Top tips for parenting

[dhakiyya]

Any useful tips or advice on parenting can be posted here.

Here's mine.... a long thin coffee table can be placed in front of the tv/dvd player to prevent little mini fingers from causing damage to them. (my long thin coffee table has a section underneath for storing papers and stuff so my baby can't crawl under it, if yours didn't have this you might want to put baby safe stuff under it)

[Kal-El]

Yes. I have one, and it is actually is serious.

Teach your children morals, principles, values. Truth and Justice.

Show them videos and cartoons of comic book heroes. This is how I learnt from a young age what is wrong and what is right.

It may sound cheesy, but I feel that i have stronger morals than some

[Irfan GBH]

I disagree with Kal, mordern day "superheroes" really have no moral values.

[Masumah]

aha..especially the female heroes..im thinkin wonder woman :eek:!

[ImaanSeeker]

I disagree with Kal, mordern day "superheroes" really have no moral values.

i agree with you bro.

Its important to tell young children the beautiful stories from the lives of the Sahaba ikram(ra) and the lives of the Salaf Saliheen. All the stories are so inspiring and so reflective of what Islam is all about. That is undoubtedly one of the better ways to learn moral values.

They are the true superheroes of Islam.

[Kal-El]

Well I turned out fine. :nerdbro:

[Al-ghurabah]

superheores are fictional .. lies notgood..

our remotecontrol doesnt last gets broken all the time..

[dhakiyya]

Well I think Kal El is right up to a point, stories where the good guys are good and the bad guys are defeated do help children to learn right from wrong, and also promote doing the right thing as the :up: thing to do. However, many modern superheroes are not good, so the point about that is also correct.

There are some issues that come from this.

1. Be very careful what you let your children watch on the TV. Sit and watch TV with your children. Some children's programmes deal with real life issues that children should be aware of, and when the programme is followed by a discussion of what is right, what is wrong, how the child can protect themselves etc, then this is beneficial. However if the child just watches such a programme with no guidance, this can lead to confusion.

2. Many many programmed billed as suitable for children, even many programmes billed as suitable for toddlers, are not. So never leave your child in front of the telly like its some babysitter. Its not.

3. If you let your child watch adverts, expect tantrums when you go past macdonalds. If you are watching a good quality programme with your child that has adverts, then mute the TV when the ads are on, and distract your child by talking to them or getting them to look at somethign other than the tv.

4. My dad "immunised" me and my brother against TV adverts by making fun of them, repeatedly telling us that only stupid people pay attention to TV adverts. This was very effective, to the point that I had an aversion to buying TV advertised brands. (I still do but now its generally for ethical consumer/boycott reasons lol)

5. the TV has an off switch, be in control of it, and its not healthy for children to watch more than an hour a day as this encourages inactivity which is one of the main causes of childhood obesity.

[dhakiyya]

or, even better than point #3... record the programme and watch it another time, and fast forward through the adverts

[ze leetle elper]

Children before the age of 3 years should not watch tv or a pc monitor at all. There is something in the light emmited from the monitors which is addictive and so when viewed for a prolonged period (meaning the eyeball does not move, hardly any blinking, less brain activity etc) it is very dangerous and harmful to the child's health.

[dhakiyya]

I wonder if the same is also true about adults....!

I have heard that TV before age 2 increases the risk of ADHD, perhaps this is related.

[heaven2002]

research has been carried out that shows that children who watch disney / animated movies frequently can be at a higher risk of ADHD (attention deficit hyperactive disorder)
this is because as modern day animation is very fast moving and colourful it means that real life can seem slow paced and cannot therefore hold the attention of youngsters
i have seen this myself, as the young children in my school find it hard to concentrate on an educational video however have their eyes glued to the screen for a disney animation- just because of the high colour and movement on the screen

[dhakiyya]

You know I was wondering about this, I have been checking out the TV for preschool children, like milkshake on channel 5 and c-beebies, and particularly some on channel 5 are extremely fast moving, so much so I can hardly keep up with it, one called "gerald mc boing boing" in particular. Also spongebob sqarepants is shown with the preschool kiddies programmes when it seems to me to be more aimed at students (like, say, ren and stimpy) because of the type of humour, this also is extremely fast, much more so than Disney films. I wondered if this was linked with ADHD for the reason you mention. The ones from C-beebies are not so bad in this respect, and I think are much better little kids programmes. Some on milkshake are not so bad, like thomas the tank engine.

[MMS]

treat them all equallyyy :up:

bit of an obvious tip but soemtimes parents maybe unknowingly treat their kids differently

which is very very bad :nono: