Giving up the Single lifestlye!

[sis_niqabi]

Salam

is it really hard for a single sis/bro to make the transaction from a single lifestyle to a married one?

i keep on thinking about things i have to give up when i married. like i will have to cook for two or more people instead of one. or i have to get up at a reasonable time in the morning. and how i have to make decisions based on what will effect my family and not just me anymore.

[$HugoBoss$]

Salam

is it really hard for a single sis/bro to make the transaction from a single lifestyle to a married one?

i keep on thinking about things i have to give up when i married. like i will have to cook for two or more people instead of one. or i have to get up at a reasonable time in the morning. and how i have to make decisions based on what will effect my family and not just me anymore.

I feel the same way, i'm trying to prepare myself or you can say train myself to becoming a more responsible person. I'm gonna miss the uni life as well, hanging out with friends all the time, social life etc.

[Supernova Nebula]

Salam

is it really hard for a single sis/bro to make the transaction from a single lifestyle to a married one?

i keep on thinking about things i have to give up when i married. like i will have to cook for two or more people instead of one. or i have to get up at a reasonable time in the morning. and how i have to make decisions based on what will effect my family and not just me anymore.

not really.

[Lambo5688]

You gotta do it sooner or later. No avoiding it. :D

[Nazias]

:inlove: Makes you less selfish/lazy! :o

[Raziel]

Salam

is it really hard for a single sis/bro to make the transaction from a single lifestyle to a married one?

i keep on thinking about things i have to give up when i married. like i will have to cook for two or more people instead of one. or i have to get up at a reasonable time in the morning. and how i have to make decisions based on what will effect my family and not just me anymore.

Shouldn't we be doing them anyway?

Helping our parents cook, perform the chores, whenever we have the time?

Get up early in the Morning (Especially to Pray Fajr) ?

Not be Selfish?

:sub: if Marriage makes one do those then Alhumdulillah, it's a great bonus indeed... :D

:jkk:

[.: Anna :.]

Salam

is it really hard for a single sis/bro to make the transaction from a single lifestyle to a married one?

i keep on thinking about things i have to give up when i married. like i will have to cook for two or more people instead of one. or i have to get up at a reasonable time in the morning. and how i have to make decisions based on what will effect my family and not just me anymore.

its not so hard.
things like cooking for more instead of one, if ur doing for one anyway then the extra amount of effort is basically nothing :)
plus u will get benefits out of marriage is not just about having to do more things. but also just 2 let u know, just cos ur married doesnt mean u cnt do nethings which u used 2 enjoy :)

[Eemaan]

another reason not to get shaadified :zzz:

on a more positive note, what can you not to anymore once married that you did when single?

:eek3:

[nami]

Shouldn't we be doing them anyway?

Helping our parents cook, perform the chores, whenever we have the time?

Get up early in the Morning (Especially to Pray Fajr) ?

Not be Selfish?

:sub: if Marriage makes one do those then Alhumdulillah, it's a great bonus indeed... :D

:jkk:

Could not agree more! :up:

[ursister]

you do have to become more responsible, but you can still chill out and stay up late at your friends house, usually couples visit each other and in that way your wife is not stuck at home alone. when you have kids you have to think of them first, so enjoy each others company while it lasts.

[aisha2007]

Salam

is it really hard for a single sis/bro to make the transaction from a single lifestyle to a married one?

i keep on thinking about things i have to give up when i married. like i will have to cook for two or more people instead of one. or i have to get up at a reasonable time in the morning. and how i have to make decisions based on what will effect my family and not just me anymore.

why should it be hard? you are with the person you love....talking, laughing, enjoying your time together with no restrictions.
yes you have to get up at a reasonable time....its called Fajr? And then to work?
And in a way don't you make decisions that affect your family already...if you are living at home, don't you consider the time you get home or if you should call so as not to upset the parents? Thats considering people other than yourself?

