Advice Needed Please

[MuslimGirly]

Assalamu Alaykum,

I am a sister who really wants to get married, but I'm too shy to let anyone know officially. I've indirectly hinted it to my mum a few times but would never be able to mention marriage (in relation to myself) to my dad. It would be too embarassing.

Finding a partner myself would be ok with my parents, but would I not need to let them know that I'm on the look-out first? I don't want to suprise them. THey don't know that I secretly want to get married.

I know that there are brothers who would like to marry me but won't propose because I'm working towards my degree and think that I'd turn them down. They may also find my dad a little scary lol. So how do I make myself seem available, so to speak? I need your advice brother and sisters.

[Medievalist]

Speak to your mother or a cousin sister or an aunty and ask them to speak to your parents. Stay away from boys.

[Prosperous]

Walaikum Assalaam,

Sister you need to go talk to your mother, if this topic can me discussed on a public forum then InshAllah i think you have enough courage. Also what do you mean "So how do I make myself seem available"? that doesn't sound right, please correct me if i've got that wrong.

Walaikum Assalaam

[MuslimGirly]

Walaikum Assalaam,

"So how do I make myself seem available"? that doesn't sound right, please correct me if i've got that wrong.

Walaikum Assalaam

I just want brothers to know that I'm available for marriage, even though I am studying. Studying is not a barrier to marriage for me, although it would seem so to many.

[GuCcI]

Also what do you mean "So how do I make myself seem available"? that doesn't sound right, please correct me if i've got that wrong.

Walaikum Assalaam


thats becuz she siad that guys think she will turn them down cuz of her degree.

everyone finds my dad scary too. no guy dares to look at me in front of my father :torture:

wat i think u should do is tell a sibling to mention it to ur parents or a friend to bring it up with ur mom. i wouldnt talk to my aunts or something cuz i dont trust them :rolleyes: but if u trust ur aunt, go for it :up:

[RashidD]

Perhaps bring up marriage in an offhand way and ease into it...

Like get Muhammed Al-Shareef's lecture, How To Be An Outstanding Wife (Brothers there's a husband's version as well lol) and then mention that you're listening to it in a casual convo and then they might ask why or get onto the topic InshaALLAH and then you when in convo InshaALLAH you can say something like ah well, you know generally everyone wants to get married and i'd like to too soon so better start preparing... Or something like that and I'm hoping InshaALLAH you and your folks can take it from there.

May ALLAH Ta'aala grant you a pious spouse, ameen.

[perfectpearl]

Best way is to tell someone you feel comfortable with to tell your parents.