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Assalamu Alaikum
I was hoping some brothers and sisters could give some advise or shed some words of wisdom.

I am at a point in my life, where I have got what I have been asking Allah for and waiting for. After holding on and having patience through what seems like a long peiod of time, praise be to Allah, He answered my dua.

I am grateful to Allah having answered my dua. But I feel like i'm falling down, like I am failing. In this blessing that Allah has given me, there are things I do not understand. And as humans we always want to try for the best even though we know nothing will be perfect, and I know Allah doesn't burden a soul beyond what it can bear. But If you feel like your falling down and you feel alone (which you shouldn't be), and can't make sense of some things, And bascially feel that your emaan is going waaay dowwwnnn, when really through such a blessing from Allah it should't be that way.How do you cope if you are a very very caring yet weak person, meaning that I can't take a lot on and the issue involves others.

I feel a tad confused. Any advise / words of wisdom for your sister/brother in Islam.

[PiElle]

From my understanding, Allah ta alaa will always want to grant you goodness but sometimes He will also grant you what you ask for because He knows you desire it alot and also maybe you keep asking for it. so He granted you or answer your dua but we will not know what we ask for is good for ourselves or not. and some requests may have bad consequence...

there is much understanding to be done in this world including oneself and getting along with others.... know your weakeness and make it that area stronger...? but sometimes maybe your weakness is your strength which you are not able to see in yourself.

as we grow in age, there is more responsibility... get done them done bit by bit and you will not feel it overbearing.

only those chores you keep piling up under "to be done" ie. procrastination.... will overwhelm you one day.

:)

[Concernedfriend]

Assalamu Alaikum
I was hoping some brothers and sisters could give some advise or shed some words of wisdom.

I am at a point in my life, where I have got what I have been asking Allah for and waiting for. After holding on and having patience through what seems like a long period of time, praise be to Allah, He answered my dua.

I am grateful to Allah having answered my dua. But I feel like i'm falling down, like I am failing. In this blessing that Allah has given me, there are things I do not understand. And as humans we always want to try for the best even though we know nothing will be perfect, and I know Allah doesn't burden a soul beyond what it can bear. But If you feel like your falling down and you feel alone (which you shouldn't be), and can't make sense of some things, And bascially feel that your emaan is going waaay dowwwnnn, when really through such a blessing from Allah it should't be that way.How do you cope if you are a very very caring yet weak person, meaning that I can't take a lot on and the issue involves others.

I feel a tad confused. Any advise / words of wisdom for your sister/brother in Islam.

"I have got what I have been asking Allah for and waiting for."
"But I feel like i'm falling down, like I am failing."

Quite possibly it is your expectations of others that is not meeting your needs?
What you have been asking for may not be what you have been granted but, only something which fills a personal need to make you feel complete.
The only possible failing you may be experiencing is that you anticipate a certain situation to come to fruition through your efforts and when it is not coming about that is when you begin feeling like you have failed.
I get the feeling this question you pose has everything to do with Love of another.
If true, perhaps you wanted a full relationship where the two of you are attached at the hip, doing everything together and yet now the other wants some individual time and you feel like you must have failed at something since the relationship is not working out the way you've planned?

Of course this is all conjectuRe On My part.
Only that is what I have read into from your comment.

My suggestion is to discover a way to become complete as an individual first.
Only then can you be complete and confident for another.
Have you ever had a friend who gave you space to grow and you took that as not having affection or attachment for you? Did you place distance between that friend and you because you couldn't gain the complete connection you asked Allah for in a relationship?
And now you feel it has happened yet again in a similar way with another friend ?

I wish you luck in any and all decisions you make and hope you find true happiness.

[suhaib]

I have felt the same way so many times as i'm sure so many other muslims have. The only thing you can do is turn to allah and have ever MORE patience, turn to reading the quran and hadith and maybe going to your local masjid. And make dua and tasbiih/dikr "subahanallah, alhamdullilah, allahuakbar" and just as allah as accepted your first dua he will accept this as well. "Allahuma ini as allukal huda wa tuqa wal afafa wal ghina" meaning "O, Allah! I ask you for guidance, piety, chastity, and self suffiency". A prayer our prophet SAW used to make. And I will pray for you too brother/sister.

[jafrene]

Assalamu Alaikum
I was hoping some brothers and sisters could give some advise or shed some words of wisdom.

I am at a point in my life, where I have got what I have been asking Allah for and waiting for. After holding on and having patience through what seems like a long peiod of time, praise be to Allah, He answered my dua.

I am grateful to Allah having answered my dua. But I feel like i'm falling down, like I am failing. In this blessing that Allah has given me, there are things I do not understand. And as humans we always want to try for the best even though we know nothing will be perfect, and I know Allah doesn't burden a soul beyond what it can bear. But If you feel like your falling down and you feel alone (which you shouldn't be), and can't make sense of some things, And bascially feel that your emaan is going waaay dowwwnnn, when really through such a blessing from Allah it should't be that way.How do you cope if you are a very very caring yet weak person, meaning that I can't take a lot on and the issue involves others.

I feel a tad confused. Any advise / words of wisdom for your sister/brother in Islam.

Akhi/ukhtee I have also felt this way at a point in my life inshAllah i hope i do not feel this way again, but inshAllah this is a test from, like said in numerous occasions, Allah will one day give u many many blessing the next day he may give u none, but this is Allah testing ur emaan whether when u get what u want, u may pray to thnk Allah, but if u dnt u may feel weak in ur emaan and may cut down in ur salaahs i dnt know. But inshAllah whether u feel happy or down jus keep praying jus keep praising ur Lord. And whatever Happens Allah all high will do the best for u. inshAllah i would like to share something with everyone;

If Allah answers you du'aas he is increasing ur faith. If he delays, he is incresing ur patience. If he doesnt answer at all he has something BETTER planned for u, InshAllah