Age Gaaaap ?

[talib ul islam]

So for the married ones, what's the age gap between you and your spouse?

And those of us looking what are your age limit's?

Would the brother's consider marrying a sister who is older then them say 3, 5 or years older?

To the older sisters would you consider proposals from younger guys? if so how much younger?

And to the younger/youngish sisters what's your limit, how many years older would you consider?


Just doing a little friendly research:) just trying to guage current trends:confused:

[$HugoBoss$]

My fiance is one year younger than me, i wouldn't mind even if she was 5 or 6 max.

[.: hayat :.]

So for the married ones, what's the age gap between you and your spouse?

And those of us looking what are your age limit's?i would like the idea not him having more than 27 yrs(as me have 22..) but if Allah wanna be older than ..

Would the brother's consider marrying a sister who is older then them say 3, 5 or years older?

To the older sisters would you consider proposals from younger guys? if so how much younger?i think 1 yr as i would feel too old if bigger difference and would have mum behaviour and i do not wanna be his mum but his wife:inlove:

And to the younger/youngish sisters what's your limit, how many years older would you consider?i would like the idea not him having more than 27 yrs(as me have 22..) but if Allah wanna be older than ..

Just doing a little friendly research:) just trying to guage current trends:confused:

smwhere between them...

[Bint Yusuf]

no more than 4yrs older khalas, i wouldn't consider younger full istob.

[Eemaan]

a bloke could be 10 years older than you and still have the emotional intelligence of an egg.

it doesnt matter :zzz:

Its this old chestnut: Implementation of the deen and buffness :inlove:

[K h a l i l]

Well.. my dad is ten years older than my mum..

[$HugoBoss$]

Well.. my dad is ten years older than my mum..

Bro but these days that doesn't happen to much, people want to be within the 5 year gap. My dad is also older than my mom, about 8 years or so.

[Honey87]

I suppose it depends at the age you're getting married. Say a bro is getting married at 16/17, his wife is likely to be close in age.

I think age matters more when you're young and becomes less important as you grow older.

[Nazias]

I am five years younger! Nice gap methinks! :inlove:

[Kubs]

Best age gap would be maximum 3-4 years :up:

[talib ul islam]

Bro but these days that doesn't happen to much, people want to be within the 5 year gap. My dad is also older than my mom, about 8 years or so.

True it doesn't happen to much but ocassionally it does, my cousin sister married at 19 and her husband was 29, this was about 8 years ago.

[talib ul islam]

a bloke could be 10 years older than you and still have the emotional intelligence of an egg.

it doesnt matter :zzz:

Its this old chestnut: Implementation of the deen and buffness :inlove:


Yep true:D but isn't it more likely to be the other way round that, the older guy is he is more in tuned with his emotions, more mature, more intelligent(OK this one is debatable) more clued up (you know of what the wifey expects/wants?), and last but not least more appreciative so more committed:):confused:

[ify]

(/QUOTE) And to the younger/youngish sisters what's your limit, how many years older would you consider?


Just doing a little friendly research:) just trying to guage current trends:confused:[/QUOTE] - lol



Well, i'd say i like sum1 hus atleast 2yrs olda - no younger lol - i think maturity cumz in2 it.......:love:

[MG]

age gaps are well overated and taken waaaayyy to seriously, it boils down to deen and character, some older bros are better than the younger ones in this and some times younger bros are better than older bros in this capacity so whats age?...........nothing but a number :D

[ify]

age gaps are well overated and taken waaaayyy to seriously, it boils down to deen and character, some older bros are better than the younger ones in this and some times younger bros are better than older bros in this capacity so whats age?...........nothing but a number :D

umm, i get wot ur sayin, but i think i'd still (personally yeh) perfer a guy who's olda than me b cuz i think i'd respect him mre n it'll kinda make me think wer on the same wave length - maturity wise....:)

[Raziel]

a bloke could be 10 years older than you and still have the emotional intelligence of an egg.

:smack: How could you hold the bro's in such low estimates !!! :torture: :torture: :torture:
it doesnt matter :zzz:

your right there, age does not matter...

Its this old chestnut: Implementation of the deen and buffness :inlove:

:jkk:

[Lambo5688]

I would like the age gap to be 4 years max. I think it would be really cool if we were the same age!

My parents are two years apart.

I know this uncle who is forty-something and his wife aka "aunty" is 21. She told my sisters that when she was born, her husband graduated from high school. Not that there is anything wrong with it...its just that that was his first marriage.

[ify]

I would like the age gap to be 4 your max. I think it would be really cool if we were the same age!

My parents are two years apart.

I know this uncle who is forty-something and his wife aka "aunty" is 21. She told my sisters that when she was born, her husband graduated from high school. Not that there is anything wrong with it...its just that that was his first marriage.
4yrs sounds gud lol

[Jihaan]

ummm not to sure about someone younger but i wouldnt mind upto um say 4 yrs older

[MMS]

ummm not to sure about someone younger but i wouldnt mind upto um say 4 yrs older

u shud have just stopped at 'i wouldnt mind' :o

[Lambo5688]

u shud have just stopped at 'i wouldnt mind' :o

:rotfl:

[sunny_skies]

Like people mentioned above, the age has no bearing whatsoever in Islam. It is all to do with personal choice.

My husband is 6 years older than me and I think this is a great age-gap Alhamdulillah :) and we've been married five years now :inlove:

Some of the younger guys I was introduced to before my hubby... I just found immature in their approach/attitude towards marriage.

[Jihaan]

u shud have just stopped at 'i wouldnt mind' :o

allow stalking ones posts
arr i dont even knw what to say 2 dat lolll :rubeyes:

[Eemaan]

allow stalking ones posts
arr i dont even knw what to say 2 dat lolll :rubeyes:

at least you wont have to photoshop you husband inshallah Jinn. :D

you'll have a real life one with a pulse and his own real beard :love:

:there:

[heaven2002]

id marry someone who was ten/twelve years older than me if he had all the qualities i was lukin for

[Ibn Khattab]

i think i wudnt mind someone same age as me or younger but if an opportunity came for someone maybe a couple years older than i wudnt mind as well alhamdulilah.

[MMS]

at least you wont have to photoshop you husband inshallah Jinn. :D

you'll have a real life one with a pulse and his own real beard :love:

:there:

even an illustrated husband with no eyes would marry u, he'd sense ur ugliness its so strong :rotfl:

[Lambo5688]

i think i wudnt mind someone same age as me or younger but if an opportunity came for someone maybe a couple years older than i wudnt mind as well alhamdulilah.

lol you want someone older? thats cool I guess.

[Jihaan]

even an illustrated husband with no eyes would marry u, he'd sense ur ugliness its so strong :rotfl:

lolll

:o
hey ive never asked you before, would you marry someone younger than you?

[Lambo5688]

...

[Eemaan]

even an illustrated husband with no eyes would marry u, he'd sense ur ugliness its so strong :rotfl:

that doesnt make sense Miss illiterati 2007

PMS, go marry wajid from bhalwaphur :D

stop hanging on to photoshop dude, hes not real :(

[Lambo5688]

that doesnt make sense Miss illiterati 2007

PMS, go marry wajid from bhalwaphur :D

stop hanging on to photoshop dude, hes not real :(

yea I always wondered why MMS has these cartoon figures in her avatar? Is that like her fantasy world?? Perfect husband with gread beard and thobe? and is the hijabi supposed to be her or something....

[`asiya]

hmm i dunno maybe id marry someone 12-15 years older or younger. It all depends not on the persons age but on their outlook. U could marry a young guy who acts like an old bloke never wants to go anywhere or do anything, or u could marry an older man who has more enthusiasm for living than someone half their age. anyway if it worked for Muhammad salAllahu alleyhi wa salam and his wives, then no reason why age should become a restriction for us today insha Allah.

[Eemaan]

yea I always wondered why MMS has these cartoon figures in her avatar? Is that like her fantasy world?? Perfect husband with gread beard and thobe? and is the hijabi supposed to be her or something....

no shes much bigger than that :o think Rosanne but not as thin

hence her delusions :(

[Lambo5688]

hmm i dunno maybe id marry someone 12-15 years older or younger. It all depends not on the persons age but on their outlook. U could marry a young guy who acts like an old bloke never wants to go anywhere or do anything, or u could marry an older man who has more enthusiasm for living than someone half their age. anyway if it worked for Muhammad salAllahu alleyhi wa salam and his wives, then no reason why age should become a restriction for us today insha Allah.
Yea.:up:

But some people like to act waaayyyy beyond their age lol.

no shes much bigger than that :o think Rosanne but not as thin

hence her delusions :(

ooh ok. no wonder. Someone call a psychiatrist....

[MMS]

lolll

:o
hey ive never asked you before, would you marry someone younger than you?

i canny find a mature 30yr old :(

no shes much bigger than that :o think Rosanne but not as thin

hence her delusions :(

har har :torture:still beats being ugly :torture:

[talib ul islam]

i think i wudnt mind someone same age as me or younger but if an opportunity came for someone maybe a couple years older than i wudnt mind as well alhamdulilah.

yeah same here:up:

I'm 3*cough* something (as if I'm gonna reveal my age:)) anyway My sister tried to set me up with one of her new friends who is 35 (a few years older then me:) ), but she said no I was to young:(

[Ibn Khattab]

lol you want someone older? thats cool I guess.

i sed i wudnt mind lol. but depends on other factors too:up:

[Loobna]

my dad is six years older than my mum - when we were younger we used to joke to them and say that when my dad was in starting school my mum was just a tiny baby and stuff - I suppose the gap closes a lot when you get older :) when we mention the gap now my mum just says '...and hes still not mature enough for me!' lol

I suppose I wouldnt want someone very much older than me, six years max I guess :) younger than me ...well I actually would consider it i think ...parents probably wouldnt agree *makes mental note to add this to discussion list*... not very much younger but I dont see anything wrong with about up to two years younger (prob because I act like such a kid myself that ppl have trouble believing me when I tell them my age!) - depends on the maturity of the person I suppose:)

[umm_yusuf]

Ideally I would want someone who is between 5 to 10 years older than me but no more than that. I think that runs in my family for my dad was 9 years older than my mum.

My grandfather had three wives and the youngest was my grandmother (Aishah) who was 9 when he married her and he was in his early Fifties. So when she gave birth to my father, his other wife's son (my uncle) was having his third child.

My mum said that he used to play with her like the Rassul :saw: did with Aishah and he used to buy her dolls and stuff. His other wives taught her how to cook and clean and be a wife..

[mizfissy815]

Max.-10 yrs...min.-exactly my age...generally. Exceptionally amazing men would get special consideration if they don't fit into the above range.

[belal1]

u people are too picky....

if the sister is good, she's mature, she's a practicing muslimah, and she can love ur parents, then even if she's 10 years older than you it wouldn't matter....:inlove:

[angel*]

A few yrz older no masla,

round about the same age, wkd,

younger, nu uh.

[Medievalist]

I'd marry older again but not right now. Its gud to have variety. One wife who's same age, one who's a bit older, one who's a lot younger, lol.

[urban_rose]

A few yrz older no masla,

round about the same age, wkd,

younger, nu uh.

erm, yeah, ditto :D

[nami]

I'm 2 and a bit years older.

[Raziel]

I'm 2 and a bit years older.

lol! I'm like 5 years older bro... :outta:

:jkk:

[alld]

Well.. my dad is ten years older than my mum..

I don't think he requires 2nd marriage

[algharib]

My honest view is that i think the brother should be 10 years older than the sister, off coures that's if he's passed the age of 25. Though there are exceptional cases where u find amazing muslimahs that are nyour mates or even older, in that situation its better not to let the uktii slip because of some age issue. We should have it at the forefront of our thoughts to always do the right things at the right time and know what is best for the particular situation and as well as what is best for our lives. May Allah guide us to make the right choices,amin.

