Anger? bad, bad bad wolf!!!

[Consider]

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Two Wolves
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An old Indian Grandfather said to his grandson who came to him with anger at a friend who had done him an injustice........

"Let me tell you a story. I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do. But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy.

It is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times."

He continued......

"It is as if there are two wolves inside me;
One is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all round him and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way. He saves all his energy for the right fight.

But the other wolf, ahhh!

He is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason.

He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger, for his anger will change nothing.

Sometimes it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit."

The boy looked intently into his Grandfather's eyes and asked...

"Which one wins, Grandfather?"

The Grandfather smiled and quietly said......

"The one I feed."

[Naiha]

u told a very good story!!!!!
ameen

[StickyPeas]

ermm...whats it all about?

[StickyPeas]

iv read it again and i still dont get it
:confused:

[Amir Ali]

Peace be upon you StickyPeas,

Basically the story means you have a positive and a negative inside you.

If you feed the positive (by doing good deeds, thinking good, etc) you will make the good side of you prevail.

If you feed the negative (by doing bad deeds, thinking bad things, etc) you will make the bad side prevail.

So if you become angry - you are feeding you negative side...hope you understand....

[StickyPeas]

JazakAllah Khayr Brother
:)

[M.H.Mubarak]

The Natvie Amerian Traditions of some tribes parallel Islamic traditions very much. Allahu ta'ala undoubtably sent a messenger to their ancient ancestors.

[Peter J. Malloy]

Being a native american I really can apprecitate this one and it is one of my favorites.

P

[AbuMubarak]

Are You Mad @ Anybody?
Contributed by brother Anas - Jazak Allahu khairan


Are you mad at anybody ? Better not be....

The Breaking Of Ties



Anas bin Malik (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "Do not desert (stop talking to) one another, do not nurse hatred towards one another, do not be jealous of one another, and become as fellow brothers and slaves of Allah. It is not lawful for a Muslim to stop talking to his brother/ sister (Muslim) for more than three days.'' [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]


Abu Ayyub Al-Ansari (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "It is not lawful for a Muslim to desert (stop talking to) his brother/sister beyond three nights, the one turning one way and the other turning to the other way when they meet, the better of the two is one who is the first to greet the other.'' [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].


Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "People's deeds are presented before Allah on Mondays and Thursdays, and then every slave (of Allah) is granted forgiveness (of minor sins) if he does not associate anything with Allah in worship. But the person in whose heart there is rancour against his brother/sister, will not be pardoned. With regard to them, it is said twice: `Hold these two until they are reconciled'.'' [Muslim].


Jabir (May Allah be pleased with him) said: I heard the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) as saying, "The Satan has despaired of being worshipped by those who engage in prayer in the Arabian Peninsula but (has not lost hope) in creating dissension among them.'' [Muslim].


The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "It is not lawful for a Muslim to forsake his (Muslim) brother/sister beyond three days; and whosoever does so for more than three days, and then dies, will certainly enter the Hell.''


May this benefit all who read it and those who pass it on.

Are you still mad at anybody?

[3aber sabeel]

Allaah (SWT) says (interpretation of the meaning):

“…who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allaah loves Al-Muhsinoon (the good-doers).” [Aal ‘Imraan 3:134]

Allah (SWT) also says about the people of Paradise:
“And those who avoid the greater sins, and Al-Fawaahish (illegal sexual intercourse), and when they are angry, they forgive.” [al-Shooraa 42:37]

This is because when a person does not restrain his anger, he insults, curses, swears and hits. Anger may be a door to all kinds of evil. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) often advised people not to get angry. Al-Bukhaari narrated in al-Saheeh (6116) from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that a man said to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), “Advise me.” He said: “Do not get angry.” The man repeated his request several times, and he said, “Do not get angry.”

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) regarded the one who controls himself when he is angry as being the strongest of men. Al-Bukhaari narrated in al-Saheeh (6114) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The strong man is not the one who can wrestle (fight); the strong man is the one who controls himself at the time of anger.”


One of the scholars said: Allaah created anger from fire, and made it an instinct in man. When there is a dispute, the flames of anger are fanned until a person’s face and eyes become red, because the skin reflects what is underneath it… Anger produces external and internal changes, such as a change in colour, trembling, uncontrolled actions and a change in appearance, such that if the angry person could see himself when he is angry, he would feel ashamed of his ugly appearance and they way his appearance has changed. All of that is what happens on the outside. The internal effects are even worse, because it generates hatred in the heart, envy (hasad) and all kinds of bad feelings. The most ugly effects of anger are the internal effects, and the external changes are the results of the internal changes. All of this has an effect on the body. The effect on the tongue is that it speaks words of slander and foul language which the wise person would feel ashamed of, and the angry person regrets them when he calms down. The effects of anger can also be seen in people’s actions, when they beat and kill. If the angry person does not have the chance to do that, he turns his anger against himself, tearing his garments and slapping his cheeks; sometimes he may have a seizure, or fall unconscious, or break vessels, or hit someone who has not done anything wrong. Whoever thinks about these evil actions will realize just how much wisdom there is in these gentle words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), ‘Do not get angry,’ and to how great an extent they protect people’s interests by warding off this great evil which may otherwise lead who knows where. All of this has to do with anger for the sake of worldly things, not anger for the sake of religious matters… (Anger for the sake of Allaah is praiseworthy and recommended, such as anger when seeing evil actions). It helps a person not to get angry when he bears in mind what has been narrated concerning the virtues of restraining anger, and the warnings concerning the results of anger; he should also seek refuge with Allaah from the Shaytaan… and do wudoo’… And Allaah knows best.”

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[lacadaza]

When I feel anger, I remind myself that God accepts only what is good and my anger is only feeding Satan!

[peace2u]

Originally posted by AbuMubarak

Anas bin Malik (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "Do not desert (stop talking to) one another, do not nurse hatred towards one another, do not be jealous of one another, and become as fellow brothers and slaves of Allah. It is not lawful for a Muslim to stop talking to his brother/ sister (Muslim) for more than three days.'' [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]


Abu Ayyub Al-Ansari (May Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, "It is not lawful for a Muslim to desert (stop talking to) his brother/sister beyond three nights, the one turning one way and the other turning to the other way when they meet, the better of the two is one who is the first to greet the other.'' [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].




Okay, does this appy to someone who hurt you really bad(intentionally) and caused you to not trust them? Also is it still considered breaking of ties if you don't associate with the person as before (being friends and all)only saying salaams when you see them?

YSII

[AbuMubarak]

a good thread with a good message