subhanAllah.

My uncle(20yrsold) back home in somaliland got married in a lil hut(yeh seriously in their own homes, them lil straw houses) where they live in the desert, with some orangejuice, dates and lil henna(mendhi) for tha bride, this was their walima!£50,000!!! I swear that's a sin!:rolleyes:

Wasalaam

:rubeyes: wow! i want sumthing simple like that!!! Mmmm desert=Sahara!:p

[Raziel]

Wa Alaikum Salaam,

Its only a sin if you dont have that much money and you go out of your way to spend that much and be extravagant. :0:

ahum... spending that much is Extravagance... spending more than necessary Excessively is Extravagance...

and you certainly don't need £50, 000 to get hitched... :smack: thats way over kill...

so how much you gonna spend on your marriage? :D

:jkk:

[jinokhanum]

i want a simple islamic wedding- but that's not gonna happen- it'll end up like a typical cultural thing *rolleyes*

[Fais]

and show off about it at the same time...

Is there anything wrong with a billionaire spending a Million on his wedding?

I dont think there is. How can there when Allah (SWT) has given him that money. Or ya'll think he earned all that himself?

However like i said .. if a person can barely scrape £50,000 or takes out a loan ... Then thats wrong IMO.

ahum... spending that much is Extravagance... spending more than necessary Excessively is Extravagance...

and you certainly don't need £50, 000 to get hitched... :smack: thats way over kill...

so how much you gonna spend on your marriage? :D

:jkk:

Bro ... Ill spend as little as possible Inshallah ... and then spend the rest on something useful .. maybe Umrah or Hajj .. or something. :D ... What you think :D.

[urban_rose]

Is there anything wrong with a billionaire spending a Million on his wedding?

I dont think there is. How can there when Allah (SWT) has given him that money. Or ya'll think he earned all that himself?

However like i said .. if a person can barely scrape £50,000 or takes out a loan ... Then thats wrong IMO.
.

:smack: i was agreeing with you, i meant that if you show off about it then its a sin, otherwise if you have the money then its up to you...

[`asiya]

ahum... spending that much is Extravagance... spending more than necessary Excessively is Extravagance...

and you certainly don't need £50, 000 to get hitched... :smack: thats way over kill...

so how much you gonna spend on your marriage? :D

:jkk:

what do people need to spend on in reality though..brides parents buy her a pretty dress, and on the nikah day u dont need anything other than the walli going to the brother and giving him his daughter/wards hand in marriage in front of two witnessess and thats it ...nikkah over, u are now married...

and all thats left to do now is for the husband to make sure that he has arranged to have a sheep slaughtered ready for the wallima... so how much is that..maybe about £80 down the market for a whole one, the bros family can cook it up, and present it at the wallima the day after the nikah

so whats all the other stuff for :scratch: isnt it just extravagant. wouldnt the money be better spent on bros and sisters who are suffering around the world..

[Fais]

:smack: i was agreeing with you, i meant that if you show off about it then its a sin, otherwise if you have the money then its up to you...

:rotfl: .. Sorry my bad :D.

Yes definitely agree with you there.

[Bint Yusuf]

:sub: :D

thats what I call a marriage... :o

you know sis, sometimes I envy the life people used to have, simple and straightforward, without all these hassles we have to deal with nowadays...

:jkk:

salaam

yeh mashAllah, am going to have the same inshAllah over there or tha equivalent over here:) I mean people should start a marriage off by pleasing alalh ta'ala right.

barakAllahu feek

Wa Alaikum Salaam,

Its only a sin if you dont have that much money and you go out of your way to spend that much and be extravagant. :0:

Salaam

Even if it isn't a sin, I still wouldn't do it even if I had that kinda money.

:rubeyes: wow! i want sumthing simple like that!!! Mmmm desert=Sahara!:p

MashAllah, me too inshAllah.

Wasalaam

[Kal-El]

Gucci what your father wants to do is absolutely amazing :up: Please go along with it and realise how wonderful that idea is.

Fancy wedding? It's just ONE day. Have a wonderful memory that you, along with those people in the village, will never forget.

Mashallah, I cant believe your father wanted to do that.:up:

[Raziel]

Bro ... Ill spend as little as possible Inshallah ... and then spend the rest on something useful .. maybe Umrah or Hajj .. or something. :D ... What you think :D.