[nami]

lol! I'm like 5 years older bro... :outta:

:jkk:

i don't think age matters that much. it just so happens that she's only 2 years younger. :)

[Raziel]

i don't think age matters that much. it just so happens that she's only 2 years younger. :)

I agree bro... :D

:jkk:

[jus'me]

Min difference 2yrs....Max:...6...:up:

[Raziel]

Min difference 2yrs....Max:...6...:up:

there is No min-max, so long as the person is of a marriagable age...

the restrictions are made up by people themselves...

:jkk:

[Lost_Princess]

theres this saying mind over matter which simply means in this case that his age is nothing if he has the qualities of being the right guy/girl for you but in my case i would like it to be a couple of months to three years older than me and thats the maximum no negotiating full stop im only 18 for crying out loud and btw i still have uni and a degree to pursue so im not worried about it oh ok i am just abit i dont want to get married now but its wat allahs written down for me and i cant change that :):)

[Lambo5688]

Same age is the coolest!

[MsMuslimah]

I think 4 years either way (younger or older) is good enough.. but it really depends on the bro :up:

[jus'me]

Same age is the coolest!

Nuh-uh!....guys are pretty immature...:D ..they do generally mature (mentally) later than women...

[Raziel]

Nuh-uh!....guys are pretty immature...:D ..they do generally mature (mentally) later than women...

:smack: ... :torture: :torture: :torture:

typical of sis's to generalise...

:jkk:

[RUKU]

my dad was 20-25yrs older than my mum:rubeyes: ...she got married when she was 14.
personally, for me that would be tooo much of an age gap. for me 6 yrs is the max.

[heaven2002]

^^ was the age gap ever a prob?

[RUKU]

^^ was the age gap ever a prob?

nope, alhamdullah my parents got on really well...considerin that my mum was kind of emotionally blackmailed by her parents! my mum and dad were cousins. my dad passed away around 8yrs ago. my mum wos my dads second wife.

[heaven2002]

age is nothing but a number mashallah
sorry about your father
what was it like being child from 2nd wife?
did u get on with children from the other marriage?

[RUKU]

age is nothing but a number mashallah
sorry about your father
what was it like being child from 2nd wife?
did u get on with children from the other marriage?

to be honest i didnt really know about da other wife and kids because when my dad married my mum he divorced the other wife so me n my brothers didnt really see or know about them. its only when my dad passed away my step brothers and the 1st wife came to see my family. i was introduced with my step brothers...from that moment onwards we'v been in touch...they always come around. i'm sooo grateful that i have other older brothers cos at the time of my dads death me n my brothers were really young.

[heaven2002]

sorry sis i misunderstood
i thought u meant ur dad had two wives at the same time
glad ur ok:up:

[RUKU]

lol, dnt worri sis heaven 2002. trust me i was bare confused when i wos introduced to my step brothers...i wos lyk!?! :rubeyes: but alhamdullah things happen for a reason! :up:

[ur_yusra]

He's one and a half years older.. but you wouldn't notice..

[bint]

my parents have 10 months apart :D

[silk_chocolate]

Salaaams,

The age gap between myself and my fiance is just over 10 years but it doesn't make any difference.

[heaven2002]

^^^ ma'shallah :up:

[talib ul islam]

Salaaams,

The age gap between myself and my fiance is just over 10 years but it doesn't make any difference.

Yep MashaAllah:up:

So what was it that made you choose him?

[*hayat*]

Salaaams,

The age gap between myself and my fiance is just over 10 years but it doesn't make any difference.

wow mashallah, thats nice the way you are thinking...:up:

[silk_chocolate]

Yep MashaAllah:up:

So what was it that made you choose him?

Alhamdolilah we get on really well...the age has never mattered. He is wise, mature and clued up. I also know that he will look after me.

He always says that he can't even tell their's such a huge gap between us. People had their concerns including my parents but now alhamdolilah my parents praise him more than they praise their own children! He is everything my parents wanted...educated, earning a good income, mature and prays 5 times a day.

I am a sinful person but Alhamdolilah Allah has given me more than I could have asked for...everyone should remember the age gap between the Prophet (PBUH) and Hazrat Aisha (RA).

[heaven2002]

^^^ ma'shallah
did you find that ur freinds or relatives like uncles/aunties were sceptical?