[sis_niqabi]

why should it be hard? you are with the person you love....talking, laughing, enjoying your time together with no restrictions.
yes you have to get up at a reasonable time....its called Fajr? And then to work?
And in a way don't you make decisions that affect your family already...if you are living at home, don't you consider the time you get home or if you should call so as not to upset the parents? Thats considering people other than yourself?

well i get up for fajr but i go back to sleep afterwards:outta:

maybe i should start staying up after fajr

[heaven2002]

Salam

is it really hard for a single sis/bro to make the transaction from a single lifestyle to a married one?

i keep on thinking about things i have to give up when i married. like i will have to cook for two or more people instead of one. or i have to get up at a reasonable time in the morning. and how i have to make decisions based on what will effect my family and not just me anymore.

if u get married to someone as lazy as you (:p ) then it shudnt be a problem

[aisha2007]

well i get up for fajr but i go back to sleep afterwards:outta:

maybe i should start staying up after fajr


staying up after fajr is the best time of the day to read quoran...no distractions and set yourself up for the day....personally I spend an hour reading a surah with my husband and discussing it and then having breakfast and going to work.
its not hard...its nice

[talib ul islam]

Salam

is it really hard for a single sis/bro to make the transaction from a single lifestyle to a married one?

i keep on thinking about things i have to give up when i married. like i will have to cook for two or more people instead of one. or i have to get up at a reasonable time in the morning. and how i have to make decisions based on what will effect my family and not just me anymore.

Yeah was thinking along those line's myself, I've just started Looking myself (to get married) and just coming to terms with the lifestyle change:)

can't do what you want when you want:(
Can't quit the Job you hate:(
Can't get out of bed when you like:(
Have to keep everything Tidy:(
Can't stay out chilling with the brothers till Fajr:(
Can't get a Motorbike:(

Cant just Drop everything and go on a world tour, which I will probably never do, but you can if you want too if you get what I mean:)

But then again, you are willing to sacrifice these freedoms for the pro's innit:D (well I am anyway)

You will have a best friend and companion for life so will never be lonely:):inlove:
You will have someone to listen to your lame story's:D
You will have someone to nag:(
You will have someone to lift you up when you're feeling down:rolleyes:
You will have someone to throw that glass of water or pillow in your face at fajar when your being lazy:D
And best of all, you will Inshallah have those little entertainment thingamy bobs oh yeah they are called children:D:inlove: (gonna have at least 10:D)

I could go on but you get the gist of it right:)

And not forgetting you will be fulfilling half of your deen:up:

(Damn I need to get married ASAP)

[Raziel]

another reason not to get shaadified :zzz:

on a more positive note, what can you not to anymore once married that you did when single?

:eek3:

Is it cause You will no longer be a Diner Lady , sis? :D :outta:

:jkk:

[LFC]

Try living by yourself, really helps and prepares you. Whether it's a job or uni campus, it teaches you responsilibility.

[angel*]

You gotta do it sooner or later. No avoiding it. :D

*nods in agreement* :up:



you do have to become more responsible, but you can still chill out and stay up late at your friends house, usually couples visit each other and in that way your wife is not stuck at home alone. when you have kids you have to think of them first, so enjoy each others company while it lasts.


Getting married dont mean everythingz gonna b really serious with everything cumming with a "do this and dont do that". Married life aint that dif. or i dont think it is, the only major dif. is u have a few more ppl to think about thas all.


Try living by yourself, really helps and prepares you. Whether it's a job or uni campus, it teaches you responsilibility.


Yep. it most surely does.