Great Idea!

spend little on the Weddin, then spend a lot on your wife... she deserves it:D

:jkk:

[Raziel]

salaam

yeh mashAllah, am going to have the same inshAllah over there or tha equivalent over here:) I mean people should start a marriage off by pleasing alalh ta'ala right.

barakAllahu feek

Salaam


:wswrwb: sis, and :jkk: Ditto, I agree with ya totally... :D

[GuCcI]

Gucci what your father wants to do is absolutely amazing :up: Please go along with it and realise how wonderful that idea is.

Fancy wedding? It's just ONE day. Have a wonderful memory that you, along with those people in the village, will never forget.

Mashallah, I cant believe your father wanted to do that.:up:



BECUZ its one day i want it my way :( i just wish there was a way for the village people to get the foood and i could get my halll :(

[Raziel]

what do people need to spend on in reality though..brides parents buy her a pretty dress, and on the nikah day u dont need anything other than the walli going to the brother and giving him his daughter/wards hand in marriage in front of two witnessess and thats it ...nikkah over, u are now married...

and all thats left to do now is for the husband to make sure that he has arranged to have a sheep slaughtered ready for the wallima... so how much is that..maybe about £80 down the market for a whole one, the bros family can cook it up, and present it at the wallima the day after the nikah

so whats all the other stuff for :scratch: isnt it just extravagant. wouldnt the money be better spent on bros and sisters who are suffering around the world..

Ditto sis, but see the thing is, most of it is beyond our control and pre-arranged... :o

we got no choice but to pay up... :smack:

:jkk:

[ify]

Ditto sis, but see the thing is, most of it is beyond our control and pre-arranged... :o

we got no choice but to pay up... :smack:

:jkk:
lol - yeh, mst of it is out of the brides/grooms hands as th parents mstly sort evry thin out.....n payin up is alwys th hard part lol

[Raziel]

lol - yeh, mst of it is out of the brides/grooms hands as th parents mstly sort evry thin out.....n payin up is alwys th hard part lol

Ditto sis... :o

:jkk:

[Fais]

Salaam

Even if it isn't a sin, I still wouldn't do it even if I had that kinda money.

Wasalaam

Neither would i, But by me or you or anyone wanting something in a specific way doesn't mean other things are wrong. You know what i mean?

Great Idea!

spend little on the Weddin, then spend a lot on your wife... she deserves it:D

:jkk:


LOL, ... Well .. Not quite :outta: .. but Yea i know what you mean :D.

[ify]

Neither would i, But by me or you or anyone wanting something in a specific way doesn't mean other things are wrong. You know what i mean?




LOL, ... Well .. Not quite :outta: .. but Yea i know what you mean :D.

oy lol - wodu mean nt quite - huh! :D ;) i'll hav u no us wmn r v. deservin....:D Raziel gt th rite idea lol:up:

[Raziel]

oy lol - wodu mean nt quite - huh! :D ;) i'll hav u no us wmn r v. deservin....:D Raziel gt th rite idea lol:up:

Ditto sis... :D

sis I think he means he ain't hitched yet, (i think He will be soon...) as soon as he is, he'll be spendin... he better be, otherwise... :torture: :torture: :torture: :buttkick:

:jkk: :D

[Raziel]

LOL, ... Well .. Not quite :outta: .. but Yea i know what you mean :D.

you better!!! otherwise... :buttkick:

:jkk:

[Kal-El]

That's selfish of you Gucci :( You have a lifetime with your husband and inshallah an enternity, why on Earth would you deny that one day be shared with others in need?

Life, let alone marriage, isn't about the wedding day. It's about your marriage and life with that man.

Make it a memorable day for everyone and ignore the hall, or if you want, have a 2nd walimah in the future

[GuCcI]

That's selfish of you Gucci :( You have a lifetime with your husband and inshallah an enternity, why on Earth would you deny that one day be shared with others in need?

Life, let alone marriage, isn't about the wedding day. It's about your marriage and life with that man.

Make it a memorable day for everyone and ignore the hall, or if you want, have a 2nd walimah in the future



im not being selfish i want to feed them poor people too, i just want my hall :( is it really too much to ask for being the only daughter and oldest child in the family? :crying: is it reeeallyyy asking for too much to hav a standard wedding in a hall .... even without my limo or horsedrawn carriage :(