Feel Sick

[dazed]

Asalamualaikum,

Over the past week or so, I've been suffering emotional distress. I was told something that shook me, and has left me still as I type this shaking in tears. I can barely sleep, or have enough courage to lay on my bed because I seem to cry myself to sleep every night like a child. I curl myself as tightly as I can to the bed sheets as hopeless it is.

I listen to Nashe'eds to help, but they don't. I can't speak to anyone about how I feel because I choose not to go through the pain whenever I can help it. I haven't eaten for sometime, and whenever I do I regurgitate.

This memory I have in me is rotting me inside. I can't focus on my prayers; people look at me with pride when I shed tears in Salaah, thinking it's out of pure sincerity, but those tears have nothing to do with my prayers. I don't even think they're being accepted - I can't get anything to help me with this nightmare.

It hurts too much and I'm not even allowed the luxury for time to heal it as I can't get it out of my mind despite trying everything. I can get no satisfaction or moment of peace.

I don't know what to do..

[_Muslim_]

Assalamu alaikum

Insha Allah make these duas for distress. Remember not give up and May Allah ease your pain and have the tranquility of emaan in your heart.

http://makedua.com/display_dua.php?sectionid=35

[ADZ w3]

:salams

ok, i know its hard and i know it hurts when ur doing it and remembering or talking about stuff that really really emotional effects u, trust me its better to get it off ur chest..as then only will one be able to give better advice as in terms of how to deal wid the problem which seems to be this news which shook u.

[RaNdOm]

Asalamualaikum,

Over the past week or so, I've been suffering emotional distress. I was told something that shook me, and has left me still as I type this shaking in tears. I can barely sleep, or have enough courage to lay on my bed because I seem to cry myself to sleep every night like a child. I curl myself as tightly as I can to the bed sheets as hopeless it is.

I listen to Nashe'eds to help, but they don't. I can't speak to anyone about how I feel because I choose not to go through the pain whenever I can help it. I haven't eaten for sometime, and whenever I do I regurgitate.

This memory I have in me is rotting me inside. I can't focus on my prayers; people look at me with pride when I shed tears in Salaah, thinking it's out of pure sincerity, but those tears have nothing to do with my prayers. I don't even think they're being accepted - I can't get anything to help me with this nightmare.

It hurts too much and I'm not even allowed the luxury for time to heal it as I can't get it out of my mind despite trying everything. I can get no satisfaction or moment of peace.

I don't know what to do..

:wswrwb:

“No misfortune or disease befalls a Muslim, no worry or grief or harm or distress – not even a thorn that pricks him – but Allaah will expiate for some of his sins because of that.” (Agreed upon. Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5641)

honest man u gotta see this as ur test... and for that hurt inshaAllah ur bein forgiven too! this whole world is a collection of tests for u to go through to see where ur outcome will be inshaAllah and u gotta work ur hardest for it to be jannah inshaAllah

“Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: ‘We believe,’ and will not be tested.

And We indeed tested those who were before them. And Allaah will certainly make (it) known (the truth of) those who are true, and will certainly make (it) known (the falsehood of) those who are liars, (although Allaah knows all that before putting them to test)”
[al-‘Ankaboot 29:2-3]

as a believer ur life is gna be a constant struggle cos in every situation ur gonna be working to stay away from the evil and work towards the good inshaAllah and once u start seeing everything as a test its much much easier... every atoms good and every atoms worth of bad is recorded so u gotta try to do ur best in every situation ur presented with inshaAllah...

sometimes, i know this is a bit lame :o but u ever seen the matrix? like how everything aint real and all the people just believe it is, well sometimes i think thats kinda like this world... this worlds just a form of deception, everything in it... its all fake... and thats what uve got to keep telling urself so u can detach urself from things that upset u cos u know that it's all a test and that inshaAllah ur only working for the everlasting hereafter...

“And whoever is removed away from the Fire and admitted to Paradise, he indeed is successful. The life of this world is only the enjoyment of deception (a deceiving thing)”
[Aal ‘Imraan 3:185]

sometimes tests in our lives push us closer to Allah swt cos its a means of reassessing how we're doin in terms of our goal of achieving paradise one day inshaAllah...

“And indeed We seized them with punishment, but they humbled not themselves to their Lord, nor did they invoke (Allaah) with submission to Him” [al-Mu’minoon 23:76]

so take a good look at ur life and think of anywhere u might be failing in ur duty towards Allah swt, repent and try and correct urself and then rest assure that Allah's mercy is near...

“When a person repents, Allaah rejoices more than one of you who found his camel after he lost it in the desert.” (Agreed upon. Narrated by al-Bukhaari, no. 6309)

Surely, Allah's Mercy is [ever] near unto the good-doers [7:56]


And never give up hope of Allah's Mercy. Certainly no one despairs of Allah's Mercy, except the people who disbelieve. [12:87]


It may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know. [2:216]
and instead of nasheeds try replacing it with Quran...:coolbro:

[Somebody~]

Asalamualaikum,

Over the past week or so, I've been suffering emotional distress. I was told something that shook me, and has left me still as I type this shaking in tears. I can barely sleep, or have enough courage to lay on my bed because I seem to cry myself to sleep every night like a child. I curl myself as tightly as I can to the bed sheets as hopeless it is.

I listen to Nashe'eds to help, but they don't. I can't speak to anyone about how I feel because I choose not to go through the pain whenever I can help it. I haven't eaten for sometime, and whenever I do I regurgitate.

This memory I have in me is rotting me inside. I can't focus on my prayers; people look at me with pride when I shed tears in Salaah, thinking it's out of pure sincerity, but those tears have nothing to do with my prayers. I don't even think they're being accepted - I can't get anything to help me with this nightmare.

It hurts too much and I'm not even allowed the luxury for time to heal it as I can't get it out of my mind despite trying everything. I can get no satisfaction or moment of peace.

I don't know what to do..

:wswrwb:

I'm not good at explaining things, but think about it this way,

Is what your thinking about worth the emotional stress your facing? would thinking about it change how certain circumstances are? or change your perceptions on them? what difference can it make on you and your life when thinking about these things? If the answer is nothing, other than what your feeling right now then think, why?? why am I letting myself feel as if there's no hope! when where the belief in Allah is present - there is always hope! Allah has blessed each and everyone of us beyond what we can ever count or imagine. Why should we waste the time Allah's given us remembering things which cause us to think negatively when there is just so much to appreciate about life and Allah's bounty!

you've got to realise, that its all in your head. What you think about will pretty much determine how you feel. If you think that thinking about certain things doesn't make you feel right or 'sick', then why bother even thinking about it? Yeh. some things are hard not to think about especially if they've some how caused a major alteration to your life. However what has happened cannot be changed. The past will always remain as the past, and if you let it haunt you , you're only going to hurt yourself especially if its something you don't want to remember.

In regards to your prayer, you cry? Perhaps its a good thing though, while you are shedding tears in prayer, try to get out of thinking that its other things that are the cause in making you cry, and take the advantage of your state of grief/anxiety to call Allah! When you think of Allah, and how you know he is aware of your condition, it will help you feel relieved in a way. Cry your eyes out if it helps! but while doing so don't forget to be in the remembrance of Allah, and of His Mercy upon you. Especially at this time remember the things you've got to be grateful for regardless of how big your other problems may seem! Allah's blessings upon us are just simply too great , they out weigh the things we still long for and this should disintegrate other feelings of being 'sick' etc because you simply can't ignore all that which Allah has given you with every breathe you take!

Our Duas don't go unanswered, and you have been afflicted with these feelings because you can bear them. Its now upto to you now, to challenge the feelings which the shaytaan instigates and adopt ways in which you can get rid of them. When you feel you have to cry yourself to sleep, why not then get up at that time of night, and perform Qiyam ul-Layl. Especially at that part of the night, when Allah descends into the lowest heavens, listening out for the believers who are in need of his help and favour. In Allah is your salvation. All the answers to your problems is in calling and confiding to Allah! Don't underestimate the power of Dua and the blessings in Allah's will and devine decree! as with its acceptance will we then find peace and the reward if not in this life then, in the Hereafter.

If you've been mis fortuned with wealth (a blessing) , remember you still have your health. Take advantage of what you have already, rather than being deluded in wanting things you don't have. Just like all feelings of depression and sadness , these will also, with time, go away. Its up to you how much you do to either prolong the way you feel or help in getting rid of them simply through your actions.

[jinokhanum]

yes brother/sister i sometimes feel like locking myself up or killing my self- because i feel so much hate and pain, but really it's a test and by starving yourself and not doing something about it, you will not gain anything from it-

[a brother]

Asalamualaikum,

Over the past week or so, I've been suffering emotional distress. I was told something that shook me, and has left me still as I type this shaking in tears. I can barely sleep, or have enough courage to lay on my bed because I seem to cry myself to sleep every night like a child. I curl myself as tightly as I can to the bed sheets as hopeless it is.

I listen to Nashe'eds to help, but they don't. I can't speak to anyone about how I feel because I choose not to go through the pain whenever I can help it. I haven't eaten for sometime, and whenever I do I regurgitate.

This memory I have in me is rotting me inside. I can't focus on my prayers; people look at me with pride when I shed tears in Salaah, thinking it's out of pure sincerity, but those tears have nothing to do with my prayers. I don't even think they're being accepted - I can't get anything to help me with this nightmare.

It hurts too much and I'm not even allowed the luxury for time to heal it as I can't get it out of my mind despite trying everything. I can get no satisfaction or moment of peace.

I don't know what to do..
no worries bro, your life's chaning now, that's the beginning, because what you say above is as im reading my own story, kind of, this is good for life man, i passed through the same phase in the past months and inshaallah this will bring good for you, dont listen to nasheeds, listen to Quran, read Quran, spend your time in the mosque, this period of your life is a type of overhauling of your body, time has come for the bad things to come out of your shell, and inshaallah you will fill your body and your soul with love of Allah, as that's the only love which exist in the world, all forms of love other than that of Allah, perish sooner or later. and your weeping during prayers is such a beautiful thing you will realize after sometime, these tears are in fact clearing your heart from the love of dunya, love of those who don't love you.

[THE PATH 2]

when it feels like no one in the world can help..and in essence that is really what imaan is..

THAT ONLY ALLAH DOES EVERYTHING..

talk to allah...yes not just dua and prayers ..talk to HIM:)

REMEMBER ..he is our rabb..THE ..only power to do ANYTHING


talk and cry to him..alhamdulillah as you are doing..

and make this dua..

"grant me total ease and comfort in this world and the hereafter
make me able for every eventuality in life..but remember i am weak and not worthy of any test ..YA ALLAH

inshaallah