[S@Z]

Salam

is it really hard for a single sis/bro to make the transaction from a single lifestyle to a married one?

i keep on thinking about things i have to give up when i married. like i will have to cook for two or more people instead of one. or i have to get up at a reasonable time in the morning. and how i have to make decisions based on what will effect my family and not just me anymore.
Lol! that's kinda cute sis :)

ermm...i reckon it's gonna be hard but adjustments have to be made...either that or life will be so very monotonous :zzz: and anyway, you'll gradually get used to the new life [post-marriage]

and look at the brighter side - you retain the right of not cookin ;)

[ur_yusra]

Salam

is it really hard for a single sis/bro to make the transaction from a single lifestyle to a married one?

i keep on thinking about things i have to give up when i married. like i will have to cook for two or more people instead of one. or i have to get up at a reasonable time in the morning. and how i have to make decisions based on what will effect my family and not just me anymore.

Not to mention you'l be let down.

[Raziel]

Not to mention you'l be let down.

so theres a Guarantee of being let down by your Hubby is there? :eek3:

what if your the one who Lets him down?

This is typical of many people they blame each others spouses, thinking themselves free from blame...

:jkk:

[Benyamin]

I'm in Uni, youthful and I'm happily married ALhamdulilah!!! The fun just never ends Alhamdulilah:D

[ur_yusra]

so theres a Guarantee of being let down by your Hubby is there? :eek3:

what if your the one who Lets him down?

This is typical of many people they blame each others spouses, thinking themselves free from blame...

:jkk:

No your wrong. People let eachother down. It goes both ways.

[Chained_Water]

Salam

is it really hard for a single sis/bro to make the transaction from a single lifestyle to a married one?

i keep on thinking about things i have to give up when i married. like i will have to cook for two or more people instead of one. or i have to get up at a reasonable time in the morning. and how i have to make decisions based on what will effect my family and not just me anymore.

Yes it is, it is hard, don't let anyone tell you otherwise :p
It's even harder if you with in laws, in which case, may Allah(swr) help you, you'd sure as heck need it.

Wa alaikum as salaam

[GuCcI]

I feel the same way, i'm trying to prepare myself or you can say train myself to becoming a more responsible person. I'm gonna miss the uni life as well, hanging out with friends all the time, social life etc.

wen is the wedding?

i also feel that way cuz most of my freinds will still be single wen im married... wat am i saying they will all be single ... aw crap back to square one :(

[$HugoBoss$]

wen is the wedding?

i also feel that way cuz most of my freinds will still be single wen im married... wat am i saying they will all be single ... aw crap back to square one :(

Well it was suppose to be 2 years from now but i think now it's going to be next year because i simply can't wait, sometime next summer inshallah. I gotta start making my list. Baby Blue sherwani *drool* and she can wear a red saari *double drool*

p.s. it's going to be on a cruise ship in downtown Chicago :inlove:

http://www.richard-seaman.com/USA/Cities/Chicago/Landmarks/ChicagoAtNight1.jpg

[perfectpearl]

Its gonna suck. Nothing more to say...really.

[Lambo5688]

I dont think it would be too bad.

I can still hang out with friends.

Friends outside, wife at home...thats sounds good to me!

[PiElle]

Shouldn't we be doing them anyway?

Helping our parents cook, perform the chores, whenever we have the time?

Get up early in the Morning (Especially to Pray Fajr) ?

Not be Selfish?

:sub: if Marriage makes one do those then Alhumdulillah, it's a great bonus indeed... :D

:jkk:

If we can do all those by ourself, we dun need marriage then.... :D

[afsalim]

:salams

Brothers and sisters, I for one am looking forward to my marriage (which is in this December, Inshallah). I believe marriages are not transitions, more like transformation or growth in terms of psychologically and spiritually. I pray to Allah for guidance and granting me the strength to become a good husband, a good friend and a good provider to my wife-to-be.

[`asiya]

Salam

is it really hard for a single sis/bro to make the transaction from a single lifestyle to a married one?

i keep on thinking about things i have to give up when i married. like i will have to cook for two or more people instead of one. or i have to get up at a reasonable time in the morning. and how i have to make decisions based on what will effect my family and not just me anymore.

:wswrwb: Marriage will be great insha Allah, look at all the positives .

u may end up prefering having someone to cook for,and share a meal and some time with. Its nice to sit down with freinds, and ultimately thats what ur getting a really cool best freind insha Allah whoose on your wavelength, so doing stuff together and for each other isnt a chore, and as the love between u increases insha Allah ta ala, then the more u love to think of your family, and when u have children insha Allah u love them and love doing things for them because they are ur responsability before Allah.

Allah places in your heart for your loved ones, your husband, his children, his parents, your childrens grandparents, u love to include ur loved ones in your plans and ur life.

Alhamdulillah its time to move forward and build a stable islamic family, its part of your deen masha Allah embrace it, marriage is a beautiful thing Alhamdulillah.

[Raziel]

I'm in Uni, youthful and I'm happily married ALhamdulilah!!! The fun just never ends Alhamdulilah:D

Glad to hear it bro... :D :outta:

:jkk:

[Raziel]

No your wrong. People let eachother down. It goes both ways.

:smack: thats the Point I made... :smack:

[Raziel]

Its gonna suck. Nothing more to say...really.

why's that? :scratch:

:jkk:

[Raziel]

If we can do all those by ourself, we dun need marriage then.... :D

You do, cause theres other haram Activities (you know what) which you will find virtually Impossible to abstain from if you want to live single your whole life...

:jkk:

[PiElle]

You do, cause theres other haram Activities (you know what) which you will find virtually Impossible to abstain from if you want to live single your whole life...

:jkk:


:S

[sunny_skies]

It isn't hard at all. You both make an effort to help each other, cook together, go out together, etc, and you still have the opportunity to go out with friends/family when you want :) Alhamdulillah, marriage is a great blessing from Allah :up:

[Medievalist]

Its about growing up. We men get to be the men and do what we want without ammi and abba constantly monitorring us. alhamdulillah its cushty :up:

oh and not to mention the headache of having to provide enough halal money to accomodate and clothe and feed the responsibility that you now live with :S

[ify]

Its about growing up. We men get to be the men and do what we want without ammi and abba constantly monitorring us. alhamdulillah its cushty :up:

oh and not to mention the headache of having to provide enough halal money to accomodate and clothe and feed the responsibility that you now live with :S

I no wr ur cummin 4rm sis - mariage seems lyk a lifechanging adjstment!!

i guess it wrks both ways then - as with all things, thr r pro's n con's n i gess we get used2 it - well w'll hav 2 if u wna make a success of th marriage....rite:D!

[munyeka]

Maybe sister, your not really ready to get married if your finding it difficult not give up your single lifestyle!!

The love and mercy that Allah places in the hearts of spouses for each other, is a sign of his existence.

And having cooked a meal id rather sit and eat with my husband, rather with family or on my own.

there is no - one more comparable in revernce and esteem than a husband for a wife. You'll have a best friend, a companion, a confident, a rock. That is your right as a wife.

And id rather spend my days missing my husband, rather than being lonely. Id rather have a husband whose meal id happily cook, rather than eat on my own. Id rather go out with my husband and experience the moments together rather than experience life on my own. Id rather have a hand to hold rather than not.

Just pray to Allah that he blesses you with husband who will look after you and make your transition to being a wife easy for you. Yes people do let you down, but I swear to Allah will NEVER let you down. He's cool like that :hidban:

[Medievalist]

I no wr ur cummin 4rm sis - mariage seems lyk a lifechanging adjstment!!

i guess it wrks both ways then - as with all things, thr r pro's n con's n i gess we get used2 it - well w'll hav 2 if u wna make a success of th marriage....rite:D!

read my post again. It clearly indicates that I am a bro :smack:

women **roll eyes**

[ify]

read my post again. It clearly indicates that I am a bro :smack:

women **roll eyes**
lol - yeh i noticd!!
soz 4 nt bein clear - i ment 'sis_niqabi'
women - cnt liv with em n cnt liv without em